Now I am no longer in Thailand full time like I used to be it gets more difficult to connect with women unless you are into the bar scene and maybe willing to pay the fines. Many average non-bar women are reluctant to stay with you on a regular basis knowing you will be gone again in a few weeks or maybe a few months.

The internet dating scene can be a bit of a nightmare and very hit and miss.

I have found I have much more fun and success by keeping old phone numbers of ladies I have met in the past. Some of these numbers date back 5 years or so.

After coming back and being in touch with some more local females asking extortionate prices I decided to start phoning and sending sms to my older contacts to see who might respond.

The results were mixed but I have one from BKK who came down to see me on Loy Krathong and another from further north who has seen me. Both want to see me again too and are quite happy to travel down to see me as long as I pay their fares and I am willing to see them on their days off work. That is convenient for me too. It means I can have my free time.

Some say you should never keep old flames numbers but from my point of view it is working out quite well.

Do you keep numbers of the women you have met and ended relationships with or are you of the mind to ditch them 100%?

OP, used to have all the telephone numbers and names in a little black book.

Unfortunately the wife, discovered it one day and started ringing them to find out who they are.

When I came back home, I found my suitcase next to the front gate and a note,

You go back to them and never come back to me.

It took me ages to convince her they were business associates.....don't think she believed me........but after promising a gold necklace ......she backed up.

Still haven't bought it.........and she's still asking for it.

In my phones contact list (have a 13 years old AIS number, dont like Taksin, but could never be bothered to switch...) are 10+ persons who are already dead...

I got the AIS call block and I block them. Well worth the 30 baht per month.

Prostitutes, yes.

Girlfriends, no.

Sir,

As well as being a cheap charlie, you think of them as ex flames hahahahaaah

sorry, i had to say before others do.

Back when I was last on the market the girls didn't have phones, I mean, there was no such thing as a mobile and as far as land lines go, most of us have moved to the new technology and don't even have land lines.

So, no, I don't have any numbers from x girlfriends.

I do know a few of my x-GF's went and got themselves old and died, but then again I was always chasin the boilers.

In the old days when aa a young man courting, one was forced to front up and face the father of the girl, there was none of this dial a puccie stuff going on. 55555

Dear me.....dredging up the old slag heap and recycling. Having done similar myself with emails I can attest that fingers will be burnt.

Hey, whatever gets the OP's legover is alright by me. Beggars can't be choosers when slipping into our dotage eh?

The problem is I have sooooooo many old 'girlfriends' phone numbers, I would be hard pressed to remember which one was the bi-sexual nympho (and her twin sister) and which one was their mother. It would be like Russian roulette and I would probably get the bloody bunny boiler instead.

Whatever works is the way I see it

Absolutely. Nothing is ever over here. I find Thai girls to be very forgiving. If they're not busy with someone else, they usually come back around.

You may not lose your gf's, just your place in the queue!

Yes, as many of them are still good for a shag without talking too much

OPs post makes me cringe....and shake my head

You are glad that if you return as a paying customer she welcomes you back with open arms?!?!?!!?!?!

seriously!!

and you consider paid encounters with prostitutes as ex flames!?!?!?!?

Im simply lost for words!

seriously, back home, do you consider a paid encounter as a flame?????

I doubt it!

What happens to men when they cross over the thai border!

never did. it destroys the entire ex concept.

It's called a black book. Or in the OP's case, a green book since he's paying for everything.

I don't think this is unique to Thailand. If the relationship ends on a good note, there is no reason to not keep in touch.

funny, mine is a "black book" i did ring some of me "exs" just to see how they were getting on (curiosity realy) one is now a hairdresser, ( i think when they get older, they all aspire to being a h/dresser) one is in New Zealand, and one is about to go to Singapore (better money- no cheap charlies) just as long as they are ok, it was just nice to say "hello"

OPs post makes me cringe....and shake my head

You are glad that if you return as a paying customer she welcomes you back with open arms?!?!?!!?!?!

seriously!!

and you consider paid encounters with prostitutes as ex flames!?!?!?!?

