Where did you meet your Thai gf or wife?

[eldragon]

When I first moved to TH, I had no problem meeting girls. It seemed like I was going out with a new one every week. I didn’t really care what kind of girl it was. As long as she was cute and fun to be around- or able to show me something about Thailand I’d never seen before- I was happy. I was a couple years younger then too. I didn’t mind hanging out with young ones.

Now I'm in the back half of my thirties. I've been here a few years. Things don't feel new and exciting anymore. I’m starting to feel a little too old for girls in their twenties. I can’t keep up with party girls either. I find the highly educated types to be over-confident and bossy. “Internet girls” have always seemed a bit off. And, while I feel bar girls tend to have a more western attitude, I’d probably never get serious with one (no offense to anyone that has).

In short, I’m feeling very limited in the kind of girl I "can" date here. The thing I keep coming back to is it seems like most of the modest, down-to-Earth Thai girls (i.e., the equivalent of the kind of girl I’d date back home) are too shy or ashamed to be seen with foreigners. The popular theory seems to be they’re afraid their friends will think they’re a prostitute or a slut. I'm also keen to the idea that it's become a step down the social ladder for a Thai girl to date a foreigner.

With that in mind, I’m curious where people have met their Thai gf or wife. Or if you have any advice about how to meet girls here. I'd also appreciate hearing any experience people have had navigating the "perception" issue Thai girls seem to face.

[i claudius]

she was part of a Thai /Chinese delegation operating in Bangkok to promote marriages between Westerners who retire here and hi so women. there are loads here on Thai visa

[edwardandtubs]

I met my wife in the Bahamas and said '<deleted> are you doing here?'

[Costas2008]

In a dog rescue centre

She looked cute and she was wagging her tail......couldn't resist it.

[phuketrichard]

she was between Poi Pet Cambodia an the thai border and asked if she could get in the back seat of my car, Said sure,'still together after 5 years

[seajae]

actually met her buying frangipani at the same place as I was buying them, "de ja vous"

[oogster8]

mamas plaza is a popular place!

[cdnvic]

Those of you complaining that the topic has been asked before (posts removed), there is no requirement that you read it again. We have over six million other posts you can look at.

People who just joined have as much right to have their questions answered as the ones who signed up a decade or more ago did.

[Crossy]

She was working in a Thai restaurant in ....... Rome, Italy

[wym]

If you want to hear about every "gf or wife" we're going to be here for a long time and in fact I've forgotten most of them, tracking numbers but haven't kept a journal on the details for every one. Used to do that for the first few years, but once it got into the hundreds didn't bother anymore.

But to generalize, I'd say the vast majority are just out in public walking around, in the street, in the shops, wandering out in the countryside.

Maybe 20% have been introductions by other Thais, references from headmen and teachers, like that.

Maybe 10% at weddings, found that to be a very productive context. . .

[David48]

Those of you complaining that the topic has been asked before (posts removed), there is no requirement that you read it again. We have over six million other posts you can look at.

People who just joined have as much right to have their questions answered as the ones who signed up a decade or more ago did.

And a fair comment also.

I understand why we old timers complain ... but also, it's up to us to provide topics for discussion, the subject of which can only come from the years that you have spent in the Kingdom.

That said ... I do tire of the 'Farang' question a bit ...

For the Record ... I met MissFarmGirl at the Airport.

[Loles]

She was a cute police woman who wanted to charge me about no helmet case.

I looked at her deep brown wonderful eyes and asked:

- Oh Dear, can we find some other solution?

She got shy and answered:

- Marriage?

I said: YES Mam.

This happened.

[RichBKK]

London, UK. She brought me here, a reverse from the norm you might say

Brought up in a very protective environment but had a fierce independent streak so perception wise she couldn't care less what people thought. Her type was educated westerner, not thai, she made that clear with her family and friends very early. Far as I know nobody objected, and quite a few were of a similar mindset, that's who she hung around with. To assert independence, she travelled the world and learned to speak English and French well

Oddly enough when our daughter grows up she will be strict with her even more than her mother was. Because she knew all the ruses in escaping the family prison herself, so she will be on to her like a flash and won't let her go anywhere on her own

Poacher turned gamekeeper and all seemingly. But then her mum was the same, eloped with her dad due to family disapproval with no dowry. But conformity was expected with the child. Do as I say, not as I do

Edited January 21, 2014 by RichBKK

[Kangawallafox]

We met through thai friends, were friends for quite some time, she had a man, I had a woman and other then as friends the thought of being with her never really entered my mind despite her being hot.

