maybe your deceitfulness has come home to roost.

Aye, you make your bed and lie in it until you have the gumption to get out of it.

Stop being a wimp. Change the locks. Bar her. Move.

Have I ever told the analogy of the frog and the scorpion?

 

A rather ugly frog was king of his little river, along came a rather pretty scorpion, who needed to cross the river. So the pretty scorpion asked the ugly frog for a lift on his back. The ugly frog said, "of course if you pay me handsomely at the other side".

 

The pretty scorpion said of course "I will", but then the ugly frog thought better of it and said, " If I take you over, you will sting me, it is in your nature".

 

The pretty scorpion said, " I only need a lift, and if I sting you, we will both drown".

 

So the ugly frog agreed, and half way over the river, the pretty scorpion stung the ugly frog, the ugly frog wailed, " Why did you do that, we are now both going to drown".

 

The pretty scorpion said, " I couldn't help it, it is my nature".

 

Moral of this analogy, don't make your bed over a river you can't cross without the need of someone else.

How do you guys get yourselves backed into these corners?  :::shakes head:::

 

I ask that laughingly, btw.  I do get the allure and how special they can make you feel.  And how they can promise that they're not drama ten seconds before they go into a raging fit.  And morally, I could care less what you do.  Many couples have open relationships and it works just fine.  This one just went sideways on you.

 

Here's some advice from a woman's perspective:

 

I think your two options are to pay her off, or move without telling her.  If she goes back to the bars, you risk running into her there and reviving the crazy, though, so you might want to pick a new city.  If your serious girlfriend really doesn't know you are getting some on the side (and I suspect she's well aware and just willing to put up with it - I don't know any girl that doesn't instinctively know these things) then I would not suggest bringing her within a 50 km radius of scary drama girl.

 

Your two worlds are a whole lot of fun until they collide, huh?  

As the saying goes; we don't pay for them to stay we pay them to leave.

Get rid of her the same way you would want a jerk like you to dump your sister, daughter, Mother, etc...

Just tell her this: '' Mai mee tang'' 

You could try crying in front of her.

Seriously. I had a stalker ex-girlfriend who was a school teacher, who was barred from my condo by security but bought an apartment in the building (which was kind of ingenious I have to admit), threatened to tell the police all kinds of lies, and nothing I did would stop the contest harassment. Till I broke down into fake tears in front of her about how bad I felt and how my life was ruined and she was so horrified by this loss of face of mine she apologised and ceased all harassment. 

 

Essentially she's losing face by being shut out your life. You need to twist the situation so you're to blame- pay her off or do something to make her feel like she's won- and learn a lesson. 

You're a man right?

You have a serious long-term relationship AND live with a hooker for 7 months ???

The story sounds wierd.

Pay a lady boy to keep you company, if your teerak knocks on the door lady boys have a good way of dealing with things like that without being violent..

 

 

Just tell her this: '' Mai mee tang'' 

I don't have plastic?

 

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

I don't recall asking for moral judgement so please keep it to yourself

 

 

If this story is true, than morally you are an irresponsible moron. 

 

You were already in a long term relationship and then decide to become closely involved with a lady of ill repute, without any regards or care about the risks to your partner by no fault on her part, who probably trusted you as being responsible, caring and credible.

 

Firstly, you should refrain from having any sexual activities with anyone, then get yourself tested for STDs and HIV and inform your partner that it would be in her interests to have an HIV test because you may have exposed her to the virus via your irresponsible sexual activities with a prostitute.

 

You have not only create problems for yourself, but also for your innocent unsuspecting partner who probably has no idea that you have placed her at great risk of contracting an incurable and fatal disease.

 

You are outrageous.

 

^The OP never stated his LTR was with a woman.

The plot thickens.

The ladyboy option, while wise, may yet get violent.

Be honest with her.

Be honest with yourself.

Learn from your mistake.

Move if necessary.

Pay her if necessary. 

There is no magic solution for dealing with these situations. 

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences …..

 

 

So why did you expect yours to be different?

 

We all reap what we sow.

