Dowry 101 from a Thai lady herself

[georgemandm]

4 hours ago, laislica said:

 

Good for you and I hope that you will both be very happy.

 

In the west we have pension schemes that we are forced to pay into and our Governments provide support where needed (sometimes LOL).

In Thailand, the general population don't get pensions.

Their pensions are their children.

 

Thai men will borrow money to pay the dowry. It's what they do.

If you want to Marry a Thai, why should you not do the same as the Thais do?

The daughter you marry has an obligation to support her parents and even siblings, to repay the generosity of the parents care in bringing them up. It's what they do.

Thais have strong family ties and look after each other. You are not so much marrying a woman as marrying a family.

Your Thai wife will likely regard her family as No. 1 and you second or third.... Again, it's what they do.

 

In the west we are brought up to be independent, even when married we still retain an air of independence. It's what we do.

Not to mention that should we later on divorce, the settlement may be rather more than a Thai Sin Sod lol

 

All good and well in what you say but thai man don't pay sin sod if the lady has been married before.

But some of the thai lady's pay games with western man and thai man and  lie about the sin sod bs and make western man pay that stupid thing and thai man .

sin sod is a thai thing and not a western thing ok so let the thai man pay and let the western man not .

I for one would never pay that s??? Because it is a thai thing and if a thai go's on about it to me I would say in my  culture 

woman pay that bs to the man and that shuts them up .

[Global Guy]

My research on this topic came across the reason for a sin sod/dowry originally was to compensate the family when they lost their daughter's free labor on the family farm when she married and left.

 

Sounds like one big bar fine to me. Same exact wording.

 

Now, it's morphed into "proof that the husband can support the wife". Well, my comments are as follows.

 

1) How does giving money away help me support the wife? It means I have less money to do so, therefore, it has the opposite effect.

2) Why do I have to "prove" anything?

3) If they are that worried, I'll show them one of my bank statements. That will have more money listed than a dowry so it is even better than a dowry as proof.

 

The response back to those statements would be "But it's our culture."

 

You see, a dowry is just a money grab by the parents in these days. It is not a cultural thing because the reasons above show better options to accomplish the same result (if that is the real issue).

 

My gf once joked about it's a cultural thing. She was being sarcastic because she knows it's a scam. Yes, people still do it.

 

I said okay, let's follow your culture on this. Your family doesn't have a farm or business that you work at so they are not losing any free labor. You can support your self with your good job and I can support our relationship as well. And you know about my businesses and assets so there is no question about my financial ability.

 

I told her to tell her parents that. I'm not paying a bar fine for a wife. I'm not abandoning my culture 100%. We will compromise. I bought a nice engagement ring. She can flash that to her parents. But no bar fine for a wife.

 

Her parents can be mad all they want.

 

It has nothing to do with having the money. So if your reply will include the word "cheap" please do not reply.

 

I'm sure 90% of you disagree with me and that's fine.

[georgemandm]

8 minutes ago, Global Guy said:

My research on this topic came across the reason for a sin sod/dowry originally was to compensate the family when they lost their daughter's free labor on the family farm when she married and left.

 

Sounds like one big bar fine to me. Same exact wording.

 

Now, it's morphed into "proof that the husband can support the wife". Well, my comments are as follows.

 

1) How does giving money away help me support the wife? It means I have less money to do so, therefore, it has the opposite effect.

2) Why do I have to "prove" anything?

3) If they are that worried, I'll show them one of my bank statements. That will have more money listed than a dowry so it is even better than a dowry as proof.

 

The response back to those statements would be "But it's our culture."

 

You see, a dowry is just a money grab by the parents in these days. It is not a cultural thing because the reasons above show better options to accomplish the same result (if that is the real issue).

 

My gf once joked about it's a cultural thing. She was being sarcastic because she knows it's a scam. Yes, people still do it.

 

I said okay, let's follow your culture on this. Your family doesn't have a farm or business that you work at so they are not losing any free labor. You can support your self with your good job and I can support our relationship as well. And you know about my businesses and assets so there is no question about my financial ability.

 

I told her to tell her parents that. I'm not paying a bar fine for a wife. I'm not abandoning my culture 100%. We will compromise. I bought a nice engagement ring. She can flash that to her parents. But no bar fine for a wife.

 

Her parents can be mad all they want.

 

It has nothing to do with having the money. So if your reply will include the word "cheap" please do not reply.

 

I'm sure 90% of you disagree with me and that's fine.

Good to see blokes on here who know what they are talking about .

and not afraid of their thai partner.

[NickJ]

If your girl needs to be paid for you to be with her.....hats off. You gotta keeper.

 

 

Bridge for sale....cheap. Comes with work permit.  And the approval to build a house. Buy a car. And be happy forever. 

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