17 hours ago, Bday Prang said:

my last victim did.....eventually

Are you indicating that you forced sex on a young "victim?" The things that you seem to consider "normal" are sad and disgusting.

28 minutes ago, Issan girl said:

Are you indicating that you forced sex on a young "victim?" The things that you seem to consider "normal" are sad and disgusting.

You clearly have no sense of humour whatsoever, I'm not surprised, it's a well known character trait of your sort. just like dying ones hair blue and other forms of self harming.

Neither I nor anybody else mentioned forcing sex on young victims , so, that "fantasy" exists only in your warped imagination. I don't consider that "normal", I consider it sad and disgusting

It's a bit weird that replies I make to you, trigger a response from your "white knight simp", and, conversely, replies I make to your "simp" trigger responses from you, Other members have also noticed this

19 hours ago, Fat is a type of crazy said:

There is no issue in my opinion with preferring Asian woman to Western women for partners. Of course it's a big generalisation but I get it - I do too.

Nothing wrong in my opinion with going a step further and saying aspects of women in general may have changed overall in the west in a way that further made me prefer Asian women as partners.

Point is I get why western women and some Asian women changed and why they prefer to be more independent. Because they can. I get why western women and asian women may find many western men unappealing as a partner - including me at times and many on this site.

My issue with some on this site though is that they take the argument into boorish and childish territory saying women should be and do this and that - I think they should accept the world changed, enjoy what they enjoy, and - unless they directly are hurt by them - respect others who they may not find appealing or who may not find them appealing.

Now try explaining that to our resident female troll , and prepare yourself for the predictable onslaught of insults and insinuations

6 minutes ago, Bday Prang said:

You clearly have no sense of humour whatsoever, I'm not surprised, it's a well known character trait of your sort. just like dying ones hair blue and other forms of self harming.

Neither I nor anybody else mentioned forcing sex on young victims , so, that "fantasy" exists only in your warped imagination. I don't consider that "normal", I consider it sad and disgusting

It's a bit weird that replies I make to you, trigger a response from your "white knight simp", and, conversely, replies I make to your "simp" trigger responses from you, Other members have also noticed this

Other members? Do you mean @SAFETY FIRST ? Member is certainly an accurate representation.

What's weird about a man getting in between an aggressive boor and a woman?

Where did you learn such behaviour? You appear to be a particularly sad excuse for a man.

It seems it is you who has lost your mind, after being triggered by the term 'pervy expat', which wasn't even directed at you. Why would that be?

You are still ranting about it days later 😊

9 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Other members? Do you mean @SAFETY FIRST ? Member is certainly an accurate representation.

What's weird about a man getting in between an aggressive boor and a woman?

Where did you learn such behaviour? You appear to be a particularly sad excuse for a man.

It seems it is you who has lost your mind, after being triggered by the term 'pervy expat', which wasn't even directed at you. Why would that be?

You are still ranting about it days later 😊

Ha ha, it's good to see you don't single me out with your hate speach.

You hate everyone 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

1 minute ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Ha ha, it's good to see you don't single me out with your hate speach.

You hate everyone 😂😂😂😂😂😂😂

I don't hate anyone 😊 It's not hate when you step between abusive male bullies and a woman.

16 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

I don't hate anyone 😊 It's not hate when you step between abusive male bullies and a woman.

Woman needs to mind her own business, not reply to other members unprovoked with hostility

26 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Woman needs to mind her own business, not reply to other members unprovoked with hostility

Perhaps you should take your own advice...

1 minute ago, IsmeUno said:

Perhaps you should take your own advice...

You don't get it do you.

Please Note, try to understand this, it's very, very important.

If you and your lover had never bothered me, never contacted me, never interacted with me we would never, ever have had any dealings with each other.

You guys were the instigators, have you forgotten?

On 3/24/2026 at 3:25 PM, BritManToo said:

Never met a submissive Thai lady, my wife would stab me without a second thought, if I was out of order.

My last two Thai LTRs, one ran her American husband down with her car, then had him removed from Thailand for overstay while he was still on crutches. The other had her Swedish husband run down and killed by a taxi driver.

You sure know how to pick 'em! Better luck with this one!

