How much is enough for the wife's monthly allowance?

[tyler2208]

Never really understood the whole salaried wife thing.

Stop paying and she's gone, yeah, sounds like real love.

Better you give her total access to your bank account.

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or better still, take your time, date or marry a women with:

an education

a reasonably well paying job

her own bank account

and her own money inside it...

now there is thought....

but no, for most that would be too much hard work, better to:

get off plane

check into hotel

go to nearest bar

meet worker in bar

spend two weeks with her

"fall in love"

convince her to stop working at the bar

fly back home

send her money each month

and then tell everyone "this is the way it's done"

[Somsrisonphimai]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

Come ... declare your hand now!

... written by a nice Thai Lady ...

Mr. David, I'm being realistic here (:

If OP wants to be a good provider to his wife, that number would allow her to have some comfort.

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Edited February 13, 2014 by Somsrisonphimai

[y2k]

Never really understood the whole salaried wife thing.

Stop paying and she's gone, yeah, sounds like real love.

Some people are so mean.

[Somsrisonphimai]

Reading the op and some of the replies, it's so obvious why thai/farang relationships get stereotyped.

Each to their own i suppose, but the posters on here seem as divided as the reds and yellows when it comes to the kind of women they date and marry.

But for me, the thought of dating or marrying someone that i have to give an allowance to or support their family is just beyond ridiculous.

To answer the op, I would give her FA, make her get off her backside and get a job like most normal people.

But I think people like the OP are just as responsible for encouraging the "lazy, i will just marry a farang attitude".... supply and demand i guess

all the time there are guluble farangs, then there will always be lazy thai women.

These people must just seek each other out on matchmakers...

Ah...have you ever been in love? Love makes you do crazy things.

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[David48]

Never really understood the whole salaried wife thing.

Stop paying and she's gone, yeah, sounds like real love.

Better you give her total access to your bank account.

You're such a wag ...

[Somsrisonphimai]

Never really understood the whole salaried wife thing.

Stop paying and she's gone, yeah, sounds like real love.

Better you give her total access to your bank account.

You're such a wag ...

555, that is how they do it in the west, right?

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[David48]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

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Now now be sensible - a VERY decent BKK 1 bdrm apartment can easily cost 8,000.oo baht per month ...

You don't live in Bangkok do you?

Examples of what you describe please.

[ozyjon]

You can send her as much as you want, it will never be enough, get her used to it and it will never be enough, and you hear, other husbands give their wives more than you, the guilt trip, how much did they earn before you turned up? people around the world love free money, many get used to it and it's addictive, and end up getting it from many sources, if you love me you must give me money to take care of me and my family, meanwhile she is gambling or stashing it away in another bank account you know nothing about, saving for a rainy day, (i heard this story in a bar one day,, read the same story in Private Dancer, what a coincidence, is there a script going around Thailand that many women live their lives by? i wonder.)

[tyler2208]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

Come ... declare your hand now!

... written by a nice Thai Lady ...

Mr. David, I'm being realistic here (:

If OP wants to be a good provider to his wife, that number would allow her to have some comfort.

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what your talking about is not being a good provider, it's called being an idiot.

a good provider is a man that is providing a home for him, his wife and children together as a family unit.

what about the duties of a good wife, i am not talking about housework or cooking, im talking about the fact that this man lives overseas and his wife is here and obviously could be working an contributing to the relationship or family assets.

but by the sound of things she is not, he is sending her money to do nothing, all he is providing is a lazy alternative to real life.

and you suggesting that a man should be sending his wife who apparently does nothing 45,000 baht month, in order to be considered a good provider.

if you really are a thai lady, then you are kind of thai lady i don't like.

i grew up here, went to school here, i grew up with plenty of stupid girls at school that used to make comments like "when i am older i will just marry a farang so i don't have to work"

your comments advising idiots to send a lazy thai tart 45,000 baht p/m in order to be a good provider, just fuels the fire.

you say you are thai, well so am i (by nationality) not blood, but i am adopted by thai's, i have full thai nationality and i get embarrassed when i read comments like yours...

thai women with your mindset it a large part of the reason that the average thai woman's international reputation is only one notch above an Al-qaeda terrorist.

[donniereadit]

These pissers call themselves men.

Paying expenses when your living together if she hath not the means is one thing, handing over cash is quite another.

You got's to draw the line somewhere, or you might as well go to the local bar for take-out.

And take the piss.

[Somsrisonphimai]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

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Now now be sensible - a VERY decent BKK 1 bdrm apartment can easily cost 8,000.oo baht per month ...

You don't live in Bangkok do you?

Examples of what you describe please.

Noooo...upscale apartment and safe environment could cost 15-20k a month. Farangs' wives should not stay at a dumpy apartment.

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[philliphn]

My Thai sister in law and her husband's joint monthly income is 25k, they have a house, car and 1 child as an example.

