Impossible to be 'Just Friends' with Thai women?

[fish fingers]

As someone who has just as many female as male friends in the UK, I'm struggling with the idea that I cannot make female friends easily here in Bangkok - the suggestion being that its almost impossible for thai women to meet up with a guy as friends, its either a date, an affair, business related or not possible. Its just not in their 'make up' or something that is accepted in thai society.

Also realizing the inevitable fits of jealousy from the thai girlfriend may be justified. The last time I stepped out with a thai lady friend (who comes from a very good family) she knocked back the cocktails and 'accosted' me in the lift.

I'm starting to think the only time a thai lady will step out with a man (especially a farang) is because she wants something more - meaning that being friends with a thai woman is a fallacy.

Feedback please..

Edited January 31, 2014 by fish fingers

[negreanu]

friends with benefits....easier. Problem solved. Next question.

[fish fingers]

Thats starting to be my view too, maybe I treat all my female friends here as secret liaisons.. its not that bad I suppose.

[FiftyTwo]

Thai girls won't be alone with a guy unless happy to do the bed thing.

In Thailand friends go out in groups, not one male, one female.

Edited January 31, 2014 by FiftyTwo

[Clutch]

Yes, impossible!

[HooHaa]

most of my thai friends are female.

it is possible.

there is always flirtation, and i have slept with a number of them all of whom remain good freinds after the fact.

Anyone one who spouts truisms like "Thai girls won't be alone with a guy unless happy to do the bed thing." is either spouting nonsense or trapped in 1982 or earlier.

[Mrjlh]

Very possible! I have so many Thai female friends that my "real" Thai GF sometimes gets jealous. Then she meets them and jealousy quickly is over. She realizes they have nothing in common with me other than being good friends.

Her and I try to find boyfriends for them but so far we haven't been successful. The men we meet are better off at a bar. My GF agrees with me that it is really easy to meet women here, when men look in the right places. Both men and women want a better life and a solid relationship. Women look for money, honesty, and security. Men on the other hand are mostly vain looking for eye candy. Most men don't look for personality or brains. At least the ones I've met. And there are many women who are very attractive and have a great personality but usually they are already taken. True in every country.

I have met all my lady friends in the most unlikely places. On a Baht bus, shopping center, on a klong boat going up a river, and a several hotel clerks. All above average in looks and every one college educated. My GF was a hired to cook at a friends party. That was 8 years ago. I say just don't try to hard...they're out there. JMHO...

[true blue]

why you want a women to be your friend,im sure the sexual tension would be there all the time,and she would be thinking all the time,why he not move on me.

[willyumiii]

Is this bull excrement, or just a hopeful fantasy?

I have many Thai female friends.

No strings.

No benefits.

No problems.

Just good friends.

Keep dreaming.....

Have a wet one!

lol

[wprime]

I have female friends in Thailand but they are far and few between, most will end up falling in love with me and the few that don't my partner is convinced are.

[iancnx]

Oh dear !

[inzman]

I have had very few Thai male friends, but many Thai female friends. I have to disagree with the op. and I am married to a Thai lady.

Edited January 31, 2014 by inzman

[CharlieH]

As he has so many female friends, is this where "fish fingers" got his name ?

Edited January 31, 2014 by CharlieH

[HardenedSoul]

Thai girls won't be alone with a guy unless happy to do the bed thing.

In Thailand friends go out in groups, not one male, one female.

Standard and predictable answers from the usual suspects.

Social absolutism must be so reassuring.

Anyway, without doubt, men can be friends with Thai women.

I have many Thai female friends here and while those friendships are characterised by varying degrees of flirtatious behaviour, it's no different from what I have with Western female friends.

[Berkshire]

If you're honest, you'll at least agree that it's harder to have a female friend than a male. There are so many reasons, like how a GF/wife would handle that, people you know getting the wrong idea, sexual tension, etc. You guys who claim to have female friends, how would you feel about your GF/wife having a male farang friend and hanging out with him on a regular basis?

And most of you guys that say you have Thai female "friends," are they really your "friend?" Just because you've slept with them and still know them doesn't make them friends in a real sense. Do you hang out with them and go to events like you would a guy friend? Do you reveal all aspects of your life with them, including your love life? Can you even talk to them about things that guys talk about (e.g., women!)?

It's certainly possible and I do have a couple of true female friends, but let's get real. It's just not the same as having a male friend.

[Tmymaimee]

(who comes from a very good family)...

