Met the gf's son on 3rd occasion today.

[Brit_Doggie]

Good grief i have met the son on 3 occasions with the usual pleasant wai,then as norm the gf natters away with him and eat food while i normally just is ignored whilst i stare at my leo for hours on end,no complaints there as he speaks no english and i no thai,

Well i was gobsmacked when he came to say he going home,well the gf translated he was returning home,anyway i tried explaining to him that it was pleasant to see him again and to enjoy the trip home, then it happened he lurched at me and started to hug me nearly making me fall off chair,bloomin hell did i need the bathroom after that and yeah you guessed it another leo to get over the shock.

Still can't make the thais out even after 8 years and it actualy bought a tear to my eye.

[MaeJoMTB]

Adult? Child?

Wants to move in?

Whatever, it'll cost you.

[Costas2008]

Sucker.....you fall for it...........

It was just the instructions from the g/f to make you feel sorry for him and take him also to live with you.

Why some people.....take them sooooo long to understand Thai people.......If ever......

[johng]

Dont worry, she just told him that you would buy him a brand new motorbike

[Brit_Doggie]

LOL all wrong apparantly he joining the army on 8 april voluntarily all respect to him,he a little teary atm so i can breathe a sigh of relief.

[kurtramsbottom]

LOL all wrong apparantly he joining the army on 8 april voluntarily all respect to him,he a little teary atm so i can breathe a sigh of relief.

What's with the pidgin English ? You not speak with teerak now!

[Bernard Flint]

LOL all wrong apparantly he joining the army on 8 april voluntarily all respect to him,he a little teary atm so i can breathe a sigh of relief.

The normal tv posters, are always wrong Sir.

[balo]

Did you give him any "pocket money" on his way ?

[Rimmer]

Moved to Pub

[jamesjohnsonthird]

Did he get your wallet?

[Pinot]

Sucker.....you fall for it...........

It was just the instructions from the g/f to make you feel sorry for him and take him also to live with you.

Why some people.....take them sooooo long to understand Thai people.......If ever......

You know all about Thai people don't you?

[georgemandm]

Sucker.....you fall for it...........

It was just the instructions from the g/f to make you feel sorry for him and take him also to live with you.

Why some people.....take them sooooo long to understand Thai people.......If ever......

Good one costa I like it spot on

[NanLaew]

After about 5 years of mutually wai-less, semi-acknowledgement of each others existence, my FiL embraced me with a hug and an enthusiastic 'chok dee' as I was leaving one time for the airport and off to work. Like the OP, I was totally gobsmacked.

But once that had passed, I switched to a different taxi from the usual one, changed my flights to the following day and stopped in a hotel for the night.

[BKKBrit]

I'm more concerned after 8 years here that the OP doesn't speak any Thai.

[Luxfare]

I see the usual negative posters have woken up after nursing a 35thb Chang all night........See, I can be generalizing and offensive also.

Ever thought that the GF has told the kid she's being treat well and not to worry? Nah I guess not, that's a positive thought which most posters on TVF are no longer capable of.

Edited March 31, 2015 by Luxfare

[Nowisee]

I cannot be in a relationship with a girl that has younger kids, especially misbehaved boys... they just get under my skin and make me run run run away...hahaha
Some guys were meant to be pre-made dads... good for you guys.

Edited March 31, 2015 by Nowisee

[DennisF]

I'm more concerned after 8 years here that the OP doesn't speak any Thai.

Ive been here over 10 and my Thai is terrible too although I know many words.

Perhaps you should make allowances for people who, like me, are tone deaf and the tones of many Asian languages are lost on us.

I do speak English, Russian and Spanish fluently though so Im not thick!

[Suradit69]

then as norm the gf natters away with him and eat food while i normally just is ignored whilst i stare at my leo for hours on end,no complaints there as he speaks no english and i no thai,

Exactly what you see when walking past most cafes, restaurants and bars. Two or three farang old farts nattering away in their home language with the girlfriend/wife of one of them sitting left to stare off in space, presumably for hours on end.

Still can't make the thais out even after 8 years and it actualy bought a tear to my eye.

Maybe if you stopped thinking of them as "the Thais" and rather as individuals who have individual personalities and sometimes idiosyncratic behavior, just like "the Americans" or " the Brits" or "the Germans" ... When you're at home in Farang Land if someone does something unexpected, do you proclaim that you "can't make the Farang" even after 90 years?

[maidee]

did you check your wallet after the hug

nah, just kidding

the title was misleading, i tought you had a son, and he brought his girlfriend to meet you

[CharlieH]

7) You will respect fellow members and post in a civil manner.

No personal attacks, hateful or insulting towards other members, (flaming) Stalking of members on either the forum or via PM will not be allowed.

If you cant be civil dont post.

