Never Been Approach By A Thai Women: Am I Doing Something Wrong?

[HalfSquat]

I came to Thailand with a partner and have had one the whole time I've been here so I've not been looking for love or anything like that but one thing that has crept into my thoughts over the years here is why, if Thai women are quite keen on farang guys, I've never been 'hit on' by a Thai girl?

I'm no oil painting but at the same time I don't make children cry when I smile at them so I'm not that bad to look at.

Does it happen to other people?

If so, what am I doing wrong?

Thanks.

[theblether]

Have you considered showering?

[soi41]

Maybe you are an oilpainting, got to think of Edvard Munch

[whybother]

Maybe you're going to the wrong (or right??) places.

Sent from my HTC phone.

[smokie36]

Start ironing your shirts....spruce yourself up....buy lots of drinks for everyone.

Leave the wedding ring at home is useful too....

[notmyself]

You worry too much.

[sotsira]

If your with your partner, they won't hit on you.

If they know you have a partner and that your not interested in a bit of fun on the side,

then, again they won't hit on you.

If your on your own and they think your single and they still don't hit on you then you have a problem.

[DP25]

Start hanging out in the beer and gogo bars and you'll have lots of chicks 'hitting' on you too

[HalfSquat]

Yeah, obviously I wasn't expecting anyone to pounce on me when I'm with my partner. I was referring to when I'm on my own.

[jacktrip]

good thai girls don't 'hit on you', you have to approach.

[Phronesis]

Maybe they are but you are missing the signals.

Remember, outside of the bar scene, a thai girl is not going to touch you like a western girl would.

Perhaps there a lots of stunning thai women pitching straight to you, but their throws are just whizzing by, because you are not even raising your mit.

[submaniac]

How is the pimp hand? Are you keeping the pimp hand strong? Do not underestimate the necessity of a strong pimp hand.

[JanKlaasen]

Could you post a picture of yourself please.

[Beetlejuice]

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[Rob8891]

Could you post a picture of yourself please.

See! You post on Tv and in only three quarters of an hour, you get your first bite.....

I apologise....but couldn't resist!!

[Beetlejuice]

Maybe they are but you are missing the signals.

Remember, outside of the bar scene, a thai girl is not going to touch you like a western girl would.

Perhaps there a lots of stunning thai women pitching straight to you, but their throws are just whizzing by, because you are not even raising your mit.

I was never touched by a Western girl, either inside or outside the bar scene.

Do you still have their phone numbers?

Edited September 3, 2012 by Beetlejuice

[jacktrip]

maybe if i sit on you it would help motivate you, its hard to live without air.

[salavan]

do you live in phuket?

if so you will never be hit on by a female unless you make the first move, even then you may get a slap in the face

[TallGuyJohninBKK]

Yeah, obviously I wasn't expecting anyone to pounce on me when I'm with my partner. I was referring to when I'm on my own.

From my past experience, there've been times when I've been single and on the hunt, and other times when I've been in a long-term monogamous relationship.

I thought about it, and kind of felt like I was intentionally giving off a different vibe when I had my partner at home. When I was outside and alone, I wouldn't make eye contact with other women or particularly return any from them. I think my demeanor was that I wasn't looking for or open to such contact and any similar exchanges.

On the other hand, during the times when I was single and looking, I think the vibe I gave off was just the opposite. I would be looking for and receptive to eye contact... be willing to strike up a conversation if the opportunity presented itself, etc. etc.

I think in the same way, a single woman can either give off the vibe that's she's interested and open if she spots someone she likes, or just the opposite if she's not interested.

So if someone's never being hit on or approached by the opposite sex, is that occurring when they're consciously looking for contact, or not really seeking it out?

[arthurwait]

Maybe you are an oilpainting, got to think of Edvard Munch

Falang think too munch.

[KeyserSoze01]

Perhaps stick a 1000 baht note to your forehead -or- you must not be wearing the expat uniform, consisting of a beer chang singlet, camo shorts and thongs, along with a 5-day old beard. Please do try harder as you are giving the rest of us a bad name.

