Girl I married wants car and house money

[6lover]

 

What I do not understand, why did he leave his wife in Thailand and fulfill her financial wishes instead of taking her with him straight away to his home country? I asked my bar girl after 3 days for her price to come to my country immediately and stay with me. Was expecting all sorts of <deleted>ty answers and high financial demands but not that she said: Take me with you, get the visa and you will get me for free forever

 

[kingofthemountain]

2 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

Thank you for pointing that out. But then again, I am just ignoring the unnecessary jibes from certain folks. I have made a stupid mistake but  I was in a bad place when I met her and she did pick me up. I would still like to think she will see sense. I also understand everyone needs money but pressing your husband to depart with 3m is not the right way. It’s going to be difficult for me mentally to get over her. I do love Thailand and planned to retire there but am worried about the loneliness it will bring. I can never trust a Thai person ever anymore. Worst case I will sell the condo and stay here in Blighty. 

Can i ask you if your marriage with her was just a ''village ceremony'' with few monks

or if you have done all the oficial process with the good papers at the ampur ?

 

And don't worry too much about your future without her, trust me at 55 (Except if you are

really ugly or with a big problem like taking 1 shower a week or semthing like that)

you can pick up all the 25-35 yo girls you want here in Thailand, there is no shortage

on the stock and it will cost you only a fraction of what are you actually paying 

(In fact why are you paying now exactly when 12 000 kms are beetwen you and your wife?

She can not give you sex nor affection, she doesn't love you at all anyway, do you feel

better throwing your money in the bin every month ? )

 

 

[Heng]

Maybe not a real post, but I'm sure we've seen plenty of similar couples having intense discussions right at the ATM machine (of all places).   **Filed under reality based fiction** 

[murraynz]

22 hours ago, Pilotman said:

Another made up post.  A waste of TVF memory.  

Surely,it must be a made up post..

Nobody could be that naive to keep handing out money ,the way he claims to have done..

No wonder the girl in story has zero respect for him and wants more more more..

Unbelieveably,some guys actually DO do similar things,with thai ladies..

[kingofthemountain]

30 minutes ago, Heng said:

Maybe not a real post, but I'm sure we've seen plenty of similar couples having intense discussions right at the ATM machine (of all places).   **Filed under reality based fiction** 

All the couples farang\thai i know, in a way or another the man is paying for the girl

of course they are in denial and they say they don't give money at all, but in fact they pay all for almost everything

so it's the same thing at the end. And the biggest is the age gap and the difference in the physical 

(Usualy the couple is an old fat ugly man and the girl a young fit beautiful) the biggest is the money

transfer to ''make up'' the difference

Very very few exceptions with partners in the same age range and physical appearance

and\or with a girl having a ''normal'' job (Usualy a teacher)

Edited March 14, 2021 by kingofthemountain

[ThailandRyan]

5 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

of course they are in denial and they say they don't give money at all, but in fact they pay all

So is there really any difference than being married in the west where the wife stays home and raises the children and the husband works and pays it all? My first wife in the States was a stay at home mother.

[BobBKK]

15 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

I tried to be a good husband sir but clearly I went wrong somewhere. As a husband, I wanted to support her financially as I didn’t want her working in massage shop. I rather she is at home than slaving away.  She is young at 35, so yeah possible she is one of the new Thai lady type. Apart from the money issue, we don’t have any other marital problems. I just wish I had more money to give . 

You wish you had more money to give...?  you can't be serious?

"apart from the money issue"?  you're having a laugh at US methinks

[Nees Shah]

10 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

Can i ask you if your marriage with her was just a ''village ceremony'' with few monks

or if you have done all the oficial process with the good papers at the ampur ?

 

And don't worry too much about your future without her, trust me at 55 (Except if you are

really ugly or with a big problem like taking 1 shower a week or semthing like that)

you can pick up all the 25-35 yo girls you want here in Thailand, there is no shortage

on the stock and it will cost you only a fraction of what are you actually paying 

(In fact why are you paying now exactly when 12 000 kms are beetwen you and your wife?

