Why Do So Many Foreign Men Still Marry Short-Time Girls?

[AustinRacing]

What’s a short time got to do with it. Next. 

[Will B Good]

 

 

I suppose the blindingly obvious answer is some/many/a few of these girls are hot, hot, hot.

 

I look at some and think "how are you not lying on the deck of a 'yacht' in Monaco".

[lanng khao]

On 12/9/2024 at 9:43 AM, BarBoy said:

Because they have small willy's and small wallets and that's the best they can get! 

My mrs told me having a small willy wouldn't be a problem,, i said i know, i just wish you didnt have one .

[topcat333]

On 12/9/2024 at 1:20 AM, MalcolmB said:

Does she have a job or are you paying her to be full time?

Whether she does or does not hardly matters. She is my wife, and yes, she has a job. All I'm saying is simply that relationships are what you make them, however you choose!

[ChaiyaTH]

Every girl is a short time girl until you settle with her, not really see the relevance here. It is also an assumption that most settle with one of the active working short time for bootie call services. In reality it is just as often people working in malls, restaurants or receptionists etc.

The reality is that many more Thai women would love a 'rich' farang but are too shy and not speak a word of English nor have the motivation to really start learning it, let alone to date a farang on her own + to then be judged by all her friends etc.

And there is at the end little difference in that too, you have just as many career ladies looking for the gold performers or being a high maintenance lady etc. Same you can have a bar girl that is happy on a budget but stable monthly 'retirement' or one that still wants more.

 

The drama scenario and stories are almost always when you see someone obvious fat or old with a way too young girl or just too pretty girl, that the obviously will be just constantly getting attention anywhere and everywhere which eventually would lead to cheating, jealousy etc.

[BritManToo]

On 12/9/2024 at 2:20 PM, MalcolmB said:

Does she have a job or are you paying her to be full time?

This just indicates you're on a low budget.

If you had enough money, why would you want her to be at work all the time?

[BritManToo]

On 12/9/2024 at 2:27 PM, MalcolmB said:

Over ten years that is 50,000.

that is many gallons of semen.

Women tend to either have a lot of sex, or have hardly any sex.

Wanting one that doesn't want much sex seems an odd choice to me.

[MalcolmB]

3 hours ago, BritManToo said:

This just indicates you're on a low budget.

If you had enough money, why would you want her to be at work all the time?

Because the sex only lasts 10-30 minutes of the day.
Why would you want them hanging around the other 23.5 hours?

Better things to do. 

[save the frogs]

On 12/8/2024 at 9:48 PM, MalcolmB said:

How big are we talking Bob/Colinniel? 

man, it's been more than 72 hours since we had good ol' fashioned d*ck contest on AN.

bring it on!

 

[ChaiyaTH]

23 hours ago, BritManToo said:

This just indicates you're on a low budget.

If you had enough money, why would you want her to be at work all the time?

Exactly that, anyone within their right mind from the perspective of a westerner earning with a local girlfriend / wife, it rarely would make sense for her to work, specially if there are kids in the game. You kind of fail is a lady is equal that out.

[1FinickyOne]

On 12/9/2024 at 12:43 PM, BritManToo said:

Most western men never learn the art of manipulation, I don't know why as it's a relatively easy skill to master.

They are too busy being right and over-explaining why they are right [and their lady is wrong] 

[Confuscious]

25 years ago, while working in Rayong, a guy from a German company flew over to install the PLC software and get it running.
The guy was working in a famly businness which was very successful and had many jobs on their list.
He was married and had children.
One weekend he wanted to see Pattaya and the bar scene and he asked me to go with him.
We went to Pattaya and went fro one Go-Go bar to the other.
Finally, in Soi 10, he saw a girl dancing and he was lost.
Spend lots of money on drinks for the girl and was talking about marry that gil and take her to Germany.
The bar had the lights outside the Go-Go dancers very dimmed and he could hardly see the girls face.
Altough I was warning him not to get to close with a bargirl, he took the girl to the hotel and slept with her.

A few days later his job was finished and he flew back to Germany.
But he kept in contact with the girl.

A few weeks later, he received a message from the girl that she was pregnant and she wanted him to take responsability.
He flew back to Thailand, arranged a Visa for Germany, and took the girl to Germany.
His wife was not pleased with what he did and filed for a divorce.
A few weeks later, the company was bankrupt; his marriage went to the dogs and he ended in a misery.

Most foreigner who come to Thailand seem to rent a locker where they put their brain in and only think with their dick.
 

