Can I force someone into psychatric hospital?

[nicobangkok]

So I told my girlfriend of one year that I no longer want to be in a relationship with her 3 days ago.

She did not accept it and she is going crazy right now. She did not leave home, refuse to eat, don't sleep much, threat of killing herself, drinks as soon as i stop checking on her. She tried once to lock herself in the bathroom with a knife, I stopped her right in time.

Tonight I went out to have a chat with one of my neighbor for like 20mn, at this point she was calm and she agreed to fly back to her village the next day, so I thought it was fine.

When I came back she left with my motorbike. I found her in the Soi extremely intoxicated.

My neighbors tried to help me bring her back to bed, but she refused and started to be violent.

At this point we decided to call an ambulance, at the hospital they did nothing but giving me sleeping pills and vitamins for her, with a psychologist appointment.

Back home she told me that she will do the same everyday until I agree to get back to her.

I think she needs a more serious treatment, I am scared for her and for myself.

In my home country, I know that if you think someone is a threat for himself, you can force the person to stay at the hospital against its will. Is it the same in Thailand? Who should I contact?

Also I know that she pays every month for an insurance that works for one government hospital in Bangkok only, I have no clue how that works, do insurances cover psychiatric hospitals?

I am quite desperate at this point, I would appreciate any advice..

[nicobangkok]

She usually goes to an hospital called Lersdin

[wooloomooloo]

She usually goes to an hospital called Lersdin

Book yourself in whilst your at it.

[manarak]

How long has OP been living in Thailand?

It's common for girls to act this way.

Ask a friend or two to help you to kick her out, give her some cash to buy a ticket home and to lay there depressed for some days and then take a holiday of a week or two - don't leave exposed any of your possessions that can be damaged.

[nicobangkok]

I've been here for ~18 months and I have heard many crazy chick stories from my friends, but this is beyond everything. She is not into money at all.

I already offered her ticket back home, and enough money to stay there a few months, she agreed for like 3 hours, we actually sent out most of her stuff to her mom's house. But after that she went full retard again.

FYI she is 30 and was mature and mentally stable since I met her, she was working most of the time. I did not expect such a bad ending at all.

Now I am waiting for her to wake up, I hope to get her to the next flight ASAP, if she become reasonable again.

[jcisco]

Just get the rest of her stuff packed up and send her and stuff away out of your life. Seriously this could get to be the most fun / stressful time you will have staying here. Wait till she starts to hate you and then the trying to get u back will be replaced with trying to win. Win as in destroying you. enjoy

[colinneil]

OP welcome to Thailand.

Get used to it. comon ploy for insecure women here.

[PaulHamon]

pack your shit and move out while she is on a bender.

[goltec]

If you like to talk to a proffesional about it with someone who speaks good English, you can call:

Department of Psychiatry

School of Medicine University
40002 Address: 123 Moo 16 Friendship residing in Amphur Muang, Khon Kaen 40002.
043-363002 : 043-348384 Phone: 043-363002 psychology Fax: 043-348384.

[SOTIRIOS]

...how long will it take you to leave her....

...why are you lingering...

...you said she was admitted to hospital....and often goes there.....

...otherwise file a police report.....

[Dogmatix]

First of all ask yourself what reaction you expected from her when you delivered this matter of fact piece of news and how you might have reacted if you were in the same position as she is.

Next, consider that this would be a good time to protect your own assets. Better start by sleeping in kevlar underpants to avoid waking up to a sense of loss and the noise of the ducks fighting over your prized possessions in the yard.

Edited January 15, 2015 by Dogmatix

[Mudcrab]

Her village has an airport???

[Just1Voice]

"Run, Forrest, Runnnnn!!!"

[asdecas]

nico - I'm sorry to hear of your present situation - while I wouldn't say it's common, this behaviour is something which many of us foreign males have encountered when breaking up with a TGF. Understand then that it is not personal - it may be more to do with loss of a stable and comfortable situation on her part than love for you. Therefore you should not feel guilty, which is what she is trying to make you feel. Couples break up every day the world over, with a greater or lesser degree of disruption to their lives. But you clearly have a challenge on your hands in the immediate future.

