How do Decent Thai women find Decent Expats in Thailand?

EVENKEEL · July 20, 2020

Sounds like the old time Hustler letters from 70-80's, maybe it was Penthouse. But you know the old <deleted> fantasy letters. Same...Same.

Edited July 20, 2020 by EVENKEEL

CorpusChristie · July 20, 2020

4 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Which good guy wants a wife who drinks too much?

Especially Tequila is something for bargirls, and only bargirls.

Maybe no decent guy was interested in a relation with them because they behaved like bargirls.

The girls invited some people over for a drink and the girls had numerous drinks to offer their guests .

When you invite people around for drinks , its rather uncouth just to give them a bottle of Leo you got in the fridge , without them asking for it

Sundown · July 20, 2020

23 minutes ago, Shot said:

I call BS on the whole thing. None of that happened, but Dans getting some hits on his 'blog'.

Nah that's link building. He doesn't care if you go on the website. The more links you have on authoritative websites in a certain niche you have, the more Google thinks you are relevant and brings you to the top (Thaivisa is authoritative in the Thailand niche). Some websites charge to let people drop their links for this reason.

Ps: I think that's all bs too. 3 Thai girls that studied abroad (where? Maybe that would have been more interesting?) drinking tequila and Malibu in a tent?

Edited July 20, 2020 by Sundown

BritManToo · July 20, 2020

4 minutes ago, CorpusChristie said:

The girls invited some people over for a drink and the girls had numerous drinks to offer their guests .

When you invite people around for drinks , its rather uncouth just to give them a bottle of Leo you got in the fridge , without them asking for it

You take a selection of drinks and a fridge when you go camping?

Gotta say these girls sound more like 'club sluts' than decent Thai girls.

Edited July 20, 2020 by BritManToo

Logosone · July 20, 2020

3 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

You take a selection of drinks when you go camping?

Gotta say these girls sound more like 'club sluts' than decent Thai girls.

Exactly, the fact that these girls spoke such good English most likely points to the fact that they had a respectable string of foreign, English speaking boyfriends.

That is by far the most common explanation for a Thai, Filipina to speak above average English. Not that they studied abroad.

Indeed, if they were abroad it is in 90% of cases because they went to visit their foreign boyfriend.

We don't know these were "decent" girls. For all we know these were anything but. The heavy alcohol cache certainly supports the bar girl/professional dater hypothesis.

BritManToo · July 20, 2020

Just now, Logosone said:

We don't know these were "decent" girls. For all we know these were anything but. The heavy alcohol cache certainly supports the bar girl/professional dater hypothesis.

Yeah, my step-daughter is horrified if any of her friends drink beer (let alone spirits).

But maybe Bangkok is different?

Edited July 20, 2020 by BritManToo

RichardColeman · July 20, 2020

1 hour ago, Inspire Hua Hin said:

None of the three girls had a boyfriend and explained it is almost impossible to find anyone decent.

What they actually meant was it was hard to find a male Thai with a mental age above 14

BritManToo · July 20, 2020

Just now, RichardColeman said:

What they actually meant was it was hard to find a male Thai with a mental age above 14

Same as Thai women then.

Logosone · July 20, 2020

5 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Yeah, my step-daughter is horrified if any of her friends drink beer (let alone spirits).

But maybe Bangkok is different?

Possible. Either way, at thirty-something, approaching 40 you'd have had a decent chance to find someone "decent", if those girls were as attractive as Dan thinks they were. And yet at thirty-something those girls are without male.

What attractive, decent, desirable female does not have a boyfriend approaching 40? There' a reason for this. And it has to do with the woman I suspect.

Edited July 20, 2020 by Logosone

BritManToo · July 20, 2020

3 minutes ago, Logosone said:

What attractive, decent, desirable female does not have a boyfriend approaching 40? There' a reason for this. And it has to do with the woman I suspect.

Let's assume that Dan was right, and they were decent girls ............. (and forget the boozy warning signs)

If they've done without sex until they're 30 years old, they probably won't change after marriage, and what guys gonna take that chance?

Edited July 20, 2020 by BritManToo

EVENKEEL · July 20, 2020

12 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Yeah, my step-daughter is horrified if any of her friends drink beer (let alone spirits).

But maybe Bangkok is different?

I call BS on that one, maybe ole dad is gullible.

