After A Lifetime Of Adventure, Why Is It Now So Hard To Pop Off?

[madone]

6 hours ago, BigStar said:

Yet another old man impotence thread. We have a current one running here:

 

 

amazing how similar in writing style they are.

 

Also it is nice two completely different and unrelated new users to the platform who joined within days of each other back in June (within a month or so of the site changing ownership) are so aligned in bringing new engaging content to the site

What a happy set of coincidences!

 

it must be serendipity

[madone]

6 hours ago, BigStar said:

Yet another old man impotence thread. We have a current one running here:

 

it would seem the thaiger has recognized the fundamental challenges facing the aseannow demographic 

[BigStar]

2 minutes ago, madone said:

amazing how similar in writing style they are.

 

Also it is nice two completely different and unrelated new users to the platform who joined within days of each other back in June (within a month or so of the site changing ownership) are so aligned in bringing new engaging content to the site

What a happy set of coincidences!

 

it must be serendipity

 

Ha! Interesting. Getting more mileage from the kind of topic about which our members will love to relate their expertise, ability, and considerable experience. Great for page views.

 

 

[spidermike007]

Well in reality an orgasm is very overrated, and as we get older finishing takes a lot more out of us than it used to. So perhaps your body is just telling you something good, perhaps it's telling you that you don't need to finish, you can just enjoy (in a more tantric fashion) and that's good enough. 

[flexomike]

9 hours ago, SoCal1990 said:

After nearly 30 years of unbound adventure in Asia, I’ve hit an unexpected wall in the bedroom.

In short, I’m finding it harder and harder to reach climax. I still enjoy sex as much as before, maybe even more now, thanks to a more adult mind that lets me appreciate the experience in a freer, more open way, with no shyness. The excitement is definitely still there too and I’m more in tune with what I like. But actually crossing that finish line? Not so much.

Looking back, I think about the sheer number of partners, easily into the hundreds by now if you assume even just one new one a month for decades. The variety has been unreal: women of different ages, backgrounds, and countries. And there’s been no shortage of intensity, some were absolute “freaks” in the sack, checking every box imaginable. The thrill of constant novelty, combined with the allure of fulfilling all kinds of fantasies, always kept things fresh and memorable. But now, it feels like that constant stimulation has trained my mind and body to expect... more even when I’m fully into the moment. It’s not that I don’t still have the same interest in sex, I do, but actually reaching that peak? My brain feels desensitized, wired to a high bar I didn’t even realize I’d set.

I’ve heard it compared to a kind of tolerance, like any intense experience you repeat over the years. The thrill wears off, even though it still feels thrilling, and then you need more to feel the same satisfaction. My body, in a way, has been “trained” by years of high-stimulation routines it seems. Now, in simpler moments, it’s harder to reach that point where things pop off. Those quieter, more ordinary (but still passionate) encounters? They just don’t trigger me the way they used to either.

Physically, I’m still in decent shape. I can get my heart rate up to 175 bpm without much trouble, so it’s not a physical limitation. But I do wonder if I’ve built a mental wall over time that’s tough to break through. The issue isn’t arousal either; I stay excited, functional, and can keep things going for a couple of hours at times. But actually busting a nut? That’s the elusive part.

So here I am wondering if anyone else experienced something similar after so many years of a similar lifestyle. I also hope one can somehow undo this conditioning and get back to a place where it’s easier to let one fly, or maybe this is the inevitable trade-off of chasing those high peaks for so long.

Wow, you would put Ron Jeremy too shame

[flexomike]

2 hours ago, malt25 said:

Why  does a dog lick its dick ?

 

because he can

[Kinok Farang]

10 hours ago, SoCal1990 said:

After nearly 30 years of unbound adventure in Asia, I’ve hit an unexpected wall in the bedroom.

In short, I’m finding it harder and harder to reach climax. I still enjoy sex as much as before, maybe even more now, thanks to a more adult mind that lets me appreciate the experience in a freer, more open way, with no shyness. The excitement is definitely still there too and I’m more in tune with what I like. But actually crossing that finish line? Not so much.

