First time in Thailand, and first Thai "girlfriend"

[haja5]

So I met this girl in Thailand. Via thaifriendly I was the first person to message her apparently. Saw the new member tag and went for it. Turns out we are having great times besides the struggling language barrier. Here is the thing I'm not sure about the cultural things to watch out for. She texts me everyday saying she misses me. Tells me she thinks she is falling in love. Every time we go out (once or twice a week) she always wants to pay for it or doesn't like me buying it all. First date we went on she bought my meal. She started holding hands with me, but seems like she doesn't enjoy me touching her back. Also I try to kiss her head to intiant something, but she always pulls away and says her hair is dirty or something. She seems distance yet always messages me how much she misses me. Is dating thai a matter of immense patience or is this a different situation?

Please enlighten me on what's going on with the Thai side of dating.

Thanks for the answers and help.

[coulson]

Maybe she has seen the Godfather movie and the head kissing bit may have put her in fear of her life..........

[fish fingers]

1/Thai women don't pet in public.

2/ Any relationship on a dating site is never what it seems.

3/ She's made a financial commitment and will expect a return, but its not what you think.

[White Christmas13]

Run

[coulson]

Maybe try kissing her elbow instead?

Edited August 18, 2015 by coulson

[haja5]

Run

May I ask why I should run?

[green job]

Have you done a close inspection Yet? If not I advise you to do a thorough one, She/ He may of had the opp. Just to be sure.

[NickJ]

Many of these girls are lonley. They fall in love with the idea of love...............

[haja5]

She is a female. I am sure of it. I am just wondering if this is some slow paced thai dating, or if its something else I should look out for. She has never used a dating site before. I just find it odd why she is saying she may love me, says she always misses me, and pays for alot when we do go out. I've meet her friends already...very nice group. No I wasn't forced to pay for there meals. She seems attracted but distant cant put my finger on it.

[JingerBen]

Your education is just beginning.

Most of us on this forum have graduated already... some of us cum laude.

[haja5]

Yes I am new. Very new actually. That's why I am reaching to the seniors on here. Seeking advice/experience what to watch out for what not to worry about.

[JingerBen]

She is a female. I am sure of it. I am just wondering if this is some slow paced thai dating, or if its something else I should look out for. She has never used a dating site before. I just find it odd why she is saying she may love me, says she always misses me, and pays for alot when we do go out. I've meet her friends already...very nice group. No I wasn't forced to pay for there meals. She seems attracted but distant cant put my finger on it.

Try a little lower.

[green job]

She is a female. I am sure of it. I am just wondering if this is some slow paced thai dating, or if its something else I should look out for. She has never used a dating site before. I just find it odd why she is saying she may love me, says she always misses me, and pays for alot when we do go out. I've meet her friends already...very nice group. No I wasn't forced to pay for there meals. She seems attracted but distant cant put my finger on it.

If you cant put your finger in it,how do you know she is a she?

[haja5]

She is a female. I am sure of it. I am just wondering if this is some slow paced thai dating, or if its something else I should look out for. She has never used a dating site before. I just find it odd why she is saying she may love me, says she always misses me, and pays for alot when we do go out. I've meet her friends already...very nice group. No I wasn't forced to pay for there meals. She seems attracted but distant cant put my finger on it.

Try a little lower.

Haha, I am in the clear. Hands are good, adams apple is clear, voice is petite actually sings very well.

[HooHaa]

She is a female. I am sure of it. I am just wondering if this is some slow paced thai dating, or if its something else I should look out for. She has never used a dating site before. I just find it odd why she is saying she may love me, says she always misses me, and pays for alot when we do go out. I've meet her friends already...very nice group. No I wasn't forced to pay for there meals. She seems attracted but distant cant put my finger on it.

or in it.

damn, i was late to that party

Edited August 18, 2015 by HooHaa

[haja5]

God damn this forum. lol

yea i guess I set my self up...

Edited August 18, 2015 by haja5

[Jeddah Jo]

She's probably got a few guys on the go so I wouldn't invest too much emotion or thought into the situation. Sabai sabai Thai style.

Plus if she is messing with your head now, imagine what its going to be like after you have been with her for xxx years...

[CharlieH]

Peoples experience will vary, the problem you are going to have here is that rarely posts like yours are genuine, and hence you are wide open for type of responses you are receiving, these posts are so often used as "trolling" they are seldom answered as a potentially real "ask for help and guidance".

