Help with a new budding relationship between a Thai.

[UnsureABC]

Background about me:

Early 20’s American born Chinese, college educated, self employed making 6 figures with a very flexible schedule. I modeled when I was younger. I stay fit with the gym 6 days a week. I get propositioned by guys of all ethnicities both online and in person quite often. Emotionally healthy and mature seeing a therapist once a week just to talk out my feelings and understand myself. 

 

About him:

21 year old Thai national, in college, travels a lot, goes out constantly till 3-5am. Can read and write English ok skills, but bad English skills. He knows 4 languages, he can read, write and speak Thai, Mandarin Chinese, English and some other Asian language. Very bright but some emotional instability likely from his age. Both his parents are working professionals and he is an only child. 

 

About the situation:

I visited Asia for the first time for a month, I spent two weeks in Bangkok and I met a beautiful young Thai guy who is 21 years old. I’m completely smitten and fallen for him. I’m not sure about him as I’ve tried figuring him out. He says out of all the guys he has met that he has liked me the most and has never felt the same for another guy. He mentioned he loved that I looked ‘asian’ on the outside but was ‘western’ on the inside. We spent three days together straight, he slept over my hotel for two nights. I felt super comfortable. He introduced me to all his friends. Has been very kind to me even though I’ve done some messed up things to test him and said about him. I still have some suspicions on his intentions. Maybe he really is truly a gem. We talk and text all the time. Some bullet points.

 

- he talks to ALOT of guys, like hundreds of messages I’ve seen when I glanced at his phone while he was txting then 

- travels a lot within Asia

- has two very expensive phones, like 2k usd phones. Nicer than my phone hilariously. 

- goes out a lot, has lot of expensive jewelry, expensive tastes, nicer beauty products than me.

 

What I told / asked him about the situation: 

I asked him if he was an escort or money boy. I told him I would have absolutely no problem if he was, as long as he was honest and upfront with me, I would respect him the same. If he wanted to move further with a relationship I told him I was very uncomfortable with him talking to so many guys if he was looking to date them. I told him if they were just clients / sugar daddies, I wouldn’t care and have no problem with it as long as he communicated to me. I plan on visiting Thailand again twice this year. Likely month or two month visits. I even thought about taking thai classes if I’m serious about this. 

I speak Chinese already. 

 

Messed up things I’ve done:

I was shit talking about him and “Thai people” to my sister and his intentions and trying to work him out. We were out while I was doing this, he caught wind and asked to read my phone. I decided that if I wanted something real, I shouldn’t keep any secrets. I let him read my phone and all the messages. I felt like a completely donkys behind. I couldn’t believe myself as he was nothing but kind to me and I was just ... on our way back home, into the shower, and bed together I cried for about 3 hours mixture of being tipsy and very emotional. My parents were immigrants to the United States with just the clothes on their back and a suitcase and probably got shit like that all the time from people and I couldn’t believe I subjected him to the same treatment. It really hit home and I couldn’t stop crying when I realized what I did. I profusely apologized and told him how ashamed I was of myself. He was very calm, took my apology, told me he forgived me and to give him a chance. 

 

Some questions that float in my mind:

 

Why would this boy be so gong ho and interested in me after everything I’ve done? 

What are some things I should be mindful of? 

What are his intentions? 

Should I run for the hills?

Questions I should be asking him? 

 

I just don’t know what to think or do. I wanted to ask your opinions and thoughts about my situation. 

 

Thank you in advance for any helpful, insightful or critical comments, questions or concerns. 

[observer90210]

 

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Nothing harsh or offensive here, but after closely reading I also abide with my fellow poster just above and think it's an emerging affair between him and he.????.

 

And for any comments or suggestions who are we to say anything else but the usual advice given to either boy or girl or LadyBoy or whoever.....have fun, be happy but don't forget your family size Durex Condom six-pack at home.

[UnsureABC]

2 hours ago, observer90210 said:

 

 

Nothing harsh or offensive here, but after closely reading I also abide with my fellow poster just above and think it's an emerging affair between him and he.????.

 

And for any comments or suggestions who are we to say anything else but the usual advice given to either boy or girl or LadyBoy or whoever.....have fun, be happy but don't forget your family size Durex Condom six-pack at home.

Spot on the money. I am a man. 

[quandow]

Just be yourself. Date, don't do anything permanent, you're both too young for that. Practice safe sex.

[shy coconut]

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I thought the OP was a guy.

 

Anyway, it does seem like the Thai guy is in high demand from many suitors.

The story doesn't sound too different from those of guys falling for certain types

of Thai ladies. I'm not knocking it, I've been bitten by the same bug myself.

 

Cool, I've managed to somehow do that annoying double quote reply thing.

I feel this is a significant moment in my Thai visa membership!!

D

[UnsureABC]

27 minutes ago, NCC1701A said:

I have five Thai girlfriends and you can't believe the problems I have.

 

Just the other day they all wanted to come to the house at the same time. 

 

Fortunately they all have the same color and length of hair and I call them all honey so that make things easier.   

 

And I am in love with a Thai girl who I met on Badoo and was dating and then I find out she is married to a Farang who is 71 years old and she is 29. He totally loves her and throws new pick up trucks at her family so she will not leave him. Now the only time I see her is when I run into them in the mall when she is taking him to the bank. 

