Getting Old: Stoic About It or Endless Whinger?

[Scouse123]

On 11/24/2024 at 3:06 AM, georgegeorgia said:

So how can your wife work and you also get the aged pension??

 

Your not entitled to the old age pension if your partner is working !

 

What are you talking about?

 

In the UK at least, everybody draws old age pension at 67 now for me, when the OP retired it was 65.

[Scouse123]

On 11/24/2024 at 11:28 AM, georgegeorgia said:

I dont want to go off topic but is any other way of taking cannabis other than smoking ?

I'm like you and do  bike riding and cardio , walking up Hills etc ,I'm afraid smoking would damage the lungs over time 

I'm wondering if marijuana cookies are the same 

 

I know you are trolling, but there are the cookies and there are the gummies such as jelly sweets laced with the necessary ingredients and readily available bin Thailand.

 

So No, you don't have to smoke it.

 

How would you smoke a bloody cookie anyway?

[heybuz]

On 11/24/2024 at 3:06 AM, georgegeorgia said:

So how can your wife work and you also get the aged pension??

 

Your not entitled to the old age pension if your partner is working !

Depends which country he is from, you can get the pension although reduced if you're wife works also access to free medical.

[Thingamabob]

IIn the West it is habitual for old people to be shovelled off into homes for the elderly, or to be left alone to fend for themselves. At 83 I am cared for very well by my Thai wife, to whom I've been happily married for 40 years. and her family in Thailand. I take things day by day, and my health is still ok. So far, so good. 

[georgegeorgia]

6 hours ago, Scouse123 said:

 

What are you talking about?

 

In the UK at least, everybody draws old age pension at 67 now for me, when the OP retired it was 65.

No! What are YOU talking about?

I'm replying to Stillkicking post who is in Australia,nothing to do with YOU or the UK

In Australia you can't draw the full  old age pension if your partner is working,it's means tested

I realise your old but take notice

[radiochaser]

On 11/23/2024 at 10:50 PM, MalcolmB said:

When I get old I plan on hiring two full time nurses. They are cheap in Thailand.

One slim petite in her thirties with experience and another straight out of university.

It will be better than wallowing in an old persons home. 
 

I am actually looking forward to it.

How much do you think that will cost?   My wife was paying for a full time nurse to care for her father until he died a few weeks ago.   It was about $1000.00 a month.  

[radiochaser]

On 11/23/2024 at 11:28 PM, georgegeorgia said:

I dont want to go off topic but is any other way of taking cannabis other than smoking ?

I'm like you and do  bike riding and cardio , walking up Hills etc ,I'm afraid smoking would damage the lungs over time 

I'm wondering if marijuana cookies are the same 

Tea.   There was an advertiser of mari jo wana that sold tea.   Came in one of those small cans like those tobacco dipper cans.   

This is their link. 

https://prikpot.com/product/medical-happiness-10g-super-bundle/?ref=2932157-79232a

[radiochaser]

4 minutes ago, radiochaser said:

Tea.   There was an advertiser of mari jo wana that sold tea.   Came in one of those small cans like those tobacco dipper cans.   

This is their link. 

https://prikpot.com/product/medical-happiness-10g-super-bundle/?ref=2932157-79232a

I just checked the link.   It looks like you now have to become a member to see what they are selling I guess.    But there is no charge to be a member.   Register and look for their tea.  If it isn't listed in their products, contact them on Line and ask about their tea.   

[Hummin]

21 minutes ago, radiochaser said:

How much do you think that will cost?   My wife was paying for a full time nurse to care for her father until he died a few weeks ago.   It was about $1000.00 a month.  

About 35k baht a month. She lived with him 24/7 or just on daily basis 6 days a week? 

[radiochaser]

1 hour ago, Hummin said:

About 35k baht a month. She lived with him 24/7 or just on daily basis 6 days a week? 

