Not saying this is true in your case, but lots of these ladies have decent places with other gals/boyfriends..... and keep an odd room on the side for appearances (of being single/poor).

My ex just passed away, and I found out just now that she had a husband that I was supporting for 8 years. When I did my visits to my kids, they lived in a shoebox apartment with no food on the shelf. This was just a decoy. Their real home (I never knew of) was elsewheres.

Sorry to read that guy, BUT I do know of others..................

Much the same was in other developing countries between expats and local "girl friends" who were just needing the money. Have a reality check and stop wasting money whilst you out. Remember the expression: "Pay as you go" as a polite version of observation?

You have known her 2 years.

Put up.

Or move on!

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I rang her before booking my accommodations and explained that the money on hotels could better spent on an aircon unit for her room she declined because when she visits me in Australia she would need to move her belongings to Amnat for storage as she doesn't like paying rent when not there. I also purchased her a microwave oven last trip.

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you have a girlfriend for 2 years you don't want to become a sponsor and you don't like her living in squalor! and when you come to Thailand she stays in a hotel with you! women of all nationalities like to feel secure in a relationship. And to feel loved and have a sense of security, living on the peripheral of a relationship is neither a commitment nor offering security and thereby not getting the best of what your lady can offer you back in return, they are used to living like that .although they would of course love to upgrade to a better standard of living they are not unhappy with there situation. They will continue to look for someone who can possibly provide that for them.my girlfriend used to live in a pretty depressing apartment/room but it was all she could afford and yes like you when I come over to see her she stays in a 4-5 star hotel and thoroughly enjoys it. on my last visit she wanted to move into something better and had already found somewhere but was waiting for me to come. The upshot being that after staying in my hotel for 6 weeks she then had to move into her new apartment. I paid the bond and three months rent, a total of less than 400.00 dollars my hotel bill for the same period was over 2500.00 dollars so it was not a huge sum to part with. She is forever grateful for my help and I am more than happy to help someone who is doing it tough. I am not rich and not poor but have learned that it is important to view things in not just a financial way. having compassion for her is a good thing. She has opened up more and is a lot happier! and it pleases me that someone I care about appreciates the help I give ,she also has a job but with family demands and the cost of the things it is always a struggle, she now eats better sleeps better and is generally happier due to my involvement with her,is she an angel ...probably not am I probably not. The rent is 110.00 per month and I agreed to pay that for her monthly. I will also be staying in her new apartment when I return in a few months leaving me with quite some savings on hotel bills, I know some of her friends and have met her family she is a very nice lady but has been dealt a harsh hand for her life..my advice is either get off the fence and help out your girlfriend minimally or walk away. You don't have to rescue her as many Thai ladies can take care of themselves but if you can comfortably help out why not .after all I am sure that you like to take advantage of what you can get when you are there..This is Thailand not farangland and at the end of the day you will feel better about helping and if you find she is scamming you with her heart and feelings for someone else. you can walk away knowing you still did a nice thing..

Look if you feel that bad about it then buy a condo lease it to her at say 500 baht a month. Then if in a few years things go south boot her mudhut arse out no loss no gain.

Ok ok When I first got here wet behind the ears so to say. I met this thai chick online we chatted hit off good too. Well she lived in the condo's by Impact not great but liveable. I was about to retire she wanted me to come live with her Well the Tat was good anyway her english understandable. So I agreed to come back and give it a shot. Well when I came back first thing out of her mouth was if you respect me you should give me half of my money. Meaning She wanted half of what I had I told her are you out of your mind? I in turn said if you respected me you wouldn't have asked me for that. Then she said then you go get place to live I said no problem Grabbed my stuff and was out the door Went to hotel for night great sleep too I might add then next day got condo that quick nice place too.About 2 days later get phone call it is her saying to I will take you back But I said no thanks. She cried said she is sorry But I told said look I maybe old in different country but I still can find my way around I didn't take crap from ex wife and won't take from any lady. I'm happy and moved on she found some other ATM .

Was that her real room, or her show room to make you feel sorry?

Plenty of girls that have a really nice house, but pretend to live in a toilet so Mr. Right Knight will give them money.

<deleted>, you really believe that?

" feel a little uncomfortable knowing she lives like this. I don't want to become a sponsor "

Well, instead of becoming a sponsor, you could buy her something she could use?

Maybe an AC or a fan?

Maybe a new mattress? Kitchen wares?

New scooter?

I have a girlfriend and she knows I cannot be her sponsor, but I do get her gifts that she can use and live with.

She appreciates that just as much.

I suspect, like most farrangs, you have a time share in a "girlfriend".

