Bazle Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Those advising you to do nothing until and unless it becomes clear you need to are correct, I think. I have no particular expertise in this type of matter but I do recall speaking with a lawyer in Pattaya a short while ago who said that he could only assist in dealing with a matter in an "unofficial" way if the charge had not got into the police's computer system. So maybe a chat with a lawyer sooner rather than later would make some sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Nemesis7 Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Oh well if the same thing you would do in your own country would that be ok?? Ask yourself first? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
BritTim Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Those advising you to do nothing until and unless it becomes clear you need to are correct, I think. I have no particular expertise in this type of matter but I do recall speaking with a lawyer in Pattaya a short while ago who said that he could only assist in dealing with a matter in an "unofficial" way if the charge had not got into the police's computer system. So maybe a chat with a lawyer sooner rather than later would make some sense. If it is going into the police computer, it is already there. Whether it goes further once in the computer, in this case, will depend on the young woman. Certainly, there are times to proactively try to prevent matters escalating. I do not think this is one of them. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Bazle Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Those advising you to do nothing until and unless it becomes clear you need to are correct, I think. I have no particular expertise in this type of matter but I do recall speaking with a lawyer in Pattaya a short while ago who said that he could only assist in dealing with a matter in an "unofficial" way if the charge had not got into the police's computer system. So maybe a chat with a lawyer sooner rather than later would make some sense. If it is going into the police computer, it is already there. Whether it goes further once in the computer, in this case, will depend on the young woman. Certainly, there are times to proactively try to prevent matters escalating. I do not think this is one of them. How can you be sure of that? Note my words: ".......... if the charge had not got into the police's computer system". I imagine there has not yet been a charge, or do you think otherwise? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jaytaylor84 Posted March 29, 2016 Author Share Posted March 29, 2016 Here is an outline of the Thai Judicial Process http://bangkok.usembassy.gov/mobile//service/legal-matters/arrest-in-thailand.html generally a preliminary investigation would occur after a police report has been filed in which i would be contacted by phone or by police at my condo.. cops try hard not to clog up the court system with paltry stuff, ive ceased contact with the lady after a brief apology text and this was a one time deal they could contact me by mail but why bother when they have my phone number and address? so im assuming its a done deal.. we'll see Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
jacko45k Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 Why not just play silly bugger and say it was not you. Phone was lost/stolen. Make it lost / stolen , ie get a new sim. I do not see any major criminal charges but possibly sexual harassment , but being rather minor, I doubt it will go any further. He has likely already apologised via the same phone! He said so.... Sometimes one has to just stop lying and be honest and apologetic and I think this is one of these times. I also think money will be required. If you think more lies solves problems you have been here too long. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemel Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 (edited) Has she got a picture of your face? does she have a copy of your passport? does she know where you live? does she know your full name? does she have your visa details? so she has gone to the police to say some farang sent me a text/picture and asked me to sleep with him??? do not go to the cops, do not contact her,change your sim, move apartments/hotel and stop bloody drinking! if anybody does contact you, just say she wanted a photo and you was 'Mau/drunk' and sent what she asked for, along with a joke about sleeping with her. Edited March 29, 2016 by lemel Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
FritsSikkink Posted March 29, 2016 Share Posted March 29, 2016 any idea when i might get such a notice? she gave them my condo and room number, my line, and my phone number... i mean im not too hard to find feeling the need to tell me the police will be informing immigration and my embassy when in all likelihood thats exactly what the police probably arent doing makes me feel like shes just blowing smoke and frustrated in the police's lack of interest in something pretty minor just so tired of scare tactics in this country... would like some resolution now even if that would mean going to a police station and asking if im clear tired of scare tactics, start behaving like a normal person. no problems then Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Popular Post dbrenn Posted March 30, 2016 Popular Post Share Posted March 30, 2016 (edited) Don't do that, very inadvisable. They will smell an opportunity to make money. Hard though it is, you need to just sit tight. Normally such notices come through the mail, probably registered mail. If nothing by say end of this week you are probably in the clear. Definitely she was trying to scare you, but keep in mind she may have been doing that because you had scared her. (Either that or she is after $$, which one, you'll know soon enough). You seem to be overly dismissive of what you did -"only asked to sleep with her". That is not normal or acceptable behavior towards a real estate agent or other woman you barely know and met just once in a purely business capacity. I say this not only from my vantage point as a western woman but based on what I hear from my many Thai female friends and acquaintances. Behaving towards a Thai woman who is not a bar girl and not on the make, as if she were, is highly offensive and even scary to them. Good point - it's easy for western men here to forget that mainstream Thai women are generally conservative and their culture requires an often prolonged period of courtship before any kind of intimate physical contact. The OP's boorishness would cause shock and offence to most Thai women, in the same way that many western women would be shocked and offended if someone that they had met once, in a business meeting, then made sexual overtures by drunken text message. The OP has learned a lesson here. Edited March 30, 2016 by dbrenn 7 Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
lemonjelly Posted March 30, 2016 Share Posted March 30, 2016 I think the police aren't interested, it's just a non nude pic and a cheeky offer, and that's why she tried to scare you, if the police were interested, she wouldn't have told you. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ubonjoe Posted March 31, 2016 Share Posted March 31, 2016 After removing several posts and replies for various reasons including some by the OP it seems this topic has run its course so it is now closed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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