In love with a great Thai girl everything great. This girl loves to party

with her friends twice a month which I dont have an issue with. ###### I was a profesional muscian for

25 plus years. Anyway one thing that bothers the crap out of me is that she will drive drunk.

When I suggested a designated driver she looked at me like I was nuts said I did not understand the culture.

I used logic and said hey you can party you can get as drunk as you want and you can be safe as well.

Maybe because she has not had children yet..... that she not understand my concern.

So whats this all about are Thais so strange they will put a party over safty of friends.

I asked how would she would feel if someone got killed because you were drinking

and driving.

anyone enlighten me on this attitude........... My girlfriend is 24 not a bar girl, very well educated and has excellent english skills

Thanks in advance

Andy

its the same attitude that allows thais to ride bikes without helmets,ride bikes with 4 on the back,ride pickup trucks with 25 in the back,overtake on blind corners,pull out of t junctions without looking,ride after dark with no lights,put tv's in the shower room and switch them on from the shower etc.etc.etc.etc. danger ? what danger !

they have no forethought or awareness of the consequences of their actions.i cant explain it or enlighten you as to why this is.

there is a charity foundation that clears up the gore and broken bodies after road accidents, they have premises on rama4 near suriwongse,( or they did a couple of years ago). they have a photo display outside of what their job entails, take your girlfriend to look at the pictures. i saw them 2 years ago when i happened to walk past and i can still see some of them in my mind now. impalements,disembowelments,decapitations,burns,legs off,eyes out. horrible stuff.

dump her and get a more responsable girl, drink and drive its not like its anything new, 24 and still don't understand the basic rule of life, she have a serious problem.

It's not hard to understand this, it's the lack of responsibility and common sense. Why is it hard to see the plain facts? If you're going out to party and get plastered have a DESIGNATED DRIVER.

For those that do not know what this means:

DESIGNATED DRIVER (noun): person that has been appointed to drive those in his/her party home safely and therefore responsible in preventing any tragic deaths of those in his/her party or inadvertantly harming any innocent pedistrians as well, with the major clause that he/she stays SOBER!

It doesn't matter what age you are or how educated, and definitely NOT because she doesn't have kids....it's pure COMMON SENSE. Bar girls are smart enough to take taxis even!

The problem here is that some people love their car too much (even more than themselves) to part with and so they would rather die in the comforts of it. Stop blaming others for your own or your girlfriends lack of self love and respect for life and sober up please.

Sorry to be so aggressively annoyed but it bothers me when the answer is looking at you straight in the face and you simply choose to ignore it.

It's not hard to understand this, it's the lack of responsibility and common sense. Why is it hard to see the plain facts? If you're going out to party and get plastered have a DESIGNATED DRIVER, for those that do not know what this means, it's a person that has been appointed to drive those in his/her party home safely and preventing any tragic deaths of those in his/her party or inadvertantly any innocent pedistrians. It doesn't matter what age you are or how educated, and definitely NOT because she doesn't have kids....it's pure COMMON SENSE.

when thais go out to party and drink then they ALL have to have sanuk.especially the driver who has been so good in driving them all around for the night.

if one of them is not drinking then one of them is not having sanuk,not joining in, that means the others will not be able to have sanuk because they feel for the one left out. designated driver is a sensible western concept that i dont think would work here. better take a taxi and hope that the taxi driver has not been drinking.

thai common sense is very different to falang common sense.

sanuk comes before everything else.

change your girlfriend is probably good advice.

Designated driver will never, ever work,...

Changing girlfriend is maybe a bit extreme.

Could you and your girlfriend consider going out by taxi,...?

Agree with Bluecat!

There had been quite a few campaign to raise awareness over the danger of drink driving. I know that some of my friends drive even when they have had quite a few to drink. It's near impossible to stop them.

It was even harder to stop the boys from doing it. Some of them almost see it as a macho thing (like 'look at me, I drank loads and I can still drive'! shocking to say the least, really). The best I could do was to keep them around as long as possible without giving them any more booze so that they could at least sober up.

Most girls I know don't usually drink and drive though.

you guy don't get, she was told not to do that, because it was dangerous, some one was concern enought to help her, and she look back and think the guy was nuts. this girl need serious help.

When I suggested a designated driver she looked at me like I was nuts said I did not understand the culture.

you guy don't get, she was told not to do that, because it was dangerous, some one was concern enought to help her, and she look back and think the guy was nuts. this girl need serious help.

When I suggested a designated driver she looked at me like I was nuts said I did not understand the culture.

Yes, I agree. This girl obviously has no respect for the guy. And if I were him, I would just have to say bye-bye.

anyone enlighten me on this attitude........... My girlfriend is 24 not a bar girl, very well educated and has excellent english skills

It's just a different attitude regarding behavior. ######, my dad used to tell me some stories about when he was young living in Europe- didn't seem to be much 'awareness' about drinking and driving back then either.

My Thai friends that I drink with all drive drunk that, even can-barely-walk drunk. Not much you can tell them about not driving.

######, even I've become more lax- back home I wouldn't drink more than one beer before driving. I can't say I'm doing the same here.

Course now things are changing- in the past few weeks the police have been cracking down, even going so far as setting up checkpoints on Ploenchit road.

Probably the only thing that'll disuade her behavior is fear of getting caught. She can't always use her connections to escape either- one of my employees (whose husband is very wealthy) was caught last week. She didn't get nailed for DUI but was given a fine for an illegal lane change instead.

Cheers!

Probably the only thing that'll disuade her behavior is fear of getting caught. She can't always use her connections to escape either- one of my employees (whose husband is very wealthy) was caught last week. She didn't get nailed for DUI but was given a fine for an illegal lane change instead.

why would she want to work for you if her husband is very wealthy

She sounds like a young person from anywhere......try to tell them what to do...no way....especially a foreigner telling a Thai what to do....forget it sunshine. If her behaviour worries you then just dont get in the car with her. The day she has an accident and becomes a paraplegic or worse and asks for your obvious compassion ....... u can walk into the hospital ward where she lies surrounded by other accident victims with their missing limbs and other body pieces.........and say to her......som nam naa !! Then walk out !

why would she want to work for you if her husband is very wealthy 

Why anyone would want to work for me is better question!

In my company there are a few woman like that-who have enough money to not work but still come in every day, working late, on weekends, and putting up with all the bullsh*t. One, though not in my office, drives an S-class to work every day. Her boss drives an older Accord!

She's a middle manager in charge of a business unit, so she can be fairly independent and have a fair amount of responsibility. We pay her well, not well enough to fund her new C-class, but it may supplement whatever allowance is given by her husband.

I suspect from what she's told me that there just isn't much for her at home- so she makes work her life, her objective.

She sounds like a young person from anywhere......try to tell them what to do...no way....especially a foreigner telling a Thai what to do....forget it sunshine. If her behaviour worries you then just dont get in the car with her. The day she has an accident and becomes a paraplegic or worse and asks for your obvious compassion ....... u can walk into the hospital ward where she lies surrounded by other accident victims with their missing limbs and other body pieces.........and say to her......som nam naa !! Then walk out !

whats som nam naa??

I would wear " luang Pa Khun " ( I have no clue on the correct spelling) around you neck. A lot of Thai's believe that he will protect them for getting injured in an accident.

whats som nam naa??

"it serves you right"