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Do you know your wife/girlfriends body count?

Do you know your wife/girlfriends body count? 93 members have voted

  1. 1. Do you know your wife/girlfriends body count?

    • Yes
      65%
      40
    • No I am not comfortable asking her
      11%
      7
    • No I am scared it will be high and I don’t want to know. It intimidates me.
      3%
      2
    • No, because she has had so many she can not remember
      8%
      5
    • No, she wouldn’t tell me
      4%
      3
    • No, she told me but I don’t believe her
      6%
      4

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18 minutes ago, short-Timer said:


Why not let this go already Fred? This has been going on for nearly 10 hours. You are being trolled by some of the most toxic, unintelligent and inflammatory people on the site. You're can't win against a mob dedicated to crushing you and yet you're slurping up the bait like it's your last supper. Save your dignity and put them all on ignore. Done!

But they can't crush me as I see it as a game. I know myself and no one can tell me I'm doing wrong but me. I go along as the truth eventually gets to anyone, and then they'll be seen as outcasts by everyone. You can't hide insanity for long. A method to my madness is the best way to put it, but I'll always be civil if they're civil to me.

 

I answer questions honestly as I've done no wrong. They can think all they want but they don't know me. I was there in my life, they weren't. This is what I learned decades ago in psychology reading. Some people are really disturbed but some are helpless and hide their low self esteem with attacks on others. It all comes out eventually. A narcissist doesn't really change but some can do better if they recognize their own self destruction. Some take their anger out on anyone but they're really victims of other's abuse. I see this in women I've dated .

 

Raised by a narcissist they think they're either no good or better than everyone. A depressed woman either thinks she's not good enough or isolates herself from the one she needs the most. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. You and many others here see people as they really are. I see them as victims. Some you can talk to and some you leave. It's sad because they're all hurting inside if they feel the need to attack people they disagree with. Calling them out sometimes has them stop. Sometimes they don't.

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    I think it's irrelevant to our life together. Generally it's INCELs that fantasize about virgins. I had some when I was younger, nothing memorable about any of them.

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  • Been there, done that - I'd rather have a 30 year old who has been around.  

15 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Do you think your record of 90 failures is a good guide to it? Seems to me your personalities never matched.

Harris, I've told you this many times and you still either dismiss anything I say or have a very bad memory, maybe from age. Relationships that end aren't failures, as they leave you open for something better. That can take years. How many people do you know that are really happy? A lot less than you think, as people hide their sorrows thinking others will judge or walk away as friends. Many lie when they're being abused, cheated on or controlled, as they don't want to appear weak.

 

People need friends and don't want to lose any good ones because of what they're going through at home. No one knows what's going on in anyone's homes besides those who live there. My ":failures" led to 6 children being born, meaning my marriages. The others just weren't right for me, or them, so we parted, just like everyone else does. Did you marry the first girl you dated? Unless you did, every relationship you've ever had is a failure in your thinking. Most women will never have a real love in their lives. Most. And the same for decent men. You give up, you lose.

3 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Harris, I've told you this many times and you still either dismiss anything I say or have a very bad memory, maybe from age. Relationships that end aren't failures, as they leave you open for something better. That can take years. How many people do you know that are really happy? A lot less than you think, as people hide their sorrows thinking others will judge or walk away as friends. Many lie when they're being abused, cheated on or controlled, as they don't want to appear weak.

 

People need friends and don't want to lose any good ones because of what they're going through at home. No one knows what's going on in anyone's homes besides those who live there. My ":failures" led to 6 children being born, meaning my marriages. The others just weren't right for me, or them, so we parted, just like everyone else does. Did you marry the first girl you dated? Unless you did, every relationship you've ever had is a failure in your thinking. Most women will never have a real love in their lives. Most. 

If a relationship doesnt last 12 months thats a failure. Wrong profile. 

15 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

But they can't crush me as I see it as a game. I know myself and no one can tell me I'm doing wrong but me. I go along as the truth eventually gets to anyone, and then they'll be seen as outcasts by everyone. You can't hide insanity for long. A method to my madness is the best way to put it, but I'll always be civil if they're civil to me.

 

I answer questions honestly as I've done no wrong. They can think all they want but they don't know me. I was there in my life, they weren't. This is what I learned decades ago in psychology reading. Some people are really disturbed but some are helpless and hide their low self esteem with attacks on others. It all comes out eventually. A narcissist doesn't really change but some can do better if they recognize their own self destruction. Some take their anger out on anyone but they're really victims of other's abuse. I see this in women I've dated .

 

Raised by a narcissist they think they're either no good or better than everyone. A depressed woman either thinks she's not good enough or isolates herself from the one she needs the most. I give everyone the benefit of the doubt. You and many others here see people as they really are. I see them as victims. Some you can talk to and some you leave. It's sad because they're all hurting inside if they feel the need to attack people they disagree with. Calling them out sometimes has them stop. Sometimes they don't.


