Hit it right on the head!!
What is never mentioned in these threads is the % of your outlay - - if you are spending 90% as some of these blokes do, then I could imagine you might feel deceived... funny thing is that most of these guys lost more money to a wife in their homeland, but Thai ladies... ooo-ha!
I have given a lot by most standards, but never enough that I couldn't walk away w/o regrets or personal consequences. Things change during 20+ years of marriage and I was never one to think they wouldn't. My wife is a nice lady and I would always want her to be well cared for... that has been a constant....