Look at the question you yourself asked - is it possible to have someone committed to hospital? To me that says that you want, probably very much need, to get away from your TGF, and as quickly as possible. You cannot be responsible for what she may threaten to do or actually do if you leave her, but she will consciously or unconsciously try to make you feel responsible. I say again, do not indulge yourself in feeling guilty - she, not you, must take responsibility for her life.

You must look out for yourself: in this situation you need rest, to eat and sleep as well as possible, not drink too much, otherwise you will rapidly be worn down and your judgement impaired. If you cannot get this with your TGF tormenting you, then it may be necessary to arrange somewhere where you can. If you do this, under NO circumstances tell your TGF where you are or how to contact you - or you will be no better off.

Time will cool her distress, whether real or pretended.

[Gentmartin]

Nice to see the caring sharing members out in force again this morning......

Nico, my advice would be to contact her parents, and perhaps fly her mum down. Break ups arent easy, but nice to see you are a caring guy and only wanting her to be safe during the break up. Im guessing this is your apartment ? Hope you get this situation resolved soon. Its very difficult and Im not offering much but i wish you both all the best.

[Just1Voice]

You're not the first, and won't be the last, to go through this. Happened to someone I know a while back. His gf even threatened suicide. So, he very quietly and nonchalantly went looking for a new place to live. Found what he liked and rented it. Went home, didn't say anything to her, acting as if everything was fine. The next day she went out with friends. He called a cab to load all his stuff in and left. Then changed the sim card in his phone to get a new number. About a week later he had one of his friends go to the old place to pretend to visit him. It was empty. Apparently, from what his friend found out, after her not being able to contact him for 2 days, she packed up and went home to mommy and daddy. End of story.

You might try doing something similar.

Edited January 15, 2015 by Just1Voice

[DekDaeng]

Change locks immediately. Put signs on door (so all the neighbours can see) barring her. Move. Get away, she will do anything she can to try to keep you thru guilt. Once she knows you are gone she should smarten up.

If she doffs herself, that is her problem; you can't be held responsible.

I had one once - I found about 20 stab marks with carving knife in the bed - after we split she got into my apartment while I was away, stole all correspondence with a previous g/f - which had ended long before. She just became preoccupied with that g/f. Ended up having to pay to get rid of her.

Run, Forrest,

[markie53]

I'm not sure where the the OP is from but certainly not the case in the UK. Wouldn't it be open to abuse? "I think someone is crazy -keep them

In hospital against their will"

In any case I wish you both well but suspect you may end up parting with some cash to soften her blow.

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[Gentmartin]

Change locks immediately. Put signs on door (so all the neighbours can see) barring her. Move. Get away, she will do anything she can to try to keep you thru guilt. Once she knows you are gone she should smarten up.

If she doffs herself, that is her problem; you can't be held responsible.

I had one once - I found about 20 stab marks with carving knife in the bed - after we split she got into my apartment while I was away, stole all correspondence with a previous g/f - which had ended long before. She just became preoccupied with that g/f. Ended up having to pay to get rid of her.

Run, Forrest,

'If she doffs herself, that is her problem, you cant be held responsible'......is very true..in theory, wont stop him feeling guilty for the rest of his life though will it ? If you kept correspondence with a previous g/f in the house, I'd say it was you that was preoccupied with her tbh mate..........

[nursebob]

hi, back home in UK you had to take them to a general hospital A&E and ask for a psychiatric assessment, or if they had a previous history of mental illness, get in contact with their old ward. good luck

[slipperylobster]

"Run, Forrest, Runnnnn!!!"

Her sanity will return, but has a price.

[mike324]

Find out who her close friends or family members are and get them involved, try to get out of the situation before she kills you for leaving her!

