JimTripper

Thai's like noise. They think quiet attracts bad spirits.

Most of the retirees live in these strange areas that are almost like gated communities, though I don't think they are gated. They are called "gringo ghetto's". Lake Chalapa near Guadalahara is an example. They don't have cartel or much crime, but like I mentioned earlier they are kind of trapped in that one location. I always stayed in town and my feeling was that there were very few expats just living in town. It seems much more segregated. The closed communities are also not that cheap, being just slightly cheaper then the USA I think. It's more then Thailand anyhow. Also, it's more challenging to live locally then it is in Thailand. You get cheated with double pricing a lot (they know what USA prices are and how much you probably make). The local markets can be unwelcoming, but not really unfriendly. Definately not as welcoming as Thailand. Most people end up living in a space that's almost like the USA, venturing into town occasionally. These are older retirees who are happy with that situation. Walking into apartment buildings asking about rooms like you do in Asia seemed to be a no-go, like they were reserved for locals. There's nothing stopping you if you have some balls, however. There's also a lot of police corruption and the people can be dirt poor and not happy or smiling about it. They will take you to the station and you will need to pay off the judge, etc for dumb things or any reason at all. Usually not much $20-$100, but it's not comfortable. Not likely if you stay in the expat area though. The reason I wanted to move there is to live in a high end area by the ocean where it's safe. My social circle would primarily be other expats, Americans. Not live in town like I do in Thailand.

It moves into citizenship eventually as well. 5 years I think. A second passport. Kind of neat to have.

My understanding is they keep them out of the better areas to not jeopardize tourism. The problem is you can't just roam around the country, you're kind of stuck in a safe area. They can hold up busses and cars for example if your doing long trips, just bandits basically for normal people, the killings are cartel related (unless you're caught in some sort of crossfire 🤷🏻‍♂️). I never felt unsafe when I was there, but I never ventured out of popular areas and I would fly between cities.

Yeah, I would not opt for Mexico unless I was a US Citizen. A lot of it being able to get to the US quickly covered under medicare or for other logistical reasons that makes life a lot easier. If I was from the UK or something I would not want to be stuck over there. Also, I relate to the people a "bit more" having grown up in California which is like a little Mexico now.

Of course. Puerto Vallarta is a bit more expensive though so there is a money issue. I don't think many expats would be in Thailand if they could afford anywhere, though very few admit it. I think that's what a lot of the complaining is about, not being able to afford "paradise", not merely being unhappy anywhere you go.

Financial problems mixed with relationship problems & drinking. The problems are there before arrival and get amplified in a foreign country with no support from friends and family.

They do that to wear you down. Most people will get tired of viewing just anything and select a property quicker. Never go on those tours where they just take you around. Only view properties you have seen photo's of beforehand and feel like it's something you want.

I'm getting that same feeling. I feel like I just don't belong here anymore (just a personal thing, not Thailand's fault). I have been getting strong inclinations to go back to Mexico. I can get residency there and it's close to the Usa where I'm from. What happens if I get much older and something happens in Thailand with the visa, some stupid reporting issue, etc. It just does not feel like a stable option for older people.

🍺🍺🍺 Those guys who drink a lot of beer are weird. I always wonder why they don't have a soymilk instead. They always have to drink the "large bottle" of beer and can't ever just drink a regular size bottle. That's when I know they have an alcohol problem and it's about the buzz, the large bottle.

Ever hear of the tf dating app? 🤣

You're balls are always bouncing, to the left & to the right, always bouncing & dragging behind you on the street at night. Your balls keep bouncing all over my face, but it's those family jewels that I like best.

You're bi. If you like sucking dick you have to include the gay part.

Well, yes. That's a lot of what the mid life crisis is about. Showing off to others to mask a decline. It could be sports cars, displaying a younger woman, telling others on forums about sexual frequency, etc. It does not fix the situation it's just denial and trying to mask it with the opposite.

he's an arse, not a bottom

How did they know he was a soldier. Did he spout off about his military service? Most military won't devulge that unless there is a good reason. Sounds like something that would embellish the story to make it sound like the attack was not that bad. ie. he's a soldier, he can take it.

Meeting parents with a new partner can make or break a relationship, especially aging parents that need support and care. A whole new can of worms is opened when your partner needs to focus on them, because the early problems in upbringing are typically still present and unresolved. That means the "outside non-core" partner needs to adjust accordingly. To give one example: A sibling may want to move aging parents into the family home, because they feel responsible due to being placed in a caretaker or overly responsible role in childhood (parentification). The partner may resent this because they don't feel it's their responsibility and it detracts from their relationship and own family. So the same dynamic from childhood is actually re-created while the members are much older. The partner lavishes attention on the parent and the other partner feels resentment because it's overkill.

That could be a problem if you're getting distanced and they are getting closer. It could be "parentification" whereby the child is symbolically put into a husband role, either through intimate conversations where you are left out, or just by undue attention. They grow up on a kind of pedestal and you end up resenting it because you are left out and get angry or jealous at the child or wife. Alternatively, you embrace it and the kid grows up feeling more responsible then they should (like a husband should be) and the wife starts relying on the kid emotionally as they grow older. The older son may have difficulty forming satisfying relationships with women later on because they are too attached to the mother figure, or because they resent the undue emotional responsibility they feel towards women or the mother figure.

There's more to life then kids, a wife & work.

and his name was somchai

It's actually better to not wear a shirt. A cotton shirt stays wet in a humid climate, with no shirt the sweat can evaporate off your body.

Not anymore...

"Those leaving comments here who are condemning this guy for running without a shirt" Do I need to explain every post to you?

A little picky today are we? He looks pretty good for 82, great in fact. Even taking beatings at that age. Real bodies are not perfect. People have some flab, some fat. Perfect bodies are for movie stars. Remember that next time you are working out (or looking for a man).

Same as when you were young. Age is only a number.