Bill Miller Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 This is a subject which has been "discussed" between myself and my Thai best friend. Her idea is that a proper "boyfriend" takes care of all of his girlfriend's financial needs including her family, of course. I would not mind carrying the bulk of the burden, but I do not see why one's partner cannot contribute at least a part time income to the deal. Is this a usual attitude? We are talking someone who has managed to support herself and a daughter for twenty odd years with no help from the father of the child.The crux of the matter is that I have an income of somewhat over one million tb. Yeah, that is not exactly Hiso, but it seems it should be plenty to support a couple and help one aging parent as well.Am I way off base here? I would like any comments regarding experiences with both of these elements, whether it is usual for a Thai woman to expect the man in a relationship to carry the whole nut, and what is considered a comfortable income on average, with full cognizance that a village in Chiang Mai will have a different standard from Metro Bangkok. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post steven100 Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 " Her idea is that a proper "boyfriend" takes care of all of his girlfriend's financial needs including her family, of course." What a load of rubbish ..... mate , if you believe that then you are surely gonna get taken for a ride. 36 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post WhamBam Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 Time to get rid of her or put your foot down hard. Who does she (or any woman with the same ideas) think they are? Lady <deleted> Muck? To sit on her arse all day contributing nothing? Under your feet too? Get real and get a life or become another 'moaning minnie' later, telling everyone how she raped your wallet and bank account. Sounds like yet another troll post. Either that or someone with no gumption. 13 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Crazy chef 1 Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 for us no difference to the west- we have one common bank account and both contribute all our income to it... 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
zierf1 Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 No money no honey. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post DP25 Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 In normal Thai relationships, both partners work and both contribute financially. Just like at home. The reason she has been a single mother for 20 years is that no Thai man is going to put up with her rubbish. If you're gonna pay for everything at least get a 20 year old hottie, not a 50 year old single mother. 38 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post cooked Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 In Thailand it is considered normal to look after the parents of both marriage partners. Just keep away from the 'need a new truck/tractor/buffalo' stuff. Maybe your girlfriend has no skills that she can sell on the job market apart from cooking and the other thing. Around here getting a job often means working 12 hours a day, with no days off, no holidays, for ฿6 to 8000 a month. Anyway I would be happy to have a stay home wife as long as she does the house and garden stuff. (I have). Take no notice of the negative stuff you got up to now, I don't know your girlfriend and nor do they. 8 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post canman Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 Run Forrest Run! 9 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samran Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 Run a mile my friend. Children look to take care of their ageing parents themselves, and not outsource the funding. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post villagefarang Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 Don’t forget to include startup costs if you are new, which you apparently are. Housing, appliances, transportation and anything else you need to live a comfortable life. No doubt there will be similar needs for other family members. That million baht should be enough if you are already established, but during the startup phase, you could go through that in less than a month. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post theguyfromanotherforum Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 One million a month or year? 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
LuckyLew Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 If she is smart enough to get you to support her parents and any others then good for her It is not your responsibility to pay for her family ... cannot wait to her what you will be asked to pay for sin sid 555 My GF has a job, she sends money every month to to her mother, she pays the mortgage for her mothers home Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Yooyung Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 I could not abide having a partner that didnt want to work. A woman that was happy to stay home preening herself while I was out working is not a woman worth having. Fair enough if they have young children to care for, but if not there is NO reason why they cannot contribute to the relationship. My missus works and her wage helps out quite a bit. She trained for her job and get satisfaction from it. If its a trophy you want, well....you get what you pay for I guess. I would steer clear of women like that. There are plenty of intelligent women here that want to work......hell even if they are a thick as pig pooh there will be some niche they can fill...No, I don't buy that attitude at all. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Soutpeel Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 One million a month or year? The way the op is talking I am hoping its per month 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannot Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 Id tell her to get off her lazy ass and stop expecting to be "supported" 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kannot Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 One million a month or year? The way the op is talking I am hoping its per month I couldnt manage unless thats per day hey its good to dream 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Water Buffalo Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 My GF was very pleased with earning 18k a month. I didn't give her anything. I did pay the rent (usually, not always). Her family don't ask for anything. I earn 32k. I can save 10k. