Why Are You Still Living With Her?

[lucifer666]

Sounds like he deserves it to me,,,,Karma is a bitch

[maidee]

tell him to go find another loan shark, so he can borrow from mister X to pay loanshark Z

[kungpao]

When I first got onto Thaivisa about 3 years ago (I'm in the US), I used to really wonder about the general quality of the farang there and the quality of the Thai people, women in particular. You know, men who drink a lot and women who only stay home and watch soaps and don't know how to save (or make) a dime.

Like, what is wrong with these people?

Now after having met a lot of Thai people, generally hard-working middle class professionals, I realized that a lot of these clowns you read about on Thai visa are just a subset - whether small or large a percentage.

These people really take the cake. Abandoning wife who is dying? Then...

Really freaking sad state of affairs. You meet (and read about) all types!

Well, too bad he needs 2 million baht? Wow.

Oh, well. Sounds like he will have to get out of "Dodge" or suffer the consequences. 70 years old? Not enough time to learn common sense?

[slipperylobster]

Had this same story told to me 3 times, in recent years.

All lottery victims that were going to get killed if I did not give them a loan.

Quite a guilt trip, but had to say no. All are still alive, and guess what?

Still bilking victims out of gambling money.

Just remember, 90 percent of any loan given to gambling "types" will not go to their debt. They will foolishly put it back into gambling play. It just gets worse.

My daughter is a manager for a major casino in Nevada. 20 years now. Saw everything first hand...and heard any story you can throw.

Edited December 5, 2014 by slipperylobster

[neverdie]

I'd have told him to F Off, cheeky <deleted> asking to borrow 2.2 million.

How bout 2.1 then?

[chrisinth]

Personally Costas, you show a lot more compassion and understanding of Mr. A than I ever would.

Anybody, regardless of the circumstances, that would leave his partner on her deathbed for another woman would become incommunicado from that moment on.

Still, everyone to their own...................

[sfbandung]

He wasn't worried about the first wife dying through no fault of her own (yeah, that's an assumption), so why is he worried about this one getting a flogging for a gambling debt that she clearly deserves? He obviously doesn't have any compassion.

He leaves a dying wife. Poor form.

She is a chronic gambler. Poor form.

They were made for each other.

And they lived miserably ever after.

[Nico61]

Thai girls who gamble are dangerous companions, Have met one who lost her house and car,

He had a nerve to ask you for money,

Leaving his wife while she was dying is a poor thing to do

Yeah, but dying wives aren't a lot of fun.

And at 70+, he doesn't have much time to waste.

I agree,

Bad thing to do, but in a way understandable.

Why not stay with the dying wife, aswell? Go visit, show some concern. Quite possible to manage, I think. Even with a new girlfriend.

[BritManToo]

When I first got onto Thaivisa about 3 years ago (I'm in the US), I used to really wonder about the general quality of the farang there and the quality of the Thai people, women in particular. You know, men who drink a lot and women who only stay home and watch soaps and don't know how to save (or make) a dime.

Like, what is wrong with these people?

Now after having met a lot of Thai people, generally hard-working middle class professionals, I realized that a lot of these clowns you read about on Thai visa are just a subset - whether small or large a percentage.

These people really take the cake. Abandoning wife who is dying? Then...

Really freaking sad state of affairs. You meet (and read about) all types!

Well, too bad he needs 2 million baht? Wow.

Oh, well. Sounds like he will have to get out of "Dodge" or suffer the consequences. 70 years old? Not enough time to learn common sense?

You're in the US and know a lot of Thai people ?????

How does that work?

I'm in Thailand, can speak Thai, and hardly know any Thai people!

Sounds like BS to me.

[pgrahmm]

When I first got onto Thaivisa about 3 years ago (I'm in the US), I used to really wonder about the general quality of the farang there and the quality of the Thai people, women in particular. You know, men who drink a lot and women who only stay home and watch soaps and don't know how to save (or make) a dime.

Like, what is wrong with these people?

Now after having met a lot of Thai people, generally hard-working middle class professionals, I realized that a lot of these clowns you read about on Thai visa are just a subset - whether small or large a percentage.

These people really take the cake. Abandoning wife who is dying? Then...

Really freaking sad state of affairs. You meet (and read about) all types!

Well, too bad he needs 2 million baht? Wow.

Oh, well. Sounds like he will have to get out of "Dodge" or suffer the consequences. 70 years old? Not enough time to learn common sense?

You're in the US and know a lot of Thai people ?????

How does that work?

I'm in Thailand, can speak Thai, and hardly know any Thai people!

Sounds like BS to me.

When in the US - I knew and associated with a large group of Thai people.....routinely went to gatherings and social events....it's a pretty closed society/group....they keep to themselves - but, like many once you're accepted you are invited freely - probably well over 100 people......

So it is possible.....

[smotherb]

"Why am I still with her"?

She is collectively both my best friend and the (current) love of my life ...

Simples ...

.

Or, perhaps, he is trying to get some of his money back.