An awful lot depends WHERE she is living, if she is running with a Hi-So wannabe pack in Bangkok, then 100k wouldnt cut it,

If she is running with other hookers and partying in Phuket or Pattaya, then no 50k wouldnt cut it, but may make her cut down on clients a little.

If she is a normal girl from a typical Thai town or village, she is taking the piss !

My opinion, no matter what the circumstances, you shouldnt be paying her ANYTHING, she wouldnt have it if you werent there, unless she's on her back, so why should she get it for sod all from you ? Wake up man !

You make a lot of post on eweryside in forum and talk fore people how to do,but do you now your one life????

What? You are incomprehensible!

[CharlieH]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

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Now now be sensible - a VERY decent BKK 1 bdrm apartment can easily cost 8,000.oo baht per month ...

You don't live in Bangkok do you?

Examples of what you describe please.

Noooo...upscale apartment and safe environment could cost 15-20k a month. Farangs' wives should not stay at a dumpy apartment.

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Easy to state higher standards are required when someone else is paying for it ! And just how much of this 45k you quote is SHE contributing ? Sod All I'll wager, just another maggot feeding of a chosen hump!

[tyler2208]

Reading the op and some of the replies, it's so obvious why thai/farang relationships get stereotyped.

Each to their own i suppose, but the posters on here seem as divided as the reds and yellows when it comes to the kind of women they date and marry.

But for me, the thought of dating or marrying someone that i have to give an allowance to or support their family is just beyond ridiculous.

To answer the op, I would give her FA, make her get off her backside and get a job like most normal people.

But I think people like the OP are just as responsible for encouraging the "lazy, i will just marry a farang attitude".... supply and demand i guess

all the time there are guluble farangs, then there will always be lazy thai women.

These people must just seek each other out on matchmakers...

Ah...have you ever been in love? Love makes you do crazy things.

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lol, yes i have and still am.

Maybe i am lucky but i only ever seem to fall in love with ones with there own jobs and own money...

so no need for me to do crazy things lol

but joking aside i would never be romantically interested in a girl with the education of a twelve year old, with no real job or prospects.

dating lazy peasants has never been my thing.

each to their own though.

[tyler2208]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

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Now now be sensible - a VERY decent BKK 1 bdrm apartment can easily cost 8,000.oo baht per month ...

You don't live in Bangkok do you?

Examples of what you describe please.

Noooo...upscale apartment and safe environment could cost 15-20k a month. Farangs' wives should not stay at a dumpy apartment.

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Easy to state higher standards are required when someone else is paying for it ! And just how much of this 45k you quote is SHE contributing ? Sod All I'll wager, just another maggot feeding of a chosen hump!

i agree, but dont waste your time with this poster, in my opinion they are either a troll or an ex bar girl.

[Somsrisonphimai]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

Come ... declare your hand now!

... written by a nice Thai Lady ...

Mr. David, I'm being realistic here (:

If OP wants to be a good provider to his wife, that number would allow her to have some comfort.

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what your talking about is not being a good provider, it's called being an idiot.

a good provider is a man that is providing a home for him, his wife and children together as a family unit.

what about the duties of a good wife, i am not talking about housework or cooking, im talking about the fact that this man lives overseas and his wife is here and obviously could be working an contributing to the relationship or family assets.

but by the sound of things she is not, he is sending her money to do nothing, all he is providing is a lazy alternative to real life.

and you suggesting that a man should be sending his wife who apparently does nothing 45,000 baht month, in order to be considered a good provider.

if you really are a thai lady, then you are kind of thai lady i don't like.

i grew up here, went to school here, i grew up with plenty of stupid girls at school that used to make comments like "when i am older i will just marry a farang so i don't have to work"

your comments advising idiots to send a lazy thai tart 45,000 baht p/m in order to be a good provider, just fuels the fire.

you say you are thai, well so am i (by nationality) not blood, but i am adopted by thai's, i have full thai nationality and i get embarrassed when i read comments like yours...

thai women with your mindset it a large part of the reason that the average thai woman's international reputation is only one notch above an Al-qaeda terrorist.

Excuse me...get real and be in line...have you ever lived in Thailand? Do you know much things cost, seriously? Why are you assume that farangs' wives are lazy and not working when their husband send them money?

I am done with explaining my nationality. Since I can write, read, and speak English, and have a realistic point of view, I cannot be a Thai girl; it's just not possible, isn't it?

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Edited February 13, 2014 by Somsrisonphimai

[David48]

Ah...have you ever been in love? Love makes you do crazy things.

Indeed it does, indeed it does.

Love and Lust ... a heady combination.

