pittsdaulga Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 I know this is last minute, but I how when I wake I'll have a couple answers Back ground: I'm in a wheelchair and need help with the shower and other personal issues. My main woman went away for a month to see her family. She is coming back tomorrow and the current (temp girl) is now upset with the news of her coming back. I'm guessing jealousy of her and her losing a paycheck. I was going to give her a tip of 3-4K baht as I have given her a 1k baht a day for her assistance, but based on her sadness and pissy attitude, should I forget it and give her the normal 1K baht for the night and move on? I'm at a cross road of fair and me being generous. Some outside perspective would be helpful from the more experienced members. Thanks for reading my drunk concerns. --Pitts Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jdietz Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Well if you get completely pissed, you couldn't care less whoever may be pissed at you. Probably best solution. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post scorecard Posted June 7, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted June 7, 2014 Was the temp girl well aware that your main lady would be away just 3 weeks? Did the main lady explain this to the temp girl? And was it made clear that number one and would definitely be coming back? Have you flirted with the temp girl? Have you made your own problem? 1,000 - 2,000 tip enough IMHO, especially since you don't want her to make assumptions that she's replaced number one. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sdanielmcev Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Careful! www.youtube.com/watch?v=FHHJsXH3BiU 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chickenslegs Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Aside from the recent 'attitude', has she completed her work to a satisfactory standard? If so (IMHO), a small tip would be appropriate (bear in mind that you might want her to 'temp' again in the future). If she has performed "above and beyond" then a generous tip is called for. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 While the OP is talking about a tip. Remember that was was paying the lady Bt 1,000 a day ... more then 3 times the minimum wage. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mesquite Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Sounds to me like you're paying too much. For 30000 THB per month you could get 2 full time nurses. No tip. Just pay her the overly generous 1000 for that day. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post wolf5370 Posted June 7, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted June 7, 2014 Question might be, what are you going to do next time no.1 goes away for a while? Guess you would prefer to have this one back as you know she is good at her job. So, I would pretend not to notice she is pissed, and let her know you will be giving her a nice tip on her last day (keeping the amount to yourself) and that you will keep her number if things change or if you need her again. Then on the last day, at the end of it, give her 2k extra (that's more than enough!). She'll then be good up until the last minute (as she will not want to risk losing the tip) and happy with the severance and note that she may get the job at some point later. 11 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Question might be, what are you going to do next time no.1 goes away for a while? Guess you would prefer to have this one back as you know she is good at her job. So, I would pretend not to notice she is pissed, and let her know you will be giving her a nice tip on her last day (keeping the amount to yourself) and that you will keep her number if things change or if you need her again. Then on the last day, at the end of it, give her 2k extra (that's more than enough!). She'll then be good up until the last minute (as she will not want to risk losing the tip) and happy with the severance and note that she may get the job at some point later. Yep, a good solution ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
marko kok prong Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Come on guys,whereustay in disguise,same style,except he did not mention sweating, or if he had weighed her,3 post's ,i am not falling for it,in a wheelchair,this is sinking low even for whereustay,i am sure it is him,check the writing style"i know this is last minute" who the hell say's that unless he is off to see the sweating hi so teacher again,i wonder what his laundry bill is from cleaning those sweat and excretion soaked sheets,come on now whereustay admit it is you. 2 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wow64 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Just keep both.. Then you are happy and they are both happy. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daveAustin Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Give her 20 baht. 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
David48 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 Come on guys,whereustay in disguise,same style,except he did not mention sweating, or if he had weighed her,3 post's ,i am not falling for it,in a wheelchair,this is sinking low even for whereustay,i am sure it is him,check the writing style"i know this is last minute" who the hell say's that unless he is off to see the sweating hi so teacher again,i wonder what his laundry bill is from cleaning those sweat and excretion soaked sheets,come on now whereustay admit it is you. Humm ... interesting ... 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Datebayo Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 You are overpaying, you are ruining it for all the long term expats OMG! Don't you know that we expats only pay for the noodles and condoms? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wow64 Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 You are overpaying, you are ruining it for all the long term expats OMG! Don't you know that we expats only pay for the noodles and condoms? You pay for condoms??? Omg there is half your budget.. Cut that out. Just use the mamma plastic. Sent from my c64 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
daoyai Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 When in doubt, error on the side of generosity. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mesquite Posted June 7, 2014 Share Posted June 7, 2014 You are overpaying, you are ruining it for all the long term expats OMG! Don't you know that we expats only pay for the noodles and condoms? A few people overpaying has no effect on the marketplace. He's just throwing his money away, not ours. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wprime Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 No formal contracts right? Did she know it was a temp job? If so she isn't entitled to severance at all. Why would she be pissed? Is there more to this story? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rhythmworx Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 I'd be wheely careful if I was you, one of them will get jealous. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post AnotherOneAmerican Posted June 8, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted June 8, 2014 1,000bht a day! That's a lot, no wonder she is upset. You are paying too much. 6 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
somchaismith Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 In light of her bitchy attitude, give her nothing and take her nowhere. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
telldem Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 If she gives you a happy ending when she tucks you in at night, she deserves the tip. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post somchaismith Posted June 8, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted June 8, 2014 If she gives you a happy ending when she tucks you in at night, she deserves the tip. I think she already may have got a bit more than the tip. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
gamini Posted June 8, 2014 Share Posted June 8, 2014 Sounds to me like you're paying too much. For 30000 THB per month you could get 2 full time nurses. No tip. Just pay her the overly generous 1000 for that day. Off topic. But I may soon need a live in nurse. She need not be qualified. . She should be able to drive. Can I get one for Bt15,000 I live near Hua HIN Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post spoonzor Posted June 9, 2014 Popular Post Share Posted June 9, 2014 In Bangkok 1000 thb per 12 hours is a good price for a qualified professional English speaking nurse. Any cheeper is probably not really a nurse but just a random girl who helps you out (nothing wrong with that depending on your situation). Those guys saying 1000 a day is overpaying have no idea what they are talking about, again. Or maybe they jus live on the middle of nowhere , might be cheaper there. 3 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
flyingdoc Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Is there more to this story? The pay suggested, whilst generous is not over the top. Why do you have to consider what she thinks if you do not have to employ her again? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Emster23 Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 She is playing you, looking for your reaction (not uncommon around the world). I suggest ignore her anger. She is just hoping for a good "money shot". Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
brit1984 Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 1000 baht a day for a domestic care assistant?... no wonder she's upset that her contract is being terminated! you are too nice, be careful 1 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tromboneman Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 Question might be, what are you going to do next time no.1 goes away for a while? Guess you would prefer to have this one back as you know she is good at her job. So, I would pretend not to notice she is pissed, and let her know you will be giving her a nice tip on her last day (keeping the amount to yourself) and that you will keep her number if things change or if you need her again. Then on the last day, at the end of it, give her 2k extra (that's more than enough!). She'll then be good up until the last minute (as she will not want to risk losing the tip) and happy with the severance and note that she may get the job at some point later. Checkmate! That's a pretty good idea Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wooloomooloo Posted June 9, 2014 Share Posted June 9, 2014 If she gives you a happy ending when she tucks you in at night, she deserves the tip. A bed bath (or a soapy bed bath) then a happy ending should be double. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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