[pendingo]

Thai girls who gamble are dangerous companions, Have met one who lost her house and car,

He had a nerve to ask you for money,

Leaving his wife while she was dying is a poor thing to do

I couldn't agree more edit.

Pretty despicable guy all round.

I think his infatuation with the other woman must have got the better of his senses and his moral compass.

[samsensam]

a few years ago i let my thai gf of the time stay in my apartment while i was visiting friends in singapore. when i returned she presented me with a post card she'd found from a chinese friend given to me when i worked in china a few years previously.

she accused me of having an affair.

i could not even remember being given the post card or keeping it. it was clearly from a friend and it must have been at the bottom of a box of stuff in my wardrobe. this meant she must have been through absolutely everything in my room! and this was the best she could find to accuse me of something!

she left and was never invited back.

i will never have a thai living with me.

[BritManToo]

When I first got onto Thaivisa about 3 years ago (I'm in the US), I used to really wonder about the general quality of the farang there and the quality of the Thai people, women in particular. You know, men who drink a lot and women who only stay home and watch soaps and don't know how to save (or make) a dime.

Like, what is wrong with these people?

Now after having met a lot of Thai people, generally hard-working middle class professionals, I realized that a lot of these clowns you read about on Thai visa are just a subset - whether small or large a percentage.

These people really take the cake. Abandoning wife who is dying? Then...

Really freaking sad state of affairs. You meet (and read about) all types!

Well, too bad he needs 2 million baht? Wow.

Oh, well. Sounds like he will have to get out of "Dodge" or suffer the consequences. 70 years old? Not enough time to learn common sense?

You're in the US and know a lot of Thai people ?????

How does that work?

I'm in Thailand, can speak Thai, and hardly know any Thai people!

Sounds like BS to me.

When in the US - I knew and associated with a large group of Thai people.....routinely went to gatherings and social events....it's a pretty closed society/group....they keep to themselves - but, like many once you're accepted you are invited freely - probably well over 100 people......

So it is possible.....

Thai people living in the US aren't really representative of Thai people living in Thailand.

Expats are usually more adventurous and better educated/motivated than the norm.

[smotherb]

When I first got onto Thaivisa about 3 years ago (I'm in the US), I used to really wonder about the general quality of the farang there and the quality of the Thai people, women in particular. You know, men who drink a lot and women who only stay home and watch soaps and don't know how to save (or make) a dime.

Like, what is wrong with these people?

Now after having met a lot of Thai people, generally hard-working middle class professionals, I realized that a lot of these clowns you read about on Thai visa are just a subset - whether small or large a percentage.

These people really take the cake. Abandoning wife who is dying? Then...

Really freaking sad state of affairs. You meet (and read about) all types!

Well, too bad he needs 2 million baht? Wow.

Oh, well. Sounds like he will have to get out of "Dodge" or suffer the consequences. 70 years old? Not enough time to learn common sense?

You're in the US and know a lot of Thai people ?????

How does that work?

I'm in Thailand, can speak Thai, and hardly know any Thai people!

Sounds like BS to me.

Are you really as naive as you sound, or are you just one of those farangs who can only deal with other farangs?

Many Americans are married to Thais, Vietnamese, Filipinas and other foreigners. Many of the foreign spouses suffer from culture shock and seek refuge with their native peoples. Thus, enclaves of foreign natives evolve and thrive. People are primarily social, and showing an interest in their native lands or their social gatherings engenders a kinship to you. Having a spouse from that native land makes you a de facto member of the enclave.

Perhaps Thais simply do not like you. I only speak a little Thai, my wife is not Thai so that is my poor excuse. However, I know and am friends with several Thais. We drink Regency, go to bull fights, run the bars, and ride our bikes--just like friends do.

[smotherb]

When I first got onto Thaivisa about 3 years ago (I'm in the US), I used to really wonder about the general quality of the farang there and the quality of the Thai people, women in particular. You know, men who drink a lot and women who only stay home and watch soaps and don't know how to save (or make) a dime.

Like, what is wrong with these people?

Now after having met a lot of Thai people, generally hard-working middle class professionals, I realized that a lot of these clowns you read about on Thai visa are just a subset - whether small or large a percentage.

These people really take the cake. Abandoning wife who is dying? Then...

Really freaking sad state of affairs. You meet (and read about) all types!

Well, too bad he needs 2 million baht? Wow.

Oh, well. Sounds like he will have to get out of "Dodge" or suffer the consequences. 70 years old? Not enough time to learn common sense?

You're in the US and know a lot of Thai people ?????

How does that work?

I'm in Thailand, can speak Thai, and hardly know any Thai people!

Sounds like BS to me.

When in the US - I knew and associated with a large group of Thai people.....routinely went to gatherings and social events....it's a pretty closed society/group....they keep to themselves - but, like many once you're accepted you are invited freely - probably well over 100 people......

So it is possible.....

Thai people living in the US aren't really representative of Thai people living in Thailand.

Expats are usually more adventurous and better educated/motivated than the norm.

