Age gap in a relationship, how comfortable are you?

[thailiketoo]

 

 

 

 

 

The great majority of older men here have legal visas and enough money in the bank verified by immigration to live comfortably in Thailand. 

 

Marriage with a woman of legal age whatever that age is not a vice.

 

There is the flaw in your argument.  If society thought it was wrong they would make it illegal.  My wife is 30 years younger than I.  She is in her 40's.  Nothing illegal about it.  I am OK with. My grown children are OK with it.  Her family is OK with it.  30 years younger no problem. 

 

I was married to a woman 30 years younger than I in the West too.  She was a dancer, great body. 
 

 

"Marriage with a woman of legal age whatever that age is not a vice." - vice is a subjective term....attempts to define it by law are always subjective and do not necessarily reflect morals....and certainly don't guarantee a genuine relationship.

 

Marriage implies sex........sex between an old man and a young woman must always to some extent reflect a pedophilia aspect in the relationship.

My wife is 40 years old and you are saying  I'm a pedophile!

 

Your post is nonsense.  Sex between consenting adults is legal and accepted all over the world.  The only pedophile is in your mind.  Get help .  The only thing reflected here is envy makes men look foolish. 

 

pe·do·phile

ˈpedəˌfīl/

noun

noun: paedophile; plural noun: paedophiles; noun: pedophile; plural noun: pedophiles

1. a person who is sexually attracted to children.

    

   Note it say children not young women.  You are 100% in error.  Pedophilia has nothing to do whatsoever with young women.  

 

 

 

 

I'm saying what? Really? touched a nerve?

I think also you might check out the laws concerning age of consent and marriage around the world....you might =be shocked - just because it is "law" doesn't make it morally OK......... it means you might get away with it in some countries.

 

Big age difference in relationships are almost always exploitative or delusional.

 

 

The only nerve it touched was the "you are not informed nerve."  Pedophilia involves pre pubescent children not women.  For you to imply that it does is sick.  You sick not me sick.   Get it?  Pedophiles are not attracted to women after puberty.  My wife is 40 and reached puberty many years ago.  For you to imply that I am a pedophile for having a 40 year old wife is your problem and sickness not mine.  Talk to a doctor or policeman but talk to someone before you get in trouble. 
 

[Somsrisonphimai]

Somsrisonphimai ... I like the stuff you write, but I always have this nagging doubt.

You are Thai correct?

Living in Thailand?

A Thai Woman?

It's just that you always talk about Thailand in the 3^rd person.

"it seemed the Thai society has accepted" ... wouldn't you naturally write along the lines of the first person in the style of 'our society'.


That said ... MissFarmGirl seems to be fine with me.

Our age differerence is known to our friends.

For those who are curious as to that number ... buy me a beer and heck, I'll throw in the winning Lotto numbers for next week ...

ladyboy maybe....... says my Wife, however i have no opinion either way

100% woman, born and raised in Thailand and Phimai, Korat is my hometown. My profile picture is my recent picture, so I am far from anything but a Thai woman.

I knew couples whose age is not the norm to be a couple, but they genuine have feeling for one another, they care for one another other and they love each other. I also knew girls being with a man, who twice their age, for financial reason.

I have wondered about the comfortableness of their relationship but I certainly will not go up to the couples and ask about it. It would be considered rude of me to ask such thing would it? On the other hand, why can't I raise a question regarding the age gap in a relationship here without being called judgmental?

[maanoi]

Thai people talk down about you when you are not around. They just don't say it to your face as to not embarrass you.

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Really? Do you think that anyone would care? People who I don't know talk negatively about me when I am not there and I should rethink my relationship?
 
Living in Pattaya I am already judged negatively by many keyboard warriors here and I don't care about that either.
 
Its not what others think, its what I think that matters.
 

I don't disagree with you. If you're happy then that's great.

I was simply addressing the OP that thinks Thai people accept it as a non issue.

Thai people (and farangs) certainly do talk about it in a negative way.

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[Somsrisonphimai]

To paraphrase John Milton; Man can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven in his mind.

Are you happy with your partner? Yes? Then enjoy and who cares what other people think. If your partner is there for different reasons than you. IT DOES NOT MATTER!!!!

For those of you that are offended by large age differences. WE DON'T CARE. I am offended by socks and sandals but I don't write a post about it nor do I spend time worrying about it.

Every person on this planet is diferent and life is too short. Carpe Diem

It is just a conversation. Why cannot we talk about it? This is not part of the three things that people should not talk about like in the US, money, politic and religion.

