Am I being unreasonable ?

[ggt]

With all due respect...when you marry a Thai...what was yours becomes part to the extended Thai families...they will beg, borrow, and steal...never expect to pay anything back...or take responsibility for maintenance or upkeep...and become somewhat taken-back...when a farang complains...

[KIWIBATCH]

Thai family logic...goes like this..." what is yours is mine also"

No I don't think you are being unreasonable.

[rickirs]

If the only lessons you learn in life cost a few dollars, you are already a rich man.

[Kasset Tak]

I meet one of my friends this last weekend. He and his wife are just back after 9 months working back in Europe. They employed the BIL to take care of the cars (2cars, start and run the engines once a week ), look after the house and garden and so on and also to drive them to the airport and pick them up. They payed him 30,000Baht a month and did let him plant sugar cane on their 20rai for this...

His BIL didn't come to pick them up at the airport and when they arrived home the garden looked like hell, the cars didn't start (one looked like it been hit by another car) and the house is now not livable until it's sanitized/repaired because of mold and damages (36sqm teak floor, inner sealing on two floors, electrical wiring, furniture, electronics, cloths and so on) thanks to a branch from a tree falling true the roof and letting the rain in. That is how much "care" they got for paying the BIL 270,000Baht!

[1FinickyOne]

That is family life - - One day I came home and my bathroom scale was gone - my wife's sister took it and my wife let her. Nobody was standing on it and they have never seen me use it - when i asked for it back, they gave it back - no problem… that is what goes on in families - if the other way around, she would not have minded at all...

[mrfaroukh]

Not at all. You should be happy to even get your car back. Usually they would have sold it.

[sead]

I just have to say this. What i learned in 1 year took you 30???

[MrBrad]

[steven100]

Not at all. You should be happy to even get your car back. Usually they would have sold it.

exactly ... I think you're whinging a bit too much.

[mango66]

10 years - similar -

I did not lock my underwear and trousers,

but by luck, Grandfather have same size;

my wife denied that he wearing my shorts with the mercedes logo, #i bought just last visit;

My wife explained to me, I never bought such a short!

Solution:

I went 7/11 and bought a waterproff dress marker !

I buy a new underwear, my logo is on;

Same like you do with longhorns in Texas !

Today Grand asked me, if I can unlock my electric cutter when I go back to Europe;

All is a teachuing process,

by the way - I dont need any more a garbage bin for my old warn-out dresses now;

[steven100]

Look on the bright side ... she could have given you a bill for storage fees ..:-)

[northengr]

Raising a giant fuss and yelling at family is useless at best and dangerous maybe. Just deduct the highest value (like 1/6 of the value of the car and full value of sprayer from the support you give your wife and family. So that would be a full year of some normal support. Tell her to get her spending money from her sister.

You should balance the account, but tantrums not going to help

[steven100]

OP stop whingin about your bloody hose mate you got a car a missus and a house and probly a pension so what your family borrows your second car stop been a selfish farang.

Thought you might show up............

You beat me to it. It's a wonder it's sober enough to find the keys on the PC.

He can't, he's still pissed from yesterday .. he probably just woke up

[atyclb]

"tied to the whipping post"

Allman brothers

[AlanAunuum]

and what about driving the car without insurance,as they did not have permission to use it the insurance would be invalidted and what about twocing taking without the owners consent ,grow some balls get the police involved,i bet they wont do it again

[steven100]

and what about driving the car without insurance,as they did not have permission to use it the insurance would be invalidted and what about twocing taking without the owners consent ,grow some balls get the police involved,i bet they wont do it again

'get the police involved'

what a silly suggestion ... good way to split up the whole family and the OP divorce. All for a borrowed car and a jet washer ... glad I'm not your wife .. :-)

Edited January 12, 2015 by steven100

[mikecat]

After being here 30 years I would have to say that you would be foolish or unrealistic to not realise this would happen. However, unreasonable, not at all. Its worth considering too that if you stand your ground that you will may well p of the wife as well as the sister and that wont be pretty.

Put it down to experience and be prepared, make provision for the next time you go away.

[PhillyBoy]

Well, I don't know what is right but I am married to a Thai and my wife said, its family and she would not say anything. She said 98% of Thai people would not say anything. You are living in Thailand so I think you might have to just eat this one. Your wife will not be able to live with that.

[csabo]

When we are out of the house we do it "Thai way" but in my house with my stuff we do it "my way". If not, my GF can hit the "highway".

[Kasset Tak]

10 years - similar -

I did not lock my underwear and trousers,

but by luck, Grandfather have same size;

my wife denied that he wearing my shorts with the mercedes logo, #i bought just last visit;

My wife explained to me, I never bought such a short!

Solution:

I went 7/11 and bought a waterproff dress marker !

