White Christmas13 Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 So after I deleted all of the last post (don't know why it keeps popping up ) I just like to ask you a question as you know my wife is separated from me now (not my choice) I still dream about her every night I still love her love to see her body but i am not allowed to, you think I am pissed no I am not I just love some one who left me Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissAndry Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 (edited) Sounds entirely normal (if pointless) to me. Having sex with someone else is usually the fastest cure. Edited August 31, 2016 by MissAndry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 2 minutes ago, MissAndry said: Sounds entirely normal (if pointless) to me. Having sex with someone else is usually the fastest cure. O you don't get me at all I still love my wife I don't want to have sex with anybody Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissAndry Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 (edited) 2 minutes ago, White Christmas13 said: O you don't get me at all I still love my wife I don't want to have sex with anybody I was pointing out the quickest way to 'cure' your unrequited love. It's simple biology. Works for almost everyone, including the obsessive/compulsive types. She doesn't want you, so you need to move on ASAP. Edited August 31, 2016 by MissAndry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiang mai Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Life is too short to keep looking backwards, move on, it's the future. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 not for me as I said a few month before Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
HappyDazed Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 It's not often I agree with MA but she is right on the money this time. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
happy Joe Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 (edited) Welcome to the club, friend Edited August 31, 2016 by happy Joe Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jip99 Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 15 minutes ago, White Christmas13 said: O you don't get me at all I still love my wife I don't want to have sex with anybody Oh dear - that's not normal. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
White Christmas13 Posted August 31, 2016 Author Share Posted August 31, 2016 1 minute ago, Jip99 said: Oh dear - that's not normal. No it is not what you think I just in love with my mife Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
chiang mai Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 4 minutes ago, White Christmas13 said: No it is not what you think I just in love with my mife Get a grip man, wallowing doesn't help. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jip99 Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 5 minutes ago, White Christmas13 said: No it is not what you think I just in love with my mife A friend of mine said he would never put 100% of his heart, or 100% of his capital in Thailand. He was smart. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
JHolmesJr Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Some people just need to be miserable. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mcfish Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 A friend of mine said he would never put 100% of his heart, or 100% of his capital in Thailand. He was smart.He was? Past tense.. Did he die or something.. Balcony jump?Sent from my zumo using Tapatalk Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Jip99 Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 3 minutes ago, mcfish said: He was? Past tense.. Did he die or something.. Balcony jump? Sent from my zumo using Tapatalk No, no, no McF...................... he was smart in the past tense of having made that decision............................. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
tifino Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 missus and I are staring at the start of this one!!! as the OP is not alone in this problem ... she comes out with: ...our very good old friend Sam, has a cousin called Sofer, who's married to a Thai. She already had had a kid to a Thai man many years earlier (kid now 20 old) She and Sofer, met, and married, and came Australia 10 years ago. She has another little girl, who when 2, the mum up and dumps Sofer, for another man, a customer, here in OZ on a temporary project, from Ireland or the likes as I recall, tho' not to be too worried the little details... She's off with the other man, and has another kid, altogether they are off on their new life for just under 2 years He, suddenly has to go back home, and refused to keep contact, and she's left holding the baby... Just a little while ago, Sofer is all smiles again... ... she's suddenly come back to him. He's happy as he gets to be dad again to their kid together, He's resigned himself to the fact he's not going to get his end off again with her, so life goes on in a totally platonic sense. Everybody knows he can't, and doesn't, trust her, but that has become a secondary thing... She's come crying back to Mr Money, as he can and will support them all. He's now over 70, and she's over 40 now He can't, and won't have sex with her, but at the same time, he doesn't want it from anybody else too. He has actually adopted the child of his wife's ex-customer, and he's over the Moon, to have a little bit of life back, and to live the most for now... or how little time he has left... amazing - he meets his to-be-wife in bar His then-wife meets customer in bar, and she leaves hubby and has another kid a year later. Husband gets his wife back, and kid(s) when she is dumped. No sex, and happy Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