[thailiketoo]

 

To paraphrase John Milton; Man can make a heaven of hell or a hell of heaven in his mind.

Are you happy with your partner? Yes? Then enjoy and who cares what other people think. If your partner is there for different reasons than you. IT DOES NOT MATTER!!!!

For those of you that are offended by large age differences. WE DON'T CARE. I am offended by socks and sandals but I don't write a post about it nor do I spend time worrying about it.

Every person on this planet is diferent and life is too short. Carpe Diem

It is just a conversation. Why cannot we talk about it? This is not part of the three things that people should not talk about like in the US, money, politic and religion.

 

I'll tell you why.  Some nut case above accused me of being a pedophile for having a 40 year old wife, that's why.  Thai Visa spawns a lot of loony, angry and insulting posters. 

Edited July 30, 2014 by thailiketoo

[bunnydrops]

First off, not all old farangs are bald and fat. Not all Thai women are "only" in it for the money. Many young and old get together for the wrong reason, whether its for the money or for  the lust. Love has nothing to do with either. It is what develops, age and physical appearance really has little to do with it. Do you think people in arranged marriages never begin to love each other?

 

A man was asked what was the difference between an arranged marriage and one in the west. His reply " It is like the difference in how we make tea. In the west, you boil the water, then add the tea. We add the tea and then bring it to a boil."

 

Another quote from someone here about the delusional on both sides of this argument. "That is the Thailand you live in. I live in the other Thailand"

[thehelmsman]

 

 

Somsrisonphimai ... I like the stuff you write, but I always have this nagging doubt.

You are Thai correct?

Living in Thailand?

A Thai Woman?

It's just that you always talk about Thailand in the 3^rd person.

"it seemed the Thai society has accepted" ... wouldn't you naturally write along the lines of the first person in the style of 'our society'.


That said ... MissFarmGirl seems to be fine with me.

Our age differerence is known to our friends.

For those who are curious as to that number ... buy me a beer and heck, I'll throw in the winning Lotto numbers for next week ...

 

ladyboy maybe....... says my Wife, however i have no opinion either way

100% woman, born and raised in Thailand and Phimai, Korat is my hometown. My profile picture is my recent picture, so I am far from anything but a Thai woman.

I knew couples whose age is not the norm to be a couple, but they genuine have feeling for one another, they care for one another other and they love each other. I also knew girls being with a man, who twice their age, for financial reason.

I have wondered about the comfortableness of their relationship but I certainly will not go up to the couples and ask about it. It would be considered rude of me to ask such thing would it? On the other hand, why can't I raise a question regarding the age gap in a relationship here without being called judgmental?

 

 

Having kids together helps to solidify the relationship. And, it helps the older guys to take better care of themselves, I speak from personal experience.

 

[Somsrisonphimai]

Thai people talk down about you when you are not around. They just don't say it to your face as to not embarrass you.

Sent from my GT-I9300 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Really? Do you think that anyone would care? People who I don't know talk negatively about me when I am not there and I should rethink my relationship?

Living in Pattaya I am already judged negatively by many keyboard warriors here and I don't care about that either.

Its not what others think, its what I think that matters.

I don't disagree with you. If you're happy then that's great.

I was simply addressing the OP that thinks Thai people accept it as a non issue.

Thai people (and farangs) certainly do talk about it in a negative way.

Sent from my GT-I9300 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Yes people do at time make comment about the man being too old for the girl. The girls themselves also making joke about their man calling him grandpa and such. But, why are we seeing more of the couple if Thai society does not accept the relationship? When you go out about in Thailand, what do you see between a Thai woman and foreign man couple, age gap, right? Edited July 30, 2014 by Somsrisonphimai

[bkkjames]

 

 

 

Thai people talk down about you when you are not around. They just don't say it to your face as to not embarrass you.

Sent from my GT-I9300 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Really? Do you think that anyone would care? People who I don't know talk negatively about me when I am not there and I should rethink my relationship?

Living in Pattaya I am already judged negatively by many keyboard warriors here and I don't care about that either.

Its not what others think, its what I think that matters.

I don't disagree with you. If you're happy then that's great.

I was simply addressing the OP that thinks Thai people accept it as a non issue.

Thai people (and farangs) certainly do talk about it in a negative way.

Sent from my GT-I9300 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Yes people do at time make comment about the man being too old for the girl. The girls themselves also making joke about their man calling him grandpa and such. But, why are we seeing more of the couple if Thai society does not accept the relationship? When you go out about in Thailand, what do you see between a Thai woman and foreign man couple, age gap, right?

 

 

I normally see about 3 meters of pavement between the foreigner and trailing gal. 