[Just1Voice]

When I first met my Thai wife, who was 48 and looked early 30's, I had some concerns over the fact that she had a 25 year old son. I was in for a shock. One of the most polite young men you could ever want to know, CMU graduate as an Advanced Thai Language teacher, who had classes of students who totally loved him. About 2 years into our marriage we were having dinner with a few of my wife's friends who, fortunately for me, all spoke English (well, Thaiglish. lol) At one point in the dinner, one of the woman turned to Peter and asked if he ever missed his father. Peter leaned forward and placed his fore arms on the table and spoke slowly and clearly and told her, that he didn't miss his father, as he saw his father every day, then flatly told them: "Dean is my father". I admit that I had to hold back the tears.

3 years ago I asked him if I could formally adopt him. He said he would be very happy if I did that. So, off to the Amphur office go the three of us. Took maybe 20 minutes to do all the paperwork and forms. As we got up to leave, my son then asked me and my wife to wait outside. Another 15 minutes or so passes, and he finally comes outside and hands me his Thai ID. He had legally changed his last name to mine. When he was appointed to a new Gvt school in Arunothai, Chiang Dao, we went with him on his first day. Typically, all the students sit outside, the head master has his say, then introduced Peter, the new teacher. Peter told them "good morning", then said his name was Thapornchai "Peter"...short hesitation....Marsh, with a grin. That brought laughter from the students. Later the students asked him why he had a farang name. My wife translated and told me he said he had changed his name to honor the man who was his father.

When the 3 of us are together, he will remind his mother to speak English whenever possible so that I can understand what they are talking about. When I first wanted to buy a CBR 250, my wife was reluctant. In front of me, he told her, in English, that dad has given us everything. We have a life we never could have had without him. Dad only wants 2 things. A good computer and a bike. He already has the computer, so if he wants a CBR 250, you should shut up and let him buy it without hassles from you. She went with me the next day to help me pick out the bike I wanted.

When I had my stroke, he took a week's leave from school to come stay at the hospital with me, only leaving each day for an hour or so to go home, shower and change clothes.

He has never asked me for a stang, and has actually told me he didn't need a new laptop, the old one was fine. Didn't need a new motorbike, his was only 2 years old. I sold his 125cc PCX and bought a new 300cc Honda Forza for him while he was at school. He was totally surprised, but gave me a hug and said "Thank you my dad", before driving off like a proud peacock on it.

Yeah, there are tons of "horror stories" about marrying Thai women with kids, but you know what? There are some really good ones as well. I couldn't love or respect my now 32 year old Thai son any more if he were my own flesh and blood.

Edited March 31, 2015 by Just1Voice

[maximillian]

When I first met my Thai wife, who was 48 and looked early 30's, I had some concerns over the fact that she had a 25 year old son. I was in for a shock. One of the most polite young men you could ever want to know, CMU graduate as an Advanced Thai Language teacher, who had classes of students who totally loved him. About 2 years into our marriage we were having dinner with a few of my wife's friends who, fortunately for me, all spoke English (well, Thaiglish. lol) At one point in the dinner, one of the woman turned to Peter and asked if he ever missed his father. Peter leaned forward and placed his fore arms on the table and spoke slowly and clearly and told her, that he didn't miss his father, as he saw his father every day, then flatly told them: "Dean is my father". I admit that I had to hold back the tears.

3 years ago I asked him if I could formally adopt him. He said he would be very happy if I did that. So, off to the Amphur office go the three of us. Took maybe 20 minutes to do all the paperwork and forms. As we got up to leave, my son then asked me and my wife to wait outside. Another 15 minutes or so passes, and he finally comes outside and hands me his Thai ID. He had legally changed his last name to mine. When he was appointed to a new Gvt school in Arunothai, Chiang Dao, we went with him on his first day. Typically, all the students sit outside, the head master has his say, then introduced Peter, the new teacher. Peter told them "good morning", then said his name was Thapornchai "Peter"...short hesitation....Marsh, with a grin. That brought laughter from the students. Later the students asked him why he had a farang name. My wife translated and told me he said he had changed his name to honor the man who was his father.

When the 3 of us are together, he will remind his mother to speak English whenever possible so that I can understand what they are talking about. When I first wanted to buy a CBR 250, my wife was reluctant. In front of me, he told her, in English, that dad has given us everything. We have a life we never could have had without him. Dad only wants 2 things. A good computer and a bike. He already has the computer, so if he wants a CBR 250, you should shut up and let him buy it without hassles from you. She went with me the next day to help me pick out the bike I wanted.

When I had my stroke, he took a week's leave from school to come stay at the hospital with me, only leaving each day for an hour or so to go home, shower and change clothes.

