Are Farangs Who Marriages Failed Lucky?

[ColPyat]

So communication is the responsibilities of men only?

No need to get impatient CP, it is true I didn't read. I didn't read the entire thread which I have difficulties in understand what the whole point is about with this thread. I only posted in response to some parts of the posts here which I want to clarify.

Forgive my reading skills.

No.

It is the primary responsibility of the higher educated partner in such lopsided relationships, which in most of the cases here is the man. As much a mystery Thai culture is for western men - for Thai women who had not the advantages our systems gave us, our way of life is far more difficult for them to understand.

If we don't understand their way of life first, it will be very difficult for them to understand us. And how can we understand them, when we don't understand their cultural background?

[meemiathai]

What is your view on this particular case of a 17 year old girl introduced by her dad to a 58 year old wealthy westerner. Is that perfectly alright, or is there some slight problem? Are you able to make a moral judgment in such a case, or do you evade it? Doesn't this scenario make you feel uncomfortable as well?

If the girl does not want it, that is absolutely not alright for me! If the father forces her to do so, it is disgusting for me!

However, if the girl likes the idea, it would be perfectly ok for me.

...and in the real world things are unfortunately rarely that clearcut. Family pressures and perverted tradition of filial duty here puts this into a real greyzone where such easy judgments are rarely applicable. That, and that a bloke from a society where such is not acceptable takes advantage of such a greyzone case because he can, makes me very uncomfortable.

How do we deal with it then?

By criticizing every older person with a younger wife? Is that the way to handle it? Will absolute fairness ever really exist in this world? As I asked, what if this 58 year old wealthy farang was substituted by a 21 year-old fat and ugly and stupid but wealthy thai guy who comes from a powerful family? Would it be less of a concern to you due to his age?

Edited August 24, 2007 by meemiathai

[ColPyat]

By criticizing every older person with a younger wife? Is that the way to handle it? Will absolute fairness ever really exist in this world? As I asked, what if this 58 year old wealthy farang was substituted by a 21 year-old fat and ugly and stupid but wealthy thai guy who comes from a powerful family? Would it be less of a concern to you due to his age?

Well, this thread doesn't really deal with such a scenario, that is a different topic.

But trying not to crop out here, it depends, if family pressure forces such a girl into a relationship she only commits to out of duty, it indeed makes me feel uncomfortable. But the similar age and shared language/culture between the too partners does take away some factors from the scenarios debated here - no shared language/culture/socio-economic background, and age gap.

[meemiathai]

So communication is the responsibilities of men only?

No need to get impatient CP, it is true I didn't read. I didn't read the entire thread which I have difficulties in understand what the whole point is about with this thread. I only posted in response to some parts of the posts here which I want to clarify.

Forgive my reading skills.

No.

It is the primary responsibility of the higher educated partner in such lopsided relationships, which in most of the cases here is the man. As much a mystery Thai culture is for western men - for Thai women who had not the advantages our systems gave us, our way of life is far more difficult for them to understand.

If we don't understand their way of life first, it will be very difficult for them to understand us. And how can we understand them, when we don't understand their cultural background?

I guess maybe we are just arguing on different lines. I don't disagree with your post. (I worked very hard to communicate with my wife comparing with the couples I see here in HK.) But what you have said has got nothing to do with age. And what I am trying to argue is we should not discriminate aged people.

[ColPyat]

Yes yes yes, never mind all that, where can we find this Father with the 17 year old he is trying to get rid of.

Anyway, dont forget to nip over and say Hi if you spot in me in MBK

Sorry, thanks, but no thanks - but middle aged Farang men (or men in general) are not really my thing. You might be better off in Soi Twilight for what you're looking for.

[meemiathai]

By criticizing every older person with a younger wife? Is that the way to handle it? Will absolute fairness ever really exist in this world? As I asked, what if this 58 year old wealthy farang was substituted by a 21 year-old fat and ugly and stupid but wealthy thai guy who comes from a powerful family? Would it be less of a concern to you due to his age?

Well, this thread doesn't really deal with such a scenario, that is a different topic.