[thailiketoo]

 

Yes people do at time make comment about the man being too old for the girl. The girls themselves also making joke about their man calling him grandpa and such. But, why are we seeing more of the couple if Thai society does not accept the relationship? When you go out about in Thailand, what do you see between a Thai woman and foreign man couple, age gap, right?

 

 

If you are going to pretend to understand Thai people you should at least speak rudimentary Thai.

 

Thais will call a man they don't respect, a snake head  tâo hŭa ngoo  Old man who runs after young girls, dirty old man.

 

They will not use that term for a respected married couple only the uneducated Farang would. 

[Kwasaki]

 

100% woman, born and raised in Thailand and Phimai, Korat is my hometown. My profile picture is my recent picture, so I am far from anything but a Thai woman.

I knew couples whose age is not the norm to be a couple, but they genuine have feeling for one another, they care for one another other and they love each other. I also knew girls being with a man, who twice their age, for financial reason.

I have wondered about the comfortableness of their relationship but I certainly will not go up to the couples and ask about it. It would be considered rude of me to ask such thing would it? On the other hand, why can't I raise a question regarding the age gap in a relationship here without being called judgmental?

 

 

You have raised the question.

 

Personally I would not be offended if you were in our company and asking the question, for you to consider it rude is a Thai thingy, maybe my wife would think it rude of you but would still smile. 

 

I have been acquainted with a few farangies married to Thai ladies of all different age gaps.

 

For me it would be the way you went about asking the question.

 

You would only be labelled judgemental if you criticize what people have decided to do on any particular subject and of those who have a different view.

 

I can be judgemental or just speak my mind on many subjects or actions taken by people, again it’s the way you go about it. 

[thailiketoo]

I normally see about 3 meters of pavement between the foreigner and trailing gal. 

 

 

Who are you trying to kid?  This is not Doha. 
 

[maanoi]

Thai people talk down about you when you are not around. They just don't say it to your face as to not embarrass you.

Sent from my GT-I9300 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Really? Do you think that anyone would care? People who I don't know talk negatively about me when I am not there and I should rethink my relationship?

Living in Pattaya I am already judged negatively by many keyboard warriors here and I don't care about that either.

Its not what others think, its what I think that matters.

I don't disagree with you. If you're happy then that's great.

I was simply addressing the OP that thinks Thai people accept it as a non issue.

Thai people (and farangs) certainly do talk about it in a negative way.

Sent from my GT-I9300 using Thaivisa Connect Thailand mobile app

Yes people do at time make comment about the man being too old for the girl. The girls themselves also making joke about their man calling him grandpa and such. But, why are we seeing more of the couple if Thai society does not accept the relationship? When you go out about in Thailand, what do you see between a Thai woman and foreign man couple, age gap, right?

I guess the financial rewards outweigh the everyday loss of face.

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[choochoo]

the wider the age difference the bigger the  smile on the girls face is what i see.  CHA CHA ching!!!

[Somsrisonphimai]

It's time to put the horse out of it's misery, someone please shoot it.

I thought about abandon the thread but I do like reading what people have to say on this topic.

[thailiketoo]

 

It's time to put the horse out of it's misery, someone please shoot it.

I thought about abandon the thread but I do like reading what people have to say on this topic.

 

Ya I bet you get a big kick out of reading about a decent family man with a 40 year old wife being called a pedophile? 

[Somsrisonphimai]

It's time to put the horse out of it's misery, someone please shoot it.

I thought about abandon the thread but I do like reading what people have to say on this topic.

Ya I bet you get a big kick out of reading about a decent family man with a 40 year old wife being called a pedophile?

I think you care too much what people said.

[ATF]

I think the height gap is more important 6ft 4" Falung and 4ft 6" Issan girl.

[Somsrisonphimai]

I think the height gap is more important 6ft 4" Falung and 4ft 6" Issan girl.

What about the weight gap?

[mrtoad]

 

I think the height gap is more important 6ft 4" Falung and 4ft 6" Issan girl.

What about the weight gap?

 

Weighing is whereustay territory.

 

How tall are you?

[thailiketoo]

 

 

 

It's time to put the horse out of it's misery, someone please shoot it.

I thought about abandon the thread but I do like reading what people have to say on this topic.

Ya I bet you get a big kick out of reading about a decent family man with a 40 year old wife being called a pedophile?

I think you care too much what people said.

 

 

So you don't mind if I call you a a sexual pervert who preys on small children?  Aw come on.  The only difference is, I'm the wronged party and you find it amusing to insult people.