[seajae]

mate. 15,000 baht is plenty, it will cover her for everything she needs, we have a friend that get 12,000 baht a mointh and she has 2 kids and lives very comfortably. If she is sending the bigger part to her family then tell her she has to cut back, if you send any more you are a fool, sorry but that is from my thai wife, she says that it is easy to live in 15,000 baht if you dont waste it or blow it on crap/family.

[David48]

Ladies and Gentlemen .. some fun please.

The OP has enjoyed giving us his thoughts and most likely moved onto other greener pastures.

No need to go all out and employ the heavy machinery ... ... put the knuckle dusters back in the pocket.

Let's enjoy the OP's gift and have some banter.

[seajae]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

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Now now be sensible - a VERY decent BKK 1 bdrm apartment can easily cost 8,000.oo baht per month ...

You don't live in Bangkok do you?

Examples of what you describe please.

right on David, big house with inground swimming pool in Nakhon si thammarat, 8,000 baht a month, sounds like someone is being ripped off, outskirts of Bangkok, townhouse(furnished) 5,000 baht a month

[tyler2208]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

Come ... declare your hand now!

... written by a nice Thai Lady ...

Mr. David, I'm being realistic here (:

If OP wants to be a good provider to his wife, that number would allow her to have some comfort.

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what your talking about is not being a good provider, it's called being an idiot.

a good provider is a man that is providing a home for him, his wife and children together as a family unit.

what about the duties of a good wife, i am not talking about housework or cooking, im talking about the fact that this man lives overseas and his wife is here and obviously could be working an contributing to the relationship or family assets.

but by the sound of things she is not, he is sending her money to do nothing, all he is providing is a lazy alternative to real life.

and you suggesting that a man should be sending his wife who apparently does nothing 45,000 baht month, in order to be considered a good provider.

if you really are a thai lady, then you are kind of thai lady i don't like.

i grew up here, went to school here, i grew up with plenty of stupid girls at school that used to make comments like "when i am older i will just marry a farang so i don't have to work"

your comments advising idiots to send a lazy thai tart 45,000 baht p/m in order to be a good provider, just fuels the fire.

you say you are thai, well so am i (by nationality) not blood, but i am adopted by thai's, i have full thai nationality and i get embarrassed when i read comments like yours...

thai women with your mindset it a large part of the reason that the average thai woman's international reputation is only one notch above an Al-qaeda terrorist.

Excuse me...get real and be in line...have you ever lived in Thailand? Do you know much things cost, seriously? Why are you assume that farangs' wives are lazy and not working when their husband send them money?

are you stupid? can't you read? i told you i have thai nationality and that i have grown up here, went to school here.

i know exactly what things cost here, i never said all farang wives are lazy, i said farang wives that sit around doing nothing and expect their husbands to give them an allowance are lazy.

and i said that i dont like people like you, that encourage guluble men to send their wives 45,000 baht per month in order to be considered a good provider.

you say you are thai, well so am i and when i read posts like yours i feel embarrassed because their are alot of gulable yet kind hearted farangs here that get involved with parasites who's only motivation is money by doing nothing to deserve it.

now if you really cant read english, you should probably not be contributing to this forum.

but if you and your razor sharp brain are still struggling to understand what is written in front if you, then i can always write it in thai for you... after all you thai....right?

[ChiangraiTony]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

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It's opinions like this that make trouble. What are you doing in Thailand? You need to reach higher because your head is in the clouds.

[HardenedSoul]

No longer should we be viewed as patsies opening our wallets to the wives to sit at home jobless and spend without regard.

If all farangs get this methodology into their heads and quit allowing their partners and their families and extended families to exploit them this would be a better place for all farangs - some balance would be restored.

Dream on, buddy. That's precisely what these jokers do and it isn't going to change. They pay them to not work at the bar/gogo/freelancer joint. A more foolish and pointless practice I've yet to encounter in this country. I could get closer to understanding it if these girls were actually sitting at home amusing themselves online or watching TV but the truth of the matter is they're out there most evenings spending that stipend on drugs and bottles of Jack Daniels with their freelancer pals before heading off to private parties that don't stop until midday with other guys.

How do I know?

Because I've been ( and still am) the "other guy" for two of these women and trust me, the stipends being mentioned here are chump change compared to what some of these girls pull down each month.

[ppmacready]

Its never enough!

[bigbamboo]

whats the problem, I met my wife in pattaya, lucky day for me we were both visiting and she was in the beer bar

only to help a friend who was sick...she never work the bar and is special...she says she was farang in past life

which is why she likes my buddha belly and bald head....we are married now and i have bought her a condo

in Jomtien and only pay her 100,000 baht a month for her expenses, she has a sick brother that she takes care of

and apparently he has an illness that can be contagious but she is immune...thats why I stay in another condo

while she takes care of her brother....man she has a heart of gold, family stick together over here....i understand

she is always busy and she takes care me 3 times a week...I do wish the brother would get better but I am told

no luck he is getting worse and maybe need more care and more money for him.....i do not mind all this because

she really loves me and I am her first true love...hope other people like me come to pattaya and find their real

love....i have found pardise

I like to meet her sister.

