extention of stay after divorce

[maidee]

hi there community,

I was contemplating divorce

but what happens with my extention of stay based on marriage ?

is it cancelled the second I sign the papers at the local amphur ?

we have children, buy my wife really BRAINWASHED them many years ago, so I can just leave them with their SICK in the head mother

as they are no more attached to me, even I "used" to love them

hence no more reasons to stay with a controlfreak of a wife, even going so far as threatening my life

thanks for the info about the immediate cancellation of my extention

[Mario2008]

Your permission to stay end on the same day as your divorce. You can get a 7 day extension and see if you can fall under a another category to get a new extension of stay.

Since you do not want to do anything with your children your options are limited.

[brianp0803]

Get an education visa.

The only drawback is your can't get a work permit.

If that is not a problem it is a great option

It requires one trip to Laos and a trip to immigration every 3 months.

[Suradit69]

Get an education visa.

The only drawback is your can't get a work permit.

If that is not a problem it is a great option

It requires one trip to Laos and a trip to immigration every 3 months.

Piece of cake ... if it weren't for the annoying detail that you're expected to attend (and pay for) classes.

[Suradit69]

we have children, buy my wife really BRAINWASHED them many years ago, so I can just leave them with their SICK in the head mother

as they are no more attached to me, even I "used" to love them

"so I can just leave them"

Not relevant to the question you asked, but children are not disposable. Obviously you're angry with your wife and she may or may not have manipulated the children with mind games that present a barrier between you and them ... but don't stop loving them because you're angry at her. Children don't make rational choices and can be swayed easily, but if you walk away from them in anger it will just confirm whatever their mother has told them about you. Making an emotional decision about them now could be something you regret for many years.

Sorry that things haven't worked out but don't burn all your bridges.

[ubonjoe]

If you could get her to sign and date a copy of her house book and ID card and have your marriage certificate you could go to Savannakhet Laos and get a multiple entry non-o visa. It would not go away when you get divorced.

[Andrew65]

we have children, buy my wife really BRAINWASHED them many years ago, so I can just leave them with their SICK in the head mother

as they are no more attached to me, even I "used" to love them

"so I can just leave them"

Not relevant to the question you asked, but children are not disposable. Obviously you're angry with your wife and she may or may not have manipulated the children with mind games that present a barrier between you and them ... but don't stop loving them because you're angry at her. Children don't make rational choices and can be swayed easily, but if you walk away from them in anger it will just confirm whatever their mother has told them about you. Making an emotional decision about them now could be something you regret for many years.

Sorry that things haven't worked out but don't burn all your bridges.

From my own bitter experience. I saw little of my father from my teenage years onwards (he divorced & then married again). I saw him one day in the last 25 years. He died last month, not really bothered or sad at all. (He just as well have died 35 years ago).

[Andrew65]

we have children, buy my wife really BRAINWASHED them many years ago, so I can just leave them with their SICK in the head mother

as they are no more attached to me, even I "used" to love them

"so I can just leave them"

Not relevant to the question you asked, but children are not disposable. Obviously you're angry with your wife and she may or may not have manipulated the children with mind games that present a barrier between you and them ... but don't stop loving them because you're angry at her. Children don't make rational choices and can be swayed easily, but if you walk away from them in anger it will just confirm whatever their mother has told them about you. Making an emotional decision about them now could be something you regret for many years.

Sorry that things haven't worked out but don't burn all your bridges.

From my own bitter experience. I saw little of my father from my teenage years onwards (he divorced & then married again). I saw him one day in the last 25 years. He died last month, not really bothered or sad at all. (He just as well have died 35 years ago).

Forgot to add. Mine is a fairly extreme case, I only relate my story here to maybe help estranged fathers vis-a-vis their relationship with their kids. I have never been married or had children of my own

[maprao]

Depending on your age you could go onto a extension based on retirement.

[khwaibah]

All the above advise is good but before you do anything ask at your immigration office where your extension of marriage is on record as some immigration offices will just laugh and tell you don't worry until a new extension is needed.

[MiKT]

Sorry to say the Thai consulate in Vientien won't do multiple entry Non-Res O (Thai wife) visa's any more.

Best bet Penang Malaysia (at least it was last year)

[paz]

Sorry to say the Thai consulate in Vientien won't do multiple entry Non-Res O (Thai wife) visa's any more.

Best bet Penang Malaysia (at least it was last year)

Depending on where one is the best chocie can be Savannakhet Laos for same day service and no financial proof needed.

[Krataiboy]

I wouldn't necessarily rush into a divorce, particularly with children to consider. Wouldn't you rather try and mend the fences with them, even if this is mission impossible with their mother? You could try a trial separation, with her agreement, with access to the children or even sharing them as part of the deal. If the separation didn't work, you could then resort to the divorce option. But you don't have to go down that path immediately. Legally, in addition to an agreed trial separation (in writing, witnessed and signed by a lawyer so it cannot be disputed later) you can leave the family home for a year without your wife being able to sue for divorce. If SHE leaves, she cannot sue for divorce for three years.

