4 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

thats the problem of the world today, A down and out western male is the absolute bottom of the barrel.

 

Hey buddy, wake up! You could be sorting garbage on a dump in Calcutta just to survive. Believe me, there are plenty of worse circumstances than yours. Bet you never had to sell yourself just to get enough to eat. So, cry me a river.

1 minute ago, BestB said:

Bud, be thankful you have a mother and a father. I lost my entire family at the age of 36, not a single relative alive and I buried them all.

 

Understand she may not care but at least you can put her name as a point of contact in case of emergency , I can not even do that, and I am single , never married , no kids and only early 40’s

 

You see now what I mean, never think you the only one as one next to you could be in far worse situation.

 

As I said , give meaning to your life, you have only 1 life, live it. Life is a mix, sometimes you get shit and sometimes you get chocolates.

 

When I lost my entire family i also started drinking heavily as I no longer cared but getting dogs saved me.

 

i could not go drink because I had to be up early morning to take them

out for a walk and feed them. My life had a meaning again , it was worth something and someone depended on me. 

 

Chin up bud, can not get any worse, can only get better and cut back on drinking , it is not healthy and does not make any problems go away . In the morning same problems remain and you have less money . ????

What an eye opening post that puts a perspective on real issues, rather than self pity which appears the OP has. Thank you for that and maybe , just maybe the OP will appreciate that also as he is over 30 years old and his problems are his problems of his own making and he should appreciate that his parents are alive rather than looking to his dearest and nearest to blame.

23 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

i just came from cambodia. i have some local friends there, I get along very well with khmers, They actually told me that about how white people dont stick together and very much understood that i was all alone in the world with no help.

 

A good example is my mother and father being uninterested in my travels , They are just worried about there own pockets,

 

my mother never once asked me "Why are you over there?" or "What are you doing over there ?" She just cares about her work, her properties, her money and her assets.

 

she can be quite two-faced, snobby and evil.

 

well then at least you may have a nice inheritance to look forward to.

4 minutes ago, holy cow cm said:

well then at least you may have a nice inheritance to look forward to.

He may have to wait at least another 30 years for that if his mother is in her 50's. No guarantee of getting it then either if he falls out of favour. Never counted on getting a penny from my folks, good thing as well, otherwise I would have been very disappointed.

Just now, holy cow cm said:

well then at least you may have a nice inheritance to look forward to.

Nah , I doubt that, my grandfather died a few years back, my older brother recieved it all, I didnt get a penny, She didnt even tell me about it.

2 minutes ago, giddyup said:

He may have to wait at least another 30 years for that if his mother is in her 50's. No guarantee of getting it then either if he falls out of favour. Never counted on getting a penny from my folks, good thing as well, otherwise I would have been very disappointed.

His Dad is still in the game as well and that may be his key. Sounds as if the mum relationship is off a bit. But people as they get old can either get better and more kind, or worse in attitude. I didn't make my way on waiting for an inheritance either. Blood - sweat and perseverance. But I wasn't disappointed either, even though did not want it.

Just now, holy cow cm said:

His Dad is still in the game as well and that may be his key. Sounds as if the mum relationship is off a bit. But people as they get old can either get better and more kind, or worse in attitude. I didn't make my way on waiting for an inheritance either. Blood - sweat and perseverance. But I wasn't disappointed either, even though did not want it.

I wouldnt want it from either, I would prefer they showed an interest in my life , which they do not, They only care about money.

A personal attack and replies have been removed also an off topic post

7 hours ago, PatOngo said:

Life's a bitch, then you die!

I think it's:

 

"Life's a bitch, and then you marry one, and then you die"

6 minutes ago, AlexRich said:

I think it's:

 

"Life's a bitch, and then you marry one, and then you die"

what !! only marry one ????

11 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

I would prefer they showed an interest in my life , which they do not, They only care about money.

Please start to show interest in your own life. I mean you in your life.

Sounds like you aren't a good candidate for going to Thailand. You should have sorted out your life first. This is not a good place for you.

I had a very bad hand in life with illness. Still, it is up to you to do something about it.

 

Go home, stop drinking and go get a GP referral for 10 free sessions with a social worker and be truthful about your problems. You need to work on yourself. If your an alcoholic, go on a program. Thailand for an alcoholic is just bad news. Start a sport. Be responsible. Get a purpose in life. Hell, I have relatives that have nothing living in India doing Christian work for free but they have a purpose in life that keeps them happy. I have my wife, nothing else much but that is all I need as it gives me purpose. 

 

Talking about your family and how you got nothing is not going to make anything better until you decide to do something about it. Your the Captain, take control. 

 

Find your purpose and don't stop looking till you have and it might take you a lifetime.

Stop drinking alcohol.

 

Get Counseling.

 

Appreciate & love your parents.

 

They are people in their own right; imperfect, flawed, & the only Mum & Dad you'll ever have.

 

Do not waste your life - we all have, or have had, difficult times.

 

Good luck.

A lot of your type have made the move to Vietnam.  Enjoy.

Self pity and moaning achieves nothing.

You know what your problems are, so, start fixing them one by one.

For you, these problems are real and you have to live with them.

For anonymous posters on a forum, you're entertainment that will be eventually forgotten about.

 

As other people have already pointed out, there are plenty of people worse off than yourself.

Only you can fix this, so, make a start. Life is short.

 

Birth, school, life,  death.

The very last thing the OP needs is a GF - especially one spawned in the alcoholic-ly fueled co-dependency bar scene/lonely hearts club drinking people.....Train wreck written all over it.....

What a calamity....

Misery begets company. You have come to the right forum.

5 minutes ago, pgrahmm said:

The very last thing the OP needs is a GF - especially one spawned in the alcoholic-ly fueled co-dependency bar scene/lonely hearts club drinking people.....Train wreck written all over it.....

