I probably should have paid the money.

[MalcolmB]

1 hour ago, 4MyEgo said:

Spend up big MalcolmB, your purgative, however, you would have been the laughing stock, weak in my opinion

It is only an ice cream.

Didnt you buy a bargirl a house and a car?

[1FinickyOne]

23 hours ago, scorecard said:

I wouldn't put my son in that situation. 

You are absolutely correct... the big picture is that the party is ruined - his birthday party - - and only his and he will have that memory forever... 

 

In a very different circumstance, my father acted poorly and ruined my 7 year old birthday party - - and to this day, I never want my birthday to be acknowledged... 

Every year, though my father is long gone, I relive his bad behavior and the repercussions on my life... 

[Packer]

8 hours ago, RamblingOn said:

When in Rome do as the Romans!!!!

 

Remove 'as'. 😁

[NanLaew]

21 hours ago, MalcolmB said:

Big hole in that story.

At KFC you line up and order before the food comes, they don’t bring a bill.

About as factual as this swenswens April fools story that did bring out the kii niaow farangs of this forum. 
 

Good try

 

That's right. You weren't there about 15 years ago in Khon Kaen.

[FritsSikkink]

On 4/2/2025 at 12:33 PM, Packer said:

But sometimes Thais make me want to pull out my hair.

 

It was my son's 11th birthday. We organized an ice cream cake at Swensen's at the shopping mall his friends and him hangout at every Saturday. He chose a 3lb chocolate ice cream cake, and arranged with his friends to meet him here at the specified time. More than enough for the 7 or 8 of his friends that showed up. First came one of their mothers, a loud busybody that never shuts up, straight away she was into dragging my son to the fridge to go through all the different cakes even though he had already chosen it. Then going through the entire menu with him even though he had already chosen it. Every one sits down, the plates and glasses of water arrive, everyone is chatting and laughing. The busybody comes down with the menus and is in everyone's face going through every page getting them to order sundae's etc. There's a big ice cream cake coming, why not just sit down and shut up. She's making them choose then double choose then triple choose pointing out extras. Everyone's settled and laughing and joking and then she declares we're going to move tables to the slightly wider table behind. Everyone has their bags and toys and phones and plates and glasses of water out on the table already, most don't even hear her because they're in the zone. She forces everyone up to move to the other table. The sundaes she made everyone order even though the big cake was ordered and coming started arriving and she was up trying to organize who gets what and what extras do they they want, maybe add this, maybe add that why not get this too etc just sit down and shut up. Each kid gets a big slice of the 3lb cake and loves it, none can finish the slice of cake and their sundae, of course. 

 

It came to the end and I got up to pay and told the waitress to bill me for the only the cake. Of course this simple request almost melted the minds, brains and computer system in the store and took 10 minutes and numerous managers and staff to figure out. 

 

I paid the 800 baht for the cake and left, leaving the rest of the 1,700 baht bill for the busybody motormouth to take care of. Maybe next time she'll sit down and shut up and let everybody enjoy their own time. 

 

It's now going round on group chat's that my son's father is tight and stingy and not good. 

 

 

Thailand. 

Why did you act like a door mat during the whole event?

[pomchop]

A very good Thai phrase to know and use is :  YAK BIN....means seperate checks...When seperate bins show up in front of each person some of them might get the message that you order it, you pay for it.

 

Also comes in handy with falangs who want to order extra expensive food and beverages and then divide the bill evenly.

[MartinL]

15 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

Spend up big MalcolmB, your purgative ... 

Good choice of last word there! Freudian slip?

 

I'm sure we know what you meant, though.

[Ctkong]

900 tb is a small price to pay for not losing face for both the parent and his son as rumors travel far and wide in Thailand regardless true or not. 

[richard_smith237]

Just now, Ctkong said:

900 tb is a small price to pay for not losing face for both the parent and his son as rumors travel far and wide in Thailand regardless true or not. 

 

Its not about the money - and In the Ops shoes, I would hope the rumours do travel far and wide...  People respect a firm hand here... and the Op showed that.

 

I don't see any loss of face on his part - I didn't lose is temper, get angry or upset - he just put a busy-body in line, someone who'd stepped outside of her responsibility.

 

Perhaps one of the other Mums should have told her to calm down and take a step back - but it appears this woman was behaving without any respect or regard for the Op... he has no reason to try and 'maintain face' in the face of such behavior.

 

No face lost - respect earned by other others around...     That might night be the case, but whenever I've experienced similar behavior, thats what I have witnessed.

 

 

 

 

[Ctkong]

As some poster mentioned. There are better ways to resolve this situation. You cannot damage control the power of rumors especially in a close knit community . Spare a thought for your spouse and son . It does not help to expound the notion of a tight fisted farang for either parties. A 900tb is a small price to pay for the privilege.

[Ctkong]

20 hours ago, 1FinickyOne said:

You are absolutely correct... the big picture is that the party is ruined - his birthday party - - and only his and he will have that memory forever... 

 

In a very different circumstance, my father acted poorly and ruined my 7 year old birthday party - - and to this day, I never want my birthday to be acknowledged... 

Every year, though my father is long gone, I relive his bad behavior and the repercussions on my life... 

long after the party is gone, the memories lingers forever. That is my point . 

[Ctkong]

22 hours ago, 4MyEgo said:

 

It appears this all went over your head.

 

I could have easily paid, however I appreciate Packers stance, in other words, if you allow others to take control, your weak, nothing to do with $'s.

 

Spend up big MalcolmB, your purgative, however, you would have been the laughing stock, weak in my opinion, what Packer did was show that he wasn't going to allow some biatch to take control of HIS son's birthday party and if she wanted to be a show pony, then she can pay for it, otherwise why would she be stabbing him in the back. 

The sole casualty I see here is his son . Children see, children heard and children form their own conclusion. Not always correct but there lies the problem. 

[Packer]

1 hour ago, Ctkong said:

Children see, children heard

 

Actually all the children were having fun in the private room and didn't see or hear anything.

 

Not that there was anything to see or hear anyway, other than the dad and busybody politely paying the bills at the cash register at the other side of the restaurant, the dad with a big happy smile, the busybody with that Thai siht-eating grin cum grimace, followed by smiley wais all round. 🙂