canuckamuck Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 OP You sound obsessed rather than in love. Wanting someone/thing you can't have, can do that. You ought to think more of yourself. You are not defined by how she feels, and you should be with someone who wants you back. Why be even interested in someone who doesn't want you. That makes no sense. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
manfredtillmann Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 yes, you are. but knowing that won't help you out of this mess. there is no advice here that will 'cure' you, just time and reason and a new love will do the trick. i am sad with and for you, find a way to let go. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
mesterm Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Was she so special that she's worth thinking about even months after she left you? I don't think so. Because if she was that special, she would have appreciated your love and loyalty, and stayed. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyberfarang Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 59 minutes ago, White Christmas13 said: No it is not what you think I just in love with my mife 1 hour ago, White Christmas13 said: No it is not what you think I just in love with my mife Why did your mife leave you? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
the donger Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 You sound like a little girl. You really think an ex wife is attracted to someone acting like that? Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rogeroc Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Time is a healer, you will heal quicker if you try and get on with life Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
DipStick Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 What a sad position the op is in, and even sadder to read most of the replies. to the OP I say, I fully understand your feelings, loneliness and your present situation, I am like you, I love my wife deadly, we are not just a couple we are a bonded team, In all the years we have been together I can assure you neither of us have cheated on each other and both see no need to do so. Married men who need to cheat are the ones who are insecure and are totally worthless to a marriage. Thailand seems to attract foreigners who believe it's their right to screw around and when the wife ( note I didn't say Thai wife) reciprocates then in his eyes they have been wronged, I put this down to arrogance and macho attitudes. moping is natural, but not helpful, you haven't, in this thread stated your age or location, nor have you described your wife's nationality or her age. Keep busy, don't hit the bottle, get your mind back into neutral and see where life takes you. If you want to talk PM me and I will do my very best to help you. No I am not a charity, no I am not professional, but if you want to chat man to man I will listen and try to help you. Head up and keep smiling Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
MissAndry Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 (edited) 3 minutes ago, DipStick said: In all the years we have been together I can assure you neither of us have cheated on each other and both see no need to do so. I love the old fools who think they can speak for their wife, her feelings for them and what they think she has or hasn't done! Edited August 31, 2016 by MissAndry Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
rogeroc Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 6 minutes ago, DipStick said: What a sad position the op is in, and even sadder to read most of the replies. to the OP I say, I fully understand your feelings, loneliness and your present situation, I am like you, I love my wife deadly, we are not just a couple we are a bonded team, In all the years we have been together I can assure you neither of us have cheated on each other and both see no need to do so. Married men who need to cheat are the ones who are insecure and are totally worthless to a marriage. I wonder if someone whose wife has just left them really wants to hear how perfect someone elses wife (allegedly) is. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
bannork Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Giving up on a unrequited love is like giving up smoking. You don't know you're over it till one day you haven't thought about it for a few days, then you realize you are free of the addiction/memory. Regarding a woman, a change of location or stomping grounds can certainly help, for me it was a change of continent, maybe a less drastic distance for the op. But patience is required for you can't deliberately forget someone in my view. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Seizetheday Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Two phrases that come to mind, there is always someone better and, there are many fish in the sea. Life isn't a dress rehearsal, make the most of it. Move on. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
ExpatOilWorker Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 28 minutes ago, cyberfarang said: Why did your mife leave you? Mice do that sometimes, especially if you have a cat. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
cyberfarang Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 4 minutes ago, Seizetheday said: Two phrases that come to mind, there is always someone better and, there are many fish in the sea. Life isn't a dress rehearsal, make the most of it. Move on. That`s a myth. Finding a decent partner is similar to fishing, only on rare occasions does a fisherman hook a prize catch. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
Chicog Posted August 31, 2016 Share Posted August 31, 2016 Why own a cow when you can buy a pint of milk. Link to comment Share on other sites More sharing options...
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