[barefoot1988]

wrong place wrong time i guess? in some areas i walk out with my butt badly bruise from all the pinching

[Thaddeus]

Perhaps stick a 1000 baht note to your forehead

Yep, that oil painting of a chap with an apple in front of his face has very little effect here.

(on that one I agree with the Thais)

[rics21]

Don't expect to be approached unless u r a celebrity or a good looking cute teenage farang boy walking the streets of siam.

Thai women who approach farang men r most likely bar girls/ or the short time girls @ hard rock cafe.

Will u get approached by a decent lady on the streets of farangland? Unlikely.

Back in farangland, bars/ pubs r places men tend to get hitched with the clubbing ladies.

But in Thailand, most of the "non bar girls" crowd hang out @ places like "funky", RCA, ratchada soi 4, etc.

Places farang/ expats don't really hang out.

Even if we decided to get ourselves into the Thai "techno disco rock" scene, its unlikely for us to get hitched as most of the Thais can't speak in English, or dam_n shy to speak the Thai broken English in front of their friends. Its common for them to keep a "safe distance" from us.

Get real mate.

If u wanna be approached, go to the red light districts.

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Edited September 3, 2012 by rics21

[endure]

Soi Twilight's not really the place to meet ladies...

[Dancealot]

Story of life: If you ain't looking then you ain't getting.

It's all about your facial and bodily non-verbal expressions which are being generated from your current state of mind. All girls see this when checking you out all over the world. It's not a Thai thing.

Edited September 3, 2012 by Dancealot

[Cypress Hill]

Don't expect to be approached unless u r a celebrity or a good looking cute teenage farang boy walking the streets of siam.

Thai women who approach farang men r most likely bar girls/ or the short time girls @ hard rock cafe.

Wrong. That should read "Thai women who approach fossilized farang men are most likely . . . . "

There are thousands of foreign men who are looked/nodded/winked/smiled at by non-working Thai women every day in Thailand if they're reasonably decent-looking, clean cut, well-presented and not reeking of "eau de Chang".

[manarak]

Don't expect to be approached unless u r a celebrity or a good looking cute teenage farang boy walking the streets of siam.

Thai women who approach farang men r most likely bar girls/ or the short time girls @ hard rock cafe.

Wrong. That should read "Thai women who approach fossilized farang men are most likely . . . . "

There are thousands of foreign men who are looked/nodded/winked/smiled at by non-working Thai women every day in Thailand if they're reasonably decent-looking, clean cut, well-presented and not reeking of "eau de Chang".

Truth.

I'm being hit on by cashiers, laundry employees, golf caddies... the newest is the lady at the bank who hit pretty hard.

The main problem I see with these is clinginess

[Thaddeus]

Don't expect to be approached unless u r a celebrity or a good looking cute teenage farang boy walking the streets of siam.

Thai women who approach farang men r most likely bar girls/ or the short time girls @ hard rock cafe.

Will u get approached by a decent lady on the streets of farangland? Unlikely.

Back in farangland, bars/ pubs r places men tend to get hitched with the clubbing ladies.

But in Thailand, most of the "non bar girls" crowd hang out @ places like "funky", RCA, ratchada soi 4, etc.

Places farang/ expats don't really hang out.

Even if we decided to get ourselves into the Thai "techno disco rock" scene, its unlikely for us to get hitched as most of the Thais can't speak in English, or dam_n shy to speak the Thai broken English in front of their friends. Its common for them to keep a "safe distance" from us.

Get real mate.

If u wanna be approached, go to the red light districts.

Is your experience of living in Thailand totally bar-centric?

But in Thailand, most of the "non bar girls" crowd hang out @ places like "funky", RCA, ratchada soi 4, etc.

I know plenty of "non bar girls" who wouldn't set foot in any of those places,

[uptheos]

Being approached happens all the time, but in different ways. Loads of Thai women are probably approaching you, but they are subtle and you are not recognising their cues.

Probably where you are not expecting, banks, stores, government offices, malls etc.

Edited September 4, 2012 by uptheos