How much sin sod for 28 yo single mom of 2 Bangkok suburb (Rangsit)

[khunJam]

17 hours ago, thainomad3 said:

How much sin sod for 28 yo single mom of 2 Bangkok suburb (Rangsit)?

She has 2 daughters and agreed to give me a kid. She is requesting 100k baht.  

I am a 22 yo college graduate from a top western university.

She’s 29 with kids and you’re 22. In case no one here has mentioned it…Nothing ZERO 0. If she insists then you can easily go fetch your self another squeeze 

Edited 4 hours ago by khunJam

[Ubonian Canadian]

I'll be 70 in the Spring. My wife just turned 51. We have been married 10 years. We live in east Issan on 4 rai and we built a nice 4 bedroom, 3 bathroom and 2 kitchen house 5 years ago. All of it purchased by me. My wife had 4 kids before I met her. I paid 50,000 baht to her wonderful parents on the wedding day. This money just basically paid for the wedding. As you may have guessed, the family is dirt poor.

My wife's parents both passed in the last 3 years, both at 70. We miss them very much.

My wife's invalid, wheelchair bound, 50 year old sister and her 16 year old son, my wife's 24 year old son, 21 year old daughter, fiancée & grandson and 17 year old son all live with us. It takes all of us to run the farm that we started from scratch. One day it will be theirs.

 

My advice to you young man, is to take your time. There is no need to marry so quickly, you have barely started living. It sounds like this could be your first love, which is easy to do over here.

If she loves you, she will wait. As noted above, you do not just marry her, you marry the whole family. Trust me, you need lots of money. At 22 and recently graduated, I'm sure that's not the case with you unless your folks are prepared to pony up to your every whim.

 

Get a grip, do your research on relationships in Thailand, THERE IS NO RUSH.

 

[Ctkong]

2 hours ago, BangkokReady said:

 

So it has no benefit to the girl?

If I am not misinformed, the sin sot is similar to the Chinese wedding whereby the dowry paid to the bride is firstly for the financial safety net if the girl should ever be left behind by the absconding husband , can go back to her parents.
secondly, for the appreciation of the parents for bringing up the bride. Bride being a virgin is just a bonus. It just happened that more brides from yesteryears were virgins than nowadays. 

 

[DD86]

17 hours ago, thesetat2013 said:

I am a 22 yo college graduate from a top western university.

But I have no brains.

[BangkokReady]

54 minutes ago, Ctkong said:

Bride being a virgin is just a bonus. It just happened that more brides from yesteryears were virgins than nowadays. 

 

It was expected, perhaps even demanded. It wasn't a bonus.

[Spamhead]

11 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

If you attempt to apply even the slightest effort to establish an understanding of Thai culture you will realize that so many elements are dictated by the need to save face, amongst the family, amongst and the villagers, and once you realize that you can figure out all kinds of creative workarounds. In our particular case it was a very simple creative workaround, that allowed the family to save face, and hold their chins high, and it was all good. I trusted the family, we got the money back, there were no issues. If you do not make an attempt to understand Thai culture your entire time here in Thailand will be a battle instead. I enjoy every single day I'm here. 

 

The other aspect to this is that if the woman you want to marry does not understand this, and does not have your back on this, then you know she's the wrong woman and you just move on. 

Sounds more like a way to show everyone what a "Big Man" you are.  

 

Are you so naive to believe the villagers dont know you gave with one hand and took with other. Sounds like you know very little .

[ericthai]

11 hours ago, spidermike007 said:

If you attempt to apply even the slightest effort to establish an understanding of Thai culture you will realize that so many elements are dictated by the need to save face, amongst the family, amongst and the villagers, and once you realize that you can figure out all kinds of creative workarounds. In our particular case it was a very simple creative workaround, that allowed the family to save face, and hold their chins high, and it was all good. I trusted the family, we got the money back, there were no issues. If you do not make an attempt to understand Thai culture your entire time here in Thailand will be a battle instead. I enjoy every single day I'm here. 

 

The other aspect to this is that if the woman you want to marry does not understand this, and does not have your back on this, then you know she's the wrong woman and you just move on. 

Actually it's kind of normal these days to do this. We did it too (15yrs ago) as did several of my friends. Now, 25 years ago not so much, back then I had a few friends pay a decent amount.