Berkshire Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 What kind of lies are you talking about? There are harmless lies....you cook her a God-awful meal and she tells you it's "just fine." Or you buy her a butt-ugly scarf for her birthday and she says she "loves it." Then there are the more serious kinds....like "he's my brother, I go stay with him tonight because he's afraid to be alone." Or "my mom in hospital, need 500,000 bt operation" when her mom is perfectly healthy and out in the fields morning to night. And everything in between. So again, what kind of lie are you referring to? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
SOTIRIOS Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 (edited) ...to lie about little things....will definitely lie about big things...... ...even beyond your wildest imagination.......unfortunately..... ....'we' are not 'them'...so anything can be justified in their minds.... ...plus we have much fewer rights...and so many living condition restrictions....we are at a disadvantage...and they know it... ...they all know it...and to pretend otherwise is just foolish..... Edited July 17, 2015 by SOTIRIOS Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chrisinth Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 I remember when she phoned me and told me there was some water in the carburetor of her car. What she didn't tell me was that she had driven into a klong. So, while she wasn't lying per se, she wasn't telling the whole story. Not sure which is worse................................. For clarity, the above didn't really happen, just an example. Expanding on the thread...................... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
wandasloan Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 (edited) Quite often they don't even consider it lying, just telling you what you want to hear or avoiding bringing bad news at the time. Do those jeans make her butt look big? Edited July 17, 2015 by wandasloan Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soalbundy Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Do birds fly ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
al007 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Women they all lie, some more than others, and not just the Thai ones, in fact both men and women if asked if they have ever lied can probably not reply NO Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
dotpoom Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 (edited) Doesn't everybody lie on occasion....and thank God for it......who wants to be told the absolute truth every time. I sometime ask "leading" questions and usually get the response I was wishing for, makes life much more pleasant. At least I can go on kidding myself for another few hours,,,,,days.....months.....years. Edited July 17, 2015 by dotpoom Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Dap Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 No! I don't believe my wife lies to me ... on any level. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Rabbi Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 The first thing I learnt in LOS was..."How do you know when a Thai female is lying .........Their lips are moving"! Never the less as several have already mentioned we all do it's just the shade of black to white and the difference between eastern and western cultures and how they treat lying. Westerns condone it but Buddhists I understand can sometimes make merit. We have to be tolerant andmake own decisions based on circumstsnces. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Mudcrab Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 My wife lies to me all the time, and has sex with other men. Not met any that are different. Did me head in until ......... I started lying to her and having sex with other Thai wives. Adapt to local culture or go mad. Oh dear......have a good life old mate. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soalbundy Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 No! I don't believe my wife lies to me ... on any level. you mean, she doesn't talk to you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Doc46 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 My wife swears she has a ผัวน้อย (minor husband) but I know she hasn't. Cause she has,,,YOU Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
soalbundy Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Quite often they don't even consider it lying, just telling you what you want to hear or avoiding bringing bad news at the time. Do those jeans make her butt look big? ''No darling, its the fat that makes your butt look big'' Wham !! Why oh why didn't i take the blue pill Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JockPieandBeans Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 My piece is brutally honest. Not sure if that is better or worse. Mine must be related to yours somewhere along the line Mine's just brutal........................... That was my ex - wife. I will take brutally honest over plain old brutal anytime Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sanuk711 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Some Thai girls tell the same lie------100 times a day.................... "Hello Handsome man".................... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Berkshire Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Quite often they don't even consider it lying, just telling you what you want to hear or avoiding bringing bad news at the time. Do those jeans make her butt look big? ''No darling, its the fat that makes your butt look big'' Wham !! Why oh why didn't i take the blue pill If your wife ask whether she looks fat and you don't want to lie, the correct answer is: "Compared to what?" Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
peterb17 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Think it's just being economical with the truth. Surely when you marry someone from a completely different alien culture - you really need to try very hard to understand that culture. A Thai will as I said before be economical with the truth- it is not an outright nasty malicious harmful lie ( unless you are in a dreadful relationship ) Usually it is rather what they think you would like to hear. You have posted this query - but no one knows what the supposed lies were about, if nothing important - don't worry about it . It's that sort of thing that brings doubts and destroys relationships . Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MockingJay Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Everyone who says he never told a lie is a liar! Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 What kind of lies are you talking about? There are harmless lies....you cook her a God-awful meal and she tells you it's "just fine." Or you buy her a butt-ugly scarf for her birthday and she says she "loves it." Then there are the more serious kinds....like "he's my brother, I go stay with him tonight because he's afraid to be alone." Or "my mom in hospital, need 500,000 bt operation" when her mom is perfectly healthy and out in the fields morning to night. And everything in between. So again, what kind of lie are you referring to? Nothing like that, I'm not even sure she is lying, there is just something I want to know, if it is a lie it is harmless. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 The first thing I learnt in LOS was..."How do you know when a Thai female is lying .........Their lips are moving"! Never the less as several have already mentioned we all do it's just the shade of black to white and the difference between eastern and western cultures and how they treat lying. Westerns condone it but Buddhists I understand can sometimes make merit. We have to be tolerant andmake own decisions based on circumstsnces. Your first sentence would apply more to a British politician. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 Think "possum1931" Think!.......... When you first saw your wife did she say; "Hey hansum man"....... Life can be just one lie after another! If she said that, she would not be telling a lie, anyway, isn't it the bargirls who always say that? My wife was never a bargirl, and it would not bother me if she was, as long as it was before she met me. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Geordie59 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 It is not only Thai wives that tell lies. Are you 100% honest with your wife? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 why just ask if Thai wives lie? Females of all nationalities lie through their teeth to get what they want. In my experience aussie women are far worse liars than Thais. Yes all men lie too, but females are by far more prolific liars than men. Your first sentence, that's a good idea, if just to find out her attitude to telling lies. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HerbalEd Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 (edited) I have to ask: Do you ever lie to your wife? If you do, then why expect her to be different? Virtually all husbands and wives lie to some extent. Often just to keep the peace and not to hurt the spouse. Also, I think a lot of the Thai wives of farangs lie to some extent because they don't want to evoke the ire and angry reaction they've seen in the past when they told of bad news to the husband. Edited July 17, 2015 by HerbalEd Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HerbalEd Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Would not trust my own shadow here That statement may say as much or more about you than it does about here. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
sammygood Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 does your wife has a sister ? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Kannikapor88 Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 My TW dont lie, she is different ... Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 Think it's just being economical with the truth. Surely when you marry someone from a completely different alien culture - you really need to try very hard to understand that culture. A Thai will as I said before be economical with the truth- it is not an outright nasty malicious harmful lie ( unless you are in a dreadful relationship ) Usually it is rather what they think you would like to hear. You have posted this query - but no one knows what the supposed lies were about, if nothing important - don't worry about it . It's that sort of thing that brings doubts and destroys relationships . Your last sentence is true. maybe I'm just trying to find a flaw in her, she seems perfect in every other way. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Stevemercer Posted July 17, 2015 Share Posted July 17, 2015 Everyone tells little white lies because it is often easiest. In my experience, Thai people often won't tell you the whole truth if they know it will upset you. They will tell you what they think you want to hear even if it is sometimes contradictory. I'm not sure this is unique to Thai culture. You often have to play '20 questions' to ask exactly the right question and get the truth. For example, about financial matters. I think we all have things we want to hide or are embarrased about. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
NoshowJones Posted July 17, 2015 Author Share Posted July 17, 2015 It is not only Thai wives that tell lies. Are you 100% honest with your wife? Yes, Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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