 

do you have any tips on a diet to produce more ejaculant?

Thank you for the insightful comment. I appreciate it.

Edited April 9, 2019 by UnsureABC

[UnsureABC]

7 minutes ago, shy coconut said:

 

I thought the OP was a guy.

 

Anyway, it does seem like the Thai guy is in high demand from many suitors.

The story doesn't sound too different from those of guys falling for certain types

of Thai ladies. I'm not knocking it, I've been bitten by the same bug myself.

 

I am a guy. 

 

What are the certain types? 

 

Mind sharing some insight what happened? I don’t mind PM if you feel more comfortable that way. 

[UnsureABC]

55 minutes ago, quandow said:

Just be yourself. Date, don't do anything permanent, you're both too young for that. Practice safe sex.

I would 100% same advice I would follow

back home. 

 

The guy is telling me he will wait for me, etc, he’s in love with me. Deleted some of his apps. It was extremely flattering, I don’t know if he’s just trying to hook me or play the long game. 

 

In the ideal world, if his feelings are true. I would spend a few more months in Thailand to see how things went and would even consider moving to Bangkok after a year or two of knowing this guy. 

 

Just never felt this way for another guy before. It’s super crazy. 

Edited April 9, 2019 by UnsureABC

[scorecard]

Sounds like you need more sessions with your therapist and need to do a lot of growing up.  

 

Would you really be OK if he is a hooper? 

 

Why do you regularly see a therapist? Is it because other people do it? Or is it because it gives you a chance to talk about yourself / focus on yourself, I, I, and I, as an excuse to avoid we and us and being a responsible sharing member of society?

 

Sounds like your 'friend' is a social media overuser and thinks it's so cool to have hundreds of fb etc., followers and still a late night venue to venue teenager, he's not ready at all for an adult relationship?

 

By the way are you in love with the idea of being in love - having a bf, or really in love with the young man? There is a difference.

 

Don't fall in love with any man (or girl) because he's handsome (beautiful) and popular, totally wrong criteria and this often happens with immature people and with a less than nice result.

Edited April 9, 2019 by scorecard

[UnsureABC]

58 minutes ago, scorecard said:

Sounds like you need more sessions with your therapist and need to do a lot of growing up.  

 

Would you really be OK if he is a hooper? 

 

Why do you regularly see a therapist? Is it because other people do it? Or is it because it gives you a chance to talk about yourself / focus on yourself, I, I, and I, as an excuse to avoid we and us and being a responsible sharing member of society?

 

Sounds like your 'friend' is a social media overuser and thinks it's so cool to have hundreds of fb etc., followers and still a late night venue to venue teenager, he's not ready at all for an adult relationship?

 

By the way are you in love with the idea of being in love - having a bf, or really in love with the young man? There is a difference.

 

Don't fall in love with any man (or girl) because he's handsome (beautiful) and popular, totally wrong criteria and this often happens with immature people and with a less than nice result.

Probably. 

 

I used to be a high end ‘escort’ and paid for my 200k bs college education and living. So 100% sure I’m cool with it. 

 

Therapist: Used to have lots of problems, still working through a few deep rooted issues. 

 

No idea, he’s 21, let him have his fun. 

 

His looks aren’t the only thing attracting me to him. Just the chemistry and the passion was unreal. I’ve been with plenty of guys and only experienced this kind of connection with one other guy. 

Asides from that, he is probably the sweetest and most affectionate guy I’ve ever met. 

 

I’ve definitely fallen for him. 

 

No i don’t think that’s the case, I’m a good judge of character for the most part. I’m used to dealing with pricks on a regulars basis. 

Edited April 9, 2019 by UnsureABC

[473geo]

2 hours ago, UnsureABC said:

I don’t know if he’s just trying to hook me or play the long game.

As soon as I see this oft repeated cliche, my understanding is, the seeds of doubt sown by others are already starting to grow

 

Whatever happened to taking things at face value until there was valid evidence not to do so, and if things do not work out put it down to experience and move on. Yes it is living a little dangerously but those who are too constricted by fear of failure are often only successful at not failing, even then possibly only moderate success

 

Live a little for today - enjoy

[steven100]

Why would this boy be so gong ho and interested in me after everything I’ve done? 

Probably likes you alot.

What are some things I should be mindful of? 

Just go with the flow and see how it develops.

What are his intentions? 

who knows.

Should I run for the hills?

How steep are the hills.

Questions I should be asking him?

Can you lend me 5 bucks.

[orchis]

you seem to be looking for validation but only you can answer these questions since you and not this forum are in possession of the information, the feelings, the doubts.

Edited April 10, 2019 by orchis
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[toofarnorth]

On 4/10/2019 at 2:44 AM, NCC1701A said:

I have five Thai girlfriends and you can't believe the problems I have.

 

Just the other day they all wanted to come to the house at the same time. 

 

Fortunately they all have the same color and length of hair and I call them all honey so that make things easier.   

 

And I am in love with a Thai girl who I met on Badoo and was dating and then I find out she is married to a Farang who is 71 years old and she is 29. He totally loves her and throws new pick up trucks at her family so she will not leave him. Now the only time I see her is when I run into them in the mall when she is taking him to the bank. 

 

do you have any tips on a diet to produce more ejaculant?

Its ok Captain Kirk , May will be here soon and the other May may well turn up.

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