Perhaps, but I have known many who were not adventurous, educated or motivated. Many have come with their American spouse and don't really acclimate to US culture. Many have no friends except those from their native lands. Sure, they may have seen more than tuk-tuks and water buffaloes, but that is about the limit of their awareness. I know several Asian wives who still cannot speak English even after having been in the States for several years.

[Si Thea01]

I say mind your own business.

His business became my business too the moment he asked me for a loan.

What is it with some people on here. They cant help themselves and always want to be critical. Then if you reply to the criticisms and your response decries their derogatory remarks, they try their hardest to be even nastier.

[BritManToo]

Are you really as naive as you sound, or are you just one of those farangs who can only deal with other farangs?

I think you have this the wrong way round,

I'm the one who can speak, read and write Thai, and you are the one who can't.

[ggt]

Some people...both men and women...are gluttons for punishment...sad way to live...

[stat088]

Had this same story told to me 3 times, in recent years.

All lottery victims that were going to get killed if I did not give them a loan.

Quite a guilt trip, but had to say no. All are still alive, and guess what?

Still bilking victims out of gambling money.

Just remember, 90 percent of any loan given to gambling "types" will not go to their debt. They will foolishly put it back into gambling play. It just gets worse.

My daughter is a manager for a major casino in Nevada. 20 years now. Saw everything first hand...and heard any story you can throw.

One of the boxes you tick when getting involved in a relationship.

Gambler? No. ok tick.

[stat088]

Dementia maybe but then he remembered where you live.

[kungpao]

When I first got onto Thaivisa about 3 years ago (I'm in the US), I used to really wonder about the general quality of the farang there and the quality of the Thai people, women in particular. You know, men who drink a lot and women who only stay home and watch soaps and don't know how to save (or make) a dime.

Like, what is wrong with these people?

Now after having met a lot of Thai people, generally hard-working middle class professionals, I realized that a lot of these clowns you read about on Thai visa are just a subset - whether small or large a percentage.

These people really take the cake. Abandoning wife who is dying? Then...

Really freaking sad state of affairs. You meet (and read about) all types!

Well, too bad he needs 2 million baht? Wow.

Oh, well. Sounds like he will have to get out of "Dodge" or suffer the consequences. 70 years old? Not enough time to learn common sense?

You're in the US and know a lot of Thai people ?????

How does that work?

I'm in Thailand, can speak Thai, and hardly know any Thai people!

Sounds like BS to me.

I have a lot of Thai friends and in-laws - who live in Thailand. My Thai wife is with me in states. So, those are the Thai people we know, along with internationally-located Thai-farang friend couples. Not too necessary to speak Thai, although it is helpful.

My original point being that on Thaivisa you hear some very colorful stories about some very colorful people. Such as the fellow who dumped his dying wife to be with a gambler. I just have not met any of these people on my visits to Thailand. There is also another Thailand as not described in these forums.

If you read Thaivisa and see Thailand through Thaivisa eyes, you can get a very skewed view of the world of Thailand - not all of it applies to all of Thailand.

At least on the general forums. Every forum is different, it seems. But the general forum threads, visa the links in the newsletter updates, provide for some funny and interesting reads.

Edited December 5, 2014 by kungpao

[Jaggg88]

.....a typical scam...

...a wife...a gf....or a friend......is in urgent need......

....yeah, right......

yeah that was my first thought

[smotherb]

Are you really as naive as you sound, or are you just one of those farangs who can only deal with other farangs?

I think you have this the wrong way round,

I'm the one who can speak, read and write Thai, and you are the one who can't.

But you are the one who doesn't know any Thais, are you not

[Slain]

This story reminds me of the time my ex Thai GF asked me for a million Bhat to pay her gambling debt..

I might have lent it to her had she not threatened to have me bumped off a few months before, over an argument about money she said I owed her!.

Close call!

[rotary]

Original poster.........you did the right thing and also asked the right question. Good on you mate.

[NanLaew]

....as for guys that trusted a woman....

...everything was put into the wife's name.....as advised......

...and with children in the middle.....

...once you are cleaned out.....you have not much choice in anything....

...you know the laws are stacked against the foreign man....

...that includes custody of children......

It's truly. truly heartwarming to see that the usual suspects are getting their daily 'they hate us' fix regardless of how puerile the OP's subject matter is.

Edited December 6, 2014 by NanLaew

[BritManToo]

Are you really as naive as you sound, or are you just one of those farangs who can only deal with other farangs?

I think you have this the wrong way round,

I'm the one who can speak, read and write Thai, and you are the one who can't.

But you are the one who doesn't know any Thais, are you not

You don't need to know any locals to watch the soaps on channel 7.

You don't need to know any shop keepers to interact with them.

Etc.

Edited December 8, 2014 by BritManToo

[smotherb]

Are you really as naive as you sound, or are you just one of those farangs who can only deal with other farangs?

I think you have this the wrong way round,

I'm the one who can speak, read and write Thai, and you are the one who can't.

But you are the one who doesn't know any Thais, are you not

You don't need to know any locals to watch the soaps on channel 7.

You don't need to know any shop keepers to interact with them.

Etc.

Yeah, and you don't need to know anything about Thailand to post on TV.