Prubangboy

If he had 5 year relationships and 4 of those years were good, maybe they weren't all that failed as relationships. OP, you still sound a little depressed, and if you are a relationship kinda guy, do some real work (therapy, Co-Dependency work etc.) and get yourself some love. My new motto post-marriage: I'm on this earth for a good time. Not a long time.

Prob worth a look at the Wiki and Reddit for Co-dependency. Short version: You hide out from fixing your own problems by endlessly fixing their's. I've been in caretaking relationships my whole life. Now I'm alone. It's a downer, but I live for myself, I love myself. I feel your heavy sadness in your post. I am free of it today. I won't do it again. And neither should you. Short version: It's not "inevitable". It's you.

Post breakup, no longer caretaking, just living for myself -I'm living it right now.

I thought all the women in Pattaya came from those places. How do they remain "untainted" when it's only a six hour drive away? To come here and right off the bat move to the sticks with no personal connections or language skills must be a rare occurrence. Anyone here done it? My private language teacher is beautiful in that cute Thai way and comes from Khorat. And we def chat a lot besides doing language-learning. But I def get that ultra-goodgirl, long courtship, blah in bed vibe. So give me a decadent fat whitie any day of the week, thanks.

Can't fault Pattaya if you want a cheap place with lots of western amenities, close to a beach. If I were a beach person, I'd be there -as places like Ko Chang or even Phuket would be too small town for me. If you're not a beach person, it's either Bangkok or Chiang Mai. Moving to a place like Khorat without a GF in tow seems like a guarantee of alcoholism Did CM for two years and found it to also be a little too small town for me. Living on soi 11 with an air purifier working full time is the happiest I've been to date. Plenty of meetups, tremendous food options, the BTS and metro are a godsend to get anywhere I'd want to go pretty fast.

As a former audiophile sucker, you'd have to be a bat to notice the so-called sound vibrations. Helpful hint: put mouse pads under the speakers to minimize vibrations. If you absolutely feel the need. You can also get little cones to elevate the speakers so that air can pass beneath them to make the bass sound "tighter". This too is imaginary. I did a blind test of sterling silver speaker wires and lamp cord from the hardware store. The lamp cord won by a mile.

Moved to Bangkok, have been meeting older white women at meetups. It's my preferred flavor. If they're big in the can, I can live with that. Been back to my condo twice in two weeks with two reasonable candidates. No PIV, just fooling around. One I might see again, one was leaving town. Fear of herpes is huge with them, and given the whoremongering proclivities I see here, very understandable. So to her, I'm NOT a loser. To everyone here on this board, I def am. I can live with that too.

During my CIA interview, you had to apply; they weren't inviting anyone. I got a callback based on a lot of knowledge I had about the Caribbean. Not to give conservatives here a coronary, but clearly a black or hispanic candidate would have been a better fit.

Also, for a solo person, it's pretty hard not to fall into a few conversations a day here.

Just moved from Chiang Mai to Suk, Soi 11. Can't fault it; it's like living in a very chill version of Times Square. Tremendous restaurant selection. AnotherFarang said that Bangkok IS Thailand. I agree.

To get an "old fashioned" woman, it would help to be a truly old fashioned guy. Are these men for instance, orthodox religious? Do they live in intergenerational households or excessively care for their parents? Unhappiness with Sheila-slappers does not necessarily make you old fashioned.

I interviewed for the CIA in grad school (obv. an upper tier school). A battery of psych tests, like the OP would love, and then an hour-long interrogation by two HR types. Got called back for a second interview, then nothing. I didn't have a foreign language and I was a bit on the old side.

Yeah, I had a Malaysian meal in Ekami on Sunday. About 2 thirds women, half Chinese and half Thai. Most of the women are looking at these events and most of the men are not.

Fair play tho, I did shoot a woman from the meetup a Line and we're going out to dinner. A lot of my fellow oldies were very weak on approaching. If a woman was talking to another man, they were incapable of politely inserting themselves into the conversation. So my old age sex advice would be to take your shot, if a woman laughs a bit and it's plausible that she might go out with you.

Chris;s bleak, brutally honest reflections are gold to me. What will you do differently?

The problem with singles events: If you were desirable, you wouldn't need to be there. Everyone is looking for the bargain who shouldn't be there. Everyone thinks that they are that bargain. Disappointment ensues. And: total sausage fest, 8 to 1 male/female ratio. Mostly old guys and women in their 40's. Heavy on the Indian/Arab mix. Nice to get out, but.....

Reading that article, much sobbing about illegals selling stuff on the street. Who's buying this crap? White people. I just sold my Christmas Tree farm. The Guatemalans who used to rotate up yearly (illegally) to trim them have moved on to house-painting for more $$$$. No whitie ever trimmed a Christmas tree in the Trumpian bootstrap-nonsense back water I called home. How do we have an economy without illegals? If you thought inflation was bad before, wait until you have to pay whitie wages to get a cup of coffee poured.

Yeah, shame about that. More illegals mean more crime. Duh. You want no illegals. And you want coffee. How to solve this problem?

How very poseur. No white people are making coffee in Manhattan. Maybe you could volunteer. How do we have no immigrants and still have takeaway coffee?

If you hate them and they hate themselves too, isn't that a win/win all around for you?

What if I want a coffee from a deli in Midtown? No brownie's mean nobody there to put it in the paper cup for me. The last white person to do so did it in the mid-80's. Do you have any solution to my coffee problems or just more butt hurt wailing?

I'm old. No one cares if I'm a real man or not. I like FredWiggy's posts (up to a point), but if I want to be nice or admirable, I will, and if I don't I won't. Again nobody cares. As George Bush said, taste the freedom.

When I lived in the American South, the desire to coach high school sports was so demented that a half a dozen assistant coaches lolling about doing nothing was not uncommon. Thank you for letting me know about assistant coordinators. Every coordinator needs someone to send out for coffee. I can't remember a VP getting so much press. It's just down to Trump not being entertaining anymore and Harris being a blank slate that the VP's are the only way to fill up media space.

Time to wish you well with your wife and avoid your humorless self forever? Please be less English. It's killing you.

If you have somehow discovered a new orifice, please claim your Noble Prize. Ear's don't count, you can barely get in.