But trying not to crop out here, it depends, if family pressure forces such a girl into a relationship she only commits to out of duty, it indeed makes me feel uncomfortable. But the similar age and shared language/culture between the too partners does take away some factors from the scenarios debated here - no shared language/culture/socio-economic background, and age gap.

This reply tells me then you have a problem with age. Am I right to say that? You simply have prejudice here towards aged people?

We will all turn old one day, won't we?

BTW, just because the guy is thai does not guarantee what you said "communication". Is it not simple to understand?

[ColPyat]

We will all turn old one day, won't we?

Yes, and i do honestly hope that i will behave like my role models, and not start looking for a girl that could be my grand daughter to take as my wife so i can have the illusion to still be young.

[Cobalt60]

Yes yes yes, never mind all that, where can we find this Father with the 17 year old he is trying to get rid of.

Anyway, dont forget to nip over and say Hi if you spot in me in MBK

Sorry, thanks, but no thanks - but middle aged Farang men (or men in general) are not really my thing. You might be better off in Soi Twilight for what you're looking for.

Ahh. I thought you may like to have a chat with me and her about mixed race relationships and the age gap etc...you wont be able to miss me, I am over 50, over 6 ft and bit over weight, I smell and dont shave, I am usually drunk, she is doting and serving my every whim, 29 (yes a bit bloody old, I know) with her hand in my back pocket trying to get my wallet out without me noticing. Anyway, like I said do pop over and say Hi

[ColPyat]

Ahh. I thought you may like to have a chat with me and her about mixed race relationships and the age gap etc...you wont be able to miss me, I am over 50, over 6 ft and bit over weight, I smell and dont shave, I am usually drunk, she is doting and serving my every whim, 29 (yes a bit bloody old, I know) with her hand in my back pocket trying to get my wallet out without me noticing. Anyway, like I said do pop over and say Hi

Well, as i said, i don't fancy smelly, overweight and elderly blokes. I don't fancy blokes at all.

I am sure though that if you put your measurements up on some fringe fantasy website you might find what you are looking for.

[uptou]

No.

It is the primary responsibility of the higher educated partner in such lopsided relationships, which in most of the cases here is the man. As much a mystery Thai culture is for western men - for Thai women who had not the advantages our systems gave us, our way of life is far more difficult for them to understand.

If we don't understand their way of life first, it will be very difficult for them to understand us. And how can we understand them, when we don't understand their cultural background?

is this set in stone somewhere?

my wife is karen,& 13 years younger than i.she knows nothing about elvis,adolf hitler,brad pitt or madonna.she had hardly been out of her village when we got together.she isnt fluent in english,but i make the effort with simplified english.we laugh at the same things & having known her quite awile before we got together,2 years infact,i know her like i know close family members.to be honest shes no different than most english girls ive known,just not as selfish.

Edited August 24, 2007 by uptou

[meemiathai]

We will all turn old one day, won't we?

Yes, and i do honestly hope that i will behave like my role models, and not start looking for a girl that could be my grand daughter to take as my wife so i can have the illusion to still be young.

Although I am in a hurry to go out tonight to Wanchai to look for some 16 year-olds, I cannot resist to still post.

What if a young girl fancies you? Well maybe it won't happen, I don't know what you look like. Let's say what if a very young girl fancies me then when I was 57? Why does this age thing bother you so much?

[buffcoat]

Still bemused that sexual attraction is perceived to be the dominant (only?) reason for a couple to exist (married or not) by so many who post on here.

If that is your only motive for marriage the result will be misery,it matters not if you are twenty years mismatched or two days.

Also I am surprised that an underlying assumption exists that sexual desire and age are directly related.

Libido mismatch is not age related by some immutable law.

Some mismatched couples exist for the two week holiday,some for years,some are straight financial relationships,some are not.

To try and suggest all couples fit into one description is absurd and immature.

To maintain you cannot love someone 20 years different in age is pathetic and in my opinion demonstrates an immature understanding of human nature which is too bound up with physical appearance (which is fleeting).

If you maintain that you are disguted by same sex couples you are a homophobe,by inter-racial couples you are a rascist,by age ....you can say what you like.