Im simply lost for words!

seriously, back home, do you consider a paid encounter as a flame?????

I doubt it!

What happens to men when they cross over the thai border!

What were you reading? Seriously. I shake my head.

I did not mention paying or as an ex customer at all. You saw it that way, I did not write it that way.

I said I do not like the bar scene and bar fines. I also object to paying what some of these women suggested - as I have said in another topic.

What I did say was

"are quite happy to travel down to see me as long as I pay their fares and I am willing to see them on their days off work. That is convenient for me too. It means I can have my free time."

Where does that equate to paying for it??

And who said I paid for it before?

You really need to read what is written and not what you think is written.

funny, mine is a "black book" i did ring some of me "exs" just to see how they were getting on (curiosity realy) one is now a hairdresser, ( i think when they get older, they all aspire to being a h/dresser) one is in New Zealand, and one is about to go to Singapore (better money- no cheap charlies) just as long as they are ok, it was just nice to say "hello"

If you knew what happens in Singapore you would have been appalled at her going. Cheap Charlie's does not even come close to doing it justice. It is one of the worst experiences a women in that line of work can ever have. Parts of Singapore make Pattaya look like a luxury resort.

It's called a black book. Or in the OP's case, a green book since he's paying for everything.

And where did I say I was paying for everything? Paying the bus fare is paying for everything? Some of you do need to learn to read.

Both these women work in good jobs but do not have money to squander on fares and I find that is fair enough.

Hell I dumped my girlfriend of 5 years for 6 months Kept her Phone number and now we have been back together for more than a year. The grass always looks greener

I love her so what else can I say

OPs post makes me cringe....and shake my head

You are glad that if you return as a paying customer she welcomes you back with open arms?!?!?!!?!?!

seriously!!

and you consider paid encounters with prostitutes as ex flames!?!?!?!?

Im simply lost for words!

seriously, back home, do you consider a paid encounter as a flame?????

I doubt it!

What happens to men when they cross over the thai border!

This Post has been nominated for Today's 'Moral High Ground Award.' Never hesitate to pass judgement when you know you are right.

Wish I kept one of the numbers, my ex... I have a bank account with 80K Baht in it, and I need her signature to close it!

Yes , I keep old numbers and e mails of ex's both in Thailand and USA. Most still call or write occasionally ( except my ex-wife)

No one had phones when I first got here. Cell phones had not been invented and the Thai people were just getting used to having a last (surname) name.

OP, used to have all the telephone numbers and names in a little black book.

Unfortunately the wife, discovered it one day and started ringing them to find out who they are.

When I came back home, I found my suitcase next to the front gate and a note,

You go back to them and never come back to me.

It took me ages to convince her they were business associates.....don't think she believed me........but after promising a gold necklace ......she backed up.

Still haven't bought it.........and she's still asking for it.

Another ridiculous post, both from OP and this one

OP, used to have all the telephone numbers and names in a little black book.

Unfortunately the wife, discovered it one day and started ringing them to find out who they are.

When I came back home, I found my suitcase next to the front gate and a note,

You go back to them and never come back to me.

It took me ages to convince her they were business associates.....don't think she believed me........but after promising a gold necklace ......she backed up.

Still haven't bought it.........and she's still asking for it.

I always wondered why you spoke in such a high pitched voice.

Yes , I keep old numbers and e mails of ex's both in Thailand and USA. Most still call or write occasionally ( except my ex-wife)

The ex wife. I can relate to that 100%. No idea where mine went to - thankfully.

OP, used to have all the telephone numbers and names in a little black book.

Unfortunately the wife, discovered it one day and started ringing them to find out who they are.

When I came back home, I found my suitcase next to the front gate and a note,

You go back to them and never come back to me.

It took me ages to convince her they were business associates.....don't think she believed me........but after promising a gold necklace ......she backed up.

Still haven't bought it.........and she's still asking for it.

You're a funny man Costas, always good for a laugh, sometimes. How in the hell did you missus get a B100.00 Loy Krathong boat out of you. It appears you're a typical Greek, suave and full of BS. Keep the funny stories coming, everyone needs a good laugh.