It might be worth you consulting a lawyer about your options and the details of Thai matrimonial law regarding separation, divorce, custody of and access to children, and the division of assets. Shop around for a lawyer who specialises in domestic stuff. It won't cost much and could save you a bomb in the long run. However unhappy you may feel right now, acting in haste without considering all the options would be foolhardy.

I've been there and survived. So good luck to you.

[Mister T]

Been there, done that. Immigration told me I had to leave the Kingdom on divorce day and return on a different visa. If the kids are yours by birth, you can get a sixty day visa by reason of supporting them.

[khwaibah]

Sorry to say the Thai consulate in Vientien won't do multiple entry Non-Res O (Thai wife) visa's any more.

Best bet Penang Malaysia (at least it was last year)

Best bet is Thai Consulate in Savannahket they require no money be shown.

[hgma]

Just an open mind remark on my part.

Obiously I cannot comment on who is right and who is wrong in this posted situation.

But it is posted in a time that there is huge media attention and coverage about domestic violence with females as the usual victims.

Reading this story i can sense the dispair and frustration one can encounter in a country like this as a male counterpart.

Female bashing is horrible as domestic violence is, but there is little or nothing to read about the suffering of a male when a match doesnt match.

Sometimes accompanied with even horrible emotional abuse suffered by the male part in the mis-match.

Worsened even when children are played out as a bargain or even blackmail chip.

it must be a relieve for the respected poster to ventilate his side of the story on a forum like TV.

Equality ? by all means, but for female AND Males aike.

[AnotherOneAmerican]

we have children, buy my wife really BRAINWASHED them many years ago, so I can just leave them with their SICK in the head mother

as they are no more attached to me, even I "used" to love them

"so I can just leave them"[/size]

Not relevant to the question you asked, but children are not disposable. Obviously you're angry with your wife and she may or may not have manipulated the children with mind games that present a barrier between you and them ... but don't stop loving them because you're angry at her. Children don't make rational choices and can be swayed easily, but if you walk away from them in anger it will just confirm whatever their mother has told them about you. Making an emotional decision about them now could be something you regret for many years.[/size]

Sorry that things haven't worked out but don't burn all your bridges.[/size]

From my own bitter experience. I saw little of my father from my teenage years onwards (he divorced & then married again). I saw him one day in the last 25 years. He died last month, not really bothered or sad at all. (He just as well have died 35 years ago).

And in support of the OP,

I walked away from 4, more than 5 years ago, again wife poisoned them against me.

I don't intend to ever see them again, they might as well never have been born.

@Andrew,

The sad fact is you don't know what happened, only what your mother told you (and everyone she knows would have told the same story, her story, that's the way it works, she would never let you near anyone telling a different story)

Your mother could have told you the whole truth, or she could have told you a complete pack of lies.

In the end sometimes it's better if dad just leaves. His story will never be told, and nobody wants to hear it anyway.

@OP

In the end you gotta do what you can live with.

Good luck.

Edited October 26, 2014 by AnotherOneAmerican

[Mario2008]

Sorry to say the Thai consulate in Vientien won't do multiple entry Non-Res O (Thai wife) visa's any more.

Best bet Penang Malaysia (at least it was last year)

Vientiane won't and that is the situation for years now, but Savankhet does.

[FritsSikkink]

we have children, buy my wife really BRAINWASHED them many years ago, so I can just leave them with their SICK in the head mother

as they are no more attached to me, even I "used" to love them

"so I can just leave them"[/size]

Not relevant to the question you asked, but children are not disposable. Obviously you're angry with your wife and she may or may not have manipulated the children with mind games that present a barrier between you and them ... but don't stop loving them because you're angry at her. Children don't make rational choices and can be swayed easily, but if you walk away from them in anger it will just confirm whatever their mother has told them about you. Making an emotional decision about them now could be something you regret for many years.[/size]

Sorry that things haven't worked out but don't burn all your bridges.[/size]

From my own bitter experience. I saw little of my father from my teenage years onwards (he divorced & then married again). I saw him one day in the last 25 years. He died last month, not really bothered or sad at all. (He just as well have died 35 years ago).

And in support of the OP,

I walked away from 4, more than 5 years ago, again wife poisoned them against me.

I don't intend to ever see them again, they might as well never have been born.

You are not fit to be a parent anyway when you say things like that.

[paz]

Been there, done that. Immigration told me I had to leave the Kingdom on divorce day and return on a different visa. If the kids are yours by birth, you can get a sixty day visa by reason of supporting them.

If one has kids, can change from an extension of stay for reason of marriage, to one for reason of having a Thai child. No need to leave country.