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Sold a lot of stuff but kept a car and an RV back home so I visit/tour and be surrounded by my own stuff.....I have a house full of furniture stored where the vehicle is that sooner or later I'll have to deal with somewhere along the way......a lot of things are of sentimental value - possibly I should have shipped more household stuff in the container - and for sure I should not have shipped the car.....

We were at a National Park in Lampang with hot springs and eating at the tables.....4 cats came for handouts - 1 mom 3 good sized kittens - the 3 kittens had kinked tails.....

I had the wife ask the lady serving the food why and she said they fight.......feral cats so I'm guessing no one saw the births....

None in our neighborhood though that I've seen.......

Some extremely beautiful cats in Thailand.......

Well - everybody has to have one thing they are good at and proud of...........

Seems he "worked" with some therapists of a famous soccer team......means nothing and no accreditation to start any type of practice....whether by happenstance he was good or not.....

It's possible with no other competition around he seemed good - a dime a dozen in the west and it takes time to find a good practitioner.....

It's probably one reason he couldn't set up - he wasn't qualified......

Trying to operate an illegal business (fraud) to fund his stay in Thailand - unqualified (fraud) - on a student visa (fraud)......

He couldn't do it in his country either......that's why he tried it on for size here.....

He's probably a "really good guy" in both countries.....

Leadership requires no money.....it's a quality....but...right now she is the leader and controls her money....probably just the way she is comfortable......house rules and it's her house/home.....might have been different if you were established and viewed as successful and she had come into your home....it looks as if she is a strong individual....it also seems she had your back but unknown how she views this....up for you to make/stay or break it.....does not seem like you are happy....either change something in house or remove yourself from the situation - if she misses you there's a reason to restart....either way the future is what you make it or accept.....

Thai women like strong men....so far the only strong you showed was voicing your bank card problem and she gave you all in her purse.....grow a pair - assert yourself....make it a point to get what you want - take her to dinner - YOU pay - possible that when men paid before they wanted her for dessert - but YOU live with her - take her out for night on the town - stop and look at things - chat - laugh - admire.....make it known what you want around the house - you are the man of the house act like it.....it all can be done in a subtle manner....a lot of the men in Thailand are strong yet quiet and that's possibly the way she was raised......

My FIL is a very quiet person but he is the undisputed family leader - the only change my wife has ever seen him make in routine is that now he allows me also to take a leadership role in his presence when all of us are together - frankly I think he's glad to share it in situations rather than be the pillar all the time.....and I appreciate the respect and don't over step my position.....

So - be a source of strength to her - show her how much you care not how much you question or dissapprove.....don't forget they are great at reading body language - much better than us.....reason - don't shout - sway don't push.....make it fun.....

If it doesn't work - well you've given the best you got.....

I know of one guy that can't even get a GF in Thailand for God's sake!!!!!!!!!!!....he's whiney and looking for/using pity while mooching ALL the time looking for the opening to take advantage - had the same MO as in the US - didn't have a chance there either - - - - - don't turn out like him - he's a lousy excuse for human being......

Yes.....they told me 3 - 4 weeks....but took a lot less...

Actually - with his rude manners - she told him exactly where he stood while chastising him at the same time - good on her........

Wouldn't have upset me what-so-ever.....

Would have given him a big grin with some serious eye contact.....

Sent 7 of their largest at max weight boxes to the PI - they were delivered to the door in 7 or 8 days......

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Also noticed CM to BKK & back my GPS showed cameras along the way - I spotted a few but don't know how advanced they are about ticketing/punishing via other means......but they had to be live to be picked up on the GPS.....

A GPS only shows cameras that are programmed on the map. Nothing to do with live or not live.

The Esri map includes camera locations that have been reported, but it doesn't mean there is a camera at that time you pass.

You could be 100% correct - odd that when the alarm sounds it's always at different distances....never makes a peep when there's a guy with radar in the middle of the road - same spectrum I would guess <> anyway - they are out there.....

I had the same experience a few years ago....government official bought a house 300 meters away from mine because he was thrown out of his village 1.1K away due to his loud music - they threw rocks on his roof which is the Thai way to show their anger......he had two speaker stands with the stage type speakers on it elevated to two levels with 6 speakers on each (large each 5'x2') + other speakers so about 14 concert grade speakers.....when he used them the base would shake the slab floor on my house.....tried going over - was pulled away by a friend because I was getting hot.....he lorded/flaunted his government job over the nearby people and they were frightened of his power......went to the amphur 1 kilo away and complained (could hear the music there even though the speakers were aimed the other way).......

Finally - started a petition walking around the two nearby villages - everybody hated this guy but all were afraid - one ex-chief said "his pleasure is everyone elses pain" - he'd evidently threatened more than a few people along the way along with taunts and insults......but - got 13 signatures which we took to the authorities & they made a call on him....worked about 2 weeks.

We were having a party one night with fireworks to end it and he was on the microphone singing American go home over and over and over....I tilted the mortar towards his place and the round went off about 30 meters directly over his house/shack.....he went quiet for the rest of that night......