 

Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

Wow, who invited you to be judge and jury?  This guy is asking a serious question and deserves a serious response.  If you don't have anything helpful to offer, then please stay off this forum!  I suppose you are in a position to cast the first stone, yes?

Just slip out the back, Jack.
There must be 50 ways to leave your lover.

Edited August 8, 201411 yr by AnotherOneAmerican

 

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

I don't recall asking for moral judgement so please keep it to yourself

 

Introduce her to your 'long-term' relationship and see what shakes out!

 

Introduce her to a richer, more handsome, younger man than you, and she'll bolt out that door

in no time...

Visit the local police station, with a Thai translator if you don't speak Thai, file a complaint against the woman. Helps if you have a copy of her ID. Next time she visits show her the report. She will be upset but be firm. If she visits again file another report. The third time she visits she will be arrested.
I find it impossible to believe that you have a long term partner who doesn't know of this hooker if your long term partner has been to your place and the hooker has been living there for months. She would have been told by neighbours or security without a doubt.

dont pay a cent.. it will never end

 

Put titanic on and watch the movie with the missus and at the end of it.. tell her the truth

You need to give her the it's not you it's me routine.

http://youtu.be/vFXCKQ7K2bs

 

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences …..

 

 

So why did you expect yours to be different?

 

We all reap what we sow.

 

Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

Wow, who invited you to be judge and jury?  This guy is asking a serious question and deserves a serious response.  If you don't have anything helpful to offer, then please stay off this forum!  I suppose you are in a position to cast the first stone, yes?

 

You have to laugh at all the self-righteous folk on here. I bet they all came to Thailand to see the temples and never thought about the opportunities for easy sex. The guy just fancied a bit on the side like most blokes do. He'll get out of it , just tell her to sod off and if the long termer complains get shut of her too. In Thailand it's best to just use the women for sex and don't fall for the ridiculous thought these women actually love you. They love your money and security it brings them , nothing else and if you believe different then you're just another self deluded mug.

 

Just move far away.

Hope she turns out to be a bunny boiler, you deserve it for cheating on the other girl...

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

I don't recall asking for moral judgement so please keep it to yourself

I guess you need to re-read what was said. It wasn't a moral judgement, just a truth in life.

Endless story....


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I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences …..

 

 

So why did you expect yours to be different?

 

We all reap what we sow.

 

Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

Wow, who invited you to be judge and jury?  This guy is asking a serious question and deserves a serious response.  If you don't have anything helpful to offer, then please stay off this forum!  I suppose you are in a position to cast the first stone, yes?

 

You have to laugh at all the self-righteous folk on here. I bet they all came to Thailand to see the temples and never thought about the opportunities for easy sex. The guy just fancied a bit on the side like most blokes do. He'll get out of it , just tell her to sod off and if the long termer complains get shut of her too. In Thailand it's best to just use the women for sex and don't fall for the ridiculous thought these women actually love you. They love your money and security it brings them , nothing else and if you believe different then you're just another self deluded mug.

 

 

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Is that judged off all the women you met in bars or just some of them?

Edited August 8, 201411 yr by rhythmworx

I'm sure many people on this forum have had similar experiences ..
 
 
So why did you expect yours to be different?
 
We all reap what we sow.
 
Can't help you. There is no good solution, and I feel no pity for those who cheat when they are in a, as you misrepresent it, "serious long-term relationship." I think you got what you deserved. I just hope your partner, didn't.

Wow, who invited you to be judge and jury?  This guy is asking a serious question and deserves a serious response.  If you don't have anything helpful to offer, then please stay off this forum!  I suppose you are in a position to cast the first stone, yes?

Ummmmm, that's why a person starts a thread in a public forum. To hear all opinions about his/her situation.

You have a stalker in your life good luck getting rid of her

Offer to pay the first months rent and deposit on a new place away from where you stay or 20,000 cash to just leave. A small amount of cash for a quick end to your nightmare.

 

 

 

This would be I suspect about as effective as giving biscuits to a puppy dog

 

 

 

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