After A Lifetime Of Adventure, Why Is It Now So Hard To Pop Off?

[watthong]

1 hour ago, JimTripper said:

That's not the Op's problem though. He's still amped up, just says he can't squirt.

 

Well, I had a case that is the opposite:

This is back in the day of my being the unofficial neighborhood sex therapist in my neck of the woods in Southern Calif, catering to the local bunch of horny down low married or with gf guys who were "curious" but had no outlets beside the beach public restrooms.

 

One time an older guy answered my ad. We met at Starbucks for my "consultation" session. A sweet, gentle white-haired  grandpa type, he hadn't had sex for years with grandma. Couldn't get the little guy up, but he could ejaculate (watching porn though no physical jacking off.) So he wondered if he could pop his nut in a more, erh, holistic way, with some understanding and experienced hand such as yours truly.

 

In full curiosity from both parties, we proceeded. Missionary style with him at the bottom as newbie and for me I wanted to see what's going on. Before long, he orgasmed. We both watched in amazement as a healthy dollop of jizz just oozed - or should I say popped-  out from his totally limp dick. So my guess is that despite the mechanism of getting hard no longer functioning, his synapses were still in full control of the "pumping" of the sluice gate, though not with the full force (needed to squirt)? My one-of-a-kind experience.

Edited 9 hours ago by watthong

[watthong]

On 11/14/2024 at 6:51 AM, SoCal1990 said:

I stay excited, functional, and can keep things going for a couple of hours at times. 

Wow, here I thought at 10 minutes I had broken the record of senior Olympics....

However I now and then surprise myself that at the age of 70, I can still have one of those full-throated, pun unintended, hitting the bull eye orgasm that rival those of my younger days. It doesn't happen that often, actually quite rare, but when the stars are aligned, it shoots straight! One thing I notice is that if I was under the weather or out of sort, it would just ooze - sorry guys for the visuals - and I thought oh no, the end is here. Well it's not. Another thing is that your brain has to be on the deck of the Enterprise, make sure all the synapses do their job in the right sequence and in a timely manner to finally, when the time ehr, comes,  flip the switch.

 

In short it takes good mental focus and a healthy body. Too much substance usage might have  dulled the mind along the years. I remember at the peak of my physical being, say in my 30s, not only I hit the bull eye but I also felt some sort of smoke coming off the top of my head - ie feeling real high - like a locomotive. That was the best part , that lead to the  post-coitus "lovey" interlude, where in the cinema, both partners reach for their cigarette...

Edited 9 hours ago by watthong

[watthong]

On 11/14/2024 at 11:56 AM, RSD1 said:

bob smith had the same problem of being able to load the gun perfectly, but then it wouldn't fire. He switched to ladyboys and never had that problem since. Just saying... 

 

It's called the prostate. 

[SoCal1990]

Thank you for all the comments and feedback.
 

After reflecting on everything, I think I may be overdoing it, or doing it too often.

 

I don't have issues with arousal or erections. I'm into it, I look forward to it, and I have access to partners who interest me sexually.
 

Mechanically, everything works fine, and I ejaculate normally when I do finally orgasm. However, I suspect l've become a bit desensitized.

 

I plan to try to cut back on the frequency to see if that helps me orgasm more consistently during sex. It won't be easy since I'm used to doing it daily, but I'll see if I can reduce it to once every 2-3 days and see if that makes a difference.

 

Part of the driving force for frequency may be the fact that I naturally have exceedingly high testosterone levels. The last testosterone test I did last December showed that my testosterone was over 1,100 ng/dL. But I think high testosterone only contributes to desire/need and not necessarily performance. 

[JimTripper]

2 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

are the ladyboys helping yiu?

Please watch this movie. The title is "Boogie Nights". It's a classic. Let me know what you think...

 

 

[gargamon]

9 hours ago, RSD1 said:

This topic isn’t about erectile dysfunction. 

Neither was my comment. It was about people who didn't need ED meds taking them being a problem later. Kind of like those who inject testosterone which causes their testicles to stop generating testosterone.

[thaibeachlovers]

9 hours ago, Elkski said:

I will have to read up on the ill health effects of every other day ejaculation goals.  I thought this was good for the prostrate? 

Don't believe it. I never missed a day and I still got prostate cancer.

I don't think it's bad though, getting prostate cancer is just bad luck IMO.

When science can actually do something worthwhile, perhaps they will work out a way to not get cancer.

[thaibeachlovers]

6 hours ago, SoCal1990 said:

After reflecting on everything, I think I may be overdoing it, or doing it too often.

If you are over retiring age I agree with that. I had to reduce to every other day. When it's hard work it's not fun.

[thaibeachlovers]

10 hours ago, RSD1 said:

So if you normally ejaculate between 1-3 times per day, and then reduce that to once every 3 days then that will probably fix most of ones problems with being able to ejaculate.

If that is what you have been doing I think you know the answer. Your prostate must have been working overtime to refill. People get diabetes when the insulin creating glands fail, presumably from too much sugar, and I suspect it's the same with the prostate. overuse it and it's going to fail.

3 times a day, good grief.

[thaibeachlovers]

17 hours ago, scubascuba3 said:

I don't know, guys who have sex a lot can get jaded with it, just go through the motions 

Never happened to me.

[thaibeachlovers]

19 hours ago, Hummin said:

Still there is a real topic for some who experience what he describes. 

 

Sensitivity dissappear the older you get

 

What he's complaining about has nothing to do with sensitivity. He can still do it so sensitivity is not the issue.

[thaibeachlovers]

19 hours ago, Hummin said:

To much porn and jerking off can be harming your sex life. 

BS.

[thaibeachlovers]

20 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

This is a particularly important topic for men over the age of 60 as we pay a very heavy price for an orgasm, and the health benefits of cutting down on the frequency of orgasms are enormous. 

I'm no expert but from personal experience IMO that is not true, or just BS. However, IMO once a day is about right, and 3 a day is not a good idea at any age.

I have to do it less, but that's nothing to do with compromising my health. It's just too much like hard work to do it every day.

[thaibeachlovers]

On 11/14/2024 at 9:10 PM, spidermike007 said:

Well in reality an orgasm is very overrated, and as we get older finishing takes a lot more out of us than it used to. So perhaps your body is just telling you something good, perhaps it's telling you that you don't need to finish, you can just enjoy (in a more tantric fashion) and that's good enough. 

In the interests of science I tried your idea last night and bu**er that for a bad idea.