Wether we are aware of it or not we are conditioned by our society to regard certain things as ok and some as not and that definition of ok will vary by society and by the years.

Current western views hold that 'love' in a relationship is everything and money does not matter.....clearly a result of living in a very wealthy society where people do not have a genuine need to worry about their existence.Turn back the clock 100 years,no welfare,healthcare etc and the wealth of the husband,can he afford a wife and family etc.was a major consideration,not his age.

Yes the majority of couples are within 5 years of each other...for the simple reason most potential mates in your social group will be of a similar age,but the mere fact that the majority fall into one group does not invalidate the choices made by others.

If you don't feel comfortable with an age mismatch then don't go that way,just don't assume that what is right/wrong for you must therefore be right/wrong for everyone else.

TV is a great place.On this thread young Thai women are being portrayed as the helpless victims of older wicked Farang men but on other threads they become cunning goldiggers out to fleece any gullible Farang who falls into their calculating clutches!

[ColPyat]

We will all turn old one day, won't we?

Yes, and i do honestly hope that i will behave like my role models, and not start looking for a girl that could be my grand daughter to take as my wife so i can have the illusion to still be young.

Although I am in a hurry to go out tonight to Wanchai to look for some 16 year-olds, I cannot resist to still post.

What if a young girl fancies you? Well maybe it won't happen, I don't know what you look like. Let's say what if a very young girl fancies me then when I was 57? Why does this age thing bother you so much?

She can fancy me as much as she wants - but i am in control of my libido and not my libido of me.

And please, the "age thing" bothers me less than you make it out to be - it is a combination of factors. I have outlined them in my many posts in this thread. maybe you should read the thread before making assumptions.

[a2396]

For the "straight & narrows" in the crowd, some "Good Christian" churches frown on unions with major age differences. One told me their "guideline" was no more than 5 years difference. So, if you are looking for a ticket to heaven, best you conform. Otherwise, get out of Dodge & pick up your coal shovel on the way.

Saved the day a2396. Mrs Meom is exactly 5 years older than me and the Mia is exactly 5 years younger than me. Do I get two tickets

Good show. See ya there, as soon as I sell my pitchfork. Make sure you follow all the other guidelines & requirements. I'd hate to see you disqualified over a minor infraction, such as intimate relations of a physical nature, which have not been duly sactioned. This "Mia" thing is a bit troubling. I hope that is the name of your housekeeper or something.

[ColPyat]

Still bemused that sexual attraction is perceived to be the dominant (only?) reason for a couple to exist (married or not) by so many who post on here.

If that is your only motive for marriage the result will be misery,it matters not if you are twenty years mismatched or two days.

Also I am surprised that an underlying assumption exists that sexual desire and age are directly related.

Libido mismatch is not age related by some immutable law.

Some mismatched couples exist for the two week holiday,some for years,some are straight financial relationships,some are not.

To try and suggest all couples fit into one description is absurd and immature.

To maintain you cannot love someone 20 years different in age is pathetic and in my opinion demonstrates an immature understanding of human nature which is too bound up with physical appearance (which is fleeting).

If you maintain that you are disguted by same sex couples you are a homophobe,by inter-racial couples you are a rascist,by age ....you can say what you like.

Wether we are aware of it or not we are conditioned by our society to regard certain things as ok and some as not and that definition of ok will vary by society and by the years.

Current western views hold that 'love' in a relationship is everything and money does not matter.....clearly a result of living in a very wealthy society where people do not have a genuine need to worry about their existence.Turn back the clock 100 years,no welfare,healthcare etc and the wealth of the husband,can he afford a wife and family etc.was a major consideration,not his age.

Yes the majority of couples are within 5 years of each other...for the simple reason most potential mates in your social group will be of a similar age,but the mere fact that the majority fall into one group does not invalidate the choices made by others.

If you don't feel comfortable with an age mismatch then don't go that way,just don't assume that what is right/wrong for you must therefore be right/wrong for everyone else.

TV is a great place.On this thread young Thai women are being portrayed as the helpless victims of older wicked Farang men but on other threads they become cunning goldiggers out to fleece any gullible Farang who falls into their calculating clutches!