Still, you have been going at this non-stop for 10 hours. What are you gaining from it? Zero because there is nothing to be gained. It's all a huge waste of time. I would never do it. Especially to spend that much time with people who dislike you and who find zero merit in anything you have to say. If you want to show that you are better, smarter, faster and stronger, you walk away and let them shout on deaf ears and into the void. That's what winning looks like. 👍🏼 🥇 🏆 

Just now, Harrisfan said:

If a relationship doesnt last 12 months thats a failure. Wrong profile. 

If a relationship doesn't last, it leaves them open for more. if you picked a bad partner, they'll get theirs eventually. When you leave someone that's bad, the next one could be the one you've waited for all your life.Most relationships end, but not always because they failed. It's because they weren't meant to be together. Bad people should be with bad people, good with good, but seeing what's been happening in the world since time began, and that the breakdown of the family is the failing of society, most relationships were doomed from the start. Bad end up with good, and that's a waste of the good's time, as the bad isn't going to change, especially if they're over 30. 

Just now, fredwiggy said:

If a relationship doesn't last, it leaves them open for more. if you picked a bad partner, they'll get theirs eventually. When you leave someone that's bad, the next one could be the one you've waited for all your life.Most relationships end, but not always because they failed. It's because they weren't meant to be together. Bad people should be with bad people, good with good, but seeing what's been happening in the world since time began, and that the breakdown of the family is the failing of society, most relationships were doomed from the start. Bad end up with good, and that's a waste of the good's time, as the bad isn't going to change, especially if they're over 30. 

So why did you pick 80+ bad people? 

 

On 7/14/2025 at 9:54 AM, MalcolmB said:

In many cultures in the world it is very important that if settling down with a woman and raising a family that the woman is pure, a virgin.


In other cultures, such as western culture the women sleep around a lot before marriage and men have been brain washed into believing that this is perfectly normal and if we object we will be accused of “slut shaming” 

 

In Thailand it is more of a mixed bag with a lot of girls having many partners and starting sleeping around the village at a very young age, getting pregnant in their teens and moving into sex work.

Others are good girls and have a lot of self respect. 
 

Personally I think we have a right to know how many partners of woman has had before committing to marriage which is a significant financial burden for most, especially if it goes wrong.

 

Many studies have shown that the fewer sexual partners a woman has the more unlikely she will ask for a divorce. So it is an important financial consideration for those signing marriage documents.

What utter nonsense.

Thai women have less sexual encounters than Wester woman.

i bet you don’t have a partner with that attitude, unless a peasant girl from the village you talk about.

10 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

So why did you pick 80+ bad people? 

 

Try and keep up. Look back at what I said. I never said any but a few were not good. The rest were fine women, just not a good match. In fact, none of my wives were a good match, besides the children that were created, so that makes it not a total failure, and even a success, at least for the time that went into creating those kids. Maybe the next woman I meet after I move back home will be the one I've waited for, as there won't be any children involved but two grown adults to share lives together. 

14 minutes ago, fredwiggy said:

Try and keep up. Look back at what I said. I never said any but a few were not good. The rest were fine women, just not a good match. In fact, none of my wives were a good match, besides the children that were created, so that makes it not a total failure, and even a success, at least for the time that went into creating those kids. Maybe the next woman I meet after I move back home will be the one I've waited for, as there won't be any children involved but two grown adults to share lives together. 

See you don't understand personality profiling. 80 failures is a lot. You need a deep thinking serious type. Rare amongst women.

There's good reason why none of them were a good match....

Erm...if she's a 'grown adult' that'll be ONE grown adult and one pedant.

So you are just going to dump your wonderful Thai girlfriend?

Im just wondering whose wife I banged in the old days.

48 minutes ago, Yagoda said:

Im just wondering whose wife I banged in the old days.

 

i know plenty of thai girls i slept with went on to marry, but then i know the same about girls back home i slept with too, what's the difference?

8 minutes ago, it is what it is said:

 

i know plenty of thai girls i slept with went on to marry, but then i know the same about girls back home i slept with too, what's the difference?

There is none, why?

Do you know your wife/girlfriends body count?

and if she asked you the same question ...   would you be truthful ?

 

try living in the present  ..  you can't change history !

 

6 hours ago, SMIAI said:

There's good reason why none of them were a good match....

Yes, and if you read rather than skimmed, you would see that future plans didn't coincide and we parted as friends. Don't stick your ignorance into my life, thinking I'm the bad guy here. I treated every one of them well, we got along well, and many of them regretted leaving me, getting into abusive relationships with bad boys they ended up running from. When people do like you act this way, a lot of the time they're hiding their own bad treatment of women and feel a need to put that anger elsewhere, a lot of the times on people they don't know they are jealous of, because they can't fathom how anyone can be better than they are, which is yet another narcissist trait. Better to stay away 5username man.

6 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

See you don't understand personality profiling. 80 failures is a lot. You need a deep thinking serious type. Rare amongst women.

Can you possibly reply on one post in this forum without assuming? That does show insecurity and jealousy, maybe because you failed at your 5 relationships? Read without skimming, so you can see where I've said many times a relationship ending doesn't mean a failure, but a release for both to find a more suitable match. Try and understand this, so you don't repeat it again and again. Don't assume what you think I don't understand, nor anything else about anyone here, because again, you don't know anyone here personally.