He has never asked me for a stang, and has actually told me he didn't need a new laptop, the old one was fine. Didn't need a new motorbike, his was only 2 years old. I sold his 125cc PCX and bought a new 300cc Honda Forza for him while he was at school. He was totally surprised, but gave me a hug and said "Thank you my dad", before driving off like a proud peacock on it.

Yeah, there are tons of "horror stories" about marrying Thai women with kids, but you know what? There are some really good ones as well. I couldn't love or respect my now 32 year old Thai son any more if he were my own flesh and blood.

Thank you so much for sharing this wonderful story with us. It moved me deeply.

Will share it among my friends.

[krisb]

I think it's a good thing and the kid is trying to show he's happy to have you around.

Give him a hug back it costs nothing and says a lot.

[PeCeDe]

When I first met my Thai wife, who was 48 and looked early 30's, I had some concerns over the fact that she had a 25 year old son. I was in for a shock. One of the most polite young men you could ever want to know, CMU graduate as an Advanced Thai Language teacher, who had classes of students who totally loved him. About 2 years into our marriage we were having dinner with a few of my wife's friends who, fortunately for me, all spoke English (well, Thaiglish. lol) At one point in the dinner, one of the woman turned to Peter and asked if he ever missed his father. Peter leaned forward and placed his fore arms on the table and spoke slowly and clearly and told her, that he didn't miss his father, as he saw his father every day, then flatly told them: "Dean is my father". I admit that I had to hold back the tears.

3 years ago I asked him if I could formally adopt him. He said he would be very happy if I did that. So, off to the Amphur office go the three of us. Took maybe 20 minutes to do all the paperwork and forms. As we got up to leave, my son then asked me and my wife to wait outside. Another 15 minutes or so passes, and he finally comes outside and hands me his Thai ID. He had legally changed his last name to mine. When he was appointed to a new Gvt school in Arunothai, Chiang Dao, we went with him on his first day. Typically, all the students sit outside, the head master has his say, then introduced Peter, the new teacher. Peter told them "good morning", then said his name was Thapornchai "Peter"...short hesitation....Marsh, with a grin. That brought laughter from the students. Later the students asked him why he had a farang name. My wife translated and told me he said he had changed his name to honor the man who was his father.

When the 3 of us are together, he will remind his mother to speak English whenever possible so that I can understand what they are talking about. When I first wanted to buy a CBR 250, my wife was reluctant. In front of me, he told her, in English, that dad has given us everything. We have a life we never could have had without him. Dad only wants 2 things. A good computer and a bike. He already has the computer, so if he wants a CBR 250, you should shut up and let him buy it without hassles from you. She went with me the next day to help me pick out the bike I wanted.

When I had my stroke, he took a week's leave from school to come stay at the hospital with me, only leaving each day for an hour or so to go home, shower and change clothes.

He has never asked me for a stang, and has actually told me he didn't need a new laptop, the old one was fine. Didn't need a new motorbike, his was only 2 years old. I sold his 125cc PCX and bought a new 300cc Honda Forza for him while he was at school. He was totally surprised, but gave me a hug and said "Thank you my dad", before driving off like a proud peacock on it.

Yeah, there are tons of "horror stories" about marrying Thai women with kids, but you know what? There are some really good ones as well. I couldn't love or respect my now 32 year old Thai son any more if he were my own flesh and blood.

Holy smokes, that's a rare and beautiful story, congrats to you and your family, even bought a tear to my eyes, and I am not joking, but being serious when I ask does your wife have a sister I could meet?

[krisb]

Sucker.....you fall for it...........

It was just the instructions from the g/f to make you feel sorry for him and take him also to live with you.

Why some people.....take them sooooo long to understand Thai people.......If ever......

That's bullshit.

[terminatorchiangmai]

When I first met my Thai wife, who was 48 and looked early 30's, I had some concerns over the fact that she had a 25 year old son. I was in for a shock. One of the most polite young men you could ever want to know, CMU graduate as an Advanced Thai Language teacher, who had classes of students who totally loved him. About 2 years into our marriage we were having dinner with a few of my wife's friends who, fortunately for me, all spoke English (well, Thaiglish. lol) At one point in the dinner, one of the woman turned to Peter and asked if he ever missed his father. Peter leaned forward and placed his fore arms on the table and spoke slowly and clearly and told her, that he didn't miss his father, as he saw his father every day, then flatly told them: "Dean is my father". I admit that I had to hold back the tears.