Yes, but we don't live 100 years ago - we live now.

A similar line of argumentation is used by pedophiles - the case of some papuan tribes where young boys orally satisfy elder men of the tribe is used as an argument for such activities. Problem zone is - that firstly the pedophiles using this argument are not elders of that tribe, and secondly, that this is religious believe in that culture that through this semen the strength of this man goes is given to the young man of the tribe. And - most important, just picking and choosing what is purely sexually oriented by this pedo, though not transforming into a member of this tribe, which would include taking part in the regular rather brutal tribal conflicts, just doesn't work.

And, if you read this thread - Thai women are not just portrayed as victims. Several posters got very pissed off when i posted that many (not all - many) of those women get their own back, and have affairs with younger men.

[sukanyacondo]

mmmmmmmmmmmm ok age difference brigade how much is too much?? 10 years 15-20- 50????????

Given the choice over a 50 year 80 kilo woman and a 40 kilo 18 year old id take the 50 year old any day,. dosent ring true for some reason does it ? we are in thailand thank god, only in the west would the jealous bigots think its not right to have a younger partner,.i am glad i left most of them behind, although a few of them have crawled onto this forum..im 56 my wife of 7 years is 32 we get along great thankyou and f@uck all you that dont like it !

If you were with a 50 year old 80kg woman, I would sure think you are with her for money. Any man who stays with a woman 50 years old or above and weights over 80 kilos must be for money! Or because of the power the woman has!

Are you guys saying that everyone should dump his wife as soon as she reached her sell by date, and get oneself a younger model?

Wow, your wifes are to be envied, really. Did you tell them that the marriage is just a temporary contract of convenience?

No I am asking the "age brigade" ok how much is too much?? 10 years 15-20- 50????????

Whilst not agreeing or disagreeing with anything they say my own wife is 13 years younger, has her own land and house and ok its not worth as much as mine in the UK but its all relative.

[a2396]

Still bemused that sexual attraction is perceived to be the dominant (only?) reason for a couple to exist (married or not) by so many who post on here.

If that is your only motive for marriage the result will be misery,it matters not if you are twenty years mismatched or two days.

Also I am surprised that an underlying assumption exists that sexual desire and age are directly related.

Libido mismatch is not age related by some immutable law.

Some mismatched couples exist for the two week holiday,some for years,some are straight financial relationships,some are not.

To try and suggest all couples fit into one description is absurd and immature.

To maintain you cannot love someone 20 years different in age is pathetic and in my opinion demonstrates an immature understanding of human nature which is too bound up with physical appearance (which is fleeting).

If you maintain that you are disguted by same sex couples you are a homophobe,by inter-racial couples you are a rascist,by age ....you can say what you like.

Wether we are aware of it or not we are conditioned by our society to regard certain things as ok and some as not and that definition of ok will vary by society and by the years.

Current western views hold that 'love' in a relationship is everything and money does not matter.....clearly a result of living in a very wealthy society where people do not have a genuine need to worry about their existence.Turn back the clock 100 years,no welfare,healthcare etc and the wealth of the husband,can he afford a wife and family etc.was a major consideration,not his age.

Yes the majority of couples are within 5 years of each other...for the simple reason most potential mates in your social group will be of a similar age,but the mere fact that the majority fall into one group does not invalidate the choices made by others.

If you don't feel comfortable with an age mismatch then don't go that way,just don't assume that what is right/wrong for you must therefore be right/wrong for everyone else.

TV is a great place.On this thread young Thai women are being portrayed as the helpless victims of older wicked Farang men but on other threads they become cunning goldiggers out to fleece any gullible Farang who falls into their calculating clutches!

Yes, but we don't live 100 years ago - we live now.

A similar line of argumentation is used by pedophiles - the case of some papuan tribes where young boys orally satisfy elder men of the tribe is used as an argument for such activities. Problem zone is - that firstly the pedophiles using this argument are not elders of that tribe, and secondly, that this is religious believe in that culture that through this semen the strength of this man goes is given to the young man of the tribe. And - most important, just picking and choosing what is purely sexually oriented by this pedo, though not transforming into a member of this tribe, which would include taking part in the regular rather brutal tribal conflicts, just doesn't work.