She can not give you sex nor affection, she doesn't love you at all anyway, do you feel

better throwing your money in the bin every month ? )

 

 

It was an Amphur marriage with official paperwork done. I had to get a translation done of the paperwork done as well.  She hails from a middle class family in Korat so I wouldn’t say she is your village type girl as well. 
Glad to know that I do have a chance of a future with a Thai girl. I do love the country, the food is amazing. I know it’s hard to believe that I am taking care of my wife across 12000 Kms. I have met her once in the last year as well and with the 14 day quarantine it is difficult with my work to get a lot of time off. Hope to retire one day and meet some like minded people in future. 
 

 

[Nees Shah]

4 minutes ago, BobBKK said:

You wish you had more money to give...?  you can't be serious?

"apart from the money issue"?  you're having a laugh at US methinks

Money has always been an issue. She wants more and more and I don’t have. I have even paid for her boob job and few other operations along with the monthly support of 40k. When you are married, you don’t think too much about what hole you are digging. I did promise her last year I will give her car and money to buy her own house but I don’t have money right now and she wants it now 

[kingofthemountain]

3 minutes ago, Nees Shah said:

It was an Amphur marriage with official paperwork done. I had to get a translation done of the paperwork done as well.  She hails from a middle class family in Korat so I wouldn’t say she is your village type girl as well. 
Glad to know that I do have a chance of a future with a Thai girl. I do love the country, the food is amazing. I know it’s hard to believe that I am taking care of my wife across 12000 Kms. I have met her once in the last year as well and with the 14 day quarantine it is difficult with my work to get a lot of time off. Hope to retire one day and meet some like minded people in future. 
 

 

Imo you should contact a good lawyer here when you are back in Thailand

and start the divorce process.

It's unusual coming from a middle class family that she ended doing handjobs and more in

a dodgy Pattaya massage, she could aswell find a ''normal'' job in Korat

but it's also unusual for the Thai ex husband to keep the child

with him, so methink she has some personal ''problems'' you are not really aware of.

It was a strange idea to marry a Thai girl when you are still stuck in UK for your work for the years coming and her stuck in Thailand (For a particular reason?) you could have the idea together to take her with you in the UK untill you reach the retirment age

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, farang63 said:

kick her ass and send her back to do massages and sleep in the dilapidated room where she was, and that is her environment, you take a Thai woman out of where she lives, but you will never be able to take her away from her environment where she wants to live

That is interesting advice - with a lot of truth to it.

I remember talking to a psychologist a long time ago. He said take the example of a kid who grew up in a simple hut and later put that person into a palace. Likely he won't be comfortable in the palace because that is not what got used to his whole life. 

I am sure the principle is similar to girls which you take out of their environment. In many ways they will miss what they know.

[DUNROAMIN]

A sucker born every day

[shackleton]

Some one must be getting  really board in the UK

to come up with this story and bring it up on Thai visa

 

 

[Bluespunk]

22 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

Why would I want to waste my time to troll ? A friend recommended me to this site and told me I will find some support . 

They aren't a friend if they recommended you post your tale of woe on here.

[OneMoreFarang]

1 minute ago, Bluespunk said:

They aren't a friend if they recommended you post your tale of woe on here.

That is not entirely correct.

Many of us had the situation that we saw someone go down the drain. And then maybe that someone asks us what we think about his situation. And then maybe we told him something like: "She only wants your money. Wake up!" And then? Then the asking guy is upset that we don't understand that his one is different. We don't understand him and her and why to we dare to say she only wants his money...

Sometimes it's a lot better to let other people deliver the same information. ???? 

[kingofthemountain]

19 minutes ago, ThailandRyan said:

So is there really any difference than being married in the west where the wife stays home and raises the children and the husband works and pays it all? My first wife in the States was a stay at home mother.

