I like it quiet, and I do not like when people shout from inside room or outside room, from balcony to balcony, house to house, but it is Thai style, no matter what time is it. 

 

My gf speak loud on speaker in phone with her mom 7 in the morning! Do not help how many times I tell her to wait at least after 8 (respect for neighbour) or speak not so loud, she will forget the next day! 

 

Is it me, her or I just have to accept how it is ? How hard can it be? 

I sympathise with you.   As I continue to tell my wife and family of many years "empty vessels make most noise".    And even after all these years they still believe I am joking !!! 

 

Edited August 17, 20187 yr by Esso49

better  still in a  shop and one is speaking to another and youd  think he was  half a  block away

You don't understand Thainess,noise is a way of life,

although,maybe changing a little bit,just the other day,

a Thai had enough and shot dead his neighbour when he

would not turn down the volume.

regards worgeordie

Thai's are just naturally loud, there is no volume control on conversations. 

My family is quiet when speaking to each other up close...

But loud on speakerphone + if not in the immediate room they shout to find out where to find each other.....

I've made an attempt to have them go seek out the person they want/need as I was taught that was the proper way.....

 

Although, I do recall my own Mom calling for me from another room.....Instead of going to her I said "WHAT?"......Next thing I knew she was right there with her hands on her hips = "DON'T you WHAT me"......

Didn't know she could move so fast......

On 8/16/2018 at 8:56 PM, jimmyyy said:

Thai's are just naturally loud, there is no volume control on conversations. 

thats why I love em I am harf deaf

4 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

thats why I love em I am harf deaf

So I guess the deaf assosiation then recomend you to go to Thailand. As an good option for living? 

 

Same goes for being bipolar, its normal here, and then suddenly you are living in a society which is better formed for you, and do not feel unormal. 

Edited August 18, 20187 yr by Hummin

39 minutes ago, Hummin said:

So I guess the deaf assosiation then recomend you to go to Thailand. As an good option for living? 

 

Same goes for being bipolar, its normal here, and then suddenly you are living in a society which is better formed for you, and do not feel unormal. 

Yes, Thailand, with all of its blatant flaws, seems the best match for my personality which would be deemed in long ago times to be eccentric. Plus I dont need hearing aids.

 

 

3 minutes ago, Nyezhov said:

Yes, Thailand, with all of its blatant flaws, seems the best match for my personality which would be deemed in long ago times to be eccentric. Plus I dont need hearing aids.

 

 

Everyone who live in Thailand, is eccentric and have the uppertunity to play it all out! 

I have the same problem,my wife does not talk,she shouts.

GF is not loud with me, sometimes with others, never uses the speaker phone and dislikes loud music, mine must be different ?

 

Whilst I never understand this speaker phone thing, I am happy here, as the volume of life is not regulated buy b.s. laws, as in most European or other Western countries. I see it as a kind of freedom and enjoy this freedom, together with the locals.

Is it me, her or I just have to accept how it is ? How hard can it be? 

 

No she stupid and so are you sorry to say for putting up with it. Grow a pair and put your foot down. If she likes you she will respect you and be quite if she does not then she will continue as she is. Then it's time to show her the door.

Thank goodness stereotyping thais for something that occurs all around the world doesnt happen on here.

I have to say.....the loud exausts are becoming a hugh problem for me (and the "full beam" headlamps on motorbikes and cars after dark).

I don't have noisy neighbours at my condo, thanks the Lord. But I have in the past. But I never knew anyone louder than my impressive collection of 70s and 80s (mostly British) heavy metal music. 

Thankfully, my wife knows how to modulate herself but a lot of the time, she's in the other extreme - I'm in my office with a big fan on behind me and she talks to me from the living room in a normal voice.  I can hear that she's talking but can't understand a word of it.   After a minute she'll raise her voice and ask, "Did you hear me?".  LOL.