If you mean the nurse that cared for my wife's father, she was with him 24 hours a day.  Even when he required hospitalization for what ever reason.  Then she stayed in the room with him.  The hospital provided a bed for her to sleep in.   My wife would pay the hospital for a private room. 

[Lacessit]

On 11/24/2024 at 10:09 PM, HugoFastor said:

Bad advice for a chronic condition. Good only for short term use for an acutely painful condition. 

Helps me a lot with chronic back pain, 2-3 times a week. Post your medical degree next time.

[jwest10]

On 11/28/2024 at 1:46 PM, georgegeorgia said:

Geez bro ,you sat there and wrote all that for free ,f me ,you must have a lot of time on ya hands .😳

Or fingers lol

[georgegeorgia]

3 hours ago, radiochaser said:

How much do you think that will cost?   My wife was paying for a full time nurse to care for her father until he died a few weeks ago.   It was about $1000.00 a month.  

Probably The Philippines would be cheaper and nurses are a plenty 

[Hummin]

8 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Probably The Philippines would be cheaper and nurses are a plenty 

Cheaper than 35k baht a month 24/7? 

 

Isn’t that cheap enough for you?

 

Might add phone, internet, food and miscellaneous on top of that, and still cheap

[sidjameson]

1 hour ago, Lacessit said:

Helps me a lot with chronic back pain, 2-3 times a week. Post your medical degree next time.

Do the days you take it also help the days you don't?

Do you mind saying how you take it, dose and the nature of the pain? Many thanks from a fellow sufferer.

[georgegeorgia]

45 minutes ago, Hummin said:

Cheaper than 35k baht a month 24/7? 

 

Isn’t that cheap enough for you?

 

Might add phone, internet, food and miscellaneous on top of that, and still cheap

Cheaper enough for me?

 

Oh I don't need a nurse ,Im not decripit , imagine that , having someone wipe ya bum.

 

 

Would I pay 35k baht ?, probably not ,I would go to the gym instead,and pay a personal trainer 

[MalcolmB]

4 hours ago, radiochaser said:

How much do you think that will cost?   My wife was paying for a full time nurse to care for her father until he died a few weeks ago.   It was about $1000.00 a month.  

Based on that figure I would estimate $2,000 per month. 
$65 dollars per day. 
About $3 per hour

[Prubangboy]

I'm 72, just broke up with my longterm western wife. 'Still in love, but to quote Monty Python: That parrot is dead, dead, dead. Devoid of life. Everything changes.

 

I'm frontloading my travel to take my mind off of it and because I never know when I will get some bad medical advice. I just know that it's more likely than not in the next 5 years.

 

This year, I did Morocco, Oman, Qatar, Ethiopia, Borneo, Brazil, Peru, Nepal, India, Sri Lanka.

 

Next year, I'll slow it down: Brazil again, Bolivia, Argentina, Papua, Mongolia. If I get a suitable love interest, Tahiti. Maybe some obscure South Sea Islands on the way home.

 

I'm here for a good time, not a long time. So call me semi-stoic.

 

 

[Hummin]

36 minutes ago, Prubangboy said:

I'm 72, just broke up with my longterm western wife. 'Still in love, but to quote Monty Python: That parrot is dead, dead, dead. Devoid of life. Everything changes.

 

I'm frontloading my travel to take my mind off of it and because I never know when I will get some bad medical advice. I just know that it's more likely than not in the next 5 years.

 

This year, I did Morocco, Oman, Qatar, Ethiopia, Borneo, Brazil, Peru, Nepal, India, Sri Lanka.

 

Next year, I'll slow it down: Brazil again, Bolivia, Argentina, Papua, Mongolia. If I get a suitable love interest, Tahiti. Maybe some obscure South Sea Islands on the way home.

 

I'm here for a good time, not a long time. So call me semi-stoic.

 

 

Way to go, have a good time! 

