OneMoreFarang

I think part of the problem is that we have to decide how good is good enough. I.e. I would say I am happy with my long-term gf maybe 90% of the time. In parts of the remaining 10% I really think I don't need this s#$%. But she is smart enough to behave again sometime soon. I never asked her about which percentage of my behavior she likes or not... I don't think there are perfect relationships. We have to decide when good enough is good enough and if it makes sense to chase for something better which maybe doesn't exist.

About the same age I also thought about building my own speakers. But I never did it. Now I just decided to buy some professional JBL speakers. I think that was a good decision. ????

That is obviously fine and your choice. What I find sometimes disturbing is that some smart and/or educated people think that no smart and educated person would go to bars. And no smart and educated person would play with bar girls. There are lots of smart, well educated, and rich guys who (regularly) go to bars. And many of them play with the girls. I didn't try to analyze scientifically why they do what they do. I guess part of it is that they just want to relax and have fun. Have a beer, (maybe) have a girl, listen to music, talk with the guys and relax. It seems especially the relax part is much easier in a bar than somewhere else.

Is your time and location setting correct? If you would use i.e. NY as location but you set your time to the correct time for Bangkok, then you will have problems, at least with some websites. Apart from that, don't install any new utils and apps to make the situation better. Delete any software which you don't need and likely things will be better.

What is your definition of "they cannot get a lady back in their own country"? I didn't want any fat woman with an attitude. In farang-land, at least where I came from, are very few slim young women who don't have an attitude problem. And then there are obviously about a hundred guys who are interested in that special women. At home I looked for a girl with <=50kg, I guess they were less than 10% of all females. When I arrived here the majority of girls had <50kg, and they were nice and didn't have feminist attitude problems. In the hindsight I am very happy that I didn't lower my standards back in farang land. Because if I would have done that then I am sure at some stage I would have realized that there are other countries with pretty girls without stupid western attitudes.

I don't think there is a corresponding temperature range. If there is little in a pot or pan then it will get very hot. If a pot is full then it won't get so hot. Just think about the power like: It's cold, add power and it's warm, add power and it's very warm, add power and it's hot, add power and it's very hot, ....

I understand your words. But... At least for me, "very intelligent" means MENSA IQ level like the following picture of that organization. Do you spot any "very attractive women"? I guess what you write about clothes and my limited view on what I find attractive is also true. Maybe it's just my personal taste.

Do they exist? I know some very intelligent women, and I know some very attractive women. But I don't think I know any very intelligent women who is also attractive. It seems to me that very intelligent women don't even try to be attractive. But to be fair I met so few very intelligent women that statistically it's not likely that they are also attractive.

From their homepage: "This website is managed by Siam Legal International - a law firm in Thailand" Just keep in mind that it is not a government website.

This is a book which is recommended by many people who are interested in music reproduction. After the first couple of pages readers realize that reproduction it's difficult. After some more reading they realize it is very difficult. If you are interested in the subject then I can highly recommend it. I learned some things reading the book. And mostly I learned that basically I know nothing and should better listen to the experts.

About all those applications and the charges from lawyers, accountants, agents: In my limited experience it is often a headache to know which documents are currently required. And even when we know which documents are required, then it might still be a problem to present them correctly. Not long ago I was in a Thai embassy to apply for a tourist visa. Before I applied, I looked at their website to see which documents then want. And I looked at their application form. Some things are not obvious. And with a business visa things are a lot more complicated. Most of us just want to get things done. If we can do them ourselves, fine. But if we have to go several times, get several times documents which we didn't know about or didn't understand, wait outside, wait inside, answer questions which seem to have no connection to our application, wait some more and hope all will be fine, ... then at some point we ask ourselves: Wouldn't it be smarter to pay someone money to do all that for us? Many of us pay, and maybe we pay "too much" to avoid headache and time wasted.

If she lives with you permanently then you should have a good idea what she is doing. Lots of Thai girls have no Thai bf and don't want one.

I guess what you write are the fees. If you apply for a Non-B or work permit that requires many many documents. I guess that is where the lawyers and accountant fees come from to prepare all these documents.

Here are some numbers which lawyers and accounting companies quoted recently: Non-B application: between 20k to 35k Work permit application: between 15k to 60k Work permit renewal: between 12k to 25k I won't name any companies.

Not at all. I know a couple of smart and well-educated women from work. I enjoy talking with them. The same way that I enjoy talking with smart guys. But I have to admit no smart women ever got me exited in the way that I had the desire to spend a night or more with her. They don't turn me on. Do you really want to discuss rocket science with her?

I prefer to enjoy the time with my girlfriend without "complicated" conversations. If I want to talk about science or investments or international politics, I have enough friends to talk about these topics. Maybe you call it shallow if I don't talk about these things with my girlfriend. I am happy like that, and she is happy like that. Win/win.

Did you see the ???? at the end of my message? Just smile, or don't smile, and ignore it. Obviously your one is different. "buying mutual funds from Bua Luang Securities" obviously sounds very sophisticated. I am sure you talk every day about investment opportunities and all those important things in life. Personally, I never missed those conversations.

No! 30 is definitely too old.

Let's say a girl started to work in a bar when she was 20. And maybe you talk to her when she is 25. Why don't you ask her what she did before she worked in a bar? Do these girls have nothing else to talk about? Or do they don't want to talk about their normal life with customers? IMHO some bar girls are interesting people, others are boring. Just like many other people.

I agree that often it is easy to identify who is who - or their background. But for many of us the question is also: what do we want? Do we want to be able to introduce our wife as the director of company xyz and the daughter of that important person? Do we want to play all the social games which "successful" people do? Personally I know I shouldn't bring my Thai gf, who has little education, and who I met in a bar, to a company meeting with the wives of other managers. But how often are those meetings? For me, seldom, and I go alone, no problem. But most of the rest of my time I stay with a girl who I am happy with - without all the social "you have to do this and that". Not everybody wants a "proper" wife.

Let me guess, you met her at a traditional massage place. ????

I always liked to have one girl just for me. I tried many, often for a night, before I found the right one, and then I stayed with her. And I am still together with her. I never married and likely I will never marry. Because I don't plan to have kids and I don't plan to travel with her to farang-land. IMHO if a girl is happy with a guy, then she will stay with him also if they are not married. If she insists to get married, then ask yourself: why? On the other hand, a good friend always preferred short time. Have fun and send her home. And then the next one. He didn't want a permanent girl - at least that was his attitude for many years. We are not all the same. Do what YOU want and ignore what others think you should do.

When I got quotations from my contractor, I made sure he separates work and material. And with the material I often asked exactly which material. Especially the work was more expensive than I expected. But to be fair, when the first team which the contractor hired made a wall not 100% straight, the contractor had it removed and built from scratch again from another team without asking for more money. Make sure you agree exactly on the work, payment conditions, and maybe what happens if the work is not does 100% to your satisfaction. It's not easy...

Was the club just opened last week and that was the first time anybody checked? Or was the place already open for a long time and somehow some authorities "forgot" to check the license? And do the authorities have to go to those places to check the licenses? Or could they just look into a computer somewhere to find out who has a license? What will happen to the authorities who are supposed to control is venues have licenses? Will anybody of them be disciplined and maybe fired and maybe prosecuted? TiT, as usual.

In my personal experience my "western bank" never asked why I sent money to my own account in Thailand. I think what some people forget is that also banks have to follow the laws. They have to make sure they are not involved in money laundering, terrorist financing, and other such things. So, banks make sure they ask and maybe block (initially) so that they can say: we followed those laws.