[fredwiggy]

On 12/9/2024 at 12:10 PM, spidermike007 said:

Utter desperation. And one also has to take into account that a lot of men who move here from Western countries move here with a tremendous level of emotional vulnerability, after having been dealt many blows by local women back home, and after having been asked to jump through ridiculously high hurdles on a regular basis. 

 

However, the chances of success are lkikey in proportion to how long the woman has been playing the game. It is my contention that it depends on a few factors. The first and most important factor is how many? How many men has she been with? If she is relatively new, and has only gotten with between 20-200 men, more than likely she is still sane, and could possess a good heart. If she has gotten with over 200, the chances decrease. If over 500, harder for her to relate to men as decent human beings. Once you get to the "around the world level", where she has been with over 1,000 men, all bets are off. The heart hardens, and more than likely she is bitter for life. I am sure there are exceptions. But, the risk in getting involved with a highly experienced bar girl, or massage girl, is great. Some short time girls who are really hot and young will get with three or four guys a day, 6 days a week, so run the numbers we are talking about upwards of 5,000 plus. 

 

With the exception of the men who are clever enough to hire a private detective to look into her background, and pay some real money to do it right, there is no way to know. They all have stories. And most of the stories are ones that they know we want to hear. So many times I have heard friends say, "Oh no, she is new. She has only been working at the bar two weeks. I was her first customer. She worked in a factory before that. I could tell how innocent she was'. Yeah right!

Having the amount of partners you speak of doesn't coincide with sanity. Most women , meaning the average woman, only has 3-7 in a lifetime. Having as many as you say shows how a woman sees a man. That he's not special but just another number. A prostitutes heart is already hardened by the time she is either forced, coerced or manipulated into the trade. Even those that are in it because of past familiar abuse and or neglect have had an uphill battle in their minds all along. This doesn't factor into a normal adult one on one relationship in any way.

 

Yes, of course we hear stories of how one married a bar girl that's been with multitudes and it's all fine, but we don't live with them and see the real picture of what goes on day to day. A prostitute looks at men as a means to get by to the next day, and not as a long term, emotional connection. This is about money. Yes, there are those that think all women are in the game for money, but it's to be provided for and it's not the same as doing things because you're getting cash. And a lot of women make their own money and contribute to the family pool, as a team.

 

The amount of marriages that fail is high, mainly because people lack the ability to trust and give themselves up 100% to their partner, and having their partner do the same. Also because one or the other, or both, are tainted with baggage from their childhoods, and can't relate to their partner as an adult should. No guarantees in any marriage unless both are willing to make sacrifices and understand that things do go wrong in all marriages. The difference between a normal marriage and one with a bar girl are huge, It all starts at home. How they were treated at home, especially by their dads. If you start a relationship looking at what you can get from the other, it's already doomed to fail.

[fredwiggy]

On 12/9/2024 at 12:43 PM, BritManToo said:

3 items here,

 

1. my past job was to manipulate the British population, so these girls have nothing on me (skill wise).

 

2. send them to high school then university, it doesn't cost much and gives them something to do while they adapt to their new life.

 

3. never argue with anyone over anything at anytime, it's totally pointless behaviour, go for a walk, or a drink, or listen to music with headphones.

 

Most western men never learn the art of manipulation, I don't know why as it's a relatively easy skill to master.

Manipulation is as tool used by most, but when it's used all the time, there are reasons for it..............While most people occasionally engage in manipulative behavior, a chronic pattern of manipulation can be a symptom of an underlying mental health condition...

Personality disorders

Manipulation is common in people with personality disorders like borderline personality disorder (BPD) and narcissistic personality disorder (NPD). People with BPD may use manipulation to meet emotional needs or get validation, while people with NPD may use it to keep partners in relationships. 

Other mental health conditions

Manipulation can also be a symptom of other mental health conditions, such as substance use disorders and bipolar disorder. 

History of abuse

Experiencing abuse can make someone feel unsafe communicating their needs directly, which can lead to manipulative behaviors. Manipulation is a dishonest form of social influence that's used to get someone to do what you want. Some tactics that manipulators use include:...Isolation: Isolating you from friends and family to separate you from people who might notice the manipulation . Playing the victim: Using martyrdom to guilt-trip you Devaluing and gaslighting: Making you feel guilty or confused to make you doubt yourself .Fear or violence: Threatening to leave you, hurt you, or hurt themselves to keep you under their control 

 

 

 

 

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