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26 minutes ago, rvaviator said:

you can forgive her if she stays in america only. She will cheat on you again if she stays in thailand.

funny very funny because in america she will not make herself available to man.... a cheater always be a cheater

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Why do I always read these long drawn out stories and think bullsh#t. Just one a couple of days ago same sh#t. I call B.S on this one. 30 people booked on flights . How stupid does he think we are?

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11 minutes ago, BTB1977 said:

Why do I always read these long drawn out stories and think bullsh#t. Just one a couple of days ago same sh#t. I call B.S on this one. 30 people booked on flights . How stupid does he think we are?

A friend of mine had a Wedding last year in Phuket - 20+ of his friends went so it is certainly doable. A few things do not make sense I will say but the truth being is we cannot know. 

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Anyone talking about having children needs to look at the global environment and the future due to the irresponsible attitude of the US Leadership. What future is there for children?

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2 hours ago, BTB1977 said:

Why do I always read these long drawn out stories and think bullsh#t. Just one a couple of days ago same sh#t. I call B.S on this one. 30 people booked on flights . How stupid does he think we are?

Sorry to say but what kind of a looser do you have to be to consider 30 guests at your wedding as a lot?

 

average wedding is 100 -200 people where half are close and distant relatives alone.

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OP was playing by chivalrous American rules while his Thai girlfriend was playing by ty rules.  OP big mistake was he did not research his Quarry properly. 

He is stuck in current Western American man feminist controlled thinking instead of thinking like a 1960s man which Thailand still allows a man to do.  

 

There are many of you who think love is the last word.  and while I thought this was true when I was in my young 20s and we both had nothing and we're equals financially and educationally I do not think one should rely on only love when there is such a financial difference.  When a man has so much more financially to lose and there later in life I think relationships need to be based on a more economical  cost beneficial analysis then just blind love.  I think a man can easily fall in love with many women in fact I may be in love with two women at the same time right now.  Do I think I found the right one? I am evaluating the cost-benefit analysis and not in any hurry to make a decision and I may have to research more applicants. 

 

I keep thinking for spending $150,000 in courtship in  four years the OP could have caught some hot 44 year old  American <deleted>  is M I L F a ,4 letter word? who potentially has equal wealth to himself.  Granted not the young child giver. But if a man doesn't think about children until he is 45 then thinks a long distance relationship will turn into this wonderful family he has miscalculated.   

However I think OP can have kuds before 55 and it's not terrible.   

Who ever implied he will be half dead and 1 foot   in the grave at 75?  Just think how much better a father a man can be at 65 than 25. 

 

 

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My first question is why a 26 years old girl will fall in love with a 48 years old man? Is the man an artist, actor, writer, athletes, speakers, what is the attraction for the girl to marry a 48 years old man? 

If she has an engineering and advanced degree from the US, she can get a green card by her own. 

The mistake OP made is to spend 150K USD on his datings. May be he is big spender so he should not bring up the same again and again. 

This a becoming almost a no win situation for the OP. Man are more emotional than women. They have lost kingdoms for women's feeling, touch and warmth. Man never wins they can only be happy.

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You should have found out by now, generally speaking Thai girls aged 26 cheat.  You might have found out by now that this one is xceptionally stupid, cheating at this time. Get out of it quick. You don't want  stupid mother of your children. When I was 56 I got a Thai girlfriend of 28. After two years she wanted my children. You are still young enough to have a good life with a Thai beauty but make sure she is not stupid. Quite a bit older than 26 would be better. Mid thirties and there's a good chance she will still be beautiful for another ten years or more, as a bonus, and more likely not to cheat on you.

 

 

 

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So a woman with an engineering degree can get a work permit in USA?   Maybe,  but it depends on if she has a  good career and a company wanting to get her a work visa.  Does this gal even work at a job besides gold digger? I'm sure she is a wonderful woman and actress as well.  We all must admit the poor  (Thailand ignorant) OP had no chance with a sexy, intelligent English speaking, Asian beauty who has access to social media  for gold digger tips and past exposure to USA.  

 

I do want to ask why so many people doubt that a 26 yr old Asian woman  can love a 48 yr old successful, nice man?  

Have you guys been to Thailand much?  Are you all over 75?  

How many 35-45 yr old Thai women had 45 yr old husbands dump them  and kids  to be with an admiring 18-20 year old?  How many Thai women's Father's are  20 years older than mother?    I think Thai women see part of love in maturity,  and financial support.  An older man is more caring at least in my case okus is like a lottery winning ticket with benefits to these Thai women.  Most Thai women I have met were not interested in moving to USA.  An average American nice guy in many cases cooks and cleans and does laundry and doesn't drink  or gamble's himself to death.  Even if a man strays some its nothing compared to a Thai man's butterfly ways. I'm  not Thai man bashing but I have not heard  about many   great Thai husbands.  Have you? 

 

PS.  At the urging of a Thai woman I recently inquired about my 85 year old father's sexual life. 