I buy a new underwear, my logo is on;

Same like you do with longhorns in Texas !

Today Grand asked me, if I can unlock my electric cutter when I go back to Europe;

All is a teachuing process,

by the way - I dont need any more a garbage bin for my old warn-out dresses now;

I know that feeling!!

I have problem finding shoes (I need size EU 48 or US14). I went with some friends (Thai) to Ayutthaya and the Ecco outlet shop, there I found some nice shoes and sandals. I forgot the bag (tired after a whole day trip from 6am to 8pm) with the shoes in my friends car when they dropped me of at my place. They called me about 30 min later and told me that the shoes was at their house so I just said that ok I will get them next time. Two weeks later I went to their house and the first thing I did see was my friends father wearing MY NEW sandals walking around in the new plowed field. He told me that they were very good... he didn't sink so deep in the mud as they were SOOO BIG! At that I point I didn't know if I should laugh or cry, not because I'm living here on a 30,000Baht/month salary so losing a pair of sandals for over 3000Baht hurts financially but because it was the first pair of sandals in size 48 I found living here for 3 years!

Edited January 12, 2015 by Kasset Tak

[benalibina]

OP be happy its only a car an its still there. I lost my kids on a similar manner.

[andypatt]

I don't think you are being unreasonable, they take without asking and the thing the really really pees me off is that they do not take care of anything

[louse1953]

When i leave for a while,everything is lock up,locked down and clutch lock and bike locked in the locked house.I just say i worry about kamoy.

[louse1953]

With all due respect...when you marry a Thai...what was yours becomes part to the extended Thai families...they will beg, borrow, and steal...never expect to pay anything back...or take responsibility for maintenance or upkeep...and become somewhat taken-back...when a farang complains...

[/quote

With all due respect,that is bs.

Edited January 12, 2015 by louse1953

[louse1953]

I meet one of my friends this last weekend. He and his wife are just back after 9 months working back in Europe. They employed the BIL to take care of the cars (2cars, start and run the engines once a week ), look after the house and garden and so on and also to drive them to the airport and pick them up. They payed him 30,000Baht a month and did let him plant sugar cane on their 20rai for this...

His BIL didn't come to pick them up at the airport and when they arrived home the garden looked like hell, the cars didn't start (one looked like it been hit by another car) and the house is now not livable until it's sanitized/repaired because of mold and damages (36sqm teak floor, inner sealing on two floors, electrical wiring, furniture, electronics, cloths and so on) thanks to a branch from a tree falling true the roof and letting the rain in. That is how much "care" they got for paying the BIL 270,000Baht!

F... me,they can hire me for that,and i will take care.

[louse1953]

10 years - similar -

I did not lock my underwear and trousers,

but by luck, Grandfather have same size;

my wife denied that he wearing my shorts with the mercedes logo, #i bought just last visit;

My wife explained to me, I never bought such a short!

Solution:

I went 7/11 and bought a waterproff dress marker !

I buy a new underwear, my logo is on;

Same like you do with longhorns in Texas !

Today Grand asked me, if I can unlock my electric cutter when I go back to Europe;

All is a teachuing process,

by the way - I dont need any more a garbage bin for my old warn-out dresses now;

I know that feeling!!

I have problem finding shoes (I need size EU 48 or US14). I went with some friends (Thai) to Ayutthaya and the Ecco outlet shop, there I found some nice shoes and sandals. I forgot the bag (tired after a whole day trip from 6am to 8pm) with the shoes in my friends car when they dropped me of at my place. They called me about 30 min later and told me that the shoes was at their house so I just said that ok I will get them next time. Two weeks later I went to their house and the first thing I did see was my friends father wearing MY NEW sandals walking around in the new plowed field. He told me that they were very good... he didn't sink so deep in the mud as they were SOOO BIG! At that I point I didn't know if I should laugh or cry, not because I'm living here on a 30,000Baht/month salary so losing a pair of sandals for over 3000Baht hurts financially but because it was the first pair of sandals in size 48 I found living here for 3 years!

Well done,38 years and still haven't found any.Have to bring my footwear with me.Piss's me off when somebody wanders off with mine from the front door,cos i can't fit into any of their's.

[Don Aleman]

If you're still there you are a damned fool !

[redandyellow]

its sort of normal, I've experienced similar to you,

but on the other hand, they run to help when needed

without looking through the lens of the Thai, it's very frustrating for sure.

Some families are worse than others

[catman20]

Thais taking the piss ................so what's new

[Dannyboy666]

I would be royally pissed for sure and demand compensation, especially if the other party is not poor. This kind of thing is selfish in the extreme of the sister who has her own car.

I saw my wifes hi-so brother inlaw take toilet rolls out of my place.

And no, I did not ferk the guy over it......karma did it for me........Long story......

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