Dannyboy666 Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 What do I do, my wife told me in confidence, I cannot tell him, but we have agreement, this is really bothering me, what do I do , I Hate Cheaters, Thanks so much for input, I risk my wife's confidence in a secret if divulged, and will never tell me anything again in Confidence, so distraught, btw he is in England and I'm in Thailand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post LennyW Posted March 12, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 12, 2015 MYOB and get on with your own life! 10 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Rod Wallop Posted March 12, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 12, 2015 Give me his name and I'll tell him. Problem solved. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post kurtramsbottom Posted March 12, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 12, 2015 If he really is a mate ,tell him,I've done it before & I'd do it again. The mate I told married the woman who was cheating a couple of years later & they are still together with kids now. 4 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post MAJIC Posted March 12, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 12, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyboy666 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land. it's quite a sticky situation, your damned if u do and damned if u don't , it's the agreement part that's bothering me, Thanks 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 96tehtarp Posted March 12, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 12, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land. I told a good friend once that his wife was cheating. He went straight to his wife and asked her, "Are you cheating?" She said, "NO!" Afterwards my friend said I was lying. Case closed. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyboy666 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 (edited) I probably should of set up a Poll... Who wants to be a Sap, though and what kinda Mate am I, to say Nothing. Edited March 12, 2015 by Dannyboy666 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyboy666 Posted March 12, 2015 Author Share Posted March 12, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land. I told a good friend once that his wife was cheating. He went straight to his wife and asked her, "Are you cheating?" She said, "NO!" Afterwards my friend said I was lying. Case closed. . Good Point, I'm screwed,I guess have to live with it, Damn Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
konying Posted March 12, 2015 Share Posted March 12, 2015 Be smart , start to make hints or encourage contact when she is in the process of cheating. May be talk to your wife about your feelings and you strongly believe your friend should be aware 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Langsuan Man Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 Who do you sleep with ? Your wife or your mate ? nuff said 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 2unique Posted March 13, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 13, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land. Cloud cuckold land? 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
petercool Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 A crude post and reply to it removed Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
steven100 Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 (edited) As said earlier .... Mind your own god damn business ... it's got absolutely nothing to do with you. what do I do , I Hate Cheaters, .... Most people hate busy bodies who can't mind there own business. Why do folks stick there nose in other peoples affairs ?.... and please don't give me that .. ' because he's a mate and you want to help him ' bla .. bla ... bla ...crap. just get on with your own life ... same as everyone should do. There are 1,000,000 thai gf's that cheat my friend .... she's not the first and won't be the last ! .... lol forget it .... Edited March 13, 2015 by steven100 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaorop Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land. Cloud cuckold land? Closet cuckold seekers? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
kaorop Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 As said earlier .... Mind your own god damn business ... it's got absolutely nothing to do with you. Why do folks stick there nose in other peoples affairs .... and please don't give me that .. ' because he's a mate and you want to help him ' bla .. bla ... bla ...crap. just get on with your own life ... same as everyone should do. others think differently i for one would want to know or would pass the info on but i dont go around saying "same as everyone should do" 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MaeJoMTB Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 (edited) The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.it's quite a sticky situation, your damned if u do and damned if u don't , it's the agreement part that's bothering me, Thanks Stop your wife communicating with his gf. Because, 1. It's getting you info you don't want. 2. The gf will be boasting to your wife how much money she gets off both. 3. Your wife will start asking for more. 4. The gf will be trying to lure your wife into cheating too. Absolutely firm rule in Thailand, don't let your woman mix with your mates women. She has her friends, you have your friends. Edited March 13, 2015 by MaeJoMTB 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
colinneil Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 Not your business. Butt out or later YOU will be blamed by both parties for destroying their relationship. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rimmer Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 Not specific to Pattaya, moved to General Forum Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Crazy chef 1 Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 =best to do.... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DLock Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 You have insider knowledge. Be cunning. Figure out a plan so she is exposed or caught out by you or her boyfriend. That way you prove it, do not betray your wife and can sleep at night. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post 2fishin2 Posted March 13, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 13, 2015 If he saw your wife cheating on you, would you want to know? There's your answer. Bro's take care of Bro's. This is a no-brainer. 5 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
samsensam Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land. i had the same situation though not as extreme. knew my mate's gf was cheating and told him. he refused to believe me. he found out eventually. could have saved himself a lot of hassle but as they like to say over here; up to him. if someone was doing the dirty on me i'd want to know. OP is your mate supporting the girl financially? if he is definitely hell him! or as someone else suggested get someone else to tell him or create an e-mail address in a thai name and send a grammatically incorrect e-mail to him identifying person, times and places. job done. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
eastbay Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 I agree (with you) that it hinges on the agreement. It isn't perfectly clear, but I believe the agreement is between you and your wife, that if she told you something in confidence that it would remain a secret, correct? Well you have to honor that commitment, simple. It is too late now, but if you couldn't honor it you shouldn't have agreed- but you did, and you're stuck with it. No hinting, no bullshit- you honor your word, that is all. If the whole thing were ever to come out your friend should understand that a person's honor is their word and unless it involved child abuse or something that simply cannot be tolerated (I guess that there could be debate about that threshold, but I don't see this crossing it) you wanted to tell him but you had to keep your promise. It could admittedly compromise your friendship in a couple of ways, but that is the burden that came with your promise. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
harryfrompattaya Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.it's quite a sticky situation, your damned if u do and damned if u don't , it's the agreement part that's bothering me, Thanks Stop your wife communicating with his gf. Because, 1. It's getting you info you don't want. 2. The gf will be boasting to your wife how much money she gets off both. 3. Your wife will start asking for more. 4. The gf will be trying to lure your wife into cheating too. Absolutely firm rule in Thailand, don't let your woman mix with your mates women. She has her friends, you have your friends. I agree You never talk to Wife or GF about a friend or his bed partner nor believe you Wife or GFabout it. Also what ever you hear you should be able to pass at once or else it may be bull Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berkshire Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 The last time I told someone their GF was cheating,he said I lied and was going to kill me! of course he only came to Thailand 2 to 3 time a year so knew better than I.Nowadays i keep my mouth shut and let them live in cloud cuckoo land.it's quite a sticky situation, your damned if u do and damned if u don't , it's the agreement part that's bothering me, Thanks Not sure why you would say "damned if u do and damned if u don't." It would seem that it's only damned if u do. What's the downside of keeping your mouth shut? 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post Neeranam Posted March 13, 2015 Popular Post Share Posted March 13, 2015 If he saw your wife cheating on you, would you want to know? There's your answer. Bro's take care of Bro's. This is a no-brainer. Absolutely. Tell the poor sod. Also, he might have some similar info on your wife he was keeping to himself. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rooo Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 Moved to Expat Life. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wprime Posted March 13, 2015 Share Posted March 13, 2015 Just tell him, it's the only way you'll learn that you shouldn't tell him. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dannyboy666 Posted March 13, 2015 Author Share Posted March 13, 2015 As said earlier .... Mind your own god damn business ... it's got absolutely nothing to do with you. Why do folks stick there nose in other peoples affairs .... and please don't give me that .. ' because he's a mate and you want to help him ' bla .. bla ... bla ...crap. just get on with your own life ... same as everyone should do. others think differently i for one would want to know or would pass the info on but i dont go around saying "same as everyone should do" who wants to be a Sap, if my friend knew and did not tell me, we re Done... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
.png.3b3332cc2256ad0edbc2fe9404feeef0.png)
Recommended Posts
Create an account or sign in to comment
You need to be a member in order to leave a comment
Create an account
Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!
Register a new accountSign in
Already have an account? Sign in here.
Sign In Now