Jealous Thai Wife

[noahvail]

quote/ Do not let her know how much money you really have since it is really about money and she thinks she own everything you have. /quote

Had to laugh! My wife knows exactly how much money I have - zero. And there's no life insurance with her named as beneficiary, and she knows that too. So, since I'm not a hansum man, it must be love

[david96]

In nearly all these extreme jealousy cases the women are from "the industry ",they trust no one,and have serious issues that can result in killing you for something they have imagined ,.......and yes i was a recpieint of attempted murder by one,.

I cannot agree that they are "nearly all from the industry"

My GF (and never been in the industry) is always going on about my Thai wife even though I haven't seen her for more than five years.

All this bullshyt such as "yes I stay with you but she stay in your heart"

Take a look at this link http://www.chiangmainews.com/ecmn/viewfa.php?id=2586 it explains a lot about the psyche of Thai women.

Obsessive jealousy bordering on paranoia is very hard to live with

Paras 2 and 3 explain this situation well in his case and the article does explain a lot in para 4.

Thais cannot understand that ex is ex and they have been, to use the term "written off" "surplus to requirements' or "dead and buried"

If you sell or scrap property you obviously do not want it back. "In your heart" NO she is "In her grave"

Dead and buried, no longer on the agenda etc.

So easy to explain in English. Passed her use-by date is a good one.

Edited September 17, 2009 by david96

[david96]

Money can also be behind it, in the future.

When you divorce you will becomes null and void, you then make a new will, and if you remarry you would make out the new will and name you wife as a benificary.

When you die you estate goes for probate.

Not so maybe in Thailand, an ex wife might be able to claim some of the estate.

His ex wife was reputed to have stated that "she would get money from him when

he is dead and if not from his wife."

He has no assets in Thailand, his assets are all in Australia.

But it shows what Thais think and believe.

To him the whole idea is rubbish, there is no way his ex wife could claim, but his wife is concerned that it might occur.

[Gary A]

My Thai wife used to get phone calls telling her that I was seen with different women. My wife's pat answer was, "Up to him, he'll come home when he's ready." When I asked her about the calls, she told me that they were from jealous women trying to cause problems. My Thai wife is mature, secure and independent. She could get along quite well without me.

[a2396]

I never have had this problem. Many of the ones I have know have their own BF's secret or otherwise and don't have much reason for jealousy.

[Bakeman]

r usaying thai girl have built in defects..............oh lord.

ps guy has defect in that he puts up with it. BUTT OUT!

That is not what he is saying. He is implying that culturally many people do not favor their current loves ex. Someone is sensitive???

[IanForbes]

It took me ten years in Thailand to find a good wife. My experiences tell me that the two fatal flaws in a partner are gambling and jealously. Those flaws are worse than drugs and they don't/can't change. You may think that jealousy is cute but it smothers you after a while.

Agreed. Unfounded jealousy was partially responsible for the failure of my second marriage. There was nothing I could do to make her see differently, and she was a lady I was smitten in love with. But, my wife was Portugese and Not Thai.

Gambling is another problem and has been the downfall of two friends divorces. In both cases it was the woman who did the gambling.

[Kf6vci]

I pity the wives. Even a fat old geezer gets hit on in certain places. This gives them the feeling that there will always be a chorus shouting "Hello Sexy Man"

[Harcourt]

My Thai wife used to get phone calls telling her that I was seen with different women. My wife's pat answer was, "Up to him, he'll come home when he's ready." When I asked her about the calls, she told me that they were from jealous women trying to cause problems. My Thai wife is mature, secure and independent. She could get along quite well without me.

My Gf has met the mothers of 2 of my children and has socialised with both of them to the point where for the last 3 Chritmases she's bought 1 of them presents, and the other gets gifts whenever the GF returns from Thai. Maturity in outlook helps. Knowing me well is the main reason though.....we didn't meet in a situation where one or the other could make a judgement on the other's morals. Any judgements and resulting trust/mistrust have come from our courting stage and then living together.

The OP could try and empathise with his lady....maybe he has told her some of his past experiences before he met her, or maybe she met him at a time when he was footloose and fancy free..... she may be over-sensitive, but she may also be just needing a bit of sincere reassurance.

[longstebe]

Re-locate,seperate or put up with the nightmare.

Absolutely do not put up with this crap. Setup certain rules and make sure your family comes first, including your kids from previous marriage. And also let her know you can help your ex if you want and is really not her place to tell you what to do

Do not let her know how much money you really have since it is really about money and she thinks she own everything you have.

