djmatty Posted April 28, 2014 Share Posted April 28, 2014 Hi All, I travel to Thailand once or twice a year. and have been seeing the same Bar Girl for the last 3. We are not in love or making any plans we are just compatible, so, when I'm there I stick with her. I don't send her any money whilst at home, so she is free to do as she pleases then. I never ask. This year in between trips, she has bought a small bar of her own. I don't know where she got the money, but I think it was someone in her family not a flang, to be honest I don't care like I said, it's not love. She runs the bar day to day but says she still wants to see me when I go over in a couple of months. My question is, that whilst I'm happy to pay our usual arrangement, I am less happy to pay a bar fine, as she OWNS the bar now. Am I off the mark? Thanks in advance. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post BKK Blues Brother Posted April 28, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted April 28, 2014 The question should be - Do you like stirring another man's porridge? Jeez 29 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post djmatty Posted April 28, 2014 Author Popular Post Share Posted April 28, 2014 (edited) Ha Ha BKK, I know what you mean but TBH, I've seen a lot of guys send over 10000thb a month, only to find their girl was cheating anyway. In answer to your direct question, no, it doesn't bother me. Edited April 28, 2014 by djmatty 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post topt Posted April 28, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted April 28, 2014 If she owns and runs the bar why would you have to pay her a bar fine - or anything for that matter? 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djmatty Posted April 28, 2014 Author Share Posted April 28, 2014 (edited) If she owns and runs the bar why would you have to pay her a bar fine - or anything for that matter? Thanks Topt, as I thought, I might buy her dinner occasionally though. Edited April 28, 2014 by djmatty Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post mogandave Posted April 28, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted April 28, 2014 Only if she brings a friend... 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcusd Posted April 28, 2014 Share Posted April 28, 2014 The question should be - Do you like stirring another man's porridge? Jeez if she uses a fire hose, nothing to stir. She could also ask the same of you... Foes she like another girls John,west rejects? Marcusd. Via tapatalk 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marcusd Posted April 28, 2014 Share Posted April 28, 2014 To the OP... No bar fine should be paid. It is something you have built up together, but she sounds enterprising so she may just hit you with trying to get a bar fine. Marcusd. Via tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post daveAustin Posted April 28, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted April 28, 2014 I doubt she would want one. That'd be loss of face. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
djmatty Posted April 28, 2014 Author Share Posted April 28, 2014 To the OP... No bar fine should be paid. It is something you have built up together, but she sounds enterprising so she may just hit you with trying to get a bar fine. Marcusd. Via tapatalk Thanks, you're right, she is a very clever girl, very good English and Norwegian, which in Jomtien, serves her very well. The kind of girl I've seen guys go nuts over with one bat of the eyelashes. Luckily I never did. Seen to many casualties I think. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
TheFishman1 Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 I know a few Canadains and when they come here they will keep the same bar girl for like 3 months they don't pay any bar fine at the end of there stay they pay the girl and at times buy them a ticket back where they first month. So to answer your question don't pay bar fine to owner and most likely she got the money not from her family but a guy she was with good luck 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post alfalfa19 Posted April 29, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted April 29, 2014 You're kidding, right? Or just seeking attention? 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
2unique Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Would you expect free beer as well? it's a business and as such she should charge for everything and be justified to do so however that could bring her down to the same level as staff. Scenario 1 - my bar I don't need to be bar fined as I only go with select customers and I'm a free agent Scenario 2 - look girls I can still get men to pay my bar fine Depends on her definition of 'face' don't it?!? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AlphMichaels Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 It's a financial arrangement. "Up to you!". If you say "no" and she doesn't go...., you have your answer. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brewsterbudgen Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 If she's the owner, it's up to her. You may think otherwise, but you're just a customer so I can't see why she would treat you any differently. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bkungbank Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Only two answers either your are rich or handsome! so you are not paying money then you must me good looking she falling in love with you congrats you have free flow of beers whole year round. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CraigSchuler Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 And just how do you think she got the money to buy the bar?............It's business my friend........And you are a customer and not a really good one at that! 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dotpoom Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 I wonder why does the phrase..."Last of the big spenders" ...keeps popping into my head..... I don't know, I'm sure. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Andre0720 Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 If you have to stand in line to get to her, Better pay the bar fine in advance... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bluetongue Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 back in farang land Charlie worries about a possible future saving of five bucks crikey get a life 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
CockneyGit Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Classy! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
minikev Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 That's funny!! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post sirchai Posted April 29, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted April 29, 2014 Trolls and Rock n' Roll never die.- 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirchai Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 We are not in love or making any plans we are just compatible, so, when I'm there I stick with her. We are not in love or making any plans we are just compatible, so, when I'm there I stick with her. We are not in love or making any plans we are just compatible, so, when I'm there I stick with her. Are you from Mars, or Jupiter ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
oneday Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 Did you barfine her during those 3 years? If so, then I can see her point of view. Many female owners of bars will require barfines when they agree to go with a customer and many do not. Hell with some female bar owners if you go out with them might even pay all the bills you rack up during the night. You yourself say this is not an exclusive relationship and she isn't really your GF. On the other hand, I can see how you might feel after 3 years of, let's call it showing loyalty to her, that a barfine should not enter into the equation. From an unbiased point of view I'd say I'd probably feel there should be no barfine, but it's a close call. Also, I can see how it basically says to you, "hey, I may have been going with you for 3 years and we do have fun together, but this is a job to me and I'm in it to make money" and I can see how that might sting a little. That is the reality of most bar girls and the relationships we falang have with them. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sirchai Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 The question should be - Do you like stirring another man's porridge? Jeez Thinking about your posts, you shouldn't be allowed to give "advice" to others. You stir another guy's porridge now for how long? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
malt25 Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 This is a trick question... right ??? To have asked such a question, or even thought about asking it, I think you might have actually funded the bar purchase without realizing it. Or... am I missing something ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
AverageAussie Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 I'm surprised no-one has picked up the obvious answer: why not just ask her? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marko kok prong Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 (edited) To the op,you travel to Jomtien 1or 2 times a year,not Thailand. Edited April 29, 2014 by marko kok prong 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
stickylies Posted April 29, 2014 Share Posted April 29, 2014 if u're so compatible why don't u just ask her..... u will know the answer firsthand directly. anyhow, i appreciate guys not getting emotional attached to whores. from what i have heard some girls offer good sex which - according to some men - is worth a buck. the fact that she sleeps with other men is indeed a non-event. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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