Bar 'lady drink' etiquette?

[happyas]

7 hours ago, heybruce said:

Really?  Was the post, taken in context, beyond your comprehension?

 

I'll assume you are serious, and ask:  Do you not like to look at pretty women?

 

I do. 

 Hah..if your interpretation of fondle is the same as ogle, no its not beyond my comprehension at all, and is a lovely activity.

 

If however in context that it means you like to feel up a lady in a bar, then that makes you a pathetic loser [IMO]

 

PS i know that this is not unknown in bars etc, but anyone who feels the need to do so reminds me of a school boy sex learning curve....and, if you perchance,are not the immature schoolboy, then it is very sleazy.

Edited August 17, 2017 by happyas

[MaeJoMTB]

On 7/29/2017 at 7:54 AM, jeab1980 said:

Maybe beacuse you are buying her a drink not her time. If i bought a drink for another farang in the bar who i just happened to talk to am i buying his time as well? And would it be acceptable for his alcholic drink he asked for to be water? 

Hmmmmmm ....

would said foreign bloke be earning 50bht when I bought him a drink?

and would I be negotiating to take him home for sex later?

[sanemax]

19 hours ago, WinnieTheKhwai said:

 

Myeah.. have been to two of those.   They're okay, and the girls definitely pretty, but.. .. .  I don't know, it's not really my thing.   I also feel like I need to behave myself more, which kind of defeats the purpose of a good night out.

You mean that they are normal bars , no bargirls , people just out socialising with friends and you would be sat on your own looking at them and there would be no one available to fondle ?

[sanemax]

17 hours ago, heybruce said:

I enjoy practicing Thai with pretty college students, and helping them with their English.

Why do you not become an English teacher then ?

Although if the School principle asked you why you wanted the job and you replied that you like pretty female students , you probably wouldnt get the job

[sanemax]

On 8/15/2017 at 1:10 PM, thaibeachlovers said:

According to the ones I asked about it, many married men that visit prostitutes ( in the western country I hail from ) want company more than sex, so yes, they do chat for an hour, sometimes.

Says something about marriage in the west that men pay just to stay a while with a woman that doesn't hate them.

Says more about Males who need to pay someone to sit and talk with them .

Dont they have any real life friends whom they can talk with ?

[jeab1980]

45 minutes ago, MaeJoMTB said:

Hmmmmmm ....

would said foreign bloke be earning 50bht when I bought him a drink?

and would I be negotiating to take him home for sex later?

Quoted me completley out of context. Re read! I wrote about buying a drink not her time. Same as buying another Farang a drink not his time. Also if you offer anyone a drink its acceptable for them to chose the drink they would like. Whatever is given to the lady by the bar has nothing to do with it.

[Kadilo]

Says more about Males who need to pay someone to sit and talk with them .
Dont they have any real life friends whom they can talk with ?

Could be any number of reasons why they may be on their own on a given night. No one should jump to conclusions.


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[sanemax]

20 minutes ago, jeab1980 said:

Quoted me completley out of context. Re read! I wrote about buying a drink not her time. Same as buying another Farang a drink not his time.

Do you walk into a bar , point a lady out and buy her a dink, then sit there on your own and then finish your drink and walk out ?

   Does that lady buy you a drink back, as most felangs would ?

Generally , you would buy a felang friend a drink , generally, you would buy a bargirl a drink for her to be your "friend" for a few hours

[jeab1980]

6 minutes ago, sanemax said:

Do you walk into a bar , point a lady out and buy her a dink, then sit there on your own and then finish your drink and walk out ?

   Does that lady buy you a drink back, as most felangs would ?

Generally , you would buy a felang friend a drink , generally, you would buy a bargirl a drink for her to be your "friend" for a few hours

I go into a bar and say hello to those who say Hi to me normal i would have thought!

One of the girls will come over and adk what i want to drink  If i feel like buying a drink for that girl i do so with no preconcived idea of chatting to her all night or beding her. If another bloke in there starts chatting and im getting another drink for myself i will ask if he would like one again i do not give to recive so wether he buys me one back or not i really dont care.

Back to the girl if she wants to sit and chat thats her porogative im not going to blank her now am I. I find they move around frequently as customers come and go. I dont mind if the girl has two or three customers buying her a drink. There pretty good at fliting around. If another girls (happend only a few times) comes over and asks for a drink i just politely say no. 

Why do people insist on making a big thing about buying a drink for a girl then getting all paranoid if they dont sit there and talk.

[heybruce]

8 hours ago, Kadilo said:

fon·dle

ˈfändl/

verb

1.

stroke or caress lovingly or erotically.