3 years ago I asked him if I could formally adopt him. He said he would be very happy if I did that. So, off to the Amphur office go the three of us. Took maybe 20 minutes to do all the paperwork and forms. As we got up to leave, my son then asked me and my wife to wait outside. Another 15 minutes or so passes, and he finally comes outside and hands me his Thai ID. He had legally changed his last name to mine. When he was appointed to a new Gvt school in Arunothai, Chiang Dao, we went with him on his first day. Typically, all the students sit outside, the head master has his say, then introduced Peter, the new teacher. Peter told them "good morning", then said his name was Thapornchai "Peter"...short hesitation....Marsh, with a grin. That brought laughter from the students. Later the students asked him why he had a farang name. My wife translated and told me he said he had changed his name to honor the man who was his father.

When the 3 of us are together, he will remind his mother to speak English whenever possible so that I can understand what they are talking about. When I first wanted to buy a CBR 250, my wife was reluctant. In front of me, he told her, in English, that dad has given us everything. We have a life we never could have had without him. Dad only wants 2 things. A good computer and a bike. He already has the computer, so if he wants a CBR 250, you should shut up and let him buy it without hassles from you. She went with me the next day to help me pick out the bike I wanted.

When I had my stroke, he took a week's leave from school to come stay at the hospital with me, only leaving each day for an hour or so to go home, shower and change clothes.

He has never asked me for a stang, and has actually told me he didn't need a new laptop, the old one was fine. Didn't need a new motorbike, his was only 2 years old. I sold his 125cc PCX and bought a new 300cc Honda Forza for him while he was at school. He was totally surprised, but gave me a hug and said "Thank you my dad", before driving off like a proud peacock on it.

Yeah, there are tons of "horror stories" about marrying Thai women with kids, but you know what? There are some really good ones as well. I couldn't love or respect my now 32 year old Thai son any more if he were my own flesh and blood.

Thanks for sharing this , brought tears in my eyes as well.

Good luck.

[PeCeDe]

Costas, I don't know you but are all greek people as cynical as you?

[krisb]

When I first met my Thai wife, who was 48 and looked early 30's, I had some concerns over the fact that she had a 25 year old son. I was in for a shock. One of the most polite young men you could ever want to know, CMU graduate as an Advanced Thai Language teacher, who had classes of students who totally loved him. About 2 years into our marriage we were having dinner with a few of my wife's friends who, fortunately for me, all spoke English (well, Thaiglish. lol) At one point in the dinner, one of the woman turned to Peter and asked if he ever missed his father. Peter leaned forward and placed his fore arms on the table and spoke slowly and clearly and told her, that he didn't miss his father, as he saw his father every day, then flatly told them: "Dean is my father". I admit that I had to hold back the tears.

3 years ago I asked him if I could formally adopt him. He said he would be very happy if I did that. So, off to the Amphur office go the three of us. Took maybe 20 minutes to do all the paperwork and forms. As we got up to leave, my son then asked me and my wife to wait outside. Another 15 minutes or so passes, and he finally comes outside and hands me his Thai ID. He had legally changed his last name to mine. When he was appointed to a new Gvt school in Arunothai, Chiang Dao, we went with him on his first day. Typically, all the students sit outside, the head master has his say, then introduced Peter, the new teacher. Peter told them "good morning", then said his name was Thapornchai "Peter"...short hesitation....Marsh, with a grin. That brought laughter from the students. Later the students asked him why he had a farang name. My wife translated and told me he said he had changed his name to honor the man who was his father.

When the 3 of us are together, he will remind his mother to speak English whenever possible so that I can understand what they are talking about. When I first wanted to buy a CBR 250, my wife was reluctant. In front of me, he told her, in English, that dad has given us everything. We have a life we never could have had without him. Dad only wants 2 things. A good computer and a bike. He already has the computer, so if he wants a CBR 250, you should shut up and let him buy it without hassles from you. She went with me the next day to help me pick out the bike I wanted.

When I had my stroke, he took a week's leave from school to come stay at the hospital with me, only leaving each day for an hour or so to go home, shower and change clothes.

He has never asked me for a stang, and has actually told me he didn't need a new laptop, the old one was fine. Didn't need a new motorbike, his was only 2 years old. I sold his 125cc PCX and bought a new 300cc Honda Forza for him while he was at school. He was totally surprised, but gave me a hug and said "Thank you my dad", before driving off like a proud peacock on it.

Yeah, there are tons of "horror stories" about marrying Thai women with kids, but you know what? There are some really good ones as well. I couldn't love or respect my now 32 year old Thai son any more if he were my own flesh and blood.

It's stories like these that keep me a member on here.

[mango66]

Did you give him any "pocket money" on his way ?

Balo !

We know you would spend the pocket money for Leo and a massage with happy,

when y gf visits her parents than you have 500,- for your steson :-(((

[mango66]

I cannot be in a relationship with a girl that has younger kids, especially misbehaved boys... they just get under my skin and make me run run run away...hahaha

Some guys were meant to be pre-made dads... good for you guys.

dont put all good ones in the same pot !!