Airalee · July 20, 2020

2 minutes ago, Logosone said:

Possible. Either way, at thirty-something, approaching 40 you'd have had a decent chance to find someone "decent", if those girls were as attractive as Dan thinks they were. And yet at thirty-something those girls are without male.

What attractive, decent, desirable female does not have a boyfriend approaching 40? There' a reason for this. And it has to do with the woman I suspect.

There seems to be quite a few of those late 30-somethings that lived the “party” scene in their 20s and early 30s. After spending all their weekends in BKK nightclubs they now realize that they are competing with the younger women and wonder why they didn’t meet their knight in shining armor.

They probably should have spent more time hanging out in coffee shops.

Kadilo · July 20, 2020

Any pics of these 3 desirable educated 30 odd year Thai ladies? Convenient just having a blog where you can just invent stories for clickbait.

Just a load of cliched ridden Mills and Boon story book stuff by Dan Dan the BS Man.

EVENKEEL · July 20, 2020

35 minutes ago, EVENKEEL said:

Sounds like the old time Hustler letters from 70-80's, maybe it was Penthouse. But you know the old <deleted> fantasy letters. Same...Same.

ahaaaa deleted....

Edited July 20, 2020 by EVENKEEL

Logosone · July 20, 2020

11 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Let's assume that Dan was right, and they were decent girls ............. (and forget the boozy warning signs)

If they've done without sex until they're 30 years old, they probably won't change after marriage, and what guys gonna take that chance?

Sex is the most important thing for a man in the relationship, as you say, so it's probably unlikely they've gone without sex since they're so smart they would have figured this rather obvious fact out. If they're so decent not to have sex they are of course surplus to market requirements.

But I mean at that age, 36, 37, 38 those girls would have it hard on a dating website. And not because they're up solely against working girls. Simply because at that age the market demand decreases. What guy types 38 into a dating app?

They had their chance (from 18-25) and they did not lock down the decent guy. Why not? That is the question.

Alcohol abuse does not help, but even if it is a one off, if these girls were so fantastic, they would not be without male companion. The "no decent guys" excuse is self-justification to excuse their low market value I suspect.

Sundown · July 20, 2020

16 minutes ago, Kadilo said:

Any pics of these 3 desirable educated 30 odd year Thai ladies? Convenient just having a blog where you can just invent stories for clickbait.

Just a load of cliched ridden Mills and Boon story book stuff by Dan Dan the BS Man.

Today is your lucky day. I happened to be in the same camping and those three girls really existed. No jokes. They told me they studied sound engineering in Germany, PhD in microphone.

tifino · July 20, 2020

at least OP&wife didn't wake up dead, from laced drinks...

Airalee · July 20, 2020

This really reminds me of the “what happened to all the nice guys” lamentations that we hear so much about in the west. Never has the answer been posed more succinctly than by this “best of Craigslist” post from 2007.

"What Happened to All the Nice Guys?"

I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were <deleted> treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an <deleted> than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've <deleted> yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the <deleted> and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't <deleted> want you, now.

Sincerely,

A Recovering Nice Guy

https://www.craigslist.org/about/best/lax/483318927.html

Kadilo · July 20, 2020

9 minutes ago, Sundown said:

Today is your lucky day. I happened to be in the same camping and those three girls really existed. No jokes. They told me they studied sound engineering in Germany, PhD in microphone.

Wow Dan, what a coincidence ????

EVENKEEL · July 20, 2020

3 minutes ago, Airalee said:

This really reminds me of the “what happened to all the nice guys” lamentations that we hear so much about in the west. Never has the answer been posed more succinctly than by this “best of Craigslist” post from 2007.

"What Happened to All the Nice Guys?"

I see this question posted with some regularity in the personals section, so I thought I'd take a minute to explain things to the ladies out there that haven't figured it out.

What happened to all the nice guys?

The answer is simple: you did.

See, if you think back, really hard, you might vaguely remember a Platonic guy pal who always seemed to want to spend time with you. He'd tag along with you when you went shopping, stop by your place for a movie when you were lonely but didn't feel like going out, or even sit there and hold you while you sobbed and told him about how horribly the (other) guy that you were <deleted> treated you.

At the time, you probably joked with your girlfriends about how he was a little puppy dog, always following you around, trying to do things to get you to pay attention to him. They probably teased you because they thought he had a crush on you. Given that his behavior was, admittedly, a little pathetic, you vehemently denied having any romantic feelings for him, and buttressed your position by claiming that you were "just friends." Besides, he totally wasn't your type. I mean, he was a little too short, or too bald, or too fat, or too poor, or didn't know how to dress himself, or basically be or do any of the things that your tall, good-looking, fit, rich, stylish boyfriend at the time pulled off with such ease.