All modern relationships start with hot sex. The Chinese tradition for me made dating no holding hands, traveling by taxis with the windows blacked out, visiting the parents for the first time, they'd covered the windows with newspaper so the neighbours wouldn't think their daughter was a hooker. I paid a dowry, bought gold and a house. Simple ceremony at the Monks' Hospital. It was a group Moonie wedding! 35 years now. She's vicious at least once a day but loving the rest of the time. Contentment means everything.

1 hour ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

You don't get it do you.

Please Note, try to understand this, it's very, very important.

If you and your lover had never bothered me, never contacted me, never interacted with me we would never, ever have had any dealings with each other.

You guys were the instigators, have you forgotten?

I get it. You make the same claim for anyone who responds to your posts, male or female. You are 'famous' for it. To the point where no one takes the blindest bit of notice of your protestations any more.

You love the banter when you are giving it out, but cry foul when you get it back. There's no point in me telling you to "grow up" because it's obviously not in your DNA. Better to tell you to 'man up!' Practice what you preach.

On 3/27/2026 at 5:33 AM, SAFETY FIRST said:

I copped a mouthful from a western woman member on this forum recently.

She was bitching about my woke and lefty comments.

Bloody nagging western women, they won't stop pestering me 😂

Take a good look at yourself...👎

She responded, to your idiocy. Play foolish games, win foolish prizes. You were the instigator.

28 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

I get it. You make the same claim for anyone who responds to your posts, male or female. You are 'famous' for it. To the point where no one takes the blindest bit of notice of your protestations any more.

You love the banter when you are giving it out, but cry foul when you get it back. There's no point in me telling you to "grow up" because it's obviously not in your DNA. Better to tell you to 'man up!' Practice what you preach.

I do not talk or comment to anyone, too many PSYCHOS here.

I make comment ONLY to the OP or the article, that's it.

Seldom, very rarely I make a comment to other members and when I make a comment to other members it's always a happy non-aggressive nice comment

24 minutes ago, IsmeUno said:

Take a good look at yourself...👎

She responded, to your idiocy. Play foolish games, win foolish prizes. You were the instigator.

Mate, you and wify should look closely at each other.

2 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

I do not talk or comment to anyone, too many PSYCHOS here.

I make comment ONLY to the OP or the article, that's it.

Seldom, very rarely I make a comment to other members and when I make a comment to other members it's always a happy non-aggressive nice comment

To some, you may be considered the PSYCHO... Have you considered that? Ranting about foreigners and western women on a nigh on daily basis. A misfit and a misogynist.

You post on a public board and there is a Quote option for others to respond. If you don't like them onions, perhaps do a Don and correspond with yourself. Oh...wait... 😊

5 minutes ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

Mate, you and wify should look closely at each other.

Cannot. Have not ever met her personally.

3 hours ago, Bday Prang said:

and prepare yourself for the predictable onslaught of insults and insinuations

Take a look at your own posts...Seek and you shall find.

On 3/24/2026 at 5:52 AM, BritManToo said:

Hot frequent sex with much younger women at minimal cost was what kept me here.

I think that pretty succinctly summarises a major attraction to many retired men to be honest

On 3/29/2026 at 2:38 PM, Rockyroad said:

You usually find the type of woman you go looking for.

I have always been weak for though Extreme sport athletes, and the one I ended up marrying, is not extreme in any way, she is down to earth, to good for me in a good way

23 hours ago, unblocktheplanet said:

You sure know how to pick 'em! Better luck with this one!

All modern relationships start with hot sex.

Many relationships starting these days to become friends first. Our generation was a bit more of random sex ting, more drinking, more reckless, but actually the new generations is taking back the getting to know each other first thing.

I knew my wife for a long time before we did anything, and it was actually a very good thing for us both. No surprises, and still

A 2022 study in Social Psychological and Personality Science found that about two-thirds of romantic relationships began as friendships, and “friends-first” was a common and preferred pathway, especially among young adults.

https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/35251491/

On 3/24/2026 at 7:37 AM, Conan The Barbarian said:

Not talking about the obvious stuff that brings most of us here initially. I mean the longer term decision to actually settle down with a Thai woman specifically.

Looking back I think the relationship dynamic played a bigger part in my choice than I ever admitted at the time. The roles are just... clear. He provides, she takes care of the home and family. No blurred lines, no competition for the same space, no ongoing negotiation about who does what and why or whose in charge!