8 hours ago, Harrisfan said:

If a relationship doesnt last 12 months thats a failure. Wrong profile. 

Is it still a failure if it only lasts 1hr or 1 night?

1 hour ago, fredwiggy said:

Can you possibly reply on one post in this forum without assuming? That does show insecurity and jealousy, maybe because you failed at your 5 relationships? Read without skimming, so you can see where I've said many times a relationship ending doesn't mean a failure, but a release for both to find a more suitable match. Try and understand this, so you don't repeat it again and again. Don't assume what you think I don't understand, nor anything else about anyone here, because again, you don't know anyone here personally.

You failed 90 times. Nobody else has. Imagine a person has 90 car crashes then applies for a job as an instructor. That's like you giving advice on relationships. That's what we don't understand. Most have 3 to 10 failed relationships.

8 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Is it still a failure if it only lasts 1hr or 1 night?

Thats a 1 night stand not a relationship

3 minutes ago, Harrisfan said:

Thats a 1 night stand not a relationship

When do you think it becomes a relationship?

After 6 months dating with no sex?

After 1 month with frequent sex?

How about messaging by internet for 2 years never meeting?

6 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

When do you think it becomes a relationship?

After 6 months dating with no sex?

After 1 month with frequent sex?

How about messaging by internet for 2 years never meeting?

1 month incl sex 5 times. Messaging is a friendship.

fred, that is quite the word salad. 😊

You wrote that hopefully you would find that wonderful woman for whom you've been waiting, when you return to the U.S.A.

I then asked what happened to your current 'girlfriend'? Why are you writing about meeting someone in the USA if you claim to have someone here?

Is it that the woman here isn't really your partner at all, that it's just a 'relationship' of convenience?

 

@Harrisfan is right. 100 females and yet, you still have no one other than a paid for 'relationship'. You are at least 68 years old. When is it going to happen for you? You need to take a look at yourself. Stop blaming everyone else.

2 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

fred, that is quite the word salad. 😊

You wrote that hopefully you would find that wonderful woman for whom you've been waiting, when you return to the U.S.A.

I then asked what happened to your current 'girlfriend'? Why are you writing about meeting someone in the USA if you claim to have someone here?

Is it that the woman here isn't really your partner at all, that it's just a 'relationship' of convenience?

 

@Harrisfan is right. 100 females and yet, you still have no one other than a paid for 'relationship'. You are at least 68 years old. When is it going to happen for you? You need to take a look at yourself. Stop blaming everyone else.

"The best predictor of the future behaviour is past behaviour"

 

Dr Phil

 

 

"Future plans didn't coincide" 😊 fred....when a woman respects you, she will follow you anywhere. Obviously, they didn't want to be a part of your future plans.

You make more excuses than ANYONE else I have seen on this forum. Constantly wriggling and twisting and trying to place the blame on everyone else but yourself.

What amazes me, is that you really seem unable to see it....or at least admit it. The fact that you are unable to do so, means that you will not ever be able to improve.

You can read all the books that you like and recite over and over again what you read, but you won't be able to change you....and that is the crux of the matter. 

You've got it wrong 100 times. Books cannot change a dislikeable character. You have to practice with people. You don't seem to be making much progress.

 

On 7/14/2025 at 10:33 AM, simple1 said:

I have had many short term sexual encounters as well as longer term. No interest to me how many sexual relations my wife had prior to us getting together, never asked.

True, anything involving your wife or girlfriend before they met you is none of your business.

46 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

fred, that is quite the word salad. 😊

You wrote that hopefully you would find that wonderful woman for whom you've been waiting, when you return to the U.S.A.

I then asked what happened to your current 'girlfriend'? Why are you writing about meeting someone in the USA if you claim to have someone here?

Is it that the woman here isn't really your partner at all, that it's just a 'relationship' of convenience?

 

@Harrisfan is right. 100 females and yet, you still have no one other than a paid for 'relationship'. You are at least 68 years old. When is it going to happen for you? You need to take a look at yourself. Stop blaming everyone else.

 

 

Fred is OK..............................he has religion.

20 minutes ago, SMIAI said:

"Future plans didn't coincide" 😊 fred....when a woman respects you, she will follow you anywhere. Obviously, they didn't want to be a part of your future plans.

You make more excuses than ANYONE else I have seen on this forum. Constantly wriggling and twisting and trying to place the blame on everyone else but yourself.

What amazes me, is that you really seem unable to see it....or at least admit it. The fact that you are unable to do so, means that you will not ever be able to improve.

You can read all the books that you like and recite over and over again what you read, but you won't be able to change you....and that is the crux of the matter. 

You've got it wrong 100 times. Books cannot change a dislikeable character. You have to practice with people. You don't seem to be making much progress.

 

His lifestyle is his business. I just don't get why he gives out advice. He's no Dr Phil. Reading books in the 90s doesn't make you an expert. Stay married for 40 years then you are.

Three guesses for who wrote this:

 

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The opposite of an empath is a narcissist. Someone who believes they are always right, when in reality they are usually wrong, hiding behind a facade of superiority when in reality they have very low self esteem, but have to put others down to feel better.

😊

Now...who here thinks they are always right..... 🤔

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