The big difference is the Thai laws given a very big advantage to the girl

since a foreigner can not own land in Thailand, most of the time the foreigner

pay for a land and a house but all of this is in the Thai girl name

in the west you can have a marriage contract where your land and house is in

your name, and you keep it even if you divorce. If there is no contract, it's 50\50

in Thailand it's all for the girl.

[ThailandRyan]

4 minutes ago, kingofthemountain said:

The big difference is the Thai laws given a very big advantage to the girl

since a foreigner can not own land in Thailand, most of the time the foreigner

pay for a land and a house but all of this is in the Thai girl name

in the west you can have a marriage contract where your land and house is in

your name, and you keep it even if you divorce. If there is no contract, it's 50\50

in Thailand it's all for the girl.

But he has a condo, and if he bought it after the marriage and even if in his name she is entitled to 50 percent of it here in Thailand.  Just like I was entitled to 50 percent of the price for the House I built in the North of Thailand and the Land I had given the money to be used to buy said land to build the house on.  Instead of selling the house and paying me my 50%, we decided to put it all in our daughters name when we divorced so that she has something here when she decides to return from the US.  Thai law is the same as in the west when it comes to purchases bought during the marriage.

[kingofthemountain]

28 minutes ago, ThailandRyan said:

But he has a condo, and if he bought it after the marriage and even if in his name she is entitled to 50 percent of it here in Thailand.  Just like I was entitled to 50 percent of the price for the House I built in the North of Thailand and the Land I had given the money to be used to buy said land to build the house on.  Instead of selling the house and paying me my 50%, we decided to put it all in our daughters name when we divorced so that she has something here when she decides to return from the US.  Thai law is the same as in the west when it comes to purchases bought during the marriage.

I wasn't talking for the specific case of the OP

as you asked if it was different from when the wife stay at home in the west.

You are right about his condo if he divorces, it's why if he talks to a good lawyer 

before to start the divorce, the advice should be to sell the condo and rapatriate the funds in Uk first.

for ''your'' house in the north of Thailand, you might be entitled to 50% of the price on the paper however you 

had nothing at the end, at least no any money back like all the others before you. To put it in the child name is anyway a good idea. I am not a specialist but i am not sure at all you can do a marriage property separation contract here in Thailand, and anyway you can not owning land as a foreigner, even if you have paid for it, so i am inclined to think Thai law isn't the same as in the west.

Edited March 14, 2021 by kingofthemountain

[chilly07]

If you married in Thailand 50pc of marital property is yours. There is always a record of ownership at the land office.

Thai ladies always promise Armageddon if they don't get what they want. Too many ridiculous soap operas. Tell her you don't have 3m BAHT so you can't give it to her. Then batten down the hatches and see what happens. Thai girls are very jealous so pleading maintenance  payments will only rile her. She will be used to Thai men doing a runner. This will be a good test of her love for you. If positive you will know she is serious. If negative you are well rid of her as she probably has other farang on the string and Thai boyfriends 

[Kerryd]

Sell the condo, cut your losses and move on.

The only difference between this woman and a bar girl is she worked in a massage parlour instead of a bar. You are probably teerak # 437 for her, except the other 436 were (maybe) a bit smarter.

She is in it to make as much as possible from you and you can bet she is still doing the same thing she was before you met her. A lot of girls here have numerous "sponsors" that send them money so they don't have to "work bar" or "go with man" and as soon as that guy gets on the plane home, they are right back in the bar looking for the next one. Or, as soon as you check in for your flight home and walk through security, she's heading down to the arrivals area to meet one of her other "teeraks" that is just arriving.

And yes, yours is a story that we've heard hundreds of times here over the years. Literally word for word.

Surprised that your condo wasn't bought in her name but don't worry, if she has access to the documents she'll be able to change that in a hurry. (You may want to get a lawyer involved, quickly, lest you end up with nothing at all.)

Had it been in her name from the beginning, she'd have probably changed the locks the minute you were heading for the airport and then sold the place by the time you were in the air. Then she would have sent you endless requests for money, right up until she thought you might be coming back. Then she'd slip away in the night and do the same thing in Phuket or Bangkok (if she hadn't already in the past).

