Dimpys Dad Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 I have heard this term "dak-ling" many times and it has never been adequately explained. Is it a joke? Is it a veiled insult? Is it an affectionate term? Why is it used? Can anyone give a simple answer? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
leosuntime Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 (edited) How does she express it? When I go to the Bathroom, she's already put the toothpaste on my brush. I'm laughing here cos my wife does exactly the same thing!aww so sweet.. wait is she trying to say u have smelly breathfloss and brush your tounge guys not being mean just what I find Edited February 22, 2014 by leosuntime Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 (edited) Repeat posts. T'Internet acting the bloody goat.... Edited February 22, 2014 by HeavyDrinker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 (edited) Double post. T'Internet acting the goat..... Edited February 22, 2014 by HeavyDrinker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
goatfarmer Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Love full stop. is a con job perpetrated on males by their mothers from an early age and reinforced by almost every song they hear. The male of the species comes to believe that he will one day meet the perfect girl of his dreams and fall madly in love and live happily ever after. The female knows this and takes full advantage of it. Reality is mostly different, hands up those who have been through it and are in their second or third go. Yes it does actually exist and hopefully you find it. I already went the "love" from home route a few times in the States, 2 marriages, 2 kids, 2 LTR's and a few hot affairs, they were all "that" love, I am not falling for anything like that, for now, and have interests back home still, so, I am not desiring that roller coaster again, just trying to figure out this particular one, and her overly cautious nature, and if it is over come with time, or, is it just a waste of time, hers too When I first came to Thailand, many years ago, I had a good lesson in the meaning of sincerity in a relationship, best summed up by the words of David Bowie... "Then I ran across a monster who was sleeping By a tree. And I looked and frowned and the monster was me." Width of a Circle Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Love is when you stagger in singing Nellie Dean at 3 am, fall over the dog, slobber all over her as she is sleeping, rub your penis randomly on her in the remote hope she'll find that a turn on, before passing out on the couch, and you still wake up with a blanket on you as well as a glass of OJ next to you when you wake up....and she smiles at you in the morning (though I suspect she wants to take my bank card to Central Bang Na and the new bed she's had her eye on for a while will be arriving later in the week.... 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 (edited) Apologies all, Repeat posts. T'Internet acting the bloody goat.... Edited February 22, 2014 by HeavyDrinker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 (edited) Repeat posts. T'Internet acting the bloody goat.... Edited February 22, 2014 by HeavyDrinker Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bigbamboo Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 I am called "Darling", I must be posh...... I am too. I think you must be right. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ggt Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 As a Finnish friend of mine explained to me...how to know how much your Thai woman loves you...is your position in the queue... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
laobali Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 How does she express it? When I go to the Bathroom, she's already put the toothpaste on my brush. She was probably about to clean the toilet. That is so gross ! Did you assume he meant clean the toilet with his toothbrush? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
me313 Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 You should ask Thai girls, instead of foreigners Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Neilcnx Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Perhaps the circumstance in which you met your Thai gf has a lot to do with how she approaches a relationship and what she expects out of it. For example, if a hooker in the States decided to opt out of "the life" and pair with you (a reliable sign of attraction in most circumstances) but didn't have enough education or skills to get a decent job, she might expect financial support as well and you'd be dead wrong if you thought that inappropriate. If that's not the case here, self reflection might go a long way to learn what signals you're sending out. If you haven't resolved that then there is no geographical cure. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ozyjon Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Thai people don't LOVE, they take care and miss you when you are away Love is a westerners perception that Thais don't have. it's made up, just look at a Thai ghost movie and see how much love in the film, then look at the new glossy western style soap and see how many loves are around. Love as we know it is not a Thai thing so when she tells you how much she loves you and you feel all warm and fuzzy inside, try to interpret what she is really saying ??? i like you for your money only Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarpolo Posted February 22, 2014 Author Share Posted February 22, 2014 "there is a psychological term for a person who thinks he can "rescue" another person"This seems to be the common Pschology explanation! http://ezinearticles.com/?Knight-in-Shining-Armor-Syndrome&id=478699 What is love Good question! and after a lifetime of asking myself the same question, In all honesty I have failed to come up with the definitive answer.I suspect there is no perfect answer to suit everyone, everyone has their own variatians,to suit their own personal outlook! and needs.This very question would make a huge Topic on it's own. Perhaps you would consider Posting this Topic? Im sure there would be a lot of Interest! Meanwhile,this link may be a start of the long road of research! http://www.love-sessions.com/whatislove.htm Majic: this link was too good not to post in its entirety. While I believe all of it was 100% on point, I particularly and personally enjoy seeing the word "interdependence" rather than see the age old and tired psychological term "co-dependence" It never made any sense to me, as obviously man and woman DO need- each other and become dependent on the other, I thought that was the yin yang theory, which apparently was usurped to sell medication. What is love? It is one of