That model largely disappeared in the West over the past few decades. Again — not saying that's wrong, times change. But somewhere along the way relationships back home started feeling like a constant push and pull, both people sometimes fighting for the lead role, and a lot of the warmth getting lost in the friction.

With my Thai partner that friction is just absent. There's a calm to it. She's reserved in public as Thai culture generally is, but within the relationship she's attentive and warm without it feeling like something that has to be earned or negotiated.

So honestly — for those of you settled with Thai women long term — how much did that traditional dynamic factor into it? Was it a conscious choice or did you only recognise it later for what it was?

I hear what you’re saying and understand it.

Being a woman myself however, we too may want to exercise our intellect and education. We too may have dreams of wanting a challenging and successful job/self employment. It can be rather challenging to not have your own reasonably well filled bank account over which you have autonomy. Same as other things in life. The autonomy to make decisions of which priorities to set. In a healthy relationship this generally works out rather well. But in some cases if the woman always has to step back for the sake of keeping her husband happy, it can create a lack of self respect on her part that can make her feel resentful.

I feel that the woman too, has the right for a rich life in which her husband is a vibrant part. But isn’t she too, entitled to a vibrant intellectual/business successful person with an outlook beyond the constraint of the perimeter of the house walls. Isn’t she too, allowed to have her intellectual curiosity satisfied, thereby being an interesting individual to have conversations with as well as intimacy?

It becomes complicated to be an “obedient”, compliant, happy, dedicated, loving wife when all major decisions and expectations are made by her husband even if he has the decency to ask her, she does not really have the power to say no - when she is bought and paid for.

I’ve observed over the years that couples seem to thrive when they both are “free” to pursue their interests/work. They seem to like to discuss their day/thoughts and allow each other to be free individuals. They tend to have a great intimate relationship just because they are free to love each other without feeling that the partner is too clingy or dominating. Autonomy is very important in life, without it resentment builds. We actually owe our partners to be stable, self respecting, intellectually capable of running our lives but caring enough to allow for mutual goals. That promotes mature love and devotion in its pure sense.

On 3/28/2026 at 12:08 PM, BritManToo said:

When you were posting as NowNow (2 years back) you didn't have a woman/wife.

Wow, great comment.

You are correct. 👍

50 minutes ago, Globalres said:

I’ve observed over the years that couples seem to thrive when they both are “free” to pursue their interests/work. They seem to like to discuss their day/thoughts and allow each other to be free individuals. They tend to have a great intimate relationship just because they are free to love each other without feeling that the partner is too clingy or dominating. Autonomy is very important in life, without it resentment builds. We actually owe our partners to be stable, self respecting, intellectually capable of running our lives but caring enough to allow for mutual goals. That promotes mature love and devotion in its pure sense.

I've noticed in the west there are no couples that thrive.

They may have the appearance of thriving, but in the end the woman will always take as much as she can, while contributing nothing.

Which is why we all moved here, unless a man has nothing, and never expects to have anything, there is no advantage for a man in co-habiting in the west.

On 3/30/2026 at 6:31 PM, IsmeUno said:

To some, you may be considered the PSYCHO.

We have a few Psychos and narcissists here, again it's why I don't interact unless I'm antagonized.

On 3/30/2026 at 6:26 PM, SAFETY FIRST said:

I do not talk or comment to anyone, too many PSYCHOS here.

I make comment ONLY to the OP or the article, that's it.

Seldom, very rarely I make a comment to other members and when I make a comment to other members it's always a happy non-aggressive nice comment

Your wife attacked me unprovoked.

I didn't interact with her, out of the blue she decided to stick her nose in to a comment I made to the OP.

Now she's got you annoying the hell out of me, then you have the nerve to say I'm a psycho.

Get help mate.

1 hour ago, Globalres said:

I hear what you’re saying and understand it.

Being a woman myself however, we too may want to exercise our intellect and education. We too may have dreams of wanting a challenging and successful job/self employment. It can be rather challenging to not have your own reasonably well filled bank account over which you have autonomy. Same as other things in life. The autonomy to make decisions of which priorities to set. In a healthy relationship this generally works out rather well. But in some cases if the woman always has to step back for the sake of keeping her husband happy, it can create a lack of self respect on her part that can make her feel resentful.