This are some of reason why you probably are divorces and you need to set up proper setting for you life

I think it's a little past that.

[LivinLOS]

my wife before i met her had 3 underwear shops in a centre in bkk ,one day when she was working in the shop her thai man came in drunk with another thai girl , without even thinking she pulled out a gun from the draw and shot him in the arm hence she spent 6months inside and a lot of money by the family was payed , when it comes to another woman she just goes crazy , but she has been good to me .

cheers

And you stay with a woman with that potential,? bizzare, i liken it to having a pitbull thay can snap at any time, ,wouldnt be for me,.

Please don't associate a Pit Bull with a Thai wife, I have both and love them both dearly as they dearly love me.

Yes but one of them is known to be unpredictable and can turn on you without warning.. The dog however is probably fine

[mahtin]

Penicide.

Good grief.

[jackr]

Do not let her know how much money you really have...

I think they should have this up on a big sign in Swampy Arrivals next to the 'DO NOT RENT JET-SKI' one

[bkkjames]

And jealousy is somehow a Thai-only characteristic?

Certainly not, however for 99% of us, Thai women are what we deal with. And, I am not going to fall into the trap of critisi>>.ing western women again on TV again.

[mahtin]

And, I am not going to fall into the trap of critisi>>.ing western women again on TV again.

The sniper at the gates of dawn?

[sbk]

Irrational jealousy is not only the purview of Thai women or even western women. Many women have to deal with irrationally jealous male partners too. Often to the extent, as bonobo points out, it results in murder. Is it a Thai characteristic? Could be, could also just be a human one. And in dealing with it, perhaps its best to deal with them as you would any other human.

One of the things that gets regularly pointed out, and seemingly ignored, is the one question everyone in a relationship should be asking themselves. "Would I put up with this with someone back home?" If the answer is no, then it makes one wonder why you would be putting up with it here.

[sbk]

And, I am not going to fall into the trap of critisi>>.ing western women again on TV again.

The sniper at the gates of dawn?

I'd refrain from stirring if I were you

[david96]

Thai "wife no1" will refer to ex wives and GFs and mistresses as "wife no 2, 3, and 4 etc.

In other words "minor wives" (mai noi).

They seem to think that they may try to return and make a claim on their husband.

Thai soap operas and films reinforce this view in society.

You will often hear a Thai say "She has 3 husbands" which is interpreted by us as

nonsense, we would say "she has a husband" how many husbands and BFs she has

had in the past are history only.

We always live in the present not the past or the future.

And remember the female is always more deadly than the male. A spider will spin

a web to catch its prey, a woman will spin a web of deceit to catch hers.

[mca]

My Thai wife used to get phone calls telling her that I was seen with different women. My wife's pat answer was, "Up to him, he'll come home when he's ready." When I asked her about the calls, she told me that they were from jealous women trying to cause problems. My Thai wife is mature, secure and independent. She could get along quite well without me.

Same here. I often wonder what my wife saw in me. I can still leave lethal skidmarks in my underwear.

The wife of the Puu Yai Baan tried to make trouble between me and my wife about a year back. My wife saw her in the local shop and the woman took great glee in informing my wife that while she was a work I was having this freshy uni girl visit me nearly every day. Considering my wife has never spoken to the PYB or his wife she just knew the woman was a shit stirring old bitch. My wife said the PYB wife's face was a picture when she informed her that the girl was in fact our niece.

One of the nicest things about our marriage is the trust issue. She trusts me implicitly as I do her. In all our years together there's never been any reason for us to doubt each other. It makes life so easy. When my pal visited from home I took him to the "cocktail lounge" in the Pullman hotel. He was like a kid in a candy store. I just sat and had a drink. When I came home my wife jsut said "Have a nice time?" She knows I'd no more stray and break up our family with her and our daughter than go to the moon. A couple of women have tried to make trouble for us in the past by accusing me of playing around. My wife just laughed it off.

Edited September 19, 2009 by mca

[IanForbes]

Jealousy certainly isn't a trait that can be attributed to certain countries, races or genders. It's common with every group. I've been with many Thai women. Some were insanely jealous and some were not jealous at all. But, nobody wants their nose rubbed in it. There is the old expression "cuckold", meaning a man who's wife is having an affair. It is demeaning towards the man, not the woman. And, males can be insanely jealous even when they should have no right to be... such as their wife having already left him. OJ Simpson being the famous example. My first wife didn't have a jealous bone in her body, but my second wife was jealous of everyone, despite having no grounds for that jealousy. I'm not jealous either, but I won't abide a wife having affairs. I've never messed around either despite having many opportunities.