Looking back, I think about the sheer number of partners, easily into the hundreds by now if you assume even just one new one a month for decades. The variety has been unreal: women of different ages, backgrounds, and countries. And there’s been no shortage of intensity, some were absolute “freaks” in the sack, checking every box imaginable. The thrill of constant novelty, combined with the allure of fulfilling all kinds of fantasies, always kept things fresh and memorable. But now, it feels like that constant stimulation has trained my mind and body to expect... more even when I’m fully into the moment. It’s not that I don’t still have the same interest in sex, I do, but actually reaching that peak? My brain feels desensitized, wired to a high bar I didn’t even realize I’d set.

I’ve heard it compared to a kind of tolerance, like any intense experience you repeat over the years. The thrill wears off, even though it still feels thrilling, and then you need more to feel the same satisfaction. My body, in a way, has been “trained” by years of high-stimulation routines it seems. Now, in simpler moments, it’s harder to reach that point where things pop off. Those quieter, more ordinary (but still passionate) encounters? They just don’t trigger me the way they used to either.

Physically, I’m still in decent shape. I can get my heart rate up to 175 bpm without much trouble, so it’s not a physical limitation. But I do wonder if I’ve built a mental wall over time that’s tough to break through. The issue isn’t arousal either; I stay excited, functional, and can keep things going for a couple of hours at times. But actually busting a nut? That’s the elusive part.

So here I am wondering if anyone else experienced something similar after so many years of a similar lifestyle. I also hope one can somehow undo this conditioning and get back to a place where it’s easier to let one fly, or maybe this is the inevitable trade-off of chasing those high peaks for so long.

Betting you take a gel or pill before sex and there is your answer.They seem to ( how can i put this politely?) desensify  the old bell-end.

[Kinok Farang]

5 hours ago, jippytum said:

Why do boring old men

use this forum  as an outlet to opine at length about their sexual prowess. Or the  lack of it

Because we have no friends.

[Kinok Farang]

4 hours ago, BritManToo said:

Two guys and one lady?

3 men better.

[BritManToo]

20 minutes ago, Kinok Farang said:

Because we have no friends.

Most of my friends died!

[ModdaPunk]

Time to take the muddy path down Arse Lane.

A whole new world will reveal itself to you.

Embrace it. Even if it smells.

And you will unload again, my son.

[Alpha84]

6 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

If a very strong libido then presumably would be horny too, I'm wondering if he's doing it when not really horny 

Could be. But how do you define horny? Assuming the guy has desire then he's horny, right? What you're describing sounds as if he's almost forcing himself to do it when he doesn't really want to. Do you think that's the case? And why would one do that?

[Alpha84]

35 minutes ago, ModdaPunk said:

Time to take the muddy path down Arse Lane.

A whole new world will reveal itself to you.

Embrace it. Even if it smells.

And you will unload again, my son.

That might work for you, but don't think it's going to work for him because he doesn't appear to be homosexual. 

[Alpha84]

3 hours ago, Kinok Farang said:

3 men better.

Share photos.

[ModdaPunk]

4 minutes ago, Alpha84 said:

That might work for you, but don't think it's going to work for him because he doesn't appear to be homosexual. 

 

Arse Lane being "gay-only" is a thought that shows what a virgin you are. On top of being a dumbass and a sh1tstain.

 

[JimTripper]

It's normal.

 

Have you tried more extreme sexual activities? If you find something new and exciting you are going to nut. There's a lot out there to experience. Bondage, sadism, gay, numerous fetishes, scat and piss, stuff you have never heard of and don't want to...

 

Best thing to do is try some fetish clubs in Bangkok. Even if you don't know what excites you just check them out, meet people, talk, or go with your partner. Something will seem interesting and warrent further exploration. Like they say in Patpong "Never try, never know!" Live life, you only get one chance.