"the dog came over to have his ears fondled"

synonyms: caress, stroke, pat, pet, finger, tickle, play with; More

noun

 

I've never heard of anyone being able to do the above with their eyes before.

Now Ogle, that's a different matter.........

 

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Is this the sentence that confuses you:

 

" It's fun to fondle, and these are look but don't touch places, but I like them anyway. "

 

If I had posted "I like beer, and this restaurant doesn't sell but, but I like it anyway."  would you interpret that to mean I buy beer where none is for sell?  If so, you really need to work on your reading skills. 

[heybruce]

6 hours ago, happyas said:

 Hah..if your interpretation of fondle is the same as ogle, no its not beyond my comprehension at all, and is a lovely activity.

 

If however in context that it means you like to feel up a lady in a bar, then that makes you a pathetic loser [IMO]

 

PS i know that this is not unknown in bars etc, but anyone who feels the need to do so reminds me of a school boy sex learning curve....and, if you perchance,are not the immature schoolboy, then it is very sleazy.

I assume you have never been to one of these bargirl places.  It's not unusual for the women to sit in the lap of the man buying her a drink, wrap her arms around his neck, or guide his hand to her breasts.  That's part of the appeal.

 

If a man only wants to have a polite conversation with a woman without physical contact, there are cheaper places with prettier women where this can be done. 

 

In Thailand we have the choice of both kinds of bars.  If you don't like either, you don't have to go to either.  And if you disapprove of the recreation choices of consenting adults, tough.

[heybruce]

3 hours ago, sanemax said:

Why do you not become an English teacher then ?

Although if the School principle asked you why you wanted the job and you replied that you like pretty female students , you probably wouldnt get the job

So you won't help a young person practice English unless you are paid?  You are the epitome of a Cheap Charlie.

[heybruce]

To all those passing judgment on the leisure and recreation choices of others, go away.  Nobody is interested in your preaching.

[sanemax]

15 minutes ago, heybruce said:

So you won't help a young person practice English unless you are paid?  You are the epitome of a Cheap Charlie.

Its yourself who "teaches" English to young girls , hoping to get something back in return

[sanemax]

23 minutes ago, heybruce said:

I assume you have never been to one of these bargirl places.  It's not unusual for the women to sit in the lap of the man buying her a drink, wrap her arms around his neck, or guide his hand to her breasts. 

You have actually touched a girls breast ?

What does it feel like ?

[heybruce]

8 minutes ago, sanemax said:

Its yourself who "teaches" English to young girls , hoping to get something back in return

Someone else who needs to work on his reading comprehension.  Go back to the post you originally replied to, re-read it, and try again.

[Kadilo]

Is this the sentence that confuses you:

 

" It's fun to fondle, and these are look but don't touch places, but I like them anyway. "

 

If I had posted "I like beer, and this restaurant doesn't sell but, but I like it anyway."  would you interpret that to mean I buy beer where none is for sell?  If so, you really need to work on your reading skills. 

Keep backtracking all you want. You used the wrong word. It's no big deal. Stop digging. It's not crime of the century. Or are you gonna be one of those that keep on coming with lame reasoning.

 

 

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[mogandave]

I can chat with young attractive women in the lunchroom at work as often as I look like.

I could also easily develop a romantic relationship with one.

What I can't do is convince one to come home with me, let me have my way with her, tell her to find her own way home in the morning and then forget about her.

I could do that when I was a kid getting loaded all the time and only cared about myself.


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[sanemax]

2 hours ago, heybruce said:

Someone else who needs to work on his reading comprehension.  Go back to the post you originally replied to, re-read it, and try again.

You go to a bar girl bar you teach them English and they give you a feel of their breast and you buy them a drink , is that correct ?

   Does the amount of English you teach them coincide with the size of their breasts ?

  Ten minutes teaching for a small breast and 30 minutes for a large one ?

[happyas]

5 hours ago, heybruce said:

I assume you have never been to one of these bargirl places.  It's not unusual for the women to sit in the lap of the man buying her a drink, wrap her arms around his neck, or guide his hand to her breasts.  That's part of the appeal.

 

If a man only wants to have a polite conversation with a woman without physical contact, there are cheaper places with prettier women where this can be done. 

 

In Thailand we have the choice of both kinds of bars.  If you don't like either, you don't have to go to either.  And if you disapprove of the recreation choices of consenting adults, tough.

 

Like i said there's only two explanations for feeling up a lady in a public place;   IYW's which is "part of the appeal"

One is that you are a pathetic, sleazy loser.

Two is that you are an immature schoolboy.

You are which one?