 

Its fun to poke fun at old people on Thai Visa.  In England in the middle ages they would poke sick people in hospitals with sticks for fun and pay to watch surgery without anesthetics, I guess not much has changed. 

[Somsrisonphimai]

I think the height gap is more important 6ft 4" Falung and 4ft 6" Issan girl.

What about the weight gap?

Weighing is whereustay territory.

How tall are you?

5.6

[ATF]

 

 

 

I think the height gap is more important 6ft 4" Falung and 4ft 6" Issan girl.

What about the weight gap?

Weighing is whereustay territory.

How tall are you?

5.6

 

 

Ok you need a Falung at least 7ft

 

[thehelmsman]

 

 

It's time to put the horse out of it's misery, someone please shoot it.

I thought about abandon the thread but I do like reading what people have to say on this topic.

 

Ya I bet you get a big kick out of reading about a decent family man with a 40 year old wife being called a pedophile? 

 

 

Soms is a naughty lady, I can tell. Or, perhaps a 300 LB. dutchman - could go either way

 

[Somsrisonphimai]

[quote name="thailiketoo" post="8171930" timestamp="1406700902"][quote name="Somsrisonphimai" post="8171860" timestamp="1406700058"] [quote name="thailiketoo" post="8171803" timestamp="1406699383"] [quote name="Somsrisonphimai" post="8171791" timestamp="1406699279"] [quote name="thehelmsman" post="8170716" timestamp="1406686591"]It's time to put the horse out of it's misery, someone please shoot it.[/quote]I thought about abandon the thread but I do like reading what people have to say on this topic.[/quote]Ya I bet you get a big kick out of reading about a decent family man with a 40 year old wife being called a pedophile?[/quote]
I think you care too much what people said.
[/quote]

So you don't mind if I call you a a sexual pervert who preys on small children? Aw come on. The only difference is, I'm the wronged party and you find it amusing to insult people.

Its fun to poke fun at old people on Thai Visa. In England in the middle ages they would poke sick people in hospitals with sticks for fun and pay to watch surgery without anesthetics, I guess not much has changed. [/quote]

I don't believe I poke fun of old people as I will be old soon. I have always tried to be respectful on this forum and brushed off on an unwanted replies. Having said that, I regretted respond to one gentlemen about him may be loaded with Viagra. Sometimes you just have to let it go because people will say whatever.

[mrtoad]

 

 

 

I think the height gap is more important 6ft 4" Falung and 4ft 6" Issan girl.

What about the weight gap?

Weighing is whereustay territory.

How tall are you?

5.6

 

Vital statistics? 

[Somsrisonphimai]

[quote name="ATF" post="8171953" timestamp="1406701233"][quote name="Somsrisonphimai" post="8171938" timestamp="1406700997"] [quote name="mrtoad" post="8171921" timestamp="1406700806"] [quote name="Somsrisonphimai" post="8171913" timestamp="1406700689"] [quote name="ATF" post="8171888" timestamp="1406700418"]I think the height gap is more important 6ft 4" Falung and 4ft 6" Issan girl.[/quote]What about the weight gap?[/quote]Weighing is whereustay territory.

How tall are you?[/quote]
5.6
[/quote]

Ok you need a Falung at least 7ft

[/quote]

No, don't want to tiptoe when I kiss him :)

[Somsrisonphimai]

[quote name="mrtoad" post="8171987" timestamp="1406701693"][quote name="Somsrisonphimai" post="8171938" timestamp="1406700997"] [quote name="mrtoad" post="8171921" timestamp="1406700806"] [quote name="Somsrisonphimai" post="8171913" timestamp="1406700689"] [quote name="ATF" post="8171888" timestamp="1406700418"]I think the height gap is more important 6ft 4" Falung and 4ft 6" Issan girl.[/quote]What about the weight gap?[/quote]Weighing is whereustay territory.

How tall are you?[/quote]
5.6
[/quote]
Vital statistics? [/quote]

Why? You can take people at their face value.

[mrtoad]

I am shallow 

[thailiketoo]

I don't believe I poke fun of old people as I will be old soon. I have always tried to be respectful on this forum and brushed off on an unwanted replies. Having said that, I regretted respond to one gentlemen about him may be loaded with Viagra. Sometimes you just have to let it go because people will say whatever.

I agree with you but think the line should be drawn at accusing people of one of the worst crimes of man and feel the point should be made unequivocally that pedophilia involves pre pubescent children not 40 year old women.  I don't see any excuse or any point of trying to confuse the issue or muddy the water between children and adults.  One is simply not the other however immature one may think the other sex is.