Her man was caught cheating and she was single for a long time, mine was then caught cheating on me, slowly our friendship became something else.

Pretty cool because we never had that honey moon period so there were no surprises, still best friends but deeply in love now.

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[Sayonarax]

Why come here if its boring now? There's so many other country's to go shag birds in... the worlds your oyster so spread the love.

[FiftyTwo]

In bed, in my hotel room, after a drunken night out.

"Hi, what's your name, and how did you get in bed, naked with me?"

She was clearly a white skinned, Chinese looking, educated, hi-so lady from a good family, so I asked her to stay.

Edited January 22, 2014 by FiftyTwo

[BlackArtemis]

One was a coworker

Another I met through a coworker

Now I am with a girl I met off ThaiFriendly. I got bored one night and made an account and met about 6-7 girls and talked to about 50-60. All the girls I chose to meet were sane and I remain friends with some of them.

The girl I met, we had no plans for romance actually, we both found ourselves alone online on a Friday because friends changed plans.

At the very least that website let me meet some new people and my reading and writing ability in Thai has increased dramatically.

[MrTee]

First Thai girl I spoke to when I first came here

[bgrassboy]

Met on line. After talking for about a year we met in person. That was 7 years ago. She is only about 4 years younger than me with equivalent education, in fact she has a masters degree whereas I only have a BS. We share many of the same outlooks towards life. We were best friends first before deciding we wanted to grow old together. She may not be the prettiest, smartest, nor wealthiest, but it's total that is more important than the sum of the parts.

[orpheus454]

She was a student in one of my classes.

Por Wor Chor 1

[Loles]

In bed, in my hotel room, after a drunken night out.

"Hi, what's your name, and how did you get in bed, naked with me?"

She was clearly a white skinned, Chinese looking, educated, hi-so lady from a good family, so I asked her to stay.

Yes Amigo, but you forgot to mention those high ranked officer of army in her family

[celso]

I met her near to her university, waiting for the bus.

You can meet girls anywhere, the only limit is what you place on yourself.

I've never liked going to bars of clubs, so I meet plenty of girls just out in regular day to day life. Eg. Shop assistants. Shoppers. At the BTS. If you see a girl, make eye contact, and you think she is nice, then go for it

Don't forget that a lot of girls are too shy to make any first move. You cant wait for them. There have been a few times I've been in a café, and the girl behind the counter is showing me no interest - no eye contact, no smile - yet I can hear her telling her friend that she thinks I am handsome!

It sounds like you feel a lot of suitable Thai girls wont be interested in you, because of the stigma attached to Thai girls dating a foreigner. I cant say if it is a real stigma or not. But I can say that any girl, if she really likes a guy, her feelings will take priority over any social stigma or judgement. Thai girls care about other society's opinion of them, but even more, they care about meeting 'the one' and feeling special. She wont let it hold her back, girls dont have that much self control.

I guess my advice is to take it as a challenge, make her fall for you in spite of any social stigma or suspicion.

Edited January 22, 2014 by celso

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[NeverSure]

Wife???

[geriatrickid]

Which one?

[aveabeeror2]

If you want to hear about every "gf or wife" we're going to be here for a long time and in fact I've forgotten most of them, tracking numbers but haven't kept a journal on the details for every one. Used to do that for the first few years, but once it got into the hundreds didn't bother anymore.

But to generalize, I'd say the vast majority are just out in public walking around, in the street, in the shops, wandering out in the countryside.

Maybe 20% have been introductions by other Thais, references from headmen and teachers, like that.

Maybe 10% at weddings, found that to be a very productive context. . .

Havnt read all the posts yet, wondering how many will be honest about where they met their woman!! Maby they are just going to substitute shop,bank,mall etc etc etc. for bar.

[oogster8]

when we see appropriate married mixed marriages couples in public then us non-believer will believe..................lol.

[cashpower]

If you want to hear about every "gf or wife" we're going to be here for a long time and in fact I've forgotten most of them, tracking numbers but haven't kept a journal on the details for every one. Used to do that for the first few years, but once it got into the hundreds didn't bother anymore.

Please tell us more about your Herculean libido, matchless virility, and needless details about what appears to be your mental illness and your exploitation of Thai women.

Oh wait, you do that on almost every post you make. Carry on.

[DocN]

A bar!

[mariner16]

Singapore, all my mates were with Thai partners when I was working there, one of the partners decided I would be suitable for her friend and set it up

All I can say four years later is damn shame it didn't happen sooner in our lives (I am 61, she is 48)