Sensitive Skin....

[happyrobert]

(Nope, sorry, not about shaving. That's another thread!).

So, Ian Forbes, in line with your most recent, enjoyable and insightful post re: Debates vs. Arguments (which would have been a clever title, by the way - if I do say so myself) how do you propose we calmly but effectively deal with those members who have shortcomings in the sensitivity department and simply seem incapable of gentle banter, rather they get huffy and puffy when they can not have their (only way) way and accuse us of attacking them?

Do we back off and let them rant and rave and take over the thread for their personal agendas, and we ourselves go to another website, thereby depriving TV of our excellent input and giving up what was an otherwise enjoyable read? Or do we stick to our guns and march forward through thick and thin? How so?

Being a bit new here, I'm curious......

Look forward to your insight, and that of other thick-skinned members.

Edited January 17, 2011 by happyrobert

[Moonrakers]

I don't like the tone of your post. I find it quite aggressive.

[happyrobert]

I don't like the tone of your post. I find it quite aggressive.

Not meant to be. It is also not meant to be misunderstood. I have not, and will not mention names. But there are certain folks who seem to regularly introduce personal agendas into otherwise enjoyable topics and it would be nice to be enlightened as to the proper manner to deal with it.

I'm not alone in this view. So any legitimate input would be appreciated.

[Moonrakers]

I don't like the tone of your post. I find it quite aggressive.

Not meant to be. It is also not meant to be misunderstood. I have not, and will not mention names. But there are certain folks who seem to regularly introduce personal agendas into otherwise enjoyable topics and it would be nice to be enlightened as to the proper manner to deal with it.

I'm not alone in this view. So any legitimate input would be appreciated.

I was trying to be ironic.

Ah well, it's late in the day.

[happyrobert]

I don't like the tone of your post. I find it quite aggressive.

Not meant to be. It is also not meant to be misunderstood. I have not, and will not mention names. But there are certain folks who seem to regularly introduce personal agendas into otherwise enjoyable topics and it would be nice to be enlightened as to the proper manner to deal with it.

I'm not alone in this view. So any legitimate input would be appreciated.

I was trying to be ironic.

Ah well, it's late in the day.

Ahhhhhh, okay, no sweat. It's just that I have recently received a ration of you-know-what and my defenses were up! How insensitive of me.

[IanForbes]

Ahhhhhh, okay, no sweat. It's just that I have recently received a ration of you-know-what and my defenses were up! How insensitive of me.

When you have been around here long enough you start to learn the different characters and their view points. You'll also run into a few that will always oppose everyone. Moonrakers is a young married man who likes the light hearted jesting... such as he already demonstrated. A few like to take serious shots at people who for whatever reason they don't like. I've even got a stalker in Chiang Mai who is posting photos of me around the city. Nobody seems to know who he is or his reason... but it's kind of odd.

I KNOW that some people don't like me or my life style. But that is their right to believe in what they want. I expect it and it doesn't bother me in the least if people make nasty comments aimed at me. I feel I’m adequate enough with the English language that I can reply in a civil manner, no matter what they say to me. In any case, anything that doesn't kill or maim me is a lesson learned. I often learn more from mistakes than I do from successes. And, it doesn't hurt to know who your adversaries are. Very little bothers me except for heart ache and tragedy with others.

I won't attack anyone verbally, but I will defend my position and reply from personal experience. I'll often make myself the butt of a joke for no other reason than to show others with less sensitivity that it's not so bad having a laugh at your own expense. Younger people tend to be a little more thin skinned and sensitive to remarks they find offensive.

And, whether I may like a person or not, I will agree with them on any point they make that I believe in. Some people can't agree with others they don't like... even if the other person is correct.

[Jingthing]

For sensitive skin, I highly recommend Boots organic body butter, packaged in the plastic tubs. Wait for their frequent sales though, and stock up. Sensitive skin is not a curable condition, so you will need a closet full of it.

Ian, you should be proud, you are cult figure! We all should be so lucky.

Edited January 18, 2011 by Jingthing

[IanForbes]

Ian, you should be proud, you are cult figure! We all should be so lucky.

I've done nothing to be proud of other than raising two kids into well adjusted adults who are better than their parents. I've been a working stiff my whole life. I just happen to be proficient at a couple of hobbies. That is no different than anyone else who takes pride in doing something correctly. We walk amongst many unsung heros.

[happyrobert]

Ahhhhhh, okay, no sweat. It's just that I have recently received a ration of you-know-what and my defenses were up! How insensitive of me.

When you have been around here long enough you start to learn the different characters and their view points. You'll also run into a few that will always oppose everyone. Moonrakers is a young married man who likes the light hearted jesting... such as he already demonstrated. A few like to take serious shots at people who for whatever reason they don't like. I've even got a stalker in Chiang Mai who is posting photos of me around the city. Nobody seems to know who he is or his reason... but it's kind of odd.

I KNOW that some people don't like me or my life style. But that is their right to believe in what they want. I expect it and it doesn't bother me in the least if people make nasty comments aimed at me. I feel I'm adequate enough with the English language that I can reply in a civil manner, no matter what they say to me. In any case, anything that doesn't kill or maim me is a lesson learned. I often learn more from mistakes than I do from successes. And, it doesn't hurt to know who your adversaries are. Very little bothers me except for heart ache and tragedy with others.

I won't attack anyone verbally, but I will defend my position and reply from personal experience. I'll often make myself the butt of a joke for no other reason than to show others with less sensitivity that it's not so bad having a laugh at your own expense. Younger people tend to be a little more thin skinned and sensitive to remarks they find offensive.

And, whether I may like a person or not, I will agree with them on any point they make that I believe in. Some people can't agree with others they don't like... even if the other person is correct.

Sorry for the belated reply to your reply. I thought the thread had died.

A good response and one I will take under advice.

[happyrobert]

For sensitive skin, I highly recommend Boots organic body butter, packaged in the plastic tubs. Wait for their frequent sales though, and stock up. Sensitive skin is not a curable condition, so you will need a closet full of it.

Ian, you should be proud, you are cult figure! We all should be so lucky.

Um, thanks, but, uh, I don't feel I have sensitive skin (although I've been told I am a bit flaky).

Besides, I don't have a closet. I actually can not remember seeing on since I came to Thailand.