And, if you read this thread - Thai women are not just portrayed as victims. Several posters got very pissed off when i posted that many (not all - many) of those women get their own back, and have affairs with younger men.

So what age difference is "Kosher" fo you? I'd hate to get tarred with the same brush as you did to the poor buffcoat.

[uptou]

No I am asking the "age brigade" ok how much is too much?? 10 years 15-20- 50????????

Whilst not agreeing or disagreeing with anything they say my own wife is 13 years younger, has her own land and house and ok its not worth as much as mine in the UK but its all relative.

if the guy is 20 years older,but still very attractive & has an ugly thai wife i'm sure it would not be frowned upon. anyway back to the black & white,wrong & right talk.

[qwertz]

Quote Colypat - And, if you read this thread - Thai women are not just portrayed as victims. Several posters got very pissed off when i posted that many (not all - many) of those women get their own back, and have affairs with younger men.

Get their own back for what, Colypat?

If I take a detached view of the goings on there, I would assess users and used at an even 50/50 on both sides.

You need a broader view of the world IMO if you think this sort of behaviour is unique to Thailand.

[Dustoff]

I am not accusing you of pedophilia here, as the definition of that is further from that line, but you use the same self indulgent and un-reflecting pattern of argumentation lacking empathy and with a rather under developed and simplistic set of emotional responses centered around your own well being and superimposing your feelings on the women here.

So, yes, none of your arguments so far has persuaded me to be not grossed out by this discussion. Come on - you won't change my opinions on you when you keep lashing out on me.

What is your view on this particular case of a 17 year old girl introduced by her dad to a 58 year old wealthy westerner. Is that perfectly alright, or is there some slight problem? Are you able to make a moral judgment in such a case, or do you evade it? Doesn't this scenario make you feel uncomfortable as well?

Say what? Who are you besides some 19-year old who rages rather than reads?

Lashing out on you? I don't even read most of your beligerent posts, know of no questions that you have asked me, have not mentioned your name nor quoted any of your posts and if you actually do take the time to read my posts, you will find that I have already answered this question by suggesting that if I were the perp in that scenerario someone should remove my gonads. Look it up.

Nah, don't bother - I don't want to hear about it from you...

[ColPyat]

So what age difference is "Kosher" fo you? I'd hate to get tarred with the same brush as you did to the poor buffcoat.

I don't know. There is no rule, and neither do i try to make one. Why do you guys have to always pick and choose what offends you personally for some unknown reason, and purposely misunderstand what is said? Kat brought this victimization issue into the debate, which was a very smart argument. It is you to decide if you prefer to view yourself as a victim, or to lead an open and intelligent discussion, in which we question others and ourselves as well, and maybe can learn something.

I have posted that i won't judge your relationship here, i don't know any of you.

This whole thing started with an original post that was nothing but offensive. Maybe you should go back and read that post again, and why i found it worthwhile to argue with this post, and why then some 'victims' found an opportunity to defend themselves even though not attacked, by attacking us, side tracking this whole thing.

And some very gross statements by the OP were ignored, even supported by my opponents, and that was for me a reason to question their motivations.

[ColPyat]

Quote Colypat - And, if you read this thread - Thai women are not just portrayed as victims. Several posters got very pissed off when i posted that many (not all - many) of those women get their own back, and have affairs with younger men.

Get their own back for what, Colypat?

If I take a detached view of the goings on there, I would assess users and used at an even 50/50 on both sides.

You need a broader view of the world IMO if you think this sort of behaviour is unique to Thailand.

Getting their own back for having to put up with the attention of someone they may sexually not exactly be attracted to, but is a necessary duty.

And yes, you are right - dysfunctional relationships are not unique to Thailand and its inter-cultural relationships - but wherever they happen - they are nothing else than dysfunctional. See - i don't need a broader view.

[Dustoff]

I am just suggesting I am a bigot who thinks people with 20+ years age gap should not be together. If they do, they should be looked down at.