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marko kok prong Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 really difficult question to answer as it depends where you live,your life style,ect,do you want to travel around,ect,and as village farang mentioned start up costs,personally i could live on that a year,and actually probably live on less,depends on how you want to live ,as for the girlfriend,well that is a common idea here when applied to a farang boyfriend husband,as opposed to a Thai plus Thai relationship,as they think all farang are rich,remeber when you part and she say's "take care",this means take care of me not look after yourself. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sipi Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 Do you have a family Bill? Parents or kids? If you do, they come first. Otherwise, up to you. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
fvw53 Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 if you have so much money to risk you better spend some money and consult a lawyer Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
johnbarpic Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 The answer to this is simple would you do it in your own country???? then why should you do it in Thailand ..You have come to Live in a country not surrender your identity & adopt another... If you wanted to do such a thing try the Jesus Army in Uk they like to take everything financially to share with other namely the Leader!!!! Or one of the many churches that like donations from your Salary. Measure twice cut one is my advise think hard before you decide.. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post bowerboy Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 This is the ABSOLUTE Gospel....I find it impossible to understand why you would do it any other way if you are paying (different story if girl works and has her own income). "If you're gonna pay for everything at least get a 20 year old hottie, not a 50 year old single mother" 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SOTIRIOS Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 ...watch your step buddy..... ...many have lost a lot more than you... ...put the onus on you....civilized Mr. Nice Guy...... ...nice guys do finish last..... ...you are being set up...... ...friendship...never mind love...is contingent on your willingness to dish out.... ...that is the experience I and many others have had...... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bendywire Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 As the op hasn't come back with any sort of answer I now declare this to be a Troll post. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Sirpia Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 Her idea is that a proper "boyfriend" takes care of all of his girlfriend's financial needs including her family, Run. You need to harden up a bit mate, Thais can sense a weakness and give an inch, take 10 miles is the order of the day. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
WhamBam Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 A fool and his money...... Thankfully my money resides in a UK bank. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post theguyfromanotherforum Posted January 5, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted January 5, 2015 Thankfully I have no money. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Tuskfish Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 It saddens me to keep hearing stories like these. There are wonderful Thai ladies out there! I don't know you or her properly, but I can say that wouldn't be good enough for me. I make fairly good money and here's a typical situation that happens in our family that may help you to see how different things can be. This weekend my mother-in-laws old box TV died. We gave her a lift to Tesco to buy a new one. She planned to buy another old style box TV. Somewhat selfishly I offered her our flatscreen for free (because I wanted a better one). There was zero chance that she was going to accept the TV for free but couldn't afford it, even at it's apparent second hand value. Her family rallied together and scrounged up 5k for it which I was forced to accept. There are plenty of stories of Thai women and their associated families taking farangs for a ride. The complete opposite also exists. I hope you can also find it. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jacksam Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 " Her idea is that a proper "boyfriend" takes care of all of his girlfriend's financial needs including her family, of course."[ What a load of rubbish ..... mate , if you believe that then you are surely gonna get taken for a ride. I think your post is a load of rubbish. Most blokes come here and don't work. Meaning they have retired whatever age they are. If they have a gf she then does not work so they can travel etc. Or you have her work for minimal money. So what we do is ask one important question. WHAT IS THE MONTHLY COMMITMENT to her and family. Call this her salary. This will include and family and buffalo. On top of that you will pay for EVERYTHING ..rent, travel booze eating out etc etc. One mill won't go close. You can't afford it 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bkkheat Posted January 5, 2015 Share Posted January 5, 2015 I make from min 50K to 100K a month depending on business. I pay the rent of 10K a month GF earns 30K a month, but she saves 10K and send another 5K to her parents so she is left with 15K spending money. On the months I make only 50K, we struggle a bit, as her 15K usually only lasts her 3 weeks and I give her 5K so after rent I only have 35K. Ii also pay child support of 10K a month, which then give me 25K a month. So I basically live off 25K a month (on a bad) with all living expenses paid. If I didnt drink, I could easily live off that, but I am out about 4 nights a week so it can get a bit thin. But I probably average about 70 to 80K a month and I can live very comfortably with that and even have a trip to Hua hin or Pattaya for a weekend. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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