Had a friend that wrote articles and he took the information and notes and somehow got it into the paper & wrote cover letters to every ranking official he could think of locally and in Bangkok including the notes - petition - videos & pictures - within 6 months this guy had been re-assigned and sold his house (which is good because I was seriously thinking how unfortunate it would be if the bank of speakers caught fire) - that was actually some of the villagers comments - burn him out.....

Your problem is a big one....I guess I found a lucky way to get it handled - once the villagers saw other signatures on the petition it was easier to get others - even though he cost over 100's of people many sleepless nights it was hard to get them to sign.......everyone was impressed that we got that many people to sign.....

Somehow you've got to find a way to make them lose face over it publicly and make it so much trouble it's no longer a lark - because until you do everyone is captive and enslaved to them.......and once the bullies get entrenched it will get worse.....

Seems to me the words were thown out the as a general slur against all Asians - without the direct meaning of the words ting tong.....

Probably not a gaffe but a prejudicial and racist belief by the speaker......

Also noticed CM to BKK & back my GPS showed cameras along the way - I spotted a few but don't know how advanced they are about ticketing/punishing via other means......but they had to be live to be picked up on the GPS.....

They are not.....we are - and saying they are reversed simply because "we" are here now too.....

Carry mine on the opposite side as the folding money....I buy walking shorts and 3/4 length with one zippered front cargo pocket for the wallet....not always on the same side so have to remember or do the side slap thing to locate......

Only carry wallet - keys - change/folding money - cell phone <> no need for the man purse thing - ever.....

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OP, I do understand your anger and frustration.

Just for a moment, forget she is in Pattaya and what she is doing.

You seem you liked her very much.

She liked you also, and that is the reason she did not reveal to you her real trade.

But, I believe you should give her a chance.

May be she will be the best wife and carring mother for your children.

Thousands of farangs got married to bar girls and they had a wonderful life after.

Please don't ignore her, give her another chance.

Yia sou Ke Kosta,

The problem is that she also lied to him about how long she has been living in Pattaya. From my perspective it is very difficult to trust someone in the future who is lying. Lying is usually a bad omen when it comes to relationships in my experience.

Just saying.....

yiannis

Good advice from yiannis - on the first - I don't know ..... personally I don't think I'd like to be out and about with a woman that has probably sucked the c**K of a good % of the men walking/passing on the street and around town - let alone end up back in her village (where she started this) someday where everyone one in the village will know exactly who and how and for how long she was doing/learning the same there......many farang men are probably the village joke/clown without being aware.....especially if there are a few special "brothers" sprinkled about.....not something that would appeal to me......imo - some things have to be thought out an reconciled completely.....

Ridden many a bike in my day and for many years.....will not ride on LOS - too many unaware + uncertain drivers coupled with outright bad/dangerour/unpredictable drivers.....you're only as alive as your balance and luck against the odds.....I prefer 2 tons of strong SUV surrounding me + I know the steering wheel always is towards the middle line and I'm in the right lane....the couple of times I rode a few years back I had a tendancy once in a great while to pull to the US side of the road.......

I'd thought a few times about getting another big bike but it always seems when I have that urge there's a picture of sliced and diced road kill posted within a few days.....passed an accident with a motorbike yesterday - the lucky guy was still alive - his face/head/hairline looked like it was sandpapered to raw meat everywhere and he was unable to get off the ground - and he was a lucky one - no other vehicle in sight so I am guessing he just go cut off and went down.......

He'll be scarred up....for life - but will probably ride again until he ends it.....a very high % of the fatalies on the road (85-89%?) are from being on bikes......

The concrete remains undefeated.....

They are going somewhere....had a whole neighborhood get very quiet and dry up after the clamp down started....none of them were old enough for retirerment visas and no Thai wives/husbands....also no work schedule or routine anyone could pin point....also not friendly or talkative outside their own.....as soon a the border runs were enforced = gone.....

Only get to spend each second...minute.....hour once....best to make it well spent and memorable....

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After working in the service industry in various forms I believe every word. People are unbelievable and they don't realize the only thing they achieve by bickering about pocket change is making a fool out of themselves. Poor noodle lady anyhow!

Yes, some people get off by talking down to other people. I've always felt sorry for people I. the service industry, the way some people talk to them and act. SHOCKING.

I. surprised there's not more cases of people being bashed to death by waitress trays and the like.

Must admit ND I went postal once when I ordered a takeaway cheeseburger at McD's and there wasn't a burger inside just cheese.

Probably added 20 minutes more to your life expectancy...... ....use it wisely......

Lefty here.... I really haven't found anything any different here than in the US.........

But found switching hands driving at first was hard to get used to.....

Are there any loving moments together - touching, cuddling, or laughter or are you like two separate identities that happen to share the saem space.....Thai gals can be quiet and introspective but this is usually offset by genuine touching and caring qualities.....

It's possible SHE has been controlled in her life before and is doing her best not to let it happen again while obviously sharing all that she has openly with you.....

You could have an unpolished diamond there.....try learning Thai while she is working....maybe she is unsure what you are doing in her working hours....maybe you've turned quiet no tow an you are a couple of mysteries orbiting each other......

Good luck.....show her plenty of love.....