[amexpat]

2 hours ago, sanemax said:

You go to a bar girl bar you teach them English and they give you a feel of their breast and you buy them a drink , is that correct ?

   Does the amount of English you teach them coincide with the size of their breasts ?

  Ten minutes teaching for a small breast and 30 minutes for a large one ?

For someone who is so sexually repressed and hung up, you seem obsessed with other people's sexual activity. 

 

You're not an unusual case, though. 

[heybruce]

3 hours ago, sanemax said:

You go to a bar girl bar you teach them English and they give you a feel of their breast and you buy them a drink , is that correct ?

   Does the amount of English you teach them coincide with the size of their breasts ?

  Ten minutes teaching for a small breast and 30 minutes for a large one ?

Once again, read the original post you replied too.  Your nonsense above has nothing to do with what I posted.

[heybruce]

1 hour ago, happyas said:

 

Like i said there's only two explanations for feeling up a lady in a public place;   IYW's which is "part of the appeal"

One is that you are a pathetic, sleazy loser.

Two is that you are an immature schoolboy.

You are which one?

These bars are private businesses, not public places, and the places where the women get aggressive in their attention to the customers are not visible from outside.

 

There are two explanations for your obsession with what consenting adults do for fun.

One is that you are a pathetic loser frightened of human companionship.

Two is that you are a pathetic prude resentful of people that enjoy life.

Which one are you?

[heybruce]

4 hours ago, Kadilo said:

Keep backtracking all you want. You used the wrong word. It's no big deal. Stop digging. It's not crime of the century. Or are you gonna be one of those that keep on coming with lame reasoning.

 

 

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I'm not backtracking, I'm pointing out that you didn't understand a sentence written in simple English.

[sanemax]

49 minutes ago, heybruce said:

One is that you are a pathetic loser frightened of human companionship.

I am not frightened of human companionship , I just feel sorry for guys that have to pay for a grope and feel sorry for the ladies as well .

    I also believe that Schools are for learning, bars are for socialising and bedrooms are for sex and sleeping .

    I just dont think that its wholesome to give English lessons in bars and expect to touch the pupils breasts in return , plus a drink

   

[heybruce]

16 minutes ago, sanemax said:

I am not frightened of human companionship , I just feel sorry for guys that have to pay for a grope and feel sorry for the ladies as well .

    I also believe that Schools are for learning, bars are for socialising and bedrooms are for sex and sleeping .

    I just dont think that its wholesome to give English lessons in bars and expect to touch the pupils breasts in return , plus a drink

   

The post you edited to take out of context was not a reply to you.

 

I would like you to identify the post where I or anyone else stated that it is acceptable to give English lessons in bars and touch the pupils breast. 

 

You aren't coming across as sane Max.

[sanemax]

On 8/16/2017 at 7:18 PM, heybruce said:

To each their own.  It's fun to fondle, and these are look but don't touch places, but I like them anyway.  I enjoy practicing Thai with pretty college students, and helping them with their English.  I also enjoy that I'm under no pressure to buy them a drink and keep buying.  Less sleazy, more friendly, and much better eye candy.

I assume you have never been to one of these bargirl places.  It's not unusual for the women to sit in the lap of the man buying her a drink, wrap her arms around his neck, or guide his hand to her breasts.  That's part of the appeal.

 

OK, fair enough, you like to go to some bars to help girls with their English and you like to go to other bars for a fondle

[observer90210]

A reminder is always is always useful to the patrons of girlie bars....

 

whatever happens and if it happens, never, never forget to use a condom!!...if not, you'll catch some kind of exotic STD and bye bye to the medical certificate for your annual visas!!!!!!

 

Enjoy, be safe, have fun, stay smart!

Edited August 17, 2017 by observer90210

[brewsterbudgen]

A reminder is always is always useful to the patrons of girlie bars....
 
whatever happens and if it happens, never, never forget to use a condom!!...if not, you'll catch some kind of exotic STD and bye bye to the medical certificate for your annual visas!!!!!!
 
Enjoy, be safe, have fun, stay smart!

Fondling girls in bars doesn't necessitate a condom.

[jeab1980]

8 hours ago, observer90210 said:

A reminder is always is always useful to the patrons of girlie bars....

 

whatever happens and if it happens, never, never forget to use a condom!!...if not, you'll catch some kind of exotic STD and bye bye to the medical certificate for your annual visas!!!!!!

 

Enjoy, be safe, have fun, stay smart!

Been with girls all over the planet so called "normal women" bar girls, prostitutes, ten to two jobs, not once worn a condom not once had a dose or an itch. It is what it is.