Positive Stories On How Your Family Reacted On You Taking A Foreign Partner!

[edwinclapham]

My Father was already in Thailand and I actually met my wife 's family through my father so I had no bothers there.

My Mother was a different ball game, she was exceptionally worried for her "wee boy" but given given time and Skype , telephone calls etc she as well as my siblings have grown to love my wife.

Good to have your positive stories and how you managed to over come any hurdles.

[Soutpeel]

I suspect the mummies and daddies of the vast majority of TV members who have foreign wives are no longer walking this earth, and for that fact large numbers of TV members already have one foot in the grave themselves..

[beano2274]

First marriage was to a German, my mother hated her guts.

Second (and current) marriage to a Thai, she spoke on the phone to my mum for a little while, seemed to get on okay. Had to take my missus to the UK for a family bereavement, everyone in the family got on well with her, she enjoyed herself and talks to some of the family using FB, gets on really well with my brother's wife.

I remember many years ago taking my German GF home to the UK, my Aunts boyfriend thought that she would not understand him, so he was loud and spoke very slowly, he nearly had a heart attack when she spoke to him, she had visited America and studied there as well, was a great laugh watching his face.

I do think many mothers worry, one thing they do worry about is communication, lucky for me my wife works with foreigners, but this year we took her mother with us, she cannot speak English very well at all, but there were no problems, her Mum and my Mum got on great, language barriers were never there.

[samsiam]

I can confirm that....all dead....and I ain't that old just yet.....it takes planning.

[edwinclapham]

First marriage was to a German, my mother hated her guts.

Second (and current) marriage to a Thai, she spoke on the phone to my mum for a little while, seemed to get on okay. Had to take my missus to the UK for a family bereavement, everyone in the family got on well with her, she enjoyed herself and talks to some of the family using FB, gets on really well with my brother's wife.

I remember many years ago taking my German GF home to the UK, my Aunts boyfriend thought that she would not understand him, so he was loud and spoke very slowly, he nearly had a heart attack when she spoke to him, she had visited America and studied there as well, was a great laugh watching his face.

I do think many mothers worry, one thing they do worry about is communication, lucky for me my wife works with foreigners, but this year we took her mother with us, she cannot speak English very well at all, but there were no problems, her Mum and my Mum got on great, language barriers were never there.

Always interesting to hear other peoples experiences on this one.... I think once you have gone past Mother and you get the "all clear"

life can be exceptionally good!

Those old dears hold more power than we give them credit for eh!

Thanks for your input mate!

[richard_smith237]

My parents and sisters adore my wife. I also get along very well with my wife’s family. My parents also get along very well with my in-laws.

While I was away at work recently my wife took a trip to the UK to visit my family…. They all get along brilliantly.

[edwinclapham]

My parents and sisters adore my wife. I also get along very well with my wife’s family. My parents also get along very well with my in-laws.

While I was away at work recently my wife took a trip to the UK to visit my family…. They all get along brilliantly.

Gives you a warm feeling Richard eh!

Good to know if something happened to you for example that your family would take care of her!

Cheers

[sirineou]

After my divorce to my first wife, I devoted all of my attention to my then young daughter. Yearly pass to Disney world, trips to Europe and Caribbean, camping, etc,

she lived with me half the time and her Mom half the time, and we were very close.As she became a teenager she started to become more interested in her friends, as it is natural.

At that time I met my Thai wife and after about three years of dating we got married, and have being married now for about three years.

Initially my daughter was not very happy about my new "interest", she was never very good at sharing, and she was not about to share me with an other woman now. She would not openly come out and say it But I could tell she was not happy.

I did not try to force the issue, I kept the peace as best as I could, and and started to include them both in activities they both enjoys , first shopping at the mall, something they both enjoyed and short enough in time for them to both go back to their power base. then eventually we started to go on short vacations and later longer vacations, and eventually, they became very good fiends.

Now my Daughter is in her second Year of High-school, she has her own car, and a part time job, so she is pretty independent and busy with work school and friends, and soon will be going to College, but i expect that when she comes back from college, much in the way that most of as did, she will be finding her way back to me.

So II guess the answer to these intercultural marriages, is patience, and giving people their own space, and enough time to overcome their differences, and get to know each other.

[edwinclapham]

After my divorce to my first wife, I devoted all of my attention to my then young daughter. Yearly pass to Disney world, trips to Europe and Caribbean, camping, etc,

she lived with me half the time and her Mom half the time, and we were very close.As she became a teenager she started to become more interested in her friends, as it is natural.

At that time I met my Thai wife and after about three years of dating we got married, and have being married now for about three years.

Initially my daughter was not very happy about my new "interest", she was never very good at sharing, and she was not about to share me with an other woman now. She would not openly come out and say it But I could tell she was not happy.

I did not try to force the issue, I kept the peace as best as I could, and and started to include them both in activities they both enjoys , first shopping at the mall, something they both enjoyed and short enough in time for them to both go back to their power base. then eventually we started to go on short vacations and later longer vacations, and eventually, they became very good fiends.