I feel that the woman too, has the right for a rich life in which her husband is a vibrant part. But isn’t she too, entitled to a vibrant intellectual/business successful person with an outlook beyond the constraint of the perimeter of the house walls. Isn’t she too, allowed to have her intellectual curiosity satisfied, thereby being an interesting individual to have conversations with as well as intimacy?

It becomes complicated to be an “obedient”, compliant, happy, dedicated, loving wife when all major decisions and expectations are made by her husband even if he has the decency to ask her, she does not really have the power to say no - when she is bought and paid for.

I’ve observed over the years that couples seem to thrive when they both are “free” to pursue their interests/work. They seem to like to discuss their day/thoughts and allow each other to be free individuals. They tend to have a great intimate relationship just because they are free to love each other without feeling that the partner is too clingy or dominating. Autonomy is very important in life, without it resentment builds. We actually owe our partners to be stable, self respecting, intellectually capable of running our lives but caring enough to allow for mutual goals. That promotes mature love and devotion in its pure sense.

Beautifully written , I must say , but that "mills and boone" type romantic rubbish is hardly applicable to any Thai wife / western husband scenario that I have ever encountered or even heard of .

Whilst I am sure there must be a few, "highly successful, career focussed, professional Thai women with western husbands, standing obedient and submissive by their sides, whilst fulfilling their "intellectual needs and desires" I would bet they could be counted on one hand,

There are however thousands upon thousands of poorly educated Thai women from debt ridden families that have married and are supported by foreign husbands The husbands are often, at best, only averagely wealthy by western standards, so like anywhere else in the world life is for most of these women, a constant struggle of trying to get their hands on as much of his cash as possible

"Intellectual needs and desires" etc etc are, unsurprisingly , not considered high priority in most people's houses. and as for interesting and stimulating conversation ? well that's not something they even aspire too

Further more if you knew anything about the dynamic in most Thai / western relationships you would not be suggesting that Thai women are in anyway subservient , obedient , or constantly overruled and bullied by their husbands, the opposite is generally true, Thai civil law gives them the upperhand ,legally , and their extended family can easily keep the husband in order at the domestic level

1 hour ago, SAFETY FIRST said:

We have a few Psychos and narcissists here, again it's why I don't interact unless I'm antagonized.

Your wife attacked me unprovoked.

I didn't interact with her, out of the blue she decided to stick her nose in to a comment I made to the OP.

Now she's got you annoying the hell out of me, then you have the nerve to say I'm a psycho.

Get help mate.

i put him on ignore in the end lol It was a bit weird I was quoting and replying to her and he was always the first responder and when I replied to him she would start yapping definitely either a psycho couple or a schizophrenic loner, to think that people like that walk amongst us , its a bit unnerving

1 hour ago, BritManToo said:

I've noticed in the west there are no couples that thrive.

That's a bold statement when you have limited experience and resources to make a valid and balanced opinion of what people have or not have.

1 minute ago, Hummin said:

That's a bold statement when you have limited experience and resources to make.

Every married man I knew the UK was divorced and asset stripped, or deeply unhappy.

Every married man I met in Thailand had been divorced and asset stripped.

Obviously there were a few INCELs that never had a woman.

And one that was fortunate enough for his wife to die at a young age.

Maybe it's different in Norway, but don't you all go mad in the winter, kill your wives and kids, then commit suicide?

7 minutes ago, BritManToo said:

Every married man I knew the UK was divorced and asset stripped, or deeply unhappy.

Every married man I met in Thailand had been divorced and asset stripped.

Obviously there were a few INCELs that never had a woman.

And one that was fortunate enough for his wife to die at a young age.

Maybe it's different in Norway, but don't you all go mad in the winter, kill your wives and kids, then commit suicide?

Of course, it's morbid in Norway in the winter, nobody enjoying snow, mountains or the peaceful life indoor around the fireplace.

You are a single minded man, who think what you see and think is the norm

Been together with my Thai wife since 1984, married since 1990, happily retired together in Thailand since 1993. We share a similar sense of humour and an interest in animal welfare, but most of all we are the best of friends. Not especially traditional values, just two people who have always enjoyed each other's company.

Friendship is the basis of a good marriage.