[DekDaeng]

Change locks immediately. Put signs on door (so all the neighbours can see) barring her. Move. Get away, she will do anything she can to try to keep you thru guilt. Once she knows you are gone she should smarten up.

If she doffs herself, that is her problem; you can't be held responsible.

I had one once - I found about 20 stab marks with carving knife in the bed - after we split she got into my apartment while I was away, stole all correspondence with a previous g/f - which had ended long before. She just became preoccupied with that g/f. Ended up having to pay to get rid of her.

Run, Forrest,

'If she doffs herself, that is her problem, you cant be held responsible'......is very true..in theory, wont stop him feeling guilty for the rest of his life though will it ? If you kept correspondence with a previous g/f in the house, I'd say it was you that was preoccupied with her tbh mate..........

No, it was just there, in the filing cabinet with all my other letters etc - never referred to - just no reason to throw it out.

She did well to find it - & I would have too.

[scorecard]

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OP welcome to Thailand.
Get used to it. comon ploy for insecure women here.

And to be fair, there's plenty of suicides of foreigners here, many times over many years, where the Thai lady has ended the relationship.

[Luxfare]

She's just trying to guilt trip you into staying with her. One of my mates had the same, she sent him a pic of a positive pregnancy test (which was from Google images), had him threatened, barred from his favourite local Thai bar etc. If there's no reasoning with her and you fear for your safety I'd rent somewhere else and change your number. If threatening suicide and acting unreasonably got everyone what they wanted I'd be downing JD with a razor in my hand asking my boss for a pay rise...... and it didn't work last time I tried.

[KhnomKhnom]

My deepest sympathies to the woman who invested her life and love and work in a clueless, heartless man.

If, as you are described here, you did want her out, you should have traveled with her to her mother's home, hired a translator there to tell Mom that she is to keep her daughter there for a while, hand Mom about 30,000THB and say you will send woman's belongings next week. Then, have Mom arrange women to stay there immediately while your cowardly behind runs for the hills right then.

Change door locks. If somehow Mom loses her and she returns to you, take her back yourself to Mom and give Mom another thirty.

Sorry for all your bad choices. To paraphrase a famous stage play, "When a marriage is on the rocks, the rocks are in HIS head."

[misterfarang]

"Next, consider that this would be a good time to protect your own assets. Better start by sleeping in kevlar underpants to avoid waking up to a sense of loss and the noise of the ducks fighting over your prized possessions in the yard. " from dogmatix

dogmatix , you made me laugh to the tears as well as run forest run guys..thks a lot!

its funny because its true!

i experienced a few dramas like this myself over the years

seems the girls here have a lot of imagination and a good database of drama acting fueled by all these television series brainwashing the thai audience

broken windows, forced doors, breakage of furniture yelling shouting and outrage is common .

waiting hours at the doors without food drink or toilet break.

phone internet harrasment. vengeance on vehicles..etc

my best part was my ex condo with african footballers tenants changing frequently gf s. we had a drama fight everymonth.shouting banging at doors and so on it was my free theater entertainment..

because the same girl who was ignoring or snobing us a few weeks ago because of her new beautiful sporty black man was outcrying for help with a total loss of face.. i love it dont know why..

[BudRight]

"Full retard" lol

[hawthorne]

While out of the house or apartment pay off the landlord close the lease. Set up home some other place. She will latch on to another Farrang in hours and forget your name or you ever existed. Don't feel so special her mind will change like the wind. She is a parasite. Think of how you met her. She is a semi professional my friend and you are the mark. Accept it. Get on with your life and drop the Drama.

[sabaii69]

By all means, watch your ASSetts. She is liable to have a crazy brother or cousin policeman

First of all ask yourself what reaction you expected from her when you delivered this matter of fact piece of news and how you might have reacted if you were in the same position as she is.

Next, consider that this would be a good time to protect your own assets. Better start by sleeping in kevlar underpants to avoid waking up to a sense of loss and the noise of the ducks fighting over your prized possessions in the yard.