Now my Daughter is in her second Year of High-school, she has her own car, and a part time job, so she is pretty independent and busy with work school and friends, and soon will be going to College, but i expect that when she comes back from college, much in the way that most of as did, she will be finding her way back to me.

So II guess the answer to these intercultural marriages, is patience, and giving people their own space, and enough time to overcome their differences, and get to know each other.

A great post! .. and as you say the answer to these intercultural marriages is patience and time!... be it as a new spouse migrant into Australia or Thailand. Cheers for that!

[NanLaew]

With these 'positive posts only' type threads, similar to smokie's 'My Thai lady is Lovely' thread, it surely means that the vast amount of bitter and twisted, curmudgeonly mysoginistic old buggers on this forum haven't got a parade to piss on anymore.

Great idea!

But back OT; my parents were of the 'you make your bed and lie in it' school of thought so any misgivings about the first Thai wife weren't passed on but there was some comments after the eventual divorce. My mum did ask if I was sure when I said I was taking on a new, Thai wife despite the +20 year hiatus since the last rodeo but since then we have started a family and visited mum more often as a family so she appears to be more accepting. Mother's do tend to worry about their boys though and a friend of mine in the US has such an overbearing matriarchal concern for who he will eventually bring to the family table (and will she be good enough) that he is running scared... through Nana Plaza, Walking Street, soi 6, etc.! He had a real sweetheart Thai student girlfriend when he was in US college many, many years ago and his mother totally despised her so now all Thai women are considered worthless. I guess being a Catholic and the family of Irish decent, she wants him to seek out a fair-skinned, red-haired, green-eyed Thai girl.

[richard_smith237]

I dated quite the Spoilt B!tch a number of years ago... (a Thai girl), who at the time was studying an MA in the UK. When she met my family, one look from my mother told me all I needed to know... Wow, if looks could kill, Mother didn't like her at all but did her best to hide it !!!... She was right of course, the girl in question was hard work and recipe for disaster on all levels... Mothers do know best I suppose, my mother had adored my wife since day one, the feeling is quite mutual and my wife often calls my mother for a chat.

One very minor issue though... The 'Mum' thing. In the West we refer to the parents of friends and our spouse by their first name, in Thailand its by Mum or Dad. My mother always tells my wife to call her by her first name but my wife simply can't bring herself to. I often see her tactically dancing around the issue and avoiding the use of her name while at the same time trying not to call her Mum !!!...

When speaking with me my MIL and FIL also refer to my Mother as Mommy and Father as Daddy !! - (but when speaking directly use names).

[edwinclapham]

With these 'positive posts only' type threads, similar to smokie's 'My Thai lady is Lovely' thread, it surely means that the vast amount of bitter and twisted, curmudgeonly mysoginistic old buggers on this forum haven't got a parade to piss on anymore.

You Got It Sir!

Great idea!

But back OT; my parents were of the 'you make your bed and lie in it' school of thought so any misgivings about the first Thai wife weren't passed on but there was some comments after the eventual divorce. My mum did ask if I was sure when I said I was taking on a new, Thai wife despite the +20 year hiatus since the last rodeo but since then we have started a family and visited mum more often as a family so she appears to be more accepting. Mother's do tend to worry about their boys though and a friend of mine in the US has such an overbearing matriarchal concern for who he will eventually bring to the family table (and will she be good enough) that he is running scared... through Nana Plaza, Walking Street, soi 6, etc.! He had a real sweetheart Thai student girlfriend when he was in US college many, many years ago and his mother totally despised her so now all Thai women are considered worthless. I guess being a Catholic and the family of Irish decent, she wants him to seek out a fair-skinned, red-haired, green-eyed Thai girl.

Of course with the advent of thousands of Westerners in Thailand the likely hood of finding a fair skinned, red haired, green slant eyed Thai girl is becoming stronger

Mothers Do Know Best they will have you believe!

Good positive post mate and long may your happiness continue!.

[edwinclapham]

I dated quite the Spoilt B!tch a number of years ago... (a Thai girl), who at the time was studying an MA in the UK. When she met my family, one look from my mother told me all I needed to know... Wow, if looks could kill, Mother didn't like her at all but did her best to hide it !!!... She was right of course, the girl in question was hard work and recipe for disaster on all levels... Mothers do know best I suppose, my mother had adored my wife since day one, the feeling is quite mutual and my wife often calls my mother for a chat.

One very minor issue though... The 'Mum' thing. In the West we refer to the parents of friends and our spouse by their first name, in Thailand its by Mum or Dad. My mother always tells my wife to call her by her first name but my wife simply can't bring herself to. I often see her tactically dancing around the issue and avoiding the use of her name while at the same time trying not to call her Mum !!!...

When speaking with me my MIL and FIL also refer to my Mother as Mommy and Father as Daddy !! - (but when speaking directly use names).

Women have this uncanny feeling from day one on occasions!

Its always a bit special observing two generations from two different cultures getting on so well.

Wishing you continued happiness!

[phuturatica]

My Father wouldn't hear of it but my Mother is a lot more understanding. She doesn't mind as long as he looks after me etc.