Only other comment I will make on the head touching aspect, Thais consider it a "no" as is never touch the head of a child either, depending on her family, background, and area she is from, these customs etc will vary dramatically. You are at the start of huge learning curve. Good luck, be careful, if not sure "ASK HER" then listen and check , then check again you are not mis-led

[desmondspencer]

As per the truckloads that have graduated through the ranks, it won't be long till marriage is on the cards.

Thai parents who're fervently I'll takes center stage.

Do a search & you'll most likely have your answers.

[AlexRRR]

A few dates "i miss you" and "i think i might be in love with you" she being Thai and you havent slept with her tells me something wrong with you.

[coulson]

Yes I am new. Very new actually. That's why I am reaching to the seniors on here. Seeking advice/experience what to watch out for what not to worry about.

Keywords like 'I miss you' ' I love you' get over used in the absence of language to hold a meaningful conversation. If it bothers you, as it has me before, I come out and ask 'how can you love someone you just met?', it always gets a defensive and interesting response.

There are many nice ladies out there, unfortunately lots of them are just interested in having a Westerner improve the quality of their (and their families) life and give them a cute half-cast baby.

(Has that come up yet - what the baby would look like? Oh, narak mak mak!!!)

Edited August 18, 2015 by coulson

[brewsterbudgen]

What do you want? Seems like a quick shag isn't on the cards, so are you looking for some kind of, God forbid, "relationship"? How long are you here for? Don't over-analyse it but if you're not having fun, I'd move on. Plenty of other girls around and this one seems like hard work.

[fish fingers]

She is a female. I am sure of it.

I just spilt the coffee and bust a blood vessel

[slipperylobster]

Make sure you have sex with her before you marry her. Make that a requirement.

Also see if she gives a good massage....tell her your back hurts.

Check out her cooking...and if she is worldly enough to try out some farang food...not strictly thai.

Most of all.....tell her you cannot pay sin sod...can pay for a wedding and a bit of gold.

[Kenny202]

Thais are shy and tend to pull away particularly when kissing and even more particularly in public. They'll do all sorts of things u'd never imagine and usually on a first date but kissing they struggle with. Some get to like it and some never do. If she's an Isaan girl she may be terrified of her breath if she's just wolfed down some som tam. Ask her?

I would be wary of Thai dating sites. Doesn't mean she's a bad person or going to take u for all you own but she'll probably have her nets cast far and wide and may have many on the go. Not to say she's sleeping with everyone but she'll be getting a lot of pak wan (BS) from men too and she'll be keeping many options open. I don't know. Unless she's fresh to the dating scene a girl on a thai dating site is about as safe a prospect as a bird in a bar. They just seem to get the idea that if one white buffalo doesn't play the game there's plenty more

[coulson]

Make sure you have sex with her before you marry her. Make that a requirement.

Also see if she gives a good massage....tell her your back hurts.

Check out her cooking...and if she is worldly enough to try out some farang food...not strictly thai.

Most of all.....tell her you cannot pay sin sod...can pay for a wedding and a bit of gold.

Spoiler alert! lol, he just got here and you completely ruined the SIN SOD surprise...........every individual should get that from the horse mouth.........it's like finding out Santa Claus doesn't exist from a stranger!!!!

[RabC]

Your education is just beginning.

Most of us on this forum have graduated already... some of us cum laude.

And for some it was a very expensive education...................Internet educations aren't always cheaper

[Kenny202]

I used to have bets with myself on how long it would take for the first request for money. Normally 2 weeks they test the water. Would always start to get my hopes up after week 6 if no stories that I'd found Mrs right but usually dissapointed. Was always 20k thb first request too. Never more never less. They must learn that at school or something. They're cunning but not too smart usually. Pretty easy to play them back at their own game. Promises of "big money" and gold in the future yields all kinds of positive results. By the time they wake up your ready to move on anyway

Edited August 18, 2015 by Kenny202

[Berkshire]

OP, how old are you and the GF?

What I've found is that Thai girls find it very easy to lie in English. Thai girls can say in English "I love you" and it won't mean as much as saying it in Thai. I assume the OP has been speaking exclusively in English with his "GF."

[sipi]

"Is dating a Thai a matter of immense patience?"

In a word, Yes. But if she is a good one it will be worth the effort. The only advice I can give is to forget everything you ever learned about dating. You are already off to a good start.