Basically, you are screwed. You need to get her out of the condo and sell it. The money demands won't go away and will in fact get larger and larger. She'll milk you for everything she can get and when she thinks you been bled dry, she'll dump your *** in a heartbeat and be gone.

[ThLT]

Seriously, this is so over-the-top. Is this a troll/joke thread? It 97% sounds like it, but 3% looks like it isn't.

Don't you have a copy of the condo documents, at least? Come back to Thailand, sell the condo.

Avoid balconies!

[473geo]

I believe the problem originated from yourself, you write you promised her a car and house, and now she asks where is it, you come bleating to this forum because you cannot fulfil the expectation you created

 

Like many of your advisors on this thread, no real idea how to handle the expectations of a Thai woman except pay them hourly ????

Edited March 14, 2021 by 473geo

[xylophone]

4 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

She is lovely but I am 55 years of age. Why would she ever want to be with a loser like me ? 

And then you have it, the underlying fact about this post (that is supposing it's true) is that the guy considers himself a loser, so therefore he is a loser, and who in their right mind would want to be with a loser, so this particular loser has to buy/pay for the company he wants.

So he is a loser, and the girl knows he is a loser, and he knows that he has to pay for somebody to put up with his company, so that is the end result.

He either puts up with having to buy the company of this woman or shuts up – – no other two ways about it.
 

[animalmagic]

On 3/13/2021 at 5:27 PM, Nees Shah said:

Not a made up post sir, it’s a genuine.. I have been through hell and back .. 

If you find yourself going through hell.....keep going don't go back!

[Surelynot]

4 hours ago, Nees Shah said:

She is lovely but I am 55 years of age. Why would she ever want to be with a loser like me ? 

If that is really her, why do you care if she thinks you are a loser?

Enjoy it while it lasts..........but don't give her any money..........you give money to bar girls, not wives and girlfriends.

Edited March 14, 2021 by Surelynot

[Pilotman]

1 hour ago, ThailandRyan said:

So is there really any difference than being married in the west where the wife stays home and raises the children and the husband works and pays it all? My first wife in the States was a stay at home mother.

Very little difference, but Thai wife bashers here like to think that there is, usually because, at some point, and maybe more than once, they have been ripped off by a much younger girl, taken out of a bar/GoGo and out of abject poverty. People, like that would get ripped off anywhere and in any country. 

[digger70]

On 3/13/2021 at 5:24 PM, Nees Shah said:

I have made mistakes folks. I was having to skip my daily meals to support her 40000 a month so as to save money and give her a good life. ????.. how can someone do this to another human being !

Easy , there are Millions of them (Animals) Gold Diggers .

Cut your losses and Move on . On top of that Don't spend more than what you can't Afford to lose.

[Nees Shah]

42 minutes ago, ThLT said:

Seriously, this is so over-the-top. Is this a troll/joke thread? It 97% sounds like it, but 3% looks like it isn't.

Don't you have a copy of the condo documents, at least? Come back to Thailand, sell the condo.

Avoid balconies!

I have a copy of the title deeds with my name on it. She doesn’t have anything on it. How can she change the title without showing transfer of cash to a buyer ? Surely that’s not possible. 

[Nees Shah]

1 minute ago, digger70 said:

Easy , there are Millions of them (Animals) Gold Diggers .

Cut your losses and Move on . On top of that Don't spend more than what you can't Afford to lose.

Yes that’s what I plan to do. I think I am being a bit more courageous after some good advise from folks on this thread . I am going to stop any monthly payments now. 

[Nees Shah]

47 minutes ago, 473geo said:

I believe the problem originated from yourself, you write you promised her a car and house, and now she asks where is it, you come bleating to this forum because you cannot fulfil the expectation you created

 

Like many of your advisors on this thread, no real idea how to handle the expectations of a Thai woman except pay them hourly ????

Yes I agree but due to Covid, my work has not been great .. I did set the expectation which was wrong of me .