What the hell does this mean? As opposed to a bad family? Sorry, but could someone clarify what a "good family" implies?

[jackr]

It is impossible for men to be real friends (not acquaintances, real mates like your drinking buddies back home) with women, period, and any bloke who says otherwise is probably a bit of a mommy's boy . Aside from the sexual tension aspect, we're just too different, women are aliens from Venus <deleted> . And when it comes to Thai women, well they're not even from this freakin' galaxy.

[HooHaa]

i think we are seeing the generational lines being clearly drawn.

those who cannot conceive of having a thai woman as a friend have likely never had a woman of any culture as a friend.

[HardenedSoul]

If you're honest, you'll at least agree that it's harder to have a female friend than a male. There are so many reasons, like how a GF/wife would handle that, people you know getting the wrong idea, sexual tension, etc. You guys who claim to have female friends, how would you feel about your GF/wife having a male farang friend and hanging out with him on a regular basis?

And most of you guys that say you have Thai female "friends," are they really your "friend?" Just because you've slept with them and still know them doesn't make them friends in a real sense. Do you hang out with them and go to events like you would a guy friend? Do you reveal all aspects of your life with them, including your love life? Can you even talk to them about things that guys talk about (e.g., women!)?

It's certainly possible and I do have a couple of true female friends, but let's get real. It's just not the same as having a male friend.

Yeah I'll concede that but I think it's worth making the extra effort with female friends

I find insights from female friends on my relationships with other women to be more valid than those from men.

I'm secure enough to not be bothered by my main squeeze seeing a male farang friend regularly - if she's gonna take a portion elsewhere, she's gonna do it whether I try to impose restrictions on her social life or not so what's the point?

[FiftyTwo]

i think we are seeing the generational lines being clearly drawn.

those who cannot conceive of having a thai woman as a friend have likely never had a woman of any culture as a friend.

Ladyboys, and gay guys seem to have female friends.

Guys that are so ugly, no woman wants to shag them probably have female friends too.

[inthepink]

Thai girls won't be alone with a guy unless happy to do the bed thing.

In Thailand friends go out in groups, not one male, one female.

As others have pointed out, this is simply not true. Best not to make silly generalisations based on a small sample size.

[inthepink]

i think we are seeing the generational lines being clearly drawn.

those who cannot conceive of having a thai woman as a friend have likely never had a woman of any culture as a friend.

Ladyboys, and gay guys seem to have female friends.

Guys that are so ugly, no woman wants to shag them probably have female friends too.

Whereas boorish idiots seldom have friends of either gender.

[FiftyTwo]

Thai girls won't be alone with a guy unless happy to do the bed thing.

In Thailand friends go out in groups, not one male, one female.

As others have pointed out, this is simply not true. Best not to make silly generalisations based on a small sample size.

"inthepink" ..... I'm thinking you have female friends ..... right?

[inthepink]

Thai girls won't be alone with a guy unless happy to do the bed thing.

In Thailand friends go out in groups, not one male, one female.

As others have pointed out, this is simply not true. Best not to make silly generalisations based on a small sample size.

"inthepink" ..... I'm thinking you have female friends ..... right?

Actually, right now, not really. I have had in the past though and they were happy to go out alone with males as friends (and no, I'm not ugly).

Edited January 31, 2014 by inthepink

[Sam Gold]

Of course it's possible, I've had several. And it's helped me a lot in understanding Thai women as there was no sexual tension getting in the way of my judgement.

[prestburypark]

Friendzone alert, my god no-one here got game? It works with all females and you don't gotta bang 'em to enjoy it. Flirt, charm, entice, tease, seduce. Enjoy women for what they are, emotional beings who want stimulation and fun. Ye gods you can be friends AND enjoy the banter/sexual tension, live a little.

[Crazy chef 1]

my best friend is a Thai female- and i maried her,but stil best friends!

[Thongkorn]

I have lots of Thai female friends , but then i am not a sex tourist or a pervert, I do have a life and do not think of sex all the time.

[Trentham]

One of my very best friends is a Thai lady and we have been very close for 27 years. There has never been one moment between us that was not purely platonic. She has never asked for or taken any money from me. In fact, she is always offering to lend it to me but I never take it also.

She often makes me Thai food treats or takes me to dinner and I give her business advice or translate something to English for her. We have even been on holidays together and we just enjoy each others company. I truly love her like a sister.

I have other female Thai friends but Saraphee is special.

[recycler]

No, even a simple greeting could be interpreted as if you want to have sex!