 

Respect

[JoseThailand]

I used to think I’d handle getting older with a carefree shrug, like, “No big deal, time marches on.” But as the years pass, I’m noticing that my perspective keeps shifting. At first, I was all about downplaying every stiff joint or random ache, forcing myself to see it as just part of normal wear and tear. Then I realized, “Hey, sometimes it’s perfectly fine to be a little grumpy about it.” Nobody walks around with a grin plastered on their face when they’re limping to the bathroom first thing in the morning.

 

What I’ve found helpful is striking a balance between acknowledging the frustrating parts of aging and appreciating what I still can do. I might complain about my knees hurting after a long walk, but I also recognize that I’m still able to go on that walk in the first place. It’s a bit like focusing on the silver lining without pretending the clouds aren’t there. Some days, I can be super stoic—like, “I’ve got this, no matter what!”—and other days, I’ll let myself whinge a bit because it can be a relief to share how tough it can feel sometimes.

 

One thing that’s helped me is being honest with myself about the changes. There’s this tendency to pretend nothing is different because we don’t want to face the fact that our bodies might not cooperate the way they once did. But sweeping it all under the rug just makes it more jarring when you realize you can’t pop back from a late night like you used to, or that your knees are going to complain if you sit cross-legged on the floor for too long. Acknowledging it and maybe even poking fun at it with friends takes the sting out of it.

 

At the same time, I try not to get stuck in a loop of complaints. It’s easy to let a single creaky morning turn into a full-day moan-fest about how “everything hurts and nothing works like it should.” I see people around me who do that and it’s almost like they’ve accepted a negative narrative about themselves. I’d rather catch myself before it spirals, do some stretches, maybe slap on a heating pad, and get on with my day. If I’m too stoic and never admit anything hurts, I might push it too far and actually make things worse. If I whinge nonstop, I’m just adding stress to the problem. So finding that middle ground helps me cope without feeling like I’m giving in or shutting down.

 

Another realization is that aging isn’t just about how the body feels, but how I think about things. Maybe I don’t have the same energy I once did, but in exchange, I’ve got a better sense of perspective. I’m less worried about whether I’m keeping up with everyone else’s pace, and more focused on enjoying what I’m doing right now. If that means I take an afternoon nap or skip a social event, well, so be it. I’m not missing out if I’m doing something that feels right for me—like resting, recharging, or simply being at peace with my own personal schedule.

 

There’s no single right approach to getting older. Some folks lean more toward keeping their chin up and soldiering on no matter what; others feel better venting every now and then. Personally, I think a little complaining is healthy, as long as it’s balanced with gratitude for the good stuff. And there is a lot of good stuff if I take a moment to notice—like meaningful connections with friends and family, deeper conversations that come with life experience, and even just the comfort of knowing my own routines and preferences.

 

All in all, I’d say I haven’t fully cracked the code on whether it’s better to be stoic or to whinge. Some days it’s one, some days the other, and most days a mix. But instead of fighting it, I try to embrace the changes as part of the journey. After all, getting older might mean complaining about a few more aches, but it also means caring a lot less about stuff that once made me anxious. And if that’s not a fair trade, I don’t know what is.

[FriscoKid]

1 hour ago, JoseThailand said:

I used to think I’d handle getting older with a carefree shrug, like, “No big deal, time marches on.” But as the years pass, I’m noticing that my perspective keeps shifting. At first, I was all about downplaying every stiff joint or random ache, forcing myself to see it as just part of normal wear and tear. Then I realized, “Hey, sometimes it’s perfectly fine to be a little grumpy about it.” Nobody walks around with a grin plastered on their face when they’re limping to the bathroom first thing in the morning.

 

What I’ve found helpful is striking a balance between acknowledging the frustrating parts of aging and appreciating what I still can do. I might complain about my knees hurting after a long walk, but I also recognize that I’m still able to go on that walk in the first place. It’s a bit like focusing on the silver lining without pretending the clouds aren’t there. Some days, I can be super stoic—like, “I’ve got this, no matter what!”—and other days, I’ll let myself whinge a bit because it can be a relief to share how tough it can feel sometimes.