Okay MMT (lol), I don't think I agree with this one but have to admit that were I as young as I suspect you are, I would agree wholeheartedly.

My wife is 30 years younger but when we met, she was/is an intelligent, self-educated adult woman who was 30-years of age so I really don't think that I could be accused of 'robbing the cradle'. Nor am I some fat (6'2", 180 lbs), gimping old drunken geezer as many on this forum would paint us. We motorcycle together, engage in mountain trekking, skydiving, ultralight flying, traveling the world and my avatar is a pic of myself taken just a couple of years ago. Yup, ugly as sin but as energetic as many of my male friends who are decades younger and I don't even know what a Viagra pill looks like.

Now, had I been 45 and she was 15, someone should have, if not put me in prison for much of the rest of my life, removed my gonads. And, obviously, a few in this thread would perhaps like to do that today...

I hope you do realize I was just being sarcastic with that sentence.

Wow! Sky-diving? You should feel lucky that I am not the one in control! Or else you would be disallowed to leave home at your age!

BTW, I am 38, wife 30.

Yes, I did realize that you were kidding which is why I put the LOL at the beginning of my response.

Disallowed to leave my home? And whaddya mean, "at your age"?! Too old for fun and adventure, am I? Don't think so.

How about balloons? Are we allowed to go up in Balloons?

Thanks for your response - cool posts, meemaithai...

[Dustoff]

Sorry I was at work. So did not carefully answer.

Weight of wives - dumping? If you get my point here I am sure you should know what my answers are. I will not dump my wife no matter what she becomes. I could lick her all over even if she has just been pulled up from a sewage. And for others, it is none of my business as long as no one is looking for help from me.

And for Communication, again how do we know exactly? You or me might think they cannot communicate but maybe they can!

Communication is not only by language, how do you think animals communicate? I spoke the same language as my ex-gf but I communicate much better with my now wife even when we did not speak a common language.

I understand you peoples' concern. And I don't think I am any different. But you just don't treat every bloody case the same and treat them unfairly. It is like saying my father has a moustarche then justifies saying the ones who have moustarche is my father.

Well, wasn't that the OP was about, and what i and others argued so vehemently against? The OP brought up these gross comments about men with fat western wifes being "the looser" against a westerner with a young Thai wife, while your side of the coin came in defending the right of personal pursuit of happiness, as some argued, and the right of the white man, as another argued, and your side of the debate than trying to stop the discussion by lashing out against us "bigots and "femnazis"?

Eh, yes, animals communicate. It appears that some men are content that the communication with their wifes stays at the same level.

And no, neither do i treat every case as the same. That is why we have the usage of the terms such as 'some', 'most', 'many', which i have consistently used throughout this thread, and also pointing out that there are exception of whom i do know several.

But that you don't read.

So communication is the responsibilities of men only?

No need to get impatient CP, it is true I didn't read. I didn't read the entire thread which I have difficulties in understand what the whole point is about with this thread. I only posted in response to some parts of the posts here which I want to clarify.

Forgive my reading skills.

Go easy on yourself - your reading skills are far better than this kid's writing skills and he will likely have no problem with continuing to attack your language difficulties...

But then, as you said, there are communication skills beyond simple language that pseudo-intellectuals tend to forget while riding upon their high horse...

[ColPyat]

Go easy on yourself - your reading skills are far better than this kid's writing skills and he will likely have no problem with continuing to attack your language difficulties...

But then, as you said, there are communication skills beyond simple language that pseudo-intellectuals tend to forget while riding upon their high horse...

This kid is not that young anymore either (though far from geriatric), and his writing skills might be lacking as English is not his native language either.

[mikethevigoman]

I saw this beautiful girl in her twenties today on the street. And when I looked next to her, I thought, <deleted>!! How can she be with this really ugly man?? It must be money!! I mean even if this man was also in his twenties. Sickening! This world stinks!