What a calamity....

He might not need a Girlfriend but he needs a girl sometimes. P4P in Thailand is ideal for him.

I struggle with confidence, Right nit i could not even get a P4P my self esteem is too low.

 

8 hours ago, Skallywag said:

Ah the ultimate Catch 22. 

No job, no money and of course a suggestion to go seek professional help at $160 an hour.  A worthy yet monetarily unattainable solution.

 

OP has an internet connection, maybe read about Buddhism online.

Noble truth 1: Life is filled with suffering

 

Join the club

 

 

 

OP, please do not "join the club"! Never spend $ 160/hour to talk to somebody, because nobody else is listening to you. 

 

It's not as "normal" for some other nationalities. 

 

It's frightening to me that so many people do seek medical attention regarding a mental issue.

 

The first part is natural and a difficult one. See it from a positive side, you've got nothing to lose, right?

 

  Stop drinking alcohol, start doing some sport, and talk to other people who might have an answer to so many questions you might have. 

 

   Get in shape and do something educational. That could be anything, from reading good books, watching documentaries, teaching English or online jobs.

 

   Once you're sober and clean, you'll see that there's another part of life, something you gave up when you started drinking.

My dad passed when he's only 50. Diabetes and alcoholism are just too much.

 

 

If you're a heavy drinker, please see it as it is. One day, you'll have a fatty liver, then liver cirrhosis and later death.

 

Not an excellent way to go! Get well soon and I truly hope that you'll start to talk to some guys and you might have all help you needed.

 

   Best of luck! 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

 

  

 

  

 

49 minutes ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

I struggle with confidence, Right nit i could not even get a P4P my self esteem is too low.

 

Bud, if you genuine and not trolling, send me PM , will catch up. At least you will have a buddy who understands you.

 

But if you trolling, then will have to knock you out ????

9 minutes ago, Isaanbiker said:

 

 

OP, please do not "join the club"! Never spend $ 160/hour to talk to somebody, because nobody else is listening to you. 

 

It's not as "normal" for some other nationalities. 

 

It's frightening to me that so many people do seek medical attention regarding a mental issue.

 

The first part is natural and a difficult one. See it from a positive side, you've got nothing to lose, right?

 

  Stop drinking alcohol, start doing some sport, and talk to other people who might have an answer to so many questions you might have. 

 

   Get in shape and do something educational. That could be anything, from reading good books, watching documentaries, teaching English or online jobs.

 

   Once you're sober and clean, you'll see that there's another part of life, something you gave up when you started drinking.

My dad passed when he's only 50. Diabetes and alcoholism are just too much.

 

 

If you're a heavy drinker, please see it as it is. One day, you'll have a fatty liver, then liver cirrhosis and later death.

 

Not an excellent way to go! Get well soon and I truly hope that you'll start to talk to some guys and you might have all help you needed.

 

   Best of luck! 

  

 

Therapy is NOT a bad thing, it can and does help many people to understand themselves and why the feel certain things.

 

Saying therapy is bad just shows how little you know and understand, 

 

If guy is genuine, he has huge set of balls to come onto public forum and say what he said, despite what he thinks of himself or how his parents made him feel, saying out loud is worth something.

 

Some have taken cheap shots at him, some gave him tough  love advice, but in the end he needs to understand himself before he can make any changes in his life

 

Despite what some of you may thing, parent influence plays a massive role in child's life. If parents never encourage the kid, kid will have very low self esteem and most likely fail in everything he does, because no one ever believed in him, so he no longer believes in himself.

 

Its like the saying, shit attracts shit, but in no way does it mean he is one, just how he thinks of himself.

 

Anyhow, as i posted earlier, if he is genuine and wants help, i will be happy to hang out and help but if a troll, well then at least some have had a good laugh 

11 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

<deleted>  I'm 33 soon, Can't hold a job, am a bad alcholic, am bad with money have numerous untreated  medical conditions and cant make clear decisions for the life of me ... Already at early thirtys im starting to turn sour, I cannot find a GF in the western world because of social anxiety and i cannot afford Thailand  or asian either where i am much happier.

 

life just sucks sometimes, Why does it have to be so tough, Why are some born millionaires and some born to shovel shit day in day out and suffer through it.

 

I'm not happy at all, never was , I hate life. 

 

Look on the bright side...you have more 'likes' than posts.

11 hours ago, Pattayabeerbacon said:

life just sucks sometimes, Why does it have to be so tough, Why are some born millionaires and some born to shovel shit day in day out and suffer through it.

Look on the bright side, some people are not fit to shovel shit.

 

Join the Hash House Harriers, every time you f* k up , they pour beer down your throat ... ????????????

37 minutes ago, BestB said:

Therapy is NOT a bad thing, it can and does help many people to understand themselves and why the feel certain things.

 

Saying therapy is bad just shows how little you know and understand, 

 

If guy is genuine, he has huge set of balls to come onto public forum and say what he said, despite what he thinks of himself or how his parents made him feel, saying out loud is worth something.

 

Some have taken cheap shots at him, some gave him tough  love advice, but in the end he needs to understand himself before he can make any changes in his life

 

Despite what some of you may thing, parent influence plays a massive role in child's life. If parents never encourage the kid, kid will have very low self esteem and most likely fail in everything he does, because no one ever believed in him, so he no longer believes in himself.

 

Its like the saying, shit attracts shit, but in no way does it mean he is one, just how he thinks of himself.

 

Anyhow, as i posted earlier, if he is genuine and wants help, i will be happy to hang out and help but if a troll, well then at least some have had a good laugh 

My respect for doing so....

12 hours ago, PatOngo said:

Life's a bitch, then you die!

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