the most difficult questions for the mankind. Centuries have passed by, relationships have bloomed and so has love. But no one can give the proper definition of love. To some Love is friendship set on fire for others Maybe love is like luck. You have to go all the way to find it. No matter how you define it or feel it, love is the eternal truth in the history of mankind. Love is patient, love is kind. It has no envy, nor it boasts itself and it is never proud. It rejoices over the evil and is the truth seeker. Love protects; preserves and hopes for the positive aspect of life. Always stand steadfast in love, not fall into it. It is like the dream of your matter of affection coming true. Love can occur between two or more individuals. It bonds them and connects them in a unified link of trust, intimacy and interdependence. It enhances the relationship and comforts the soul. Love should be experienced and not just felt. The depth of love can not be measured. Look at the relationship between a mother and a child. The mother loves the child unconditionally and it can not be measured at all. A different dimension can be attained between any relationships with the magic of love. Love can be created. You just need to focus on the goodness of the other person. If this can be done easily, then you can also love easily. And remember we all have some positive aspect in us, no matter how bad our deeds maybe. And as God said Love all Depending on the context, love can be of different varieties. Romantic love is a deep, intense and unending. It shared on a very intimate and interpersonal and sexual relationship. The term Platonic love, familial love and religious love are also matter of great affection. It is more of desire, preference and feelings. The meaning of love will change with each different relationship and depends more on its concept of depth, versatility, and complexity. But at times the very existence of love is questioned. Some say it is false and meaningless. It says that it never exist, because there has been many instances of hatred and brutality in relationships. The history of our world has witnessed many such events. There has been hatred between brothers, parents and children, sibling rivalry and spouses have failed each other. Friends have betrayed each other; the son has killed his parents for the throne, the count is endless. Even the modern generation is also facing with such dilemmas everyday. But love is not responsible for that. It is us, the people, who have forgotten the meaning of love and have undertaken such gruesome apathy. In the past the study of philosophy and religion has done many speculations on the phenomenon of love. But love has always ruled, in music, poetry, paintings, sculptor and literature. Psychology has also done lot of dissection to the essence of love, just like what biology, anthropology and neuroscience has also done to it. Psychology portrays love as a cognitive phenomenon with a social cause. It is said to have three components in the book of psychology: Intimacy, Commitment, and Passion. Also, in an ancient proverb love is defined as a high form of tolerance. And this view has been accepted and advocated by both philosophers and scholars. Love also includes compatibility. But it is more of journey to the unknown when the concept of compatibility comes into picture. Maybe the person whom we see in front of us, may be least compatible than the person who is miles away. We might talk to each other and portray that we love each other, but practically we do not end up into any relationship. Also in compatibility, the key is to think about the long term successful relationship, not a short journey. We need to understand each other and must always remember that no body is perfect. Be together, share your joy and sorrow, understand each other, provide space to each other, but always be there for each others need. And surely love will blossom to strengthen your relationship with your matter of affection. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarpolo Posted February 22, 2014 Author Share Posted February 22, 2014 Love to a Thai girl is the ATM and your fat wallet . She expresses it by getting pissed and shagging other guys. Sent from my TR736 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app That is not love That is not even sane That does sound like a comment that would find better fitting on the Bar Girl from Isaan thread, and HELP!l my girlfriend just left me threads... But, your post is authentic, and, may help others that may find themselves in that scenario... sounds like a fast trip to HIV Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarpolo Posted February 22, 2014 Author Share Posted February 22, 2014 Too much stereothaiping so far.. Did you create that word? Stereo-Thai-ping? It's perhaps the best Leo Gorcy-ism, I have seen in a long time! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HeavyDrinker Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 I pity some of the cynics on this thread... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rockhopper Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 If she is a bargirl read "Private Dancer." If not, read "Thailand Fever." Better yet, read both! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZAKY Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Whatever you can say, those who know can tell; thai girls live is different to other girls love where money comes first, i know many cases where a thai girl lives with a foreigner who takes care of her and may be also her family but behind the girl is having affair with a thai, some men even volontarily accept this kind of situation at least he knows with whom she is doing it. The more money you give her, the more she will show you that she is attracted by you but it is only superficial because the day after she will forget what you did for her. She will control your expenses, you may think that she wants you to save money!!! No she is just scared about nothing or little left for her. Always imagine what will happen at the time you have no more money. You will not be surprised of the number of suicides going on in this country most of the victims are people being well-off before. My advice is that If you can afford buying love then do it, there are thousand ways to do it and what you can for your money, she will not may be give you, you even have the choice of doing it when you feel like and not when you want and she refuses. You have the choice of changing girls when ever you want where as when you are with one this could be a problem. You may want to go out for dinner or any with a nice girl, there are classy young girls working as escorts you can hire for the day or as long as you want. It will cost you less energy, trouble and money to get commited with a single girl whom you beleive belong to you only,. Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 For a Thai woman,love is someone you have on the side (of your official relationship/marriage) Everyone's different KittyKat. I suppose you* (figuratively, not literally) make your own bed and lie in it. * Meaning the larger population, not 'you' personally. Traditionally marriage is not the space to express love in Thai culture. The husband is a social figure, a bread winner, a father, the guy in charge. And as lie is a cultural way life, up to 67% ofThai women are unfaithful. But sorry, you guys carry on dreaming ... more "another one bites the dust" stories to come ! We all love them ! 67% of Thai woman unfaithful? I do not think it is as much as that. I wonder what the percentage is supposed to be with Farangs. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Scarpolo Posted February 22, 2014 Author Share Posted February 22, 2014 Love. You still believe in that fairytale? The more I see these type of questions asked the more I believe that men have become vaginized. Yes. TBS. Tiny Ball Syndrome. Other than for some physical release in the shortest amount of time possible, why are you guys trying to figure out the mind of a female? I call these type of men the WKOP. The White Knights of Poon. Always trying to come to the rescue of some woman who is exploiting them. If you want to live her life and throw yours away to keep her happy, by all means, fall in love. If you want the Big Balls lifestyle of freedom and the ability to do whatever you want, then remove ballads, broads and bullshit from your life. Keep women as fun sexual escapes. No love. No marriage. Have fun. Stop trying to analyze women. Enjoy them for their bodies. The rest let that be AMP. Another Mans Problem. Turok, Dioosaur Hunter How old are you, is one question I have? The other is not a question, but the ancient wisdom teaches that the real key to spiritual power and the path to ascension is found in that very vagina you so easily dismiss as a playground.... study the Freemasons and the Rosecrucians, and you may learn, women have the temple, we merely enter it, (some of us for longer periods of time than others) but they have the temple, their feminine energy is required for our growth.. this is not vaginalization of the male, this is the proper use of this vital energy, and, if you really delve into the ancient wisdom, you will find that the real power is having them reach their highest state, while we maintain, and do not drop our energy needlessly, or the entire experience is left to the physical world, and you have gained, nothing from those moments, it is too deep to get into, but no one should be confused, I am clear minded in this and secure in my personage, whatever that means, it just occured to me to write that,. I don't seek females to fulfill fantasy, or to live a fantasy life, or to play the Knight, (although, I did write a song with Knight in the title) They have a power that they provide the male, who knows how to access it, and keep it now those living through their penis head, can all go throw up. others will understand this, although, you would have to have attained a certain level of ascension,. this board has many of both Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
baxida Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 When I first met my partner over 2 years ago, we fell in love I had a job and had bought her a gold ring for her birthday - nothing extraordinary about 6000thb or so. I lost my job so had to return to my home country to get more work. Every day I spoke to her on skype and she wanted to sell her gold ring to buy me a ticket back to Thailand. Of course the cost of a ticket was far more than that but that gave me the clue that she didn't care about money. Now we are very stable financially, I always joke with her that if I lost my job again or ran out of money, that she would 'trade me in for a richer model' Her reply.."You should be so lucky, you will start eating Thai food and move with me up to the family home." Bless. As somebody said in a previous post, there's no difference between Thai women and western women in love. The only difference is that Thai women will tell you if they want or need money, whereas many western are too proud, so won't. Funnily enough it's the same with western governments..They use tax as a way of stealing from the people. The Thai's will simply tell you to your face that they want your money. That's been my own personal conclusion anyway. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZAKY Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Its a lotto ! Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
makkam Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 She goes shopping, sends the money you give her to her family or her other thai boyfriend Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Somsrisonphimai Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Saying I love you and being affectionate do not come naturally to most of them, but when they love you, you can be sure they will be loyal, honest, faithful, supportive and respect you. Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Somsrisonphimai Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 She goes shopping, sends the money you give her to her family or her other thai boyfriend Ahh...must be speaking from your own experience. Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisinth Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 <script type='text/javascript'>window.mod_pagespeed_start = Number(new Date());</script> I am called "Darling", I must be posh...... alt=giggle.gif width=20 height=25> Careful there Trans, mine calls me something similar but in Thai represents a monkey's @ss.................. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post luk AJ Posted February 22, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted February 22, 2014 The question could be "what can I get for my money" serious, it can be a good trade. As said in so many posts, they are blessed with many talents; Thai girls can be very kind , smiling, not complicated, caring, and for me most important, they have a calming effect on me. My heart just relaxes every time she is close to me. Whether this is love I will never know and i don't care. It is just perfect the way it is. And for this sweet package, we help her and her family financially. Nothing wrong with that! 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ZAKY Posted February 22, 2014 Share Posted February 22, 2014 Yes ! As long that you dont have to go through to the cashier after that Sent from my iPhone using Thaivisa Connect Thailand Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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