Westerners will never understand, maybe if you had dying parents and no national health your eyesight may not work too well as to who you had to go with to get money for hospital treatment,. of course its money, let me ask you if your mother was on her death bed ( this is an extreme example admitted ) and you could get the money to help her for going with an ugly partner would you let her die ?. that they are doing it for similar reasons is of no difference and im sure if you voiced your opinion to most bar girls they would tell you to mind your own business,. when in rome !

Are you asking me? Any age will do as long as it is a woman. I am a dog!

Honesty is a great asset !

[Dustoff]

Yes yes yes, never mind all that, where can we find this Father with the 17 year old he is trying to get rid of.

Anyway, dont forget to nip over and say Hi if you spot in me in MBK

Sorry, thanks, but no thanks - but middle aged Farang men (or men in general) are not really my thing. You might be better off in Soi Twilight for what you're looking for.

Ahh. I thought you may like to have a chat with me and her about mixed race relationships and the age gap etc...you wont be able to miss me, I am over 50, over 6 ft and bit over weight, I smell and dont shave, I am usually drunk, she is doting and serving my every whim, 29 (yes a bit bloody old, I know) with her hand in my back pocket trying to get my wallet out without me noticing. Anyway, like I said do pop over and say Hi

LMFAO!

Keep working him - it'll take him a while to get it. Well posted!

Edited August 24, 2007 by Dustoff

[mikethevigoman]

mmmmmmmmmmmm ok age difference brigade how much is too much?? 10 years 15-20- 50????????

Given the choice over a 50 year 80 kilo woman and a 40 kilo 18 year old id take the 50 year old any day,. dosent ring true for some reason does it ? we are in thailand thank god, only in the west would the jealous bigots think its not right to have a younger partner,.i am glad i left most of them behind, although a few of them have crawled onto this forum..im 56 my wife of 7 years is 32 we get along great thankyou and f@uck all you that dont like it !

If you were with a 50 year old 80kg woman, I would sure think you are with her for money. Any man who stays with a woman 50 years old or above and weights over 80 kilos must be for money! Or because of the power the woman has!

Are you guys saying that everyone should dump his wife as soon as she reached her sell by date, and get oneself a younger model?

Wow, your wifes are to be envied, really. Did you tell them that the marriage is just a temporary contract of convenience?

You may have missed my meaning, im talking about men that may have got divorced or are single,no mention of dumping anyone,.in other words the ones with a choice ,.

[mikethevigoman]

Wasn't that young SiamSquare123's post?

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i have a farang neighbor in my building who is not very friendly. i dont think he works in thailand and he is probably about 55, not very well kept or attractive. Our only interaction was as follows "YOU live here?, I mean YOU pay YOUR own rent", our apartment is fairly upscale at 100K baht/month. I just said "Yeah, I am John. I --" at which point he nodded, openned his door and shut it.

Well, there is a Thai women who told me that she is his wife, and today she asked me if she could borrow some milk. I went to get it for her and she came inside my condo uninvited and then walked around looking at everything. At first this was a little bit strange because I didnt think she would actually make a pass at someone living ten feet from her husband. I do feel however that she made her intentions obvious when she asked me if my bed was comfortable but I ushered her out of my room. (I am only 19 years old, but Ive seen enough television to know what she was after).

Now I am wondering, this guy is atleast 55 years old so maybe he has a mutual understanding with her that she is allowed to satisfy herself on her own time. I dont know the guy, but this would seem pretty reasonable since she is very young and attractive and he is as I described. On the other hand, if he isnt this opened minded and is more delussional about his abilities to satisfy her, then I might be stepping on toes if I take it any furthor with her.

Dont take it personal. she probably sees you as a convienent atm next door,

[meom]

Yes, I did realize that you were kidding which is why I put the LOL at the beginning of my response.

Disallowed to leave my home? And whaddya mean, "at your age"?! Too old for fun and adventure, am I? Don't think so.

How about balloons? Are we allowed to go up in Balloons?

Thanks for your response - cool posts, meemaithai...

Not taking a hit at you personally Dustoff but what about kids? Would you knock her up knowing that most probably you won't be here anymore when your kids reach adulthood?

I guess in your case she's had her kids already but if not would you feel comfortable with that? I wouldn't but that's me.