 

One thing that’s helped me is being honest with myself about the changes. There’s this tendency to pretend nothing is different because we don’t want to face the fact that our bodies might not cooperate the way they once did. But sweeping it all under the rug just makes it more jarring when you realize you can’t pop back from a late night like you used to, or that your knees are going to complain if you sit cross-legged on the floor for too long. Acknowledging it and maybe even poking fun at it with friends takes the sting out of it.

 

At the same time, I try not to get stuck in a loop of complaints. It’s easy to let a single creaky morning turn into a full-day moan-fest about how “everything hurts and nothing works like it should.” I see people around me who do that and it’s almost like they’ve accepted a negative narrative about themselves. I’d rather catch myself before it spirals, do some stretches, maybe slap on a heating pad, and get on with my day. If I’m too stoic and never admit anything hurts, I might push it too far and actually make things worse. If I whinge nonstop, I’m just adding stress to the problem. So finding that middle ground helps me cope without feeling like I’m giving in or shutting down.

 

Another realization is that aging isn’t just about how the body feels, but how I think about things. Maybe I don’t have the same energy I once did, but in exchange, I’ve got a better sense of perspective. I’m less worried about whether I’m keeping up with everyone else’s pace, and more focused on enjoying what I’m doing right now. If that means I take an afternoon nap or skip a social event, well, so be it. I’m not missing out if I’m doing something that feels right for me—like resting, recharging, or simply being at peace with my own personal schedule.

 

There’s no single right approach to getting older. Some folks lean more toward keeping their chin up and soldiering on no matter what; others feel better venting every now and then. Personally, I think a little complaining is healthy, as long as it’s balanced with gratitude for the good stuff. And there is a lot of good stuff if I take a moment to notice—like meaningful connections with friends and family, deeper conversations that come with life experience, and even just the comfort of knowing my own routines and preferences.

 

All in all, I’d say I haven’t fully cracked the code on whether it’s better to be stoic or to whinge. Some days it’s one, some days the other, and most days a mix. But instead of fighting it, I try to embrace the changes as part of the journey. After all, getting older might mean complaining about a few more aches, but it also means caring a lot less about stuff that once made me anxious. And if that’s not a fair trade, I don’t know what is.

AI GARBAGE. 

[JoseThailand]

17 minutes ago, FriscoKid said:

AI GARBAGE. 

 

Just like the original post

[still kicking]

On 11/24/2024 at 4:06 AM, georgegeorgia said:

So how can your wife work and you also get the aged pension??

 

Your not entitled to the old age pension if your partner is working !

Here we go again, get educated your pension will not be cancelled but reduced there is a lot you have to learn.

[still kicking]

On 11/29/2024 at 6:08 AM, Scouse123 said:

 

What are you talking about?

 

In the UK at least, everybody draws old age pension at 67 now for me, when the OP retired it was 65.

He is just plain dumb I am surprised he can mop the floor,

[georgegeorgia]

37 minutes ago, still kicking said:

Here we go again, get educated your pension will not be cancelled but reduced there is a lot you have to learn.

Geez mate I know your nearly 80 but that post was over a month ago ,I think you should look into nursing homes 

[still kicking]

21 minutes ago, georgegeorgia said:

Geez mate I know your nearly 80 but that post was over a month ago ,I think you should look into nursing homes 

First of all I am not your maid and second get informed about pension rules. Just to shut you up.

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[georgegeorgia]

So I paid your pension last fortnight out of my tax?

 

Any thanks??

[cdemundo]

"But here’s the question: Is it just a mindset, or do circumstances play a role? "

 

I think the answer is both mindset and circumstances are important.

Mind over matter?,

 Meh, somethings you can't overcome with will power and effort, some you can.

 

What I could do ten years ago I probably can't do now, but I can try.