[Alpha84]

24 minutes ago, ModdaPunk said:

 

Arse Lane being "gay-only" is a thought that shows what a virgin you are. On top of being a dumbass and a sh1tstain.

 

Alright, so you're gay and you don't want to admit it, FINE!

[thecyclist]

9 hours ago, RSD1 said:

bob smith had the same problem of being able to load the gun perfectly, but then it wouldn't fire. He switched to ladyboys and never had that problem since. Just saying... 

Where is Bob now? 

[scottiejohn]

32 minutes ago, thecyclist said:

Where is Bob now? 

Posting it's usual sh!t under different Bot names!

[RSD1]

5 hours ago, thecyclist said:

Where is Bob now? 

Last spotted in a ladyboy bar in Soi 6/1 with three on his knee. 

[scubascuba3]

6 hours ago, Alpha84 said:

Could be. But how do you define horny? Assuming the guy has desire then he's horny, right? What you're describing sounds as if he's almost forcing himself to do it when he doesn't really want to. Do you think that's the case? And why would one do that?

Not forcing himself as such, that's the extreme end of the scale, maybe just doing it when not really horny, maybe having sex with somone that doesn't turn him on enough anymore

[thaibeachlovers]

14 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Well in reality an orgasm is very overrated, and as we get older finishing takes a lot more out of us than it used to. So perhaps your body is just telling you something good, perhaps it's telling you that you don't need to finish, you can just enjoy (in a more tantric fashion) and that's good enough. 

So, when watching a great movie you only watch half, as you enjoyed the first part and don't need to watch the end?

 

Orgasms overarrated- do tell?

Apparently all the men that have visited Thailand for happy endings since the 1970s need only have looked at a bit of porn and saved the airfare.

 

My biggest desire after I got too old for adventuring was to die having a great orgasm.

[thaibeachlovers]

9 hours ago, JimTripper said:

Best thing to do is try some fetish clubs in Bangkok.

Do they advertise in the Bkk Post?

[thaibeachlovers]

12 hours ago, Kinok Farang said:

Because we have no friends.

He must be a bit slow!

[thaibeachlovers]

13 hours ago, flexomike said:

Physically, I’m still in decent shape. I can get my heart rate up to 175 bpm without much trouble, so it’s not a physical limitation. But I do wonder if I’ve built a mental wall over time that’s tough to break through. The issue isn’t arousal either; I stay excited, functional, and can keep things going for a couple of hours at times. But actually busting a nut? That’s the elusive part.

An orgasm is triggered by physical stimulation, PERIOD. It might be a mental thing for a female, but for men it's purely mechanical, however it's wrapped.

You need to see a medical specialist, not ask on AN.

[Terrance8812]

15 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

Well in reality an orgasm is very overrated

I suspect if someone feels that way then they aren't doing it right. 
 

15 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

you don't need to finish, you can just enjoy (in a more tantric fashion) and that's good enough. 

So it's only the thought that counts? That's like putting together a 1,000-piece puzzle for 2 weeks and then finding out the last piece is missing at the end.

[thaibeachlovers]

13 hours ago, flexomike said:

Wow, you would put Ron Jeremy too shame

Not in his waning days. He lost it, and that is probably why he is forgotten, unlike the master himself, John Holmes.

 

Jeremy was so ugly he must have paid them to be able to be in a movie, like the ordinary guy that was in a G B movie and looked completely out of place. He never even managed to get in place.

[thaibeachlovers]

4 minutes ago, Terrance8812 said:

I suspect if someone feels that way then they aren't doing it right.

From a lot of posts on AN I suspect a lot of guys don't know how to do it right, like Philip Stanhope, 4th Earl of Chesterfield.

[thaibeachlovers]

22 hours ago, BigStar said:

Yet another old man impotence thread.

If you read the OP his problem isn't impotence.

[JoseThailand]

18 hours ago, RSD1 said:

Impotent is about not being able to make a woman pregnant.

 

Wrong. It's called infertile. Impotent is about being unable to achieve erection.