[robblok]

And jealousy is somehow a Thai-only characteristic?

Certainly not, however for 99% of us, Thai women are what we deal with. And, I am not going to fall into the trap of critisi>>.ing western women again on TV again.

Shaking in your boots thinking about what SBK could do ?

OT Woman are jealous.. period.. not sure if Thai are more jealous or less. But i must say here they have more cause to be jeallous because girls will try to steal their guy away.

[dumball]

Thank you for that John_b_good , very interesting article full of enlightenment and a guide to future wannabee husbands of asian wives , history can be very repetative .

[Petbon]

<br />my wife before i met her had 3 underwear shops in a centre in bkk ,one day when she was working in the shop her thai man came in drunk with another thai girl , without even thinking she pulled out a gun from the draw and shot him in the arm hence she spent 6months inside and a lot of money by the family was payed , when it comes to another woman she just goes crazy , but she has been good to me .<br /><br /> cheers<br />

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YOUR WIFE SOUNDS COOL, you have good taste! Too often women have a go at another woman.

[mrbojangles]

My wife has never even mentioned my ex in the 5 years we've been married. Fortunately I never had kids with the ex, so there is absolutely no reason for me to be in any contact with her, whatsoever. I can however, understand that it could be stressful for any relationship were contact, especially frequent, has to be had with an ex because of kids from the previous relationship. This type of stress could most likely be due to the financial association, rather than just downright jealousy.

[little_muppet]

lol dam_n, did that wife finish the university? lol from wat i read is sound so stupid. and I am a Thai i am a wife and from the OP post i have to ask myself if im really a thai wife? u know wat i mean. well if im a man i would leave her ASAP.

if i got a friend like that i would say to her "you are making things worse coz of ur stupid belief and nobody want to live the rest of their life with you even you have a great sex" lol

stupid girl !

[eurasianthai]

My wife is not jealous at all of "ex-wifes".

She lives in the present.

But is still jealous sometimes.

Fo no reasons.

I guess it is a girl thing

[MAJIC]

I Sympathise with the OPs friend,anyone who has lived in a Thai Village will know that the gossip that goes on is second to none.

They all treat it as a National Sport and an antidote to boredom,everybody will input their trivialities but will exaggerate the nugget of info first.

As a friend of mine once said "They find a feather and turn it into a Chicken farm" sad part of it is they dont know what problems they are making for those on the recieving end and neither do they care.

Its also common for the G/F or Wife to believe the gossip mongers,Thais like to have a wide range of opinions so they dont have to work out the truth for themselves.

Sooner or later it all dies down when some new titbit of potential scandal comes along. Although thats not much consolation while your getting the Verbal treatment,from the Spouse.

Sit tight wait for it to run its course and realise that they are all in it together,and hard as it will be, try and understand the strength of Thai loyalty to each other.

[WeeGB]

my wife before i met her had 3 underwear shops in a centre in bkk ,one day when she was working in the shop her thai man came in drunk with another thai girl , without even thinking she pulled out a gun from the draw and shot him in the arm hence she spent 6months inside and a lot of money by the family was payed , when it comes to another woman she just goes crazy , but she has been good to me .

cheers

I'm surprised she told you this.

Be careful mate.

I'm not....think about it, would you cross a woman who admits to have already shot someone else in a fit of jealousy....no me neither. (Gulp.)

[ThailandTommy]

Every set of circumstances/person are different as such the Thai partner will have different reasons for being what they consider justifiably jealous.

But in my opinion/experience the common denominator is normally the way they have seen/been treated by Thai men, all this BS about having a mia noi has an affect on Thai women.

They expect their partner to have one! They don't like it but it seems an acceptable part of their culture.

That coupled with the jealousy between Thai women and the attitude of, 'she has what I want, if I can't have it/him then no one will have it/him' has a lot to do with their jealousy.

[a2396]

It took me ten years in Thailand to find a good wife. My experiences tell me that the two fatal flaws in a partner are gambling and jealously. Those flaws are worse than drugs and they don't/can't change. You may think that jealousy is cute but it smothers you after a while.

Fortunately, I never had either of these problems. The major flaws I have seen were money grubbing (gold digging) and dishonesty (lying and cheating with other gents).