With regards to my Father, he's never liked any guy I ever bought home. I'm still his little girl apparently.

[samsiam]

My Father wouldn't hear of it but my Mother is a lot more understanding. She doesn't mind as long as he looks after me etc.

With regards to my Father, he's never liked any guy I ever bought home. I'm still his little girl apparently.

So.....how much ??

[BookMan]

I suspect the mummies and daddies of the vast majority of TV members who have foreign wives are no longer walking this earth, and for that fact large numbers of TV members already have one foot in the grave themselves..

True, but families are more than just mum and dad. Sisters, Brothers, Children, etcetera.

[richard_smith237]

My Father wouldn't hear of it but my Mother is a lot more understanding. She doesn't mind as long as he looks after me etc.

With regards to my Father, he's never liked any guy I ever bought home. I'm still his little girl apparently.

I hope you weren't turning up at home in your PVC getup and then expecting your father to approve of your prospective suitor !

[arthurwait]

First time I took my now wife home from University to meet my parents I was dreading it due to my mother being a typical Daily Mail reader who believes everything that's written in it, but she was fine and loves her.

My Dad experienced being judged on his background by my mums parents himself so doesn't judge anyone and was fine and they sat for a long time talking about her course.

[NanLaew]

Of course with the advent of thousands of Westerners in Thailand the likely hood of finding a fair skinned, red haired, green slant eyed Thai girl is becoming stronger

Mothers Do Know Best they will have you believe!

Good positive post mate and long may your happiness continue!.

Aye.... but she won't be a left footer will she?

Oh.... Did I somehow come across as happy?

[robblok]

My mom and dad love my wife they even gang up on me at times. So that is good. It was not always like that though, because i had an other Thai wife b4. (big mistake was younger and a lot more naive and brought her to Holland) She kinda ruined it for my current wife. But now after known my wife a long time and going on holidays with us each and every year they love her a lot and warn me not to wander off.

[BookMan]

I have had 3 significant foreign partners now.

One from a traditional Indian family, one American, and one Thai.

My family: ,Mum, Dad, Sisters, various Cousins, have been relatively accepting in all cases...after expressing initial concerns.

If the truth be told, I probably never opened up my relationship choices to much debate or criticism

[chrisboyo]

I first brought home a Bulgarian girl who I dated for a number of years, so when that ended and i got serious with my Thai wife, my family were not at all put off by the idea of being with a foriegn person.

My mum and dad along with sisters and brothers get on with her just fine. My mum makes a big fuss of her when we are home and takes her shopping which my wife loves. The wife makes an effort to, she would call my mum now and then for a chat which helps form a bond between the two.

If your willing to make an effort with these mixed culture relationships, then you should have your parents backing.

Chris.

[phuturatica]

My Father wouldn't hear of it but my Mother is a lot more understanding. She doesn't mind as long as he looks after me etc.

With regards to my Father, he's never liked any guy I ever bought home. I'm still his little girl apparently.

So.....how much ??

What do you mean? How much?! What are you implying?

[BookMan]

My Father wouldn't hear of it but my Mother is a lot more understanding. She doesn't mind as long as he looks after me etc.

With regards to my Father, he's never liked any guy I ever bought home. I'm still his little girl apparently.

So.....how much ??

What do you mean? How much?! What are you implying?

Yes, very bad taste comment.

[samsiam]

My Father wouldn't hear of it but my Mother is a lot more understanding. She doesn't mind as long as he looks after me etc.

With regards to my Father, he's never liked any guy I ever bought home. I'm still his little girl apparently.

So.....how much ??

What do you mean? How much?! What are you implying?

me ??....imply nuttin never.

[samsiam]

My Father wouldn't hear of it but my Mother is a lot more understanding. She doesn't mind as long as he looks after me etc.

With regards to my Father, he's never liked any guy I ever bought home. I'm still his little girl apparently.

So.....how much ??

What do you mean? How much?! What are you implying?

Yes, very bad taste comment.

get over it

[BookMan]

get over it

There is nothing to get over samsiam. The comment reflects poorly only on you.

[edwinclapham]

phuturatica Its instinctive for parents to worry about their kids, I am sure you will be exactly the same Thank you!

samsiam "How Much"? Not very pleasant is it! I think our esteemed member deserves an apology eh

robblok I always have a smile @ "Kaaskop" ! Thanks for sharing. It kind of completes the whole picture with family approval on many occasions.

BookMan <snip> Indian family, one American, and one Thai. A very interesting combination, I am sure you have many a good story to tell. Cheers!

Great stories, keep them coming and many thanks for taking the time to post guys.

[edwinclapham]

My Father wouldn't hear of it but my Mother is a lot more understanding. She doesn't mind as long as he looks after me etc.

With regards to my Father, he's never liked any guy I ever bought home. I'm still his little girl apparently.

So.....how much ??

What do you mean? How much?! What are you implying?

me ??....imply nuttin never.

This comment reflects so badly on the western man! Totally derogatory! Where is your respect man??

[samsiam]

What are you guys on....she said it not me.

Read it again and absorb....