Nothing wrong with that.

Um, cough cough....actually two..........

Was that her real room, or her show room to make you feel sorry?

Plenty of girls that have a really nice house, but pretend to live in a toilet so Mr. Right Knight will give them money.

Absolutely......spot on.

Why doesn't the OP arrive unannounced next time and just follow, and see if she really lives there..?

Yes, this is a relationship that is heading in the right direction

re thai gf:yes but does she measure up?

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That is a really interesting story ...

Thanks for sharing, I understand in part.

God I wish that English was your first language.

Thank you. God, I wish you would have more imagination.

That is a really interesting story ...

Thanks for sharing, I understand in part.

God I wish that English was your first language.

Thank you. God, I wish you would have more imagination.

As much as you have Alfie? I agree with Dave. your nonsense is 4 elephants <deleted>....

As much as you have Alfie? I agree with Dave. your nonsense is 4 elephants <deleted>....

I will answer your question, after you write me something in my mother tongue.

Until than. :fuyou:

Ok ok When I first got here wet behind the ears so to say. I met this thai chick online we chatted hit off good too. Well she lived in the condo's by Impact not great but liveable. I was about to retire she wanted me to come live with her Well the Tat was good anyway her english understandable. So I agreed to come back and give it a shot. Well when I came back first thing out of her mouth was if you respect me you should give me half of my money. Meaning She wanted half of what I had I told her are you out of your mind? I in turn said if you respected me you wouldn't have asked me for that. Then she said then you go get place to live I said no problem Grabbed my stuff and was out the door Went to hotel for night great sleep too I might add then next day got condo that quick nice place too.About 2 days later get phone call it is her saying to I will take you back But I said no thanks. She cried said she is sorry But I told said look I maybe old in different country but I still can find my way around I didn't take crap from ex wife and won't take from any lady. I'm happy and moved on she found some other ATM .

You weren't a sucker strangebrew, but many are!!!

So many men come to Thailand thinking they can 'save' a hooker, or non hooker, but save them from what?

Who meets a woman in his home country, and caves in to a request/demand for half of what he has?

I've often bought women gifts, take them to decent restaurants, but won't shell out money. It may be my presbyterian upbringing, but giving money is like paying a hooker to me.

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i also had a Thai girlfriend. she was a hostess on Air Siam. that was 40 years ago, my weight was 20kg less... my stamina was 1000% of today's... ahhhh nostalgia... alt=crying.gif>

Only 20kg???

i get all the plastic bags i need from 7-11

Ok ok When I first got here wet behind the ears so to say. I met this thai chick online we chatted hit off good too. Well she lived in the condo's by Impact not great but liveable. I was about to retire she wanted me to come live with her Well the Tat was good anyway her english understandable. So I agreed to come back and give it a shot. Well when I came back first thing out of her mouth was if you respect me you should give me half of my money. Meaning She wanted half of what I had I told her are you out of your mind? I in turn said if you respected me you wouldn't have asked me for that. Then she said then you go get place to live I said no problem Grabbed my stuff and was out the door Went to hotel for night great sleep too I might add then next day got condo that quick nice place too.About 2 days later get phone call it is her saying to I will take you back But I said no thanks. She cried said she is sorry But I told said look I maybe old in different country but I still can find my way around I didn't take crap from ex wife and won't take from any lady. I'm happy and moved on she found some other ATM .

You weren't a sucker strangebrew, but many are!!!

So many men come to Thailand thinking they can 'save' a hooker, or non hooker, but save them from what?

Who meets a woman in his home country, and caves in to a request/demand for half of what he has?

I've often bought women gifts, take them to decent restaurants, but won't shell out money. It may be my presbyterian upbringing, but giving money is like paying a hooker to me.

It always baffles me when people break down their relationships in finance and the 'ol 'you pay one way or the other' is the most, lazy stupid thing I ever heard in my life

Just because I won't sponsor some girl it doesn't mean you can't be nice or generous. Of course I am happy to take my GF out, all the time, sometimes nice places but as long as they appreciate a good deal as well. It's nice when someone appreciates something too

Yet many guys (especially in Thailand) seem to think taking someone to dinner and not having sex is some waste of money! I mean, is that how their parents met?

Do you do that with your guy friends and add up all the beers they got vs what you got or how good the conversation is?

I am happy to take a girl out, take her for drinks but like you and I am not handing over some monthly 'salary'. Now people well delightfully say 'see, see, see ... you're paying' as though we should never spend a baht unless we are absolutely guaranteed a shag! It's called being a normal person, jeez!!