After he l laughed and told me his girlfriend heard that   question on speaker phone.  His  reply. "well we are parked and just started about to go into a   furneral service for a friend but  right after this  I plan to go home and take care of that business."   He did admit he uses a pill.  So 48-85 means a 26 yr old can be serviced until early 60's.   So stay healthy my friends.  Dad walk golfs 2-3 days a week.  And his 90 yr old GF still gets a kick too.

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As the girls say "up to you" but here is my two cents. I understand Thai girls not being faithful. Plenty have had promises made by foreign men concerning marriage and are then left at the altar. But you were actually married. Paid sinsod, and for some reason committed to sending her parents a considerable monthly stipend. She is the one who should be sending that out of her earned money. All that said.

1/ You can get your Scotch back. Just tell her you will sue her lover for having sex with her and herself for abandonment. You will settle for the Scotch.

2/ If you really must get married make sure you have an ironclad prenup. Now I know you are already married but it can be signed at any time. If she does not sign, don't proceed with the green card and immigration. Put your house in your parent's name or a sibling. In short, protect yourself.

3/ If kids are the priority, leave her in Thailand and knock her up here. Bringing her to the US is opening yourself up to a world of pain. 

 

I know that your decision is difficult only because the heart wants what the heart wants. Your brain tells you that you should get divorced in Thailand. Simple and quick.                                                           BTW. I am 60, never married and no kids. No problem for me. I can be totally self-indulgent.

Posted
21 hours ago, HighPriority said:

Yep @ 48 he can pork her all night long but fast forward 10 years and he is struggling a bit... ????????

Why?

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22 hours ago, watgate said:

Lastly. as another poster stated, there are many woman in Thailand who would kill to be with a man of your credentials

 the wording of that sentence might have a little more truth to it than you intended

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Ditch the bitch full stop.. 

You will never forget what she has done and if you get married she will treat you badly knowing you are weak.. Taking her back to the US is a masdive mistake. It will be reversed rolls she will be in the sweet shop and will do it again.. 

 

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there's 50 ways to leave your lover..............just pick one of them

 

Maybe good start for another POST .    Asking which way TV members would choose

 

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23 hours ago, phutoie2 said:

hmm, 23 years between myself and wife and together 15 yrs now, it is indeed a mystery.

Yours:

worried of Phu Toei.

20 years between me and my wife we live in the uk and never given her or her family a penny  she has given me about £20.000 and the house in my name but then again in thai talk she a Bhat millionaire many times over and her family wealthy why do these guys marry bar girls with nothing and give them all their money they work a life time for  love NO stupidity yes we still together 15 years and i look at some people and think cant you see right through it poor guy 46 she 26 ok  you can be 66 and her 46 that has good chance to work

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It's ok. I have been on this forum for years and it's always the same nonsense. Guys in financial arrangements thinking it can't be any other way in Thailand. Guys in financial arrangements claiming your wife must be ugly if you're not paying for it.
 
All this nonsense while you can see western 60 year old invalids "dating" 20 year olds just because they pay them. It'd old. It's boring and in Thailand anyone can do it with 1000b to their name - even just for a day.
 
And why are you so interested how my wife looks like and why 1000b for a pic? Is that your daily rate?
 
 
 


And trolls trolling because it makes them feel better. Same old thing.

The question you need to ask yourself Jean-Picard is what do you feel bad about? Why do you need to lash out at others to make yourself feel better? Clearly, you are the troll here, right?

You are looking for someone to humiliate about their Thai relationship and finances; I am guessing that is what is bothering you in your own life?

If not, what is it that bothers you?

As for Thai women, non-Thai women, love and money, I have many thoughts, and have tried it many different ways. But that is not the topic of this forum - this forum is marriage and divorce, not love and money!

And who wants to share with a troll, anyway?


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Posted
12 hours ago, theguyfromanotherforum said:

 

It's ok. I have been on this forum for years and it's always the same nonsense. Guys in financial arrangements thinking it can't be any other way in Thailand. Guys in financial arrangements claiming your wife must be ugly if you're not paying for it.

 

All this nonsense while you can see western 60 year old invalids "dating" 20 year olds just because they pay them. It'd old. It's boring and in Thailand anyone can do it with 1000b to their name - even just for a day.

 

And why are you so interested how my wife looks like and why 1000b for a pic? Is that your daily rate?

I think they are being unfair to you.  How would you know what your wife looks like after all you live in a different country than she does.  How would you know what she looks like?

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1 minute ago, marcusarelus said:

I think they are being unfair to you.  How would you know what your wife looks like after all you live in a different country than she does.  How would you know what she looks like?

 

Umm.... I've been back in Thailand for over a month bud.... enjoying a care free life in my wife's house. She's fine thank you ????

 

As for the poster above insinuating that paid arrangements somehow bother me, well it's just another back-paddling reply as I simply pointed out that age difference does make a difference even in Thailand proof being that he is having sex with a much younger woman for a financial exchange. @SuperTed disagreed with my opinion that age difference makes no difference here. I am just proving him wrong as he thinks that he beat the biology somehow by being in Thailand.

 

And sure this is relevant to the topic as the OP has been burned to high heavens for being in exact same situation. The difference being that @SuperTed  actually lives in Thailand and can pay a close attention, while the OP didn't have that luxury sort of speak.

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