What do I do, my wife told me in confidence, I cannot tell him, but we have agreement, this is really bothering me, what do I do , I Hate Cheaters, Thanks so much for input, I risk my wife's confidence in a secret if divulged, and will never tell me anything again in Confidence, so distraught, btw he is in England and I'm in Thailand

MYOB and get on with your own life!

Give me his name and I'll tell him. Problem solved.

If he really is a mate ,tell him,I've done it before & I'd do it again. The mate I told married the woman who was cheating a couple of years later & they are still together with kids now.

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

it's quite a sticky situation, your damned if u do and damned if u don't , it's the agreement part that's bothering me, Thanks

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

I told a good friend once that his wife was cheating. He went straight to his wife and asked her, "Are you cheating?" She said, "NO!" Afterwards my friend said I was lying. Case closed.

I probably should of set up a Poll... Who wants to be a Sap, though and what kinda Mate am I, to say Nothing.

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

I told a good friend once that his wife was cheating. He went straight to his wife and asked her, "Are you cheating?" She said, "NO!" Afterwards my friend said I was lying. Case closed.

. Good Point, I'm screwed,I guess have to live with it, Damn

Be smart , start to make hints or encourage contact when she is in the process of cheating.

May be talk to your wife about your feelings and you strongly believe your friend should be aware

Who do you sleep with ?

Your wife or your mate ?

nuff said

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

Cloud cuckold land?

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As said earlier .... Mind your own god damn business ... it's got absolutely nothing to do with you.

what do I do , I Hate Cheaters, .... Most people hate busy bodies who can't mind there own business.

Why do folks stick there nose in other peoples affairs ?.... and please don't give me that .. ' because he's a mate and you want to help him ' bla .. bla ... bla ...crap.

just get on with your own life ... same as everyone should do.

There are 1,000,000 thai gf's that cheat my friend .... she's not the first and won't be the last ! .... lol

forget it ....

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

Cloud cuckold land?

Closet cuckold seekers?

As said earlier .... Mind your own god damn business ... it's got absolutely nothing to do with you.

Why do folks stick there nose in other peoples affairs .... and please don't give me that .. ' because he's a mate and you want to help him ' bla .. bla ... bla ...crap.

just get on with your own life ... same as everyone should do.

others think differently

i for one would want to know or would pass the info on

but i dont go around saying "same as everyone should do"

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

it's quite a sticky situation, your damned if u do and damned if u don't , it's the agreement part that's bothering me, Thanks

Stop your wife communicating with his gf.

Because,

1. It's getting you info you don't want.

2. The gf will be boasting to your wife how much money she gets off both.

3. Your wife will start asking for more.

4. The gf will be trying to lure your wife into cheating too.

Absolutely firm rule in Thailand, don't let your woman mix with your mates women.

She has her friends, you have your friends.

Not your business. Butt out or later YOU will be blamed by both parties for destroying their relationship.

Not specific to Pattaya, moved to General Forum

=best to do....

You have insider knowledge.

Be cunning.

Figure out a plan so she is exposed or caught out by you or her boyfriend.

That way you prove it, do not betray your wife and can sleep at night.

If he saw your wife cheating on you, would you want to know? There's your answer. Bro's take care of Bro's. This is a no-brainer.

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

i had the same situation though not as extreme. knew my mate's gf was cheating and told him. he refused to believe me. he found out eventually. could have saved himself a lot of hassle but as they like to say over here; up to him.

if someone was doing the dirty on me i'd want to know.

OP is your mate supporting the girl financially? if he is definitely hell him! or as someone else suggested get someone else to tell him or create an e-mail address in a thai name and send a grammatically incorrect e-mail to him identifying person, times and places. job done.

I agree (with you) that it hinges on the agreement. It isn't perfectly clear, but I believe the agreement is between you and your wife, that if she told you something in confidence that it would remain a secret, correct?

Well you have to honor that commitment, simple. It is too late now, but if you couldn't honor it you shouldn't have agreed- but you did, and you're stuck with it. No hinting, no bullshit- you honor your word, that is all.

If the whole thing were ever to come out your friend should understand that a person's honor is their word and unless it involved child abuse or something that simply cannot be tolerated (I guess that there could be debate about that threshold, but I don't see this crossing it) you wanted to tell him but you had to keep your promise. It could admittedly compromise your friendship in a couple of ways, but that is the burden that came with your promise.

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

it's quite a sticky situation, your damned if u do and damned if u don't , it's the agreement part that's bothering me, Thanks

Stop your wife communicating with his gf.

Because,

1. It's getting you info you don't want.

2. The gf will be boasting to your wife how much money she gets off both.

3. Your wife will start asking for more.

4. The gf will be trying to lure your wife into cheating too.

Absolutely firm rule in Thailand, don't let your woman mix with your mates women.

She has her friends, you have your friends.

I agree

You never talk to Wife or GF about a friend or his bed partner nor believe you Wife or GFabout it.

Also what ever you hear you should be able to pass at once or else it may be bull

The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.

it's quite a sticky situation, your damned if u do and damned if u don't , it's the agreement part that's bothering me, Thanks

Not sure why you would say "damned if u do and damned if u don't." It would seem that it's only damned if u do. What's the downside of keeping your mouth shut?

If he saw your wife cheating on you, would you want to know? There's your answer. Bro's take care of Bro's. This is a no-brainer.

Absolutely. Tell the poor sod. Also, he might have some similar info on your wife he was keeping to himself.

Moved to Expat Life.

Just tell him, it's the only way you'll learn that you shouldn't tell him.

As said earlier .... Mind your own god damn business ... it's got absolutely nothing to do with you.

Why do folks stick there nose in other peoples affairs .... and please don't give me that .. ' because he's a mate and you want to help him ' bla .. bla ... bla ...crap.

just get on with your own life ... same as everyone should do.

others think differently

i for one would want to know or would pass the info on

but i dont go around saying "same as everyone should do"

who wants to be a Sap, if my friend knew and did not tell me, we re Done...