Do you ever think about the family that left you behind

[steven100]

I'm sitting here after my 5th bottle of Federbrau and once again thinking about my dead aunties, uncles. cousins and family that are all dead and gone,  they have all died long ago and I didn't get to see them in the later years of their life due to work or whatever.  I think about how sad things are that i didn't go see them for a day or overnight visit. I don't have anyone else anymore, they're all dead .....    its just me ... I think about this every day constantly.  They're all gone.  

Do you ever think about your dead relatives ?

just curious if you think about that also ..... 

 

 

 

Edited September 12, 2022 by steven100

[Kwasaki]

2 minutes ago, steven100 said:

.. I think about this every day

Well don't .

My family come and see me because I'm here.

Up to them. 

[Mac Mickmanus]

In this day and age , you can talk to anyone in the World live face to face by pressing a few buttons 

[bkk6060]

Never.  They were all a bunch of AH including my abusive parents.  Hated them all.  I am fortunate I have a son and grandkids I am close with speak with them 3 times a week.

 

Edited September 12, 2022 by bkk6060

[KhunLA]

NO

I rarely think about the ones still living.

[steven100]

1 minute ago, KhunLA said:

NO

I rarely think about the ones still living.

haha ... where's that laughing emoji ...

[Swiss1960]

I live for the future and not in the past

[Fat is a type of crazy]

A melancholy post but it seems you had an excellent relationship with a big broader family unit so be happy for that. I have a close immediate family but there are aunts and uncles in relation to which I don't know if they are alive or not - including my mother's twin after they fell out 40 years ago. 

It might be symbolic of you seeing yourself in them. You could think about now and think about if the  beer is still fun and a good thing.  Try and relax and remember the humour of those gone and live for now. 

 

[HappyExpat57]

I occasionally think of my dad, always fondly. My mom? The entire family would p!ss on her grave if anyone knew where it was.

[MJCM]

11 minutes ago, KhunLA said:

NO

I rarely think about the ones still living.

+1

 

They couldn't even care less about me and if they did it would only cause problems! ????

[Sparktrader]

Not really. Dead people are dead. One less lunch isnt much.

 

Better off making new friends. Family members are 75% ahs normally.

 

Thais are more friendly. Farangs are selfish 

[steven100]

9 minutes ago, Swiss1960 said:

I live for the future and not in the past

yes ... that's correct,  i guess i'm just a bit old fashioned.  ... Lol ...  but i,m not old na.

[Chris.B]

25 minutes ago, Mac Mickmanus said:

In this day and age , you can talk to anyone in the World live face to face by pressing a few buttons 

Not the same as seeing them! ☹️

 

[steven100]

4 minutes ago, Chris.B said:

Not the same as seeing them! ☹️

 

well  ......    i guess some you never want to see ...    hahaha

[roo860]

Nope, even the 3 cousins alive are dead far as I'm concerned. 

[MJCM]

Fortunately I have very good friends (in my home country) and they have proved to be much better then family!

 

Family you get, friends you can choose!

Edited September 12, 2022 by MJCM

[steven100]

43 minutes ago, Kwasaki said:

Well don't .

My family come and see me because I'm here.

Up to them. 

yes,  I need to understand that aunties, uncles, cousins had there inner family circle and as such they are busy with that.  Then they died. 

[CharlieH]

Better to regret the things you did than the things you didnt do.

 

I get the occasional fleeting memory trggered by something but thats about it.

The recent Queens death etc triggered memories of my Mothers death, that sort of thing, but generally no I try not to dwell on history too much. ????

 

[redsongthaew]

1 hour ago, steven100 said:

its just me ... I think about this every day constantly.  They're all gone.

It's never too late to start your own family.

 

When you have a baby screaming at you then you won't have time to think of the past.

[steven100]

1 minute ago, redsongthaew said:

It's never too late to start your own family.

 

When you have a baby screaming at you then you won't have time to think of the past.

now where's that damn laughing emoji ....   ????

[OneMoreFarang]

1 hour ago, steven100 said:

Do you ever think about your dead relatives ?

just curious if you think about that also ..... 

Sometimes a dead person, relative or not, comes to my mind. Maybe I remember some good times together or something I learned from that person, or maybe how annoying that person was.

And then I continue with life.

Life is changing all the time. Some people die, some people are just not in our life anymore, and we meet new people.

It's up to us to make the best out of our lives and any situation.

Stagnation won't bring happiness. Life does change - it doesn't matter if we want that or not.

[CharlieH]

1 minute ago, redsongthaew said:

It's never too late to start your own family.

 

When you have a baby screaming at you then you won't have time to think of the past.

Similarly I hzve an 8 yr old grandchild we take care of, never thought Id be doing that again at this time of life ! Great when you get to hand them back though ???? 

[redsongthaew]

1 minute ago, steven100 said:

now where's that damn laughing emoji ....   ????

You don't need one. You typed a reply instead.

[MJCM]

4 minutes ago, steven100 said:

now where's that damn laughing emoji ....   

I was thinking the same, me, late 50's and wife, early 50's and starting a family 5555555555555555

 

We have 2 dogs (thinking of adopting another one) and they are already a handful ????

[billd766]

6 minutes ago, redsongthaew said:

It's never too late to start your own family.

 

When you have a baby screaming at you then you won't have time to think of the past.

My youngest baby is now 18 here in Thailand. My oldest baby is 44, married with a wife I have never met, and a son and daughter of his own, who I have never met either.

[steven100]

9 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

Similarly I hzve an 8 yr old grandchild we take care of, never thought Id be doing that again at this time of life ! Great when you get to hand them back though ???? 

but an 8 yr old wouldn't be too bad,  just give him a mobile with ROV ( GAME )  and 100 baht, and send to the shop ...   hahaha ....   he'd be  happy. 

 

 

 

 

 

 

Edited September 12, 2022 by steven100

[steven100]

13 minutes ago, OneMoreFarang said:

Sometimes a dead person, relative or not, comes to my mind. Maybe I remember some good times

yes ... I do that alot

[steven100]

24 minutes ago, CharlieH said:

The recent Queens death etc triggered memories of my Mothers death

yes .... and when I played a few songs that mum liked,  such as Freddie fenda,  Demis Rousos, Nana Maskui .....  I get nostalgic, my eye's get teary ... hahaha ...  and after i'm fine. 

[steven100]

1 hour ago, HappyExpat57 said:

I occasionally think of my dad, always fondly. My mom? The entire family would p!ss on her grave if anyone knew where it was.

so i gather she didn't get many xmas cards then ....   Lol

[ivor bigun]

To be honest ,i have a son here and a wonderful wife ,my daughter and i talk every day on the phone ,i think about my gran and gramps fondly sometimes as i do my uncles ,we were close when i was young ,but they passed so long ago,my daughter comes out here yearly with my grandaughters and her husband ,but as i get older i realize soon it will be me they are remembering.