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I think I already have.

[HeavyDrinker]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

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Now now be sensible - a VERY decent BKK 1 bdrm apartment can easily cost 8,000.oo baht per month ...

You don't live in Bangkok do you?

Examples of what you describe please.

Noooo...upscale apartment and safe environment could cost 15-20k a month. Farangs' wives should not stay at a dumpy apartment.

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We have a 'dumpy' apartment near the Airport where we stay when we have to fly somewhere. Cost us more than you'd ever make in your lifetime...Now far cough...Blether....BTW Transam has nicked your Hiso Bird...

[Somsrisonphimai]

OMG! Have you seen how much things cost in Thailand? The rent, the food, the beauty products, the night out with a friend, the transportation, the family needs, etc. 15,000 baht wont cut it, she needs at least 45,000baht to get by per month.

Come ... declare your hand now!

... written by a nice Thai Lady ...

Mr. David, I'm being realistic here (:

If OP wants to be a good provider to his wife, that number would allow her to have some comfort.

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what your talking about is not being a good provider, it's called being an idiot.

a good provider is a man that is providing a home for him, his wife and children together as a family unit.

what about the duties of a good wife, i am not talking about housework or cooking, im talking about the fact that this man lives overseas and his wife is here and obviously could be working an contributing to the relationship or family assets.

but by the sound of things she is not, he is sending her money to do nothing, all he is providing is a lazy alternative to real life.

and you suggesting that a man should be sending his wife who apparently does nothing 45,000 baht month, in order to be considered a good provider.

if you really are a thai lady, then you are kind of thai lady i don't like.

i grew up here, went to school here, i grew up with plenty of stupid girls at school that used to make comments like "when i am older i will just marry a farang so i don't have to work"

your comments advising idiots to send a lazy thai tart 45,000 baht p/m in order to be a good provider, just fuels the fire.

you say you are thai, well so am i (by nationality) not blood, but i am adopted by thai's, i have full thai nationality and i get embarrassed when i read comments like yours...

thai women with your mindset it a large part of the reason that the average thai woman's international reputation is only one notch above an Al-qaeda terrorist.

Excuse me...get real and be in line...have you ever lived in Thailand? Do you know much things cost, seriously? Why are you assume that farangs' wives are lazy and not working when their husband send them money?

are you stupid? can't you read? i told you i have thai nationality and that i have grown up here, went to school here.

i know exactly what things cost here, i never said all farang wives are lazy, i said farang wives that sit around doing nothing and expect their husbands to give them an allowance are lazy.

and i said that i dont like people like you, that encourage guluble men to send their wives 45,000 baht per month in order to be considered a good provider.

you say you are thai, well so am i and when i read posts like yours i feel embarrassed because their are alot of gulable yet kind hearted farangs here that get involved with parasites who's only motivation is money by doing nothing to deserve it.

now if you really cant read english, you should probably not be contributing to this forum.

but if you and your razor sharp brain are still struggling to understand what is written in front if you, then i can always write it in thai for you... after all you thai....right?

Please entertain me with your Thai but before you do that calm down and don't get your blood pressure too high, it is not good for your health (:

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[HeavyDrinker]

Somsri, are you speaking from experience? It seems like you have a tale top tell and share so why not do that to save the next generation?

[louse1953]

We do not know enough about the OPs position here, is he separated from his wife? If so, does he want to be with his wife? Is it the case that he does not want to be with his wife? Or maybe he does and he wants to look after her hoping she will come back so he keeps sending her money.

Is he working away from home with the wifes blessing? Did they talk about the finances between them before he left? In any case. 15.000 Baht per month is enough to keep her. He is not responsible for the wifes mother, that is her responsibility along with any brothers or sisters he may have.

I think to give the OP any help or advice, he will need to tell us more.

We're not separated. We're married. I'm just sending money to her while I'm away. I currently work for a living and hope to move to Thailand permanently in the future though.

I was hoping 15k a month would keep her happy but I don't know if it's enough. She says I at least *partially* support her whole family? I have no idea how an entire family could survive on that small amount I sent her. Seemed like a joke to me.

And the family are laughing.How did they survive before you dropped out of the sky.

[ratanafarmer]

My nieces both have MBAs, one works for the Nation Newspaper and one for a Law firm earn B15,000/month in Bangkok which would be the going rate for a normal well educated Thai. A woman friend of ours gets B30,000/mth each from 3 Farang "Husbands" (married in the Ghost Ceremony only). This is quite common in Thailand and does involve some quick thinking on her part, when more than one "husband" arrives in Thailand at the same time.

...And you still call her FRIEND,...cheating@lying to her 3 Farang (Husbands)????