Eventually, your Platonic buddy drifted away, as your relationship with the boyfriend got more serious and spending time with this other guy was, admittedly, a little weird, if you werent dating him. More time passed, and the boyfriend eventually cheated on you, or became boring, or you realized that the things that attracted you to him weren't the kinds of things that make for a good, long-term relationship. So, now, you're single again, and after having tried the bar scene for several months having only encountered players and douche bags, you wonder, "What happened to all the nice guys?"

Well, once again, you did.

You ignored the nice guy. You used him for emotional intimacy without reciprocating, in kind, with physical intimacy. You laughed at his consideration and resented his devotion. You valued the aloof boyfriend more than the attentive "just-a-" friend. Eventually, he took the hint and moved on with his life. He probably came to realize, one day, that women aren't really attracted to guys who hold doors open; or make dinners just because; or buy you a Christmas gift that you mentioned, in passing, that you really wanted five months ago; or listen when you're upset; or hold you when you cry. He came to realize that, if he wanted a woman like you, he'd have to act more like the boyfriend that you had. He probably cleaned up his look, started making some money, and generally acted like more of an <deleted> than he ever wanted to be.

Fact is, now, he's probably getting laid, and in a way, your ultimate rejection of him is to thank for that. And I'm sorry that it took the complete absence of "nice guys" in your life for you to realize that you missed them and wanted them. Most women will only have a handful of nice guys stumble into their lives, if that.

So, if you're looking for a nice guy, here's what you do:

1.) Build a time machine.
2.) Go back a few years and pull your head out of your ass.
3.) Take a look at what's right in front of you and grab ahold of it.

I suppose the other possibility is that you STILL don't really want a nice guy, but you feel the social pressure to at least appear to have matured beyond your infantile taste in men. In which case, you might be in luck, because the nice guy you claim to want has, in reality, shed his nice guy mantle and is out there looking to unleash his cynicism and resentment onto someone just like you.

If you were five years younger.

So, please: either stop misrepresenting what you want, or own up to the fact that you've <deleted> yourself over. You're getting older, after all. It's time to excise the <deleted> and deal with reality. You didn't want a nice guy then, and he certainly doesn't <deleted> want you, now.

Sincerely,

A Recovering Nice Guy

https://www.craigslist.org/about/best/lax/483318927.html

Get some therapy and have a nice soapie....

BritManToo · July 20, 2020

11 minutes ago, Sundown said:

Today is your lucky day. I happened to be in the same camping and those three girls really existed. No jokes. They told me they studied sound engineering in Germany, PhD in microphone.

Dan was talking about 3 attractive girls, I only see one (on the left).

So these three can't be them, unless his standards are seriously lower than mine.

ravip · July 20, 2020

1 hour ago, bkk6060 said:

I have dated both fairly extensively.

The problem I found with these Bangkok educated, supposed good job girls is they have tremendous debt and are usually seeking a total western lifestyle. Many are attractive and have style, but that obviously comes at a cost. And generally they are seeking partners close their age.

The girls in Bangkok I know who are with much older expats, the guys are very wealthy living in 80,000 b a month condos.

Anyway, much better I think to find a down to earth lady in a developing area such as Korat or Khon Kaen or other areas in Isaan.

'Seekers' from both sides have unique expectations!

80k per month for the apartment, but...

Edited July 20, 2020 by ravip

Jack Hna · July 20, 2020

2 hours ago, Pilotman said:

Anecdotally, I would say that very few of the younger foreign men in Bangkok are what they are looking for. A lot are either nomads, so basically dropped out and looking for the easy life, teachers on a lowish salary that again just want an easy life in a nice tropical location and/or drifters, or tourists. Certainly, international law firms, banks, large companies and investment houses have expats in Thailand that are young and on an 'expat package' and are usually high flyers, but finding them would be difficult for any Thai girl, unless they are already moving in those circles and attend the same functions and social events, in other words, that they are wealthy Thais from a good family. Their best bet is still social media, but here. they will have to kiss an awful lot of frogs before a Prince appears.

Pilotman snigger, along with air stewardesses you just went way down the dating scale. Way down.