 

Two Thai female neighbors - one to my left and the one across the street from her -  will carry on a 10-minute conversation with each other from their respective houses, yelling back and forth across the street.  The neighbor to my left has one of those highly annoying, shrill, nasal voices; it goes right through me like a hot knife on butter. ?

i dont want to get in to details or ill be abused but its linked to iq.

annoys me sensless also. people just yell at moving cars, dogs, invisable objects and such. Insanity!!

I find that Thais speak very quietly with each other when in a small group or at

work.  Teens with motorcycles are a very different matter as are loudspeakers in a store advertising something - boy, oh boy !  

But noisy bikes are not fined and advertisers are not told to cool it. So ?  what do you expect ?   

On 8/17/2018 at 7:50 AM, kannot said:

better  still in a  shop and one is speaking to another and youd  think he was  half a  block away

They are so quite, compared to Burmese, if you hear them jabber you would not be complaining

Not just the Thai's although I agree with the OP, my neighbour is a bloody Johnny foreigner from somewhere in the EU, I can here every word he and his Mrs say to each other, they don't talk they shout and that is a normal conversation, I have pulled him up about it but it made no difference, and as I type the 2 women across the street are talking, they are about 50 meters away and I have Radio 2 on and I can still here every word, ridiculous.

On 8/18/2018 at 10:48 AM, Hummin said:

So I guess the deaf assosiation then recomend you to go to Thailand. As an good option for living? 

 

Same goes for being bipolar, its normal here, and then suddenly you are living in a society which is better formed for you, and do not feel unormal. 

Yes. In my family they also yell from house to house and sometimes cannot remember to adjust the volume when they are standing next to you... and yes, it seems to be normal or at least not unusual for country people.. you are not likely to be able to change it.

 

but, it sounds like that is not the only thing getting under your skin... if you are going to accuse the entire population of being bi-polar, I think you are off base and looking to hate on Thai people, which is not a good plan if you hope to enjoy your life here... 

 

Just remember, criticism kills love - - and if you keep picking at your wife, it will understandably get under her skin... maybe try and be a bit more patient, understanding and you will get along better... I would guess some of your habits might get on her nerves too... 

TIT.....

4 hours ago, dotpoom said:

I have to say.....the loud exausts are becoming a hugh problem for me (and the "full beam" headlamps on motorbikes and cars after dark).

You forgot "and going the wrong way against traffic flow"

On 8/17/2018 at 7:45 AM, Esso49 said:

I sympathise with you.   As I continue to tell my wife and family of many years "empty vessels make most noise".    And even after all these years they still believe I am joking !!! 

 

Actually I think it's " the empty can rattles the most" just saying. 

4 hours ago, soistalker said:

I don't have noisy neighbours at my condo, thanks the Lord. But I have in the past. But I never knew anyone louder than my impressive collection of 70s and 80s (mostly British) heavy metal music. 

Heavy metal music???? Music??

My family and most of my neighbours are very quiet. My neighbor behind us though drives us crazy with an awfully loud witch voice and cackle. The police have been called a few times

2 hours ago, fullcave said:

Actually I think it's " the empty can rattles the most" just saying. 

But not if it is the "Can Can"

I've nicknamed 2 of our neighbours BG1 & BG2.

BG2 holds conversations with a neighbour 50m away in a grating high pitched voice, moooost annoying. BG1 does not speak he shouts, I'm convinced he's deaf from his unsilenced fishing boat engine.

Another complained at my wife for putting food (fish) residue in the roadside bin as it smelt. These people have fishing boats and regularly dump tons of fish on their front porch for sorting and selling - the irony is lost on them though......

The most annoying aspect is that they all sit on the apartment steps below us smoking and shouting (talking) with no regard for anyone else.

 

Thankfully this is only a temporary accommodation we are at and will soon be moving to our own land, can't wait to see the back of them!

Yep my Wife is a typical Thai....

 

I always hear her before i see her

 

 

